tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26717119641781661392024-03-07T22:29:55.582-08:0025 Things About My Sexuality"It's complicated."25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comBlogger509125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-49668535154433148242013-01-18T21:22:00.000-08:002013-01-18T21:22:00.032-08:001. I’m a 22-year-old female from western Europe. I am heterosexual with no homosexual/bisexual experiences so far. I have not felt any attraction to a woman, but i would like to kiss one in the future.<br /><br />2. I have had 7 sexual partners with whom I’ve had the following relationships: one serious long-term relationship, two one-night stands, one short relationship and three fuck-buddies.<br /><br />3. I lost my virginity at the age of seventeen with the guy that I had been dating for three months, my first boyfriend with whom I stayed for 3 years in a complicated, hard relationship. It hurt like a motherfucker and it took four tries to get his whole big penis into my hurting vagina. But he was so caring and respecting.<br /><br />4. My boyfriend gave me my first two orgasms while we were dry humping. Of course, he was not aware of that and, at the time, I wasn’t either.<br /><br />5. I fake it all the time. ALL the time. Very very rare are the cases in which men make me orgasm by penetration. I have told no one this until now. And even though I don’t cum, the sight of their eyes and the way their cocks push inside me when I fake it makes me want to crawl out of my skin with pleasure. I’m happy that way.<br /><br />6. My first one-night stand happened while I was at the seaside. I got drunk, wandered on the beach and started looking for the first hot lonely guy. Chitchat this, chitchat that, next thing I know, I was dry humping him on the sand, my boobs were hanging outside my top and he was kissing and licking and growling like hell. Moments later we were in my tent. It was HORRIBLE. He went down on me and came right back up saying that I had a "sandy situation” down there. Yes. Dry humping on a beach gets you sand in all the wrong places. He was moving SO slowly I was going out of my mind. I kept urging him to move faster because I wanted wild, desperate, mind-blowing sex, but the joke was on me. He finished in 3 minutes. We met a few weeks later back in the city and started a short relationship. So he was not just a one-night stand. But the sex was still pretty bad and he was starting to get really involved. So I ended it.<br /><br />7. I picked up my next one-night stand in a club. We went to his place and, maaan, did he fuck me hard! He showed me a lot of new positions, and it was rough! And because we did not know each other and it was completely free, I told him all of my turn-ons and fantasies. And he did those and then some more. We fucked three times for about two and a half hours. He left me so sore I could not walk properly. But i knew then that rough sex and big dicks are my thing. <br /><br />8. I like older men. Apart from my boyfriend who was a year older than me, the age difference between the men I’ve had sex with and myself goes from 4 to 10 years. I tend to stay away from men younger than 25 years because I find them immature. Older men know better what to do with me, how to touch me and how to teach me.<br /><br />9. I know how I like my men to be from the physical point of view: fit, tall, with dark (curly) hair and a beard. Just the thought of a beard scraping across my clitoris and vagina while he gives me oral sex almost makes me orgasm. Oh, and they have to be pretty well equipped in the penis department. I love big, thick dicks and the way they ease into my vagina.<br /><br />10. My clavicles are my absolute turn-on spot. Kiss, bite, run your hand, beard, penis across them and I’m lost in desire.<br /><br />11. My favorite position is doggy style. Yeah, I like it from behind.<br /><br />12. I like the game of seduction. I tend to choose the men that I can’t have. I like the chase, I like to make an effort in order to catch my prey. If it’s too easy, then I lose interest almost immediately.<br /><br />13. When I masturbate, I can make myself come in under one minute by stimulating my clitoris. I can give myself multiple orgasms, depending on how horny I am. Once, I went on a orgasm spree and made myself come 9 times in 20 minutes. I watch a lot of porn while masturbating, but I can also do it by thinking of great sex that I've had or by fantasizing about different scenarios.<br /><br />14. The last man I was with was my "fuck man" for about six months. I say "man" because he is 29 years old and a doctor. When I think of him, perfection comes to mind: Beautiful Sex God with big perfect dick. I mean it. He is the best lover that I have ever had. He has two sides of him and I don’t think he realizes that. The first time I went to his place we sat and talked for about an hour -- smart and funny subjects – until I crossed my legs and he noticed that, in that position, my skirt was revealing too much of my thigh. He put his hand on my knee and his eyes darkened in some arousing way. That was the side that fascinated me. He was dominating me, telling me what to do, asking me if I liked this or that and using a lot of dirty talk. I was not used to that. He made me realize that I like dirty talk. He got so horny when I talked dirty. The sex was hard and rough: hair-pulling, neck-biting, nail-scratching and ass-slapping. He fucked me in ways I did not know were possible. He loved to give me oral sex a lot! He would often switch from oral sex to penetrating me again and again and it made me go crazy with pleasure.<br /><br />15. We started fighting for control when we were having sex. He liked being in control and I loved the moments when he pinned me to the bed, the wall, the window and fucked me endlessly. But when i got to win and to control him... seeing me on top and calling the shots, that was the time when his sex hunger grew wilder and his dick harder.<br /><br />16. I’ve never had anal sex and I want it to stay that way. He wanted so badly to be the first one that I had anal sex with, but I refused countless times. He would often slip a finger in or lick me just to see if I’d like to do more. Once, without me knowing, he hid a chocolate under the bed and when he went down on me, he slid a tiny piece of chocolate into my vagina and another one into my ass. The sensation of the chocolate melting was incredible. He also liked to pour wine on me just to lick it from my body moments after. Sometimes, he’d interrupt the sex to smoke a cigarette and to drink wine. He knew that drove me wild with anticipation. We also liked to light a cigarette and split it between us while we had sex.<br /><br />17. I have him to thank for the fact that I now truly know myself sexually. He taught me that there’s nothing to feel ashamed of when you are having sex as long as it’s something that you like and both enjoy.<br /><br />18. My second fuck-friend cheated on his girlfriend with me three times. I was obsessed with him, so I did not care about her at all. He venerated my boobs and said that they were made for him because they fit his hand perfectly. I now regret being the other woman and wish that I had waited for them to break up.<br /><br />19. I want to try BDSM. I love the idea of being tied, blindfolded, spanked. But I do not want the pain level to be high. I want to be dominated. Helplessness turns me on.<br /><br />20. I like to have sex in places other than the bed (floor, chicken, chairs, washing machines, bathroom, you name it...) or the house, as a matter of fact. So far, I have had sex in a closed library, on the open tiny balcony of a 9th floor apartment, in the elevator, on the beach, in a tent, twice in a park, the staircase, on an abandoned alley. While I am writing this, I am at the central library in my city.<br /><br />21. I have been told that I have perfect boobs by men with whom I have slept (who were obsessed with them) and also by both male and female observers. They are big, hard and round with perky nipples. <br /><br />22. I don’t know if this is true, but most of my sexual partners have said that being inside me is an exquisite feeling, not something that they have felt many times. The doctor, my latest lover, said that it is because I get wet really fast and a lot, which, apparently, is a big deal.<br /><br />23. I don't like to give oral sex that much but I do it because I love how it makes men feel and react. I love to give handjobs, though. The way the cock feels between my hands and seeing how it reacts to every single one of my touches turns me on so much. I also like feeling a cock between my boobs.<br /><br />24. I like to be loud during sex. Actually, knowing that I can be loud and express the pleasure that I’m feeling is what I like the most. Hearing men make sex noises also turns me on.<br /><br />25. I am so horny right now... I’m craving some big, hard, rough penetration. 25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-78102464477279790122013-01-16T21:10:00.000-08:002013-01-16T21:10:00.164-08:001. I am a 43-year-old straight male.<br /><br />2. I have been hooked on porn since I discovered a bunch of <i>Hustler</i> magazines on someone's front porch when I was on my paper route when I was around 14 years old. My current GF has told me she is disgusted by porn and she believes that I don't view it anymore. I tried to stop, but I've had some relapses the last few months.<br /><br />3. I was a virgin until I was 19, and lost it to a girl I dated in college for several years.<br /><br />4. We broke up after 5 years when someone tried to seduce me at a church dance. It worked, but I wound up dating both of them for about 7 months.<br /><br />5. When I was growing up, I always thought a pussy was just some weird triangle covered with hair, until i saw my first shaved one in a a porn magazine back in the late 80's. It was the most amazing, beautiful sight I have ever seen, and I have been really into shaving ever since, before it was fashionable as it is now. Every girl I've ever been with has been shaved. I used to shave all 3 of my long-term exes on a regular basis.<br /><br />6. I have been unfaithful in some form in every relationship I've ever had, including my current one as of a few days ago. I am not proud of this.<br /><br />7. I believe I have a sexual addiction problem that I have struggled to fight for the last 8 months. Like I said, I failed at this 3 days ago.<br /><br />8. My last relationship before this one ended in May due to cheating, of course. It was rather devastating all around. She wound up suicidal and in a mental hospital for a few days. <br /><br />9. I've had incredible sex in my life, but in the past few years, I've fooled around with girls but never totally fucked them cause it seemed like that was going too far (done everything but that).<br /><br />10. I've never had a one-night stand, though (until 3 days ago); I've always been long-term relationship guy. My first relationship lasted over five and a half years. Followed by one that lasted over 13 years, followed by almost 5 years again.<br /><br />11. When I was 25, I participated in a foursome with another couple. It was summer, we started in the pool, we were all really drunk. The other guy and I really wanted to see the girls get it on, so they said they would if we sucked each other's dicks first. He sucked me a little bit... I sucked him off to completion. This was my only gay experience.<br /><br />12. My ex of 13 years really taught me a lot about my sexuality. She was also 10 years older than me and had much more experience than i did at everything. She introduced me to some light bondage, tying each other up, erotica... etc. Early on in our relationship, she also pegged me with a strap-on a few times and made me cry from the pleasure. It took me through a door that I have never really been through again.<br /><br />13. Earlier this year, sex with my live-in relationship at the time had gotten kinda stagnant. We were looking for some ways to experiment to "save things." I tried to arrange a threesome with a female co-worker... that didn't work out at all. Never even got to try anything. So one night, we were looking at porn together... and we started talking about a strap-on. She was surprisingly into it, so we went out and got one that weekend. It was pretty good, but not quite the same as when I was much younger. She was a bigger girl and had a difficult time with it. Neither of us had good stamina, either.<br /><br />14. There were two girls that I cheated on her with regularly for the past few years before we moved out of state, and a third that I was always trying to get with. This led to a lot of sexting and exchanging pics back and forth. A.lot of that. I didn't always see the two girls very often and, like I said, I didn't fuck them. They didn't know about each other. OK, the one, I did fuck her to say goodbye right before I moved away. The other was a virgin and was always begging me to do it, but I didn't feel right about taking that gift from her. She started dating some guy and gave it up to him within two or three weeks and regrets it.<br /><br />15. There is nothing I enjoy more than making and watching a woman come. OK, that's not totally true, I also love eating pussy, and I believe I am quite skilled at it.<br /><br />16. One of the girls from #15 was a squirter. I loved it when she would do it all over my face, the bed, the floor... anywhere and everywhere. I could make her come so many times in a row that she would pass out sometimes.<br /><br />17. I also really enjoy just being naked, alone or with someone. All my exes have enjoyed being naked around the house, although we weren't total nudists or anything. I just love when you both feel totally comfortable with each other and have nothing to hide.<br /><br />18. OK, I said I only had one gay experience, but when I was a teenager, I once tried to show my neighbors how to jerk off with porn magazines (other boys my age, who lived across the street). I also did this with my male cousin. My cousin was into it, but the neighbors were not, and humiliated me about it for a long time. I think they told other kids at school what I had tried to demonstrate for them.<br /><br />18. I have been engaged twice, but never married.<br /><br />19. I said I had an addiction problem, which I tried to keep under control. I have been seeing a woman now for the past 8 months, and I told her about issues that I had in past relationships and being unfaithful. I swore to her that I would never cheat on her, that she would be the last woman I ever kissed or touched or fucked or anything. <br /><br />20. Due to the fact that I lived 500 miles away from her, I have only seen her once a month for the past few months. I moved back this weekend so that we could allow our relationship to progress. We have not had much time or opportunity to explore our sexuality very often, due to the distance between us.<br /><br />21. She is someone I used to know over 25 years ago, and we got reacquainted earlier this year through a common social media site. The first time I saw her last spring, we wound up at a hotel within an hour and had sex. I used a condom, since I was still with my live-in relationship at the time, but that ended soon afterwards.<br /><br />22. She is married right now, although she is ready to begin divorce proceedings. She hasn't been on any birth control and I have always used a condom with her. However, I have some kind of mental or physical block and I have never been able to finish inside her with a condom on. It's also been kinda hard for me to maintain an erection sometimes due to this. We always take it off and I wind up jerking off or she sucks me off. <br /><br />23. I swore to her for months that I would never cheat on her. That I would forsake all other women. This weekend, I moved over 500 miles to be back with her to give this relationship a real chance for the future. My best friend helped me move... and then we started fooling around and I fucked her... and had unprotected sex and my first ever "one night stand," because now my best friend is 500 miles away again.<br /><br />24. The girl, my best friend, went into some kind of weird sexual trance, like I have never experienced before in my life. She begged me to fuck her to release all the tension and pain I had built up in her body from fooling around so much. So I did. It was insanely passionate, but by the time I finally put it in her, we both came so fast and explosively. And now I have to go to the doctor and get tested for STDs and HIV. She is surgically sterilized after having 3 kids, so she won't get pregnant.<br /><br />25. I'm supposed to have sex with my current GF tomorrow. With a condom, of course. We both enjoy masturbation and we have abstained from doing that for the past 25 days until we could be together again. And now I fucked my best friend and ruined that 3 days ago. I'll give it my best shot, but obviously I still have a serious addiction problem.25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-50620790145643647042013-01-14T23:15:00.000-08:002013-01-14T23:15:00.387-08:001. I am an 18-year-old cisgender female in the USA. I call myself panromantic and pansexual, but I’m probably more along the lines of panromantic androsexual, as I’m more sexually attracted to the men and androgynous women. Although I can see myself in a relationship with someone of any gender and sexual orientation, I have only ever been in relationships with cisgender men.<br /><br />2. My first time having PIV sex was when I was 16 with my boyfriend (18) at the time. We had sex in the passenger seat of his car on New Year’s Eve.<br /><br />3. Everyone had told me it was a big deal to lose my virginity and that it should be special. I was nervous and timid my first time. After it happened, I was hardly affected. I understand that it can be a big deal to some people, but to me, it was just another experience in life.<br /><br />4. I went on birth control pills shortly after losing my virginity. Not to regulate my period, not to help my skin. I went on birth control because I didn’t want to get pregnant. I got it from the Teen Health Center at my school. When I told my mom I’d had sex, she said she would rather I didn’t have sex, but she told me that if I am going to be doing adult activities, I had to make adult decisions. So birth control happened. I got an IUD last year for the convenience. That way in college I wouldn’t have to remember to take a pill every day and it’s very reliable.<br /><br />5. I have had PIV sex with 3 guys. The first one was a boyfriend, as stated above. The second was a really good friend of mine. We started off in a FWB type relationship, but over time we got closer and emotions were had. The third is a friend of mine that I met in college.<br /><br />6. I have had sexual contact (to fingering, oral sex, “third base”) with 6 guys (this number includes the guys I’ve had PIV sex with). I have kissed 7 guys, 4 were boyfriends. Just throwing some numbers around, probably unnecessarily.<br /><br />7. Between sexual partners 1 and 2, I had a 9 month break. During this time I had a boyfriend for 6 months. I didn’t crave sex until the relationship ended. I sought someone to have sex with as a hook-up or “fuck buddy” type relationship. I ended up getting to “third base” with a guy and we ended up not having sex. A few weeks later I began a sexual relationship with my friend.<br /><br />8. For the longest time I didn’t crave sex. Then suddenly I needed it. This sudden craving was surprising. I had never thought of myself that way. Now even short breaks (as in a week or more) without sex are difficult. Am I just horny all the time?<br /><br />9. I have never had the opportunity to have sex with a woman, but I have made out with 2 (kinda). One was when I was 12 or 13 and she was one of my best friends at the time. We had a sleepover, both said we didn’t understand the big deal about first kisses, and started kissing. It was fun and warm and soft. The other is my friend’s girlfriend. We kind of made out (more like prolonged kissing) in front of him a few times just for entertainment's sake.<br /><br />10. I have always been very confident in myself and my sexuality. I’ve always been very open to expressing my sexuality and intimate details about my sex life. I have very few things that I hold back. I like giving people advice and I answer almost any question people ask me about my sex life. I really enjoy talking about sex, and I think I often make people uncomfortable because I am so comfortable talking about a subject many consider taboo.<br /><br />11. I started masturbating really early. I think I was probably about 5 or 6. I remember touching myself and humping a pillow and knowing it felt good. I didn’t know what I was doing, but it felt good, so could it be wrong? I think I began consciously masturbating at about 12 or 13. The number of times I masturbate in a week varies a lot. Sometimes it will be once a day and other times it will be once every week or two.<br /><br />12. According to most of my friends, I’m a big flirt. I flirt with almost all of the guys I know even though I’m not sexually or romantically attracted to them. There are a few guys I know that I do not flirt with for various reasons. My “friend zone” is very small and difficult to get into. A lot of my close friends fit into this category, though. I flirt because it’s fun. But I’m such an outgoing person that often my advances are taken as flirting versus me just being friendly and open. I am also a very touchy person though. I hug everyone and I awkwardly stroke my friends and hold their hands because it’s fun. I do all of this, but it tends to lead people on. I have rejected quite a few people, and I feel sad that the friendships I had with those people will never be quite the same.<br /><br />13. As open as I am about my sex life and history and the factual aspects of my life with everyone, I find it really hard to talk about romantic feelings with a person I am romantically interested in. Sounds stupid, doesn’t it? I should just learn how to tell people how I feel. It would make having sexual relationships easier if the people knew how I honestly felt.<br /><br />14. I have always liked the idea of casual sex. Sex without strings, not having to worry about the other person’s feelings. I think it’s an excellent way to let go and express oneself, but I don’t think it should replace committed relationships, as I enjoy having one person to have sex with as well as enjoy the company of. And there is something special about having meaningful sex.<br /><br />15. That being said, I don’t think I could ever truly do a “friends with benefits” relationship type thing and have it work long term. I’ve never had a “fuck buddy,” but I’m fairly certain I could maintain that kind of set up. I like the idea of having a good friend that you just happen to be sleeping with. But if I had an emotional or mental connection with the person, I would start to develop romantic feelings for him or her, and the sex wouldn’t just be casual anymore.<br /><br />16. The idea of period sex really grosses me out. I shouldn’t be grossed out by my own body, but for some reason, having sex on my period sounds unappealing. I have had sex while I was on my period ONCE, and I said “ew” the entire time. I doubt I will do it again (at least until I’m in a long-term monogamous relationship).<br /><br />17. I think having a threesome sounds fun. I don’t know if it’s a fantasy, but it’s something I hope to get a chance to do. I’d love to have the opportunity. I’d want there to be one man and one woman with me.<br /><br />18. I don’t have experience with bondage, but I think it’s really hot. I’m not into hardcore BDSM, but I’m really turned on by the idea of having my hands tied or being blindfolded. I really like the idea of being restrained. It sounds so hot, not being able to use my hands to touch and feel and interact. I like the idea of having to rely on other senses to feel what’s going on.<br /><br />19. I like it rough. Sometime I’d like to be pushed down on the bed or up against a wall and fucked. Have my hair pulled and my ass grabbed and my neck bitten and dirty talk whispered in my ear.<br /><br />20. I have never liked blowjobs. They just aren’t pleasant and not fun. But recently I discovered, while spending time with my friend, that I do like giving blowjobs if I’m in the right mood for it and if I have the right kind of connection with the person. Still not my favorite thing, though.<br /><br />21. I don’t like being eaten out (or haven’t in the past). I don’t know if this is because the one guy that has ever done it wasn’t good at it or if it’s because I just don’t like it. But I didn’t find it to be anything special. It wasn’t unpleasant, but it did nothing for me. I got bored.<br /><br />22. Anal is something that has always sort of scared me. I would be open to trying it at some point in my life, but I’m worried I’ll tear something. Plus the idea of fecal matter getting everywhere seems kind of gross to me. But who knows, I’ll never know unless I try it. One time a guy slipped and went “into the wrong hole.” It was excruciatingly painful and has further discouraged me from anal sex.<br /><br />23. Boobs are really fun to play with. But not very often does having my boobs touched turn me on, or feel like anything better than just having my boobs touched. I’d rather have my neck kissed and touched. I know a lot of people that think this is gross and weird, but it’s actually just really hot. I like having my neck sucked on. It feels good.<br /><br />24. I love the sound of people climaxing. It’s amazingly hot to hear a person completely let go in the heat of the moment. I don’t like the overly exaggerated sounds porn stars make, but listening to someone masturbating or having sex is a really big turn on.<br /><br />25. Finally... I’ve never orgasmed. Sex, masturbation, etc. all still feels really good, but I don’t get that mind-blowing feeling and the huge release that supposedly people feel. I feel a point where the good feeling reaches a maximum point before falling back down, but I can just sort of decide when I want/need to stop. I hope at some point in the future I will be able to experience the orgasm that everyone raves about.25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-74994748931724170402013-01-12T23:08:00.000-08:002013-01-12T23:08:00.261-08:00<span style="font-size: small;">1. I’m a 22-year-old mostly male from the UK who struggles to not be defined by gender roles. I’ve wished I was a girl for most of my life but have no intention on changing my body – <span style="font-size: small;">i</span>f I can choose I’d rather be a girl with a penis.<br /><br />2. I am more attracted to girls than boys (on about a 7:1) But I’m as happy to kiss boys as girls. I find androgyny attractive, alluring.<br /><br />3. I’m not attracted unless they’re intelligent.<br /><br />4. I have had sexual encounters with women and loved most and hated some.<br /><br />5. I’ve yet to have a sexual encounter with a man or anyone genderqueer, but I do fantasize about many and sundry varieties.<br /><br />6. I fall in love with people often and easily and these overlap. I genuinely don’t understand monogamy (though I practice it in respect of my partners if they want) because my love for one person has never been changed by my love for another, and I feel sexual desire for many, many different people.<br /><br />7. Any dominance or submission would go as far as telling the other person what to do or being told what to do. It’d never include insults or demeaning language or aggression. As for pain - I have a very low tolerance. Some biting and the occasional fingernails, no more.<br /><br />8. I would love to be between a man and a woman – this is one of my most common fantasies, as are threesomes in general.<br /><br />9. I’ve never had sex outdoors and would love to, though I’ve had sex under a thunderstorm in an extension under skylights. The air was thick and the light was blue with brilliant white flashes. Incredible.<br /><br />10. In the past I have been too concerned with trying to please my (female) partners and assumed that by giving to them constantly I am doing what they would most like. It’s been hard trying not to even though I understand nowadays how this simply isn’t true.<br /><br />11. There is only one man who I think I would be comfortable enough to have sex with – so far.<br /><br />12. Hairy is good, as is wet, and loud, and laughing. I love the taste of vaginas... mostly.<br /><br />13. I like small kisses best, most of the time.<br /><br />14. My nipples are really sensitive, to the point that it’s very rare that I enjoy people touching them, but this is getting better.<br /><br />15. I really enjoy things touching my bottom, around and inside. It makes things feel satisfying and more - wholesome? I desperately want to be pegged. I like to receive head whilst lying down with two fingers on or just inside my anus (+ blindfold). Ditto for being wanked.<br /><br />16. I love being bitten on the shoulder. This can be quite hard, particularly if it’s just as I’m coming.<br /><br />17. I like being buried inside a vagina. I like having my tongue and mouth ground against - tiring! I like going down on a girl who’s lying down and having my arms wrapped up underneath both her legs and playing with her breasts. I love it if she holds my head and presses me in. I like being underneath someone. I like being held down.<br /><br />18. I don’t like watching most porn, but I love photography of naked people of every shape and size.<br /><br />19. I’ve given myself head before <span style="font-size: small;">and</span> I don’t enjoy it, because being bent over squashes your chest and means you can hardly breathe. <br /><br />20. I have heard that most men need to stop having sex and have a break after they’ve come the first time, but mostly that’s not true for me. I come very quickly the first time after a while but afterwards can go as long as I need. With condoms it’s sometimes very hard to come. (But I always have safe sex until I’m in a very long relationship).<br /><br />21. I like having sex on the floor. I like for a girl to be on top of me with my legs crossed and hers wrapped around me as I’m inside her. <br /><br />22. I like being held from behind. When I sleep next to someone, I like to have pressure on my groin – either with it pressed against them or with them holding my cock.<br /><br />23. If woken in the middle of the night I can be horny to the point of confusion – like, I don’t know, there’s not enough blood in my head to think.<br /><br />24. Whenever I’ve had sex "doggy-style" I’ve wanted to laugh. I feel like I’m a bear or lion somehow and it feels wonderful and silly. <br /><br />25. The best sex includes laughter.</span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-52873656193705331002013-01-09T23:04:00.000-08:002013-01-09T23:04:00.745-08:00<span style="font-family: inherit;">1. I am twenty-nine and female. I do not understand the concepts of queer, cis/trans-gendered/identified, zir, ze, etc. I am not stupid but I am not interested. I feel that these concepts, even if in rebellion against, are still responses to a culture in which gender politics are framed in the context of heteronormative relationships, and that... just doesn’t interest me. As a woman, as a lover, as a political being: I’m not concerned. Not because I don’t think it matters—it matters immensely—but because there is no rewarding and truthful way at the end to label something as intimate and experiential as sexuality, and gender.<br /><br />2. If pressed, I suppose I am bisexual, though that doesn’t take into account the different ways in which I am attracted to anyone: men turn me on more than women, for example, and more of my sexual fantasies involve them, but I have always enjoyed sex with women more and am incredibly attracted to the female body from an aesthetic perspective. I have a large collection of softcore porn on my computer that I enjoy as I enjoy and think about art. How can the word "bisexual" explain all of this?<br /><br />3. I don’t orgasm through PinV sex, but I enjoy it. I like the warmth and the closeness and the sensation of having something inside of me.<br /><br />4. I love performing oral sex on either gender. I consider myself to be, and have been told that I am, very skilled, and am not only turned on by doing it but also feel proud in the same way I feel when I bake a good batch of cookies or write a draft of a promising poem. I also enjoy receiving it sometimes, but I have to trust my partner very, very much. <br /><br />5. My sexual experience has been overwhelmingly heterosexual—ten male partners and three female. Would I like to have more experience with women? Yes. Am I going crazy because I’m not currently expressing that side of my sexuality? No, not really.<br /><br />6. My best friend is a lesbian who believes that I am gay and have not figured it out yet, and because I dress somewhat androgynously—in a dapper, scholarly way—I am often "mistaken" for a lesbian. This does not bother me. When my friend and I are out together, people assume that we are a couple, and something about this pleases me, though not in a sexually arousing way.<br /><br />7. My most sexually rewarding relationship was with a man I dated for almost two years, and lived with for under a year. He was assertive and, though not particularly kinky, knew what he wanted. Outside of the bedroom, we were rather unhappy and fought often. Now...<br /><br />8. ...I am in a monogamous relationship with a man sixteen years my senior. Emotionally and intellectually, we are a perfect match. As a potential partner in life and child-raising, I can imagine no one better suited. But we rarely have sex, and when we do it is a stiffly-performed perfunctory act. At the same time, there is a great deal of unsatisfied sexual chemistry between us, a definite electricity, that even after three years together we have not yet figured out how to access. This frustrates me, but I am also hopeful that we will at some point break through.<br /><br />9. Some of this is because we are both very timid in bed. It has taken me a very long time not to feel disturbed by and ashamed of my own sexual fantasies. I still have a hard time placing myself in my own sexual fantasies as an object of desire, and always feel ashamed and presumptuous even in my sexual imagination. This is frustrating and also somewhat absurd because I am regarded as an attractive young woman.<br /><br />10. I love older men. I don’t mean that like some twenty-something women say that and mean men in their mid-thirties; I mean, I like men in their fifties and sixties, and not necessarily men who look "good for their age". Some of them aren’t even good-looking men, period. One of my biggest crushes right now is a doctor where I work. He is in his fifties, has white hair, and is short and thin. I cannot imagine his body being anything but white and slackly frail, and he has this little pinched, stiff-featured face. He does not have a pleasant personality, from what I’ve seen. Yet it’s exactly all of this—his age, his homeliness, and the fact that he is an Affluent White Guy—that turns me on.<br /><br />11. One of my favorite sexual fantasies involves being watched, secretly, by an older man, such as the one described above. In the fantasy, I know that he is watching me masturbate and is aroused, but he does not know that I know. An extension of that involves me going down on the wife of such a man, having been seduced by her, while he secretly or openly watches.<br /><br />12. A vast majority of my sexual experience has consisted of one-night stands or short-term "fuck-buddy" relationships. I find these to be very satisfying, and would prefer to be able to still have them. At the same time, I am too possessive of my partner to allow him the same, and I do not wish to cheat.<br /><br />13. I am also interested in the idea of a polygamous relationship. Not an open one, but a relationship involving myself and two others, of any gender combination, who love one another as well as me, and whom I both love.<br /><br />14. I have never done anything particularly kinky, but almost always end up having very, very rough sex. I just can’t keep it slow and easy.<br /><br />15. Attractive male celebrities: Donald Sutherland, Christoph Waltz, Michael Fassbender, David Lynch. Attractive female celebrities: Cate Blanchett, Anjelica Huston, Myrna Loy, Debbie Harry.<br /><br />16. There’s clearly a very D/s theme to my fantasies, but I’m not interested in many of the things like restraint, blindfolding, etc. I AM into being spanked, and have always enjoyed it.<br /><br />17. The first boy I kissed was my cousin. I also touched his penis. I didn’t want to do any of those things, but did not resist. Now I resent him, even though we were both the same age (early adolescence), and he never coerced me. Later, in high school, a friend (or a boy who, until that day, was a friend) tried to rape me. We had been in my bedroom, just hanging out, which we’d done many times before. I shoved him off of me and out of my room. It has taken me a long time to accept that no, it was not my fault, just because I’d allowed him into my room.<br /><br />18. I resent the fact that some may view my sexual fantasies as being disempowering, or "not feminist." Accepting one’s sexual imagination is one of the most significant acts of self-empowerment that an individual can perform, whether or not one is overtly a figure of power in those fantasies. I think it’s bizarre and exclusionary to label some fantasies as being "more" or "less" politically correct than others. I also think that such an attitude fails to acknowledge the intricacies of power exchange in relationships in which one partner is only apparently dominant, and the other only apparently submissive.<br /><br />19. Penises are beautiful. I especially love erections concealed by and/or felt through cloth. That’s one of the sexiest things I can think of.<br /><br />20. Sometimes when I masturbate my most powerful orgasms occur when I am not thinking about sex but an idea/concept/art, intense weather, or listening carefully to good music. I have to even "remind" myself to think sexual thoughts. I also masturbate to keep warm at night, because my room gets very cold. For me, it is a functional act that helps me to relax and to clear my head, and is not always sexual. But I revel in it most (even if I do not have a great orgasm) when I am thinking dirty thoughts, and thinking of my body as a sexual being and/or object.<br /><br />21. I am much more uncomfortable talking about my sexuality with others than I expected, but I think it’s good for me.<br /><br />22. I was an obese teenager, peaking at 240 lbs at 5’6" in the tenth grade. I wore a U.S. size 18/20. I have since then lost most of that weight, currently 160 and size 8, but my breasts, which are still quite large, will always sag, and my lower stomach will always hang low. I have only in the last year or so come to recognize that despite that my body is OK.<br /><br />23. I’d like to be photographed in the nude. Not because I’d want anyone to see the pictures or to have them, but because I’d just like to see what I look like through an eye that is not constantly self-critical, neurotic, and self-loathing. I have a secret suspicion that I am actually quite sexy in the nude but have no "proof".<br /><br />24. I like looking, and I like being looked at. My current partner closes his eyes during sex, and I wish he wouldn’t. He is also very quiet, even when he is enjoying himself very much, and this bothers me as well. I am actually quite loud. When I first began having sex I was astonished by the fact that I actually sounded, quite instinctively, like women I’d seen in pornography.<br /><br />25. The most powerful erotic dream I’ve ever had was about Groucho Marx. I also have a great many sexual dreams about Alfred Molina—at least, a great many in proportion to how often I think about him in day-to-day life, which is... not ever, unless I’m actively watching him in a movie and thinking to myself, "why do I have so many dirty dreams about this dude?"</span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-58321535813082272272013-01-07T22:57:00.000-08:002013-01-07T22:57:00.144-08:001. I am a 50-year old heterosexual male.<br /><br />2. I was VERY socially awkward when I was young, and this included my relationships with women. Or, to put it another way, I was a real jerk. <br /><br />3. Fortunately for me, I was a very athletic, good-looking young man, and many young women were attracted to me. So I had many opportunities to learn not to be such a jerk.<br /><br />4. I have had sex of some sort (that is, some deliberate, consensual, erotic contact with the genitals) with 33 women. Yes, I have a list.<br /><br />5. I had oral sex with almost all of those women, and full intercourse with about half of them. Only one of the was a one-night stand.<br /><br />6. 30 of those women were in a period of 8 years, when I was between 20 and 30 years old. 10 of them were in the year before I met number 31.<br /><br />7. One of them was 10 years older than me. One of them was six years younger than me.<br /><br />8. I "lost my virginity" with number 3. I was 22 years old at the time.<br /><br />9. Only one of my sexual relationships lasted more than a few months.<br /><br />10. I have been living (unmarried) with number 31 for over 20 years now. Our sex life was very satisfactory for about 12 years, but there has been a lot of frustration for me over the past 8 years. Untill recently, we still had sex about once a week, and it was nice, but became rather routine. <br /><br />11. We are both in very good health and very fit. She is still very attractive to me. But, for the past year, I have had difficulty getting and maintaining erections in sex with her. Viagra does not help much. I have begun to wonder if I have become too accustomed to her and wonder if I would react differently with a different woman. <br /><br />12. Number 32 was in a foursome with number 31 and another couple. That was a very long time ago. We haven't done anything like that for over 15 years now.<br /><br />13. We had several encounters with that couple. There was never any PIV sex across couples, but we touched and licked each other's partners, including my lover sucking the other man while I fucked her. <br /><br />14. I found I enjoyed sex with the other woman... but was very uncomfortable kissing her (she asked me to). <br /><br />15. Number 33 was the only time I ever cheated on number 31. It was a threesome with a couple while on business trip away from home. There was no male-male sex involved, just the two of us men giving her many orgasms. I did not fuck the woman or go down on her or kiss her... but I did finger her to several orgasms. She sucked me while being fucked by her husband, and took pride in swallowing my semen. It was fun, and I do not regret it.<br /><br />16. That threesome was my only "one-night stand." Every other person I had sex with was someone that I had met at least once before or saw at least once after.<br /><br />17. I am not homophobic. I have nothing against gays and some male-on-male porn very erotic. But the thought of kissing a man kind of grosses me out.<br /><br />18. My favorite fantasy is a threesome with my partner and another man. I would love to go down on both of them while they fuck. She shows no real interest in this scenario, but I have not given up hope that we may actually do this some day.<br /><br />19. Receiving oral sex is nice, but I would usually rather fuck. On the other hand, I love going down on a woman. <br /><br />20. I'd like to try sucking a cock.<br /><br />21. I have tried (giving) anal and don't much care for it. But I do like to lick my lover's anus (when it is freshly washed!).<br /><br />22. I love nude beaches. Contrary to the "official nudist" philosophy, going to a nude beach is definitely a sexual experience for me. I love looking at all the naked bodies... mostly the women, but I can admire an exceptional male body too. <br /><br />23. Fortunately for me, my lover of the past 20 years loves nude beaches too. <br /><br />24. I spend many hours every week reading and watching porn of all sorts. I don't like most professional porn, but the quality of most amateur videos is terrible so I prefer amateur pictures and written porn.<br /><br />25. I worry about the amount of time I spend browsing porn<br />25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-5398517553756752592013-01-05T22:36:00.000-08:002013-01-05T22:36:00.137-08:001. I am a 21 year old, cisgendered, bisexual female from Texas. Only a few people know about the bisexual part. <br /><br />2. I am married, and have been for over a year now. This has vastly diminished how much sex I have. I'm not pleased by this.<br /><br />3. I got pregnant when I was 18 and had twin boys. This has also vastly diminished how much sex I have. I'm not pleased by this.<br /><br />4. I love to fuck. Given the option, I'd rather be having sex. If it were legal and if there were fewer risks involved, being a sex worker sounds highly appealing, simply because I could get paid doing something I enjoy. <br /><br />5. I was raised Catholic, to be pure and wait to have sex until marriage. I was shamed for wanting birth control, even after having children. As a married woman, I am still shamed somewhat by my parents if I even remotely refer to using birth control. I was also raised that homosexuality was deviant and evil. I was taught that masturbation was bad and sinful. I was taught that in order to preserve other people's purity, I should always dress modestly.<br /><br />6. I was around eleven when I started masturbating. I've never felt ashamed of it, even though I was taught that I should be. My parents installed a hand-held shower head when I was 10 and I discovered that it was instrumental in making me feel very VERY good. My first sexual thoughts that I can remember were about several characters from "The Lord of the Rings."<br /><br />7. Up until last year, I thought I was a virgin until I met my husband. I now know that I lost my virginity to a 18-year-old girl when I was 14. It was extremely pleasant.<br /><br />8. I have identified as bisexual since I was 15. <br /><br />9. My first PIV sex was with the man who is now my husband when I was 18. I was his first in all respects. After three years, he has gotten remarkably good in bed. The first time we had sex, a robot fell on my head. It was NOT good for me. It was great for him. Mostly I just find it hilarious.<br /><br />10. I have been the first kiss of at least 5 different males. I am indifferent about this. Most first kisses are only magical because you don't know they get better.<br /><br />11. The first time I saw a naked man, it was because I came over to his house and he answered the door naked. I was 17 and I was NOT pleased. He got dressed quickly and then I came inside and we watched Buffy the Vampire Slayer. <br /><br />12. After having children, I am now an avid supporter of feminism, sex-positivity and birth control. My parents hate this, but mostly we try not to discuss it.<br /><br />13. My favorite thing to do during high school was entice as many guys as possible. I loved how they looked at me and loved being kissed and touched and wanted. <br /><br />14. With this in mind, I love being in control and being controlled. It just depends on the day.<br /><br />15. I had sex 8 times in one day. It was enjoyable. I think I came 6 out of 8 times. <br /><br />16. I've never used a vibrator or a dildo. I assume I'd enjoy it, but I'm pretty broke most days, so I haven't been able to really think about purchasing anything in specific.<br /><br />17. Getting pregnant at 18 and then married 2 years later meant that I didn't get to get a lot of my crazy out. My husband gets this and I appreciate it. It just is very very hard sometimes. I've only ever had sex with one man. I would really like to see what it is like with a multitude of other people. I have no idea if I will or not. It is just very frustrating being 21 and horny all the time.<br /><br />18. I love getting oral sex. I've received from three people and the women definitely outshine the man. My husband isn't a big fan, so it rarely happens, which is also quite frustrating. I also enjoy giving. I love hearing and feeling the tension and release, the ebbs and flows. <br /><br />19. I'm not a fan of porn. I don't hate it (and I have some huge issues with the industry), but for the most part, it doesn't turn me on. True queer porn can turn me on, on occasion. I love the sounds but rarely like what I see. I prefer erotic literature, and there is some fantastic stuff! However, I have to delete my history constantly, because apparently I like to read really, really bad stuff. It is embarrassing. This is one of the few parts of my sexuality that I have issues accepting. <br /><br />20. I am very afraid of being outed as being bisexual to my mother. Terrified.<br /><br />21. I was raped when I was 20. My therapist at the time told me that he must have been provoked by my immodesty and his frustration with his life. I haven't gone back to see her in a while and I have only just begun to make his life hell.<br /><br />22. I miss having sex with girls. <br /><br />23. I've had to be quiet while having sex my entire sexual life. I HATE it. The few times I haven't had to be, I love groans and screams. I want to hear my partner's sounds as well. It gets me off so well.<br /><br />24. I've never been in a threesome. I'd love to try it sometime. It sounds awesome.<br /><br />25. I am not even slightly interested in anal sex. Fortunately, neither is anyone else I've ever slept with.25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-62074388851055810882013-01-03T22:29:00.000-08:002013-01-03T22:29:00.231-08:00<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />1.) I’m a straight white cis-male in his mid-thirties, and my sex life is basically just a series of contradictions. <br /><br />2.) I’m 6’4” and around 200 pounds. I like the sound of that, but in reality I’m fairly lanky. I’ve always had a lot of self image issues that have really done a number on my sex life. It’s really hard for me to escape the definition of being an ugly guy. I look at myself in the mirror and I don’t see how I’m ugly, but somehow I accepted that’s how other people see me. They just see me as being a taller version of Bill Gates despite the fact that I have really good hygiene and I keep my hair short (just like it that way). <br /><br />3.) I don’t think most guys have a good grasp on their sexuality. The sheer social programming alone forces most guys into a default role. There are no bonus points for guys who experiment. If you’re not completely straight or gay then you have to be really careful about what you say to a girl. Even if most girls won’t admit this; they see any homosexuality as a weakness in their mate, and it messes with their submissive headspace. I don’t blame them because they don’t consciously do this. It’s not that they don’t want their heart/bodies to be as open as their mind. In a lot of ways I think I’ve just become frustrated with it. Lets just say I have a tremendous amount of respect and admiration for girls who truly reject gender roles and are open to sexual parters who don’t fit the stereotypical roles.<br /><br />4.) I identify with being a switch, but in reality it's easier for me to be dominant. Not just easier because I’m used to being in control, but it's easier because the girls tend to be submissive. I really want a girl to take control in the bedroom just once to see what it feels like. To have them set aside all insecurity and just hump the fuck out of my face. I would be so much better at pleasing a girl if they were as open and assertive as I am when it comes to sex. Although it is getting better as I date older girls who have a more developed sexuality, and aren't nearly as submissive. <br /><br />5.) Every girl I’ve had any sexual contact with her either been raped or sexually molested, and it's always been hard for me to process it. I’ve promised to treat them as being pure, and not as a victim. At one point I really felt like my fate was to eventually kill one of the bastards that did that to them. I know that it's often cyclical, and it points to a bigger social problem. These days I’m just a huge advocate for sex education, and in trying to identify problems early on. What if people learned what sex really was? Where they didn’t learn it from porn?<br /><br />6.) I don’t know exactly when I started to masturbate. I’m sure I started out like most boys where it just felt good to hump the bed a little while laying on my stomach. It just slowly started to progress more and more till I had my hands wrapped around my penis and pulling sheets under it.<br /><br />7.) I’m kinda embarrassed to admit the fact that I didn’t really correctly masturbate until high school. I’m not sure when I eventually figured out you were supposed to be on your back with your hand around your cock.<br /><br />8.) I never put my finger in my ass while masturbating. It’s pretty fucked up because I like it when a girl does it. For some reason I’m obsessed with the idea of saving it. <br /><br />9.) When it really comes down to it, I’m a hedonist more than simply being a sexual person. I like indulgences, and I fail to see why sex shouldn’t play a central role.<br /><br />10.) I’ve been single for my entire life, and the closest I got to a relationship was a long-distance thing that lasted for way longer than it should have. I think she would agree with that, but at the same time I think we’re both grateful that it happened. I see it as something that had a profound effect on me. Just the idea that it could happen, and I wasn’t a completely broken person.<br /><br />11.) I’m obsessed with the idea of a regular sex partner. Just someone who comes over once a week, and we play around. I see it as the ultimate form of a crutch. Just some way to make it by, even though I know relationship-wise my entire life is a train wreck. I don’t even care if I have to pay for it as long as I’m not completely paying for it. I want the money to be just a bridge between my age and her age (probably much younger), and our looks. I don’t want some escort, or some prostitute, but just some college girl who likes sex and likes money. I put the value on this at $1000-$1500 a month. It’s kinda fucked up that it turns me on, but I know it's a terrible idea. Any time you mix sex and money, everything gets so manipulative. In so many ways its just self-inflicted pain, and I’m not even a masochist. I’ve gone to a web site, but I just can’t bring myself to fill out a profile. In a lot of ways it would be like giving up.<br /><br />12.) Related to Number 11 is the fact that I’m greatly turned on by the idea of reluctance. The idea that a girl sorta likes someone, but needs something extra to push her. Like having a girl over and she knows $1000 is sitting on the dresser. Will she take it in the morning or will she leave it? How will she feel about herself if she takes it? I have the control if she takes it, but if she leaves it then she strips me of all control. She takes my crutch away and leaves me in unfamiliar territory. I want this fantasy to go away, but I can’t deny how hard it makes me.<br /><br />13.) I like the idea of sex probably more than sex itself. I hate the idea of sex as being some expectation. I’d rather tie a girl up and leave her open and wanting than simply giving into the expectation that I’m just going to fuck her like last week or the week before.<br /><br />14.) Years ago I kept a strap-on under my bed hoping to find a girl that would try it on me. At some point I gave up on a girl ever doing it right so I threw it away. The lasting memory from it was a girl laughing way too much when she had it on to do anything. <br /><br />15.) Sometimes I think I have an unhealthy obsession with the idea of a girl. That I’ve romanticized girls way too much, and given them way too much power. After all, people are people regardless of the gender, but there is just something so alluring to a girl. <br /><br />16.) When I was younger I wanted to be tied up and stripped by a bunch of girls. I still do, even though I know it would never translate to real life. Just being a boy toy that a girl could abuse turns me on greatly. Bonus points if they make me suck a cock in front of them. Just showing them that weakness, and being forced to deal with the shame I felt. Even though I know there is absolutely nothing shameful about sucking a cock. It’s just sex, and at some point I’d probably laugh about it.<br /><br />17.) I envy how girls can be objectified. I know this is a terrible thing, and it’s undeniable how much harm it does to girls. But, at the same time it’s just so powerful. The idea that someone wants to see you naked. As a guy unless you’re an Adonis you’re basically just comedic relief. Most CFNM porn should be renamed as extremely funny comedy. I’m sure if I watched it with a girl she’d be laughing hysterically. <br /><br />18.) I’m obsessed with my own cock. I love the shape, the size and the look of it. I love how angry it gets sometimes. Once a girl even had the gall to say that it was tragic that it didn’t get out and play more--that it was stuck on some engineer's body who had terrible people skills. Sometimes it does let me down. The angry full-blown baseball bat imitation doesn’t happen all the time. I’m sure it's some chemical thing that only peaks for a few days a month, or if there is a particular girl that is making me really horny.<br /><br />19.) I’m obsessed with blow jobs, and I’ll never be with a girl who doesn’t take it into her mouth. I also love giving oral, so I don’t see any issue with this. <br /><br />20.) I’m a monogamous person at heart, but I’ve completely rejected monogamy in my own life. I want the people in the relationship to define what the relationship is, and not just some construct, some idealistic bullshit we're supposed to match up to. I’ll never leave a girl if she is sick, or has cancer, or anything else. I’m the most dedicated guy a girl will ever find, but that doesn’t mean I’ll be monogamous sex-wise. I think it really just comes down to being honest with each other. Honest about our needs and our intentions. You’re supposed to love the person for who they are.<br /><br />21.) I never see the doctor unless there is something wrong with my cock. I had a hernia once, and so I went to see the doctor because it made my cock look bad. I secretly wonder if my rather intense masturbation didn’t help cause it. The easiest way to get me to see the doctor is to deny me sex. Yes, I know this is silly, but doctors scare the crap out of me.<br /><br />22.) I love girls that see themselves as a slut or embrace their own sexuality (which is the same thing), and they don’t feel ashamed of it. For whatever reason, I see the MFM threesome as being the graduation point into sluthood. Yes, even I can admit that might be silly, but I like it. It’s that act because of the intimacy and the double penetration. Bonus points if the guys are friends and they shared her despite the competitive nature the two friends have. <br /><br />23.) I have a thing for girls in the 18-22 range. Some will say it's abusive, and some will say I’m stuck in my past. But it's just such a beautiful thing to see a girl discover something. It’s like teaching someone how to drive. To teach them the beauty of accepting pleasure. If I’m ever with a young girl again, I’m going to do a brilliant job teaching them. Or maybe I’ll just give it up because it’s impossible, or I’m better suited to girls in the 25-35 range.<br /><br />24.) I don’t personally use sex toys on myself, but I’m in the process of designing sex toys for use in orgasm recording and denial (EKG type stuff). I’m fascinated by the idea of knowing someone is being pleasured by the the brain waves they give off. <br /><br />25.) I don’t drink or do drugs. I’m not against those things, but they just don’t do anything for me. I do kinda wonder, though, how much it's cost me in terms of sexual exploration.</span></span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-12862947172788294922013-01-01T22:06:00.006-08:002013-01-01T22:06:44.567-08:001) I am a 19 year old cis-female. I generally think of myself as feminine, but I love men's fashion and occasionally like to cross-dress without changing my feminine hairstyle; button up shirts are almost all I own.<br /><br />2) I identify as asexual. It took me a long time to realize that aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction are not the same. While I identify as ace, I do maintain a romantic orientation as homoromantic, but recently I've been questioning the validity of that; Sometimes I feel like I could give guys a chance, but perhaps it's just that I like the idea of being with a man more than actually being with one.<br /><br />3) I am a virgin. I've never been kissed. I've never been in a relationship. It's not that I completely lack self-esteem, but rather I don't really understand the dynamics involved with "dating" or "being in a relationship". I can't seem to relate to other people because of that, and it's possibly because the concepts of love and sex are so heavily intertwined in their representation within society and because I picture them as separate I have to ultimately reevaluate my understanding to fit in, and this just hasn't been working.<br /><br />4) I wish I had a girlfriend, but I'm not out and I don't know when I'll be more open about who I am. It's not because I'm ashamed, it's because I just can't handle the awkwardness associated with people knowing such personal information about me. Why is it anyone else's business? The question is not usually brought up anyway, as I appear and identify as female so I can easily pass through society; I can easily be invisible. But this has caused me to be more lonely than I would like.<br /><br />5) I am not against sex. I am a very sex-positive person: it's a large part of society and people do it and so it needs to be and should be discussed. However, when I picture myself having sex I feel disgusted. I am repulsed at the thought of me having sex with a man, but I feel as though I might be able to tolerate it if it's with a woman; if I really loved her, I would accommodate her needs as best as I am able. I'm just not sure I would be able to receive pleasure from her. The thought makes me extremely apprehensive.<br /><br />6) I have frequent periods in which I feel like sex is just whatever and I don't care about it. Which for the most part is all the time. However, this feeling is more like my body is disposable and others may use it freely, as opposed to not caring about sex and equally not wanting it. It's like I feel a separation from myself, my opinions, my interests and everything else that makes me who I am, and can just detach myself from my repulsion of sex for a brief period in order to pleasure someone else. Sometimes it scares me how unemotional and unfeeling I am about myself in this regard.<br /><br />7) I do get turned on. I do masturbate (and I do it quite frequently). I do it when I'm stressed, or when I feel upset, or when I'm lonely; asexuality is a large spectrum and there is so much diversity that the only formal definition agreed upon in the community is lack of sexual attraction. Some aces do masturbate, some don't. Some have a lot of sex, others are virgins.<br /><br />8) I get so nervous when talking to pretty girls. I just can't function properly, and I don't know why. I feel like maybe I come off as a try-hard when this happens, but I just can't tell. If I like a girl, I typically try to avoid her as much as I can. Right now, my current interest is someone who I used to not be interested in (I don't really become interested in friends, but rather acquaintances who I idealize), but lately as I've gotten to know her she has shown to be an incredibly intelligent, absolutely beautiful and highly interesting young woman. And as a friend, I can't really avoid her, so I am slowly learning how to be less awkward in my mannerisms around girls.<br /><br />9) Before I discovered what asexuality was, I used to feel like something was wrong with me. Growing up Catholic, you are taught that sex is a natural thing in a heterosexual marriage and that it's the epitome of love within the confines of that marriage. I don't want sex and I don't want to get married, and this is essentially denying the factor that makes you human in the eyes of God. I felt subhuman, less than, inferior. I hated myself. Sometimes I still feel guilty.<br /><br />10) Growing up as a female, I've encountered sexism from a young age. I felt caged and pressured to conform when I would have to dress up to attend formal balls and banquets; my appearance was put on the utmost pedestal, all because men view women as child-bearing trophies. I hated it: I hated the atmosphere of snobby girls silently judging me, I hated the slow dancing and the gross breath of my date whispering in my ear as he tried to put his hands a little too low for comfort, and I hated the shitty food that was served, too. I withdrew into myself and kept quiet for a long time thereafter, because I felt like my opinions and thoughts were being trampled on, and I wasn't being heard.<br /><br />11) Sometimes I wake up in the morning and just have this undeniable urge to call up a girl on my contacts, invite her over, and have sex with her. I want to fuck her brains out. I can't help it: there are days (it's sporadic) where I wake up unbelievably horny, and taking care of it myself is so tiresome because I have to go at it for a very long time. I have to orgasm at least 3 times in order to satisfy the urge, and it'd just be easier if I let out my pent-up sexual frustration on a girl in a way that's most pleasurable and exciting to her.<br /><br />12) I have watched porn before, but I don't really enjoy it. I have a love-hate relationship with it: Mentally, it does absolutely nothing for me, I don't find it pleasing to watch. I find it repulsive, grotesque and inherently misogynist, but after I watch it, my body responds to it in the completely opposite way and I notice that I become extremely wet after watching it. It's like there's this disconnect with my body and my brain, and I don't understand why that happens. I feel so guilty about it, and I hate not being able to have control over how my body reacts to certain things.<br /><br />13) I think I have a fear of relationships, but I would really like to experience one soon. I just want someone to be there. No talking, no sex, nothing. I want someone to just enjoy the silence with me and cuddle with me in the park or on our bed. Not even sleeping, just a comfortable silence. Unfortunately, I don't think my chances of finding a girl like that are very high.<br /><br />14) I am deathly afraid that I will never be touched the way I would like to be.<br /><br />15) I get bored easily with crushes, because I assume (from past experiences) that they will never happen. I'm scared that with my first girlfriend, I'll become bored of her quickly, and that's not fair to her. She doesn't deserve that.<br /><br />16) I am platonically attracted to guys. I wish I could have a really close guy friend without him wanting (or expecting) something more, but so far that hasn't been the case. I would also really enjoy hugging and hand-holding with guys, but nothing more. No kissing, no caressing, nothing. This is where the confusion sets in about my romantic orientation. I really, really enjoy the comfort and feeling I get when I hug guys and when I can smell the lavender scent of detergent in their clothes. I wish I could just be in their arms forever, sometimes.<br /><br />17) I feel scared when I get close to girls. I always feel like there's some kind of tension, and I can't really place my finger on what. It's not a sexual tension, because I'm not sexually attracted to them. I just don't know what it is.<br /><br />18) If a close female friend ever started to get overly touchy, start breathing on my neck, touch my thigh, I would get turned on. My body is so sensitive and so receptive to touch that I could probably orgasm from just that. The underside of my wrists are the most sensitive part of my body: I will get an orgasm just from light traces along my wrist, dragged up my forearm.<br /><br />19) I am overly sweet on my female friends, and I bend over backwards just to help them out even if it inconveniences me. I don't expect anything in return, I just feel powerless sometimes when it comes to girls; I don't ever want them to feel the way I do - that their concerns aren't important enough or that my thoughts don't matter. But this makes me feel weak-willed and I feel like I end up being used and it's my own fault. But I just can't help it.<br /><br />20) After I masturbate at night, I feel incredibly lonely and I often wish that I had a girl to cuddle with in the dark. I wish we could lay there facing each other, and my eyes would adjust to the darkness and the first thing I'd be able to see is the outline of her face and then the curve of her lips.<br /><br />21) With most friends, I maintain a disinterested view on sex. If a sexual topic comes up, I stay silent or say "eww." I just don't feel comfortable talking about it; years of conservative upbringing and sexism have taught me that sex is a not a subject that should be discussed in public, or discussed from a women's viewpoint, much less. However, with closer friends that I happen to be out to, sex brings up very interesting debates that I find myself to really enjoy; my thoughts on sex just don't seem to match what I show to other people, and I'm trying to fix that in order to be more comfortable with talking about it to friends that I am not out to.<br /><br />22) When I was young, about 6 or 7, I believe I was sexually assaulted by a doctor. The memory is really fuzzy, but I do remember being at the doctor's office, my mom sitting in the chair, and the male doctor examining my private area for about 10 seconds. There was no penetration. I'm not really sure what kind of illness would warrant that kind of conduct, and I remember the door was left open and the nurse was in there and she turned the computer screen towards me. I honestly can't really remember a whole lot about the incident. A few days later I do remember riding in the front seat of the car and hearing on the radio about a doctor who was arrested because he sexually assaulted a ton of children and had child pornography on his computer and my mom then changed the radio station. I've never talked to her about it because it's too faint of a memory to recall. I feel like it may be a repressed memory or something. I will probably not talk about it to anyone.<br /><br />23) While I sometimes identify as lesbian, I don't feel accepted or wanted by the LGBT community because I'm ace; it's a heavily sexualized community and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere within it. I don't feel welcome.<br /><br />24) I feel like if I ever were to have sex, I'd be a good lover. I feel like I take direction very well and be attentive to her needs in order to make her experience as good as possible.<br /><br />25) If I were to choose between sex or cake I would most likely choose cake every time.25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-760733432259479132012-12-17T22:36:00.000-08:002012-12-17T22:36:00.112-08:001. I have had intercourse with 9 guys.<br /><br />2. I have had two threesomes. One was on my 21st birthday, with two guys. The second was about a month after I moved in with my new roommate, and we went out for drinks with her and her boyfriend, then we bought a bottle of Johnnie on the way home... And both of these incidents had great, dramatic emotional meaning and value and were partly the result of, and also the cause of many many intertwined problems.<br /><br />3. I had a miscarriage in April. I haven’t had sex since then. It was my first pregnancy. I don’t know when I got pregnant, neither of the two times I had sex prior to getting pregnant were particularly worrisome. The first time the condom broke, and i got the morning-after pill. The second time he was so drunk he could barely get it up, and we used a condom, and we think he might not have even come. So I am scared shitless and don’t think I will ever dare have sex again.<br /><br />4. I love feeling a cock in my mouth. Sucking dick can really really turn me on sometimes.<br /><br />5. I once had sex in a separate room of a bar that we were alone in and the door was closed (and from the other side, you could reach the door through a wardrobe, Narnia! How cool is that, I had sex in Narnia). And the idiot left the condom there on the coffee table. So I tried to avoid that bar for a few months after that.<br /><br />6. There are 4 guys that I know I would have had sex with by now were it not for the miscarriage. Sometimes I imagine what it would be like with them when I masturbate.<br /><br />7. Once I got so horny while I was pregnant (I didn’t know I was pregnant yet, though), I felt I absolutely NEEDED to be penetrated or I would go mad – and I don’t have a dildo or any other sex toy, so I put a condom on a candle and used that.<br /><br />8. The best sex I have ever had was with an acquaintance of a friend I had just met that night, and he had a girlfriend at the time (he kept asking me – but you know I have a girlfriend, right? – yeah, I know. – and is it OK? – I told you already, if it’s okay with you, it’s okay with me, you’re the one who knows what this relationship means to you), and I didn’t even find him particularly attractive, and it was so great that there were absolutely no strings attached, it was completely free. I almost came just from intercourse (that has never happened to me), but we weren’t using a condom and I had to stop because I was scared it would be as good for him as it was for me...<br /><br />9. I once fainted lying down because my boyfriend was just so talented at eating me out.<br /><br />10. I love being loud during sex. And I love it when guys are loud during sex. It turns me on horribly.<br /><br />11. I was fooling around with a guy once, and he started playing around with choking me – not really, not taking it past a comfortable level – and I really liked it. I’d like to experiment with that more.<br /><br />12. For a really long time, I thought my nipples weren’t sensitive. But a while ago I realized that oh my God they are sensitive, so sensitive in fact that I could never let myself really enjoy the sensation that my nipples being touched or licked gives me, because I was afraid of its intensity. I’m getting past that now. <br /><br />13. A pretty good tip for guys (or girls who like girls) is that being stimulated in three separate parts of your body simultaneously is amazing, and will almost definitely result in orgasm. (E.g. pussy-ass-boobs, pussy-nipples-ear, hipbones-ass-nipples, you get the idea.)<br /><br />14. I really love how it feels when a guy is eating me out and squeezing/rubbing my nipples at the same time. My breasts and my pussy getting so stimulated at once makes me feel in touch with some primal, womanly, motherly force inside me, what I think will later on develop into what people like calling "mature(d) sexuality."<br /><br />15. Spooning is my favorite position.<br /><br />16. Gang bangs are my favorite kind of porn to watch.<br /><br />17. I had sex on the campus of my university once, late at night, on the soccer field.<br /><br />18. I shave. I like to leave a triangle of hair. I’ve had it other ways (strip of hair, not trimmed at all, just the edges trimmed, no hair at all), but I like this the best. It’s clean, but it doesn’t look too unnatural.<br /><br />19. I love battle wounds. Sex bruises and sore muscles make me smile to myself days afterwards.<br /><br />20. I love being eaten out until orgasm and then penetrated. I am so overcome and overwhelmed with all the stimuli and fuzzy-good-sex-feelings buzzing around inside me that I almost go numb with physical happiness, and I feel completely helpless, and I can and do surrender myself completely to the guy, to the passion, to the moment.<br /><br />21. I love collarbones, and holding the back of a guy’s neck, and muscular shoulders, and deep eyes.<br /><br />22. I could spend days just getting high and having sex and cuddling and sleeping and repeating endlessly.<br /><br />23. I have had sex with someone right there next to me/us, more than once, but all with the same guy (he is also the Narnia one, and one of the two guys from the threesome on my birthday).<br /><br />24. I almost always wait for the guy to make the first move, I very rarely initiate sex.<br /><br />25. I like to masturbate in the shower, with all the hot running water and steam and sweat and everything.25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-7342915819117148452012-12-15T22:25:00.000-08:002012-12-15T22:25:00.479-08:00<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">1. I’m a 19-year-old, delving eagerly into the process of questioning my assigned gender, which is female. <br /><br />2. I’m very unsure of my sexual orientation. I most identify with the label bi-curious. It’s all up in the air right now. I’ve only ever had sexual experiences with men, two so far. <br /><br />3. I am more often attracted to women over men. I’ve been attracted to women with all body types, skin colours; I’ve found no obvious patterns in my attraction.<br /><br />4. I think that if I had some sort of sexual experience with a woman it would solidify my sexual orientation. I’m not sure why I want to solidify it, though. I think that one of the reasons is that I feel like I never challenge heterosexist assumptions about myself because I’m so unsure about my attraction to women. I’m not sure if my attraction to women really is deeply sexual or I just think that a lot of women are beautiful. If I did start looking for someone to experiment with I know I would be picky about who. I never want to share my body with anyone who isn’t sex-positive, body-positive and feminist.<br /><br />5. For men, I’m least attracted to muscled, body-builder type figures. Though I’m sure there are exceptions to every rule. <br /><br />6. I really want to experience oral sex with a woman. I just don’t know how to go about pursuing this fantasy while in an exclusive relationship. I would never cheat. My partner knows that I’m attracted to women, and honestly, I think that if the opportunity came up, he would probably be okay with my trying a one-night stand kind of thing with a woman. I’m just very anxious about trusting that he would be honest about his feelings towards it because I wouldn’t want it to strain our relationship at all.<br /><br />7. My favorite word for my cunt is cunt. I love the way it sounds and looks when written down. Something is so deliciously simple about it.<br /><br />8. My PIV sexual debut (a sex-positive term that rids the negative connotation of losing one’s virginity) was at 18, with my boyfriend. We had been dating for years, having lots of oral sex and just waiting for a time where it felt right to go further. I was ready for sex before he was and I patiently waited. When we finally did, he wasn’t very hard throughout it because he was nervous about performing well, but it was a great experience anyway.<br /><br />9. I’ve strip-teased on webcam and sent nude photos to a boy I met through the internet and I consider it a mistake. This was in a time in my life where I used my body to try to make boys like me. Now I will never know if he still has those photos.<br /><br />10. Up until my current relationship I felt shame about doing sexual things. I succumbed under pressure to things I didn’t want to do, and rarely explored what I did want to do. I feel like this is because I was affected by ideas that society puts forth about sex and women’s roles. Since becoming more feminist and sex-positive my sex life has definitely improved. Being able to talking openly about sex with my partner has lifted a huge weight off of me.<br /><br />11. I think that the way that cocks work is a beautiful metaphor for sexual desire and release. I like the boldness of erections. The pattern: the hardening, movement until cumming, the release and final softness of a hanging cock, drooping and exhausted. It makes sexuality look so clean and obvious, and in comparison vaginas seem so subtle and mysterious to me.<br /><br />12. For a long time I hated many parts of my body. Now I love myself wholly, especially the bits I hated most; I love the curve of fat at the top of my thighs and the way it looks against my cunt and I even love my small perky breasts.<br /><br />13. My previous boyfriend had begged me to give him a blowjob and when I finally did I simply hated it. I don’t think I was turned on at the time at all. I hated the smell and taste of his cock and the way if filled my mouth. I just put my mouth around it for less than a minute so that he would leave me alone about it. Afterwards he thanked me and said that he thought blowjobs were overrated because he didn’t like it very much. It was really frustrating for me because he said he thought it would be “gross” to perform oral sex on me, but urged me to go down on him after I told him I didn’t want to. In retrospect this disgusts me, and I feel like telling him that what he did was wrong because I don’t want him to put anyone else through that.<br /><br />14. I’ve been sexually assaulted 5 times. 4 out of 5 times I was groped by strangers in public in broad daylight. The other time a family member kissed me on the lips when I was upset. I’m still not sure if he meant the kiss to be sexual, but I felt violated afterwards and he never asked me if it was okay.<br /><br />15. I think I’d like to try anal sex, and some BDSM things (mostly being tied up during sex). Both scare me a bit, though.<br /><br />16. One of my favorite things is when my boyfriend goes down on me. He’s so passionate about it and I love that it turns him on. I get so horny as he kisses down my body, heading for my cunt.<br /><br />17. I find it exhilarating to have sex outside. Once I went down on my boyfriend in the basement of a half-built house that we broke into. Not knowing if someone was going to catch us made it so sexy. <br /><br />18. I want to be fucked harder than I’ve ever been fucked.<br /><br />19. I love going down on my boyfriend. Something about the shape of the tip of his cock is so appealing; it makes me want to put my lips around it. Sometimes I like when he throat-fucks me, but I’m not in the mood for that all the time. We’re really consistent about being open about what we feel like doing, which I value a lot.<br /><br />20. I’ve never had an orgasm from PIV sex. It doesn’t bother me; I really do enjoy sex anyways. It’s such a different sensation for me than clitoral stimulation.<br /><br />21. I’ve recently been getting off by being in control. I suddenly realized that I previously rarely moved during sex and it really freaked me out. Being able to move my body against my partner is the fucking bomb.<br /><br />22. My first kiss was at summer camp and I snuck out of my cabin in the night for the kiss. It was so beautiful to kiss him in the moonlight, and his touch was so passionate and hesitant at once. It was a French kiss, and feeling his tongue on mine was incredible. Even though it probably only lasted for a fleeting moment, it is still one of my most vivid sexual memories.<br /><br />23. Another vivid sexual memory of mine is when my boyfriend and I mutually masturbated until we both came. It was so steamy to watch him in such pleasure, and see him watch me. He came first, and afterward he kept urging me on saying “please cum, cum for me” as he watched me touch my clit. When I finally came it was so powerful. The whole time, we had an unspoken agreement that we weren’t going to touch each other. It was so sexy, when I think of it now there is a red haze over my vision.<br /><br />24. I’m going sex toy shopping with my boyfriend. I’m really excited. I want to try something that stimulates my clit while we fuck.<br /><br />25. Most porn turns me completely off.</span></span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-37711056461087103092012-12-13T22:18:00.000-08:002012-12-13T22:18:00.022-08:00<span style="font-size: small;">1. I'm a nineteen-year-old gender-fluid. Mostly I identify and function as a cis woman; occasionally I'll play at being a man. For now I identify as a bisexual, not because I think there are two genders, but because I've not so far been attracted to a person of any other identity.<br /><br />2. I lost my virginity at sixteen to my then-boyfriend, in a coercive rape, and I didn't reali<span style="font-size: small;">z</span>e what it was until a year later when I broke up with him. <br /><br />3. After I lost my virginity, I spent the next two and a half years thinking I was asexual, as I never really wanted sex and it was never fun, but I still did it with one other boyfriend because it wasn't unpleasant and he thought it was the base of any relationship. He dumped me because I wasn't very good at sex.<br /><br />4. I think the terms 'fuck buddy' and 'friends with benefits' are not interchangeable, I think a fuck buddy is just a person you use for sex, and they do the same to you, but a friend with benefits is a genuine friend, and you also have a sexual relationship, but not a romantic one.<br /><br />5. In the summer after I graduated high school I met my first friend with benefits, we met in a bar and went back to his with a few mutual friends, and I told him I didn't like sex. At the time, I thought I was somehow broken (physically) and it just didn't feel that great, but I'd try anyway, because I did get some enjoyment out of seeing someone find pleasure in me. Over the course of a few months, he helped me enjoy sex, although I still thought I was broken as I hadn't orgasmed, even through masturbation, which I didn't like.<br /><br />6. I helped my current boyfriend overcome his fear of sex, and one time, quite by accident, orgasmed.<br /><br />7. I now enjoy masturbation frequently, as it is difficult for me to orgasm from penetration. <br /><br />8. I think my clitoris is really on the tiny side.<br /><br />9. I enjoy taking a submissive role in sex, being pinned down, bitten, but no so much spanked. I enjoy finding teeth marks or pressure bruises the next morning.<br /><br />10. My current boyfriend doesn't know I sometimes identify as male, but I don't think less of him or think he'd love me less, I just don't think it's a part of our relationship.<br /><br />11. Light strokes on my lower back and lips on my nipples are a big turn-on.<br /><br />12. All people attracted to me like/d my legs, my friend with benefits couldn't say a word against me when I wore a skirt or dress. But he never made me feel like an object.<br /><br />13. I'm a little curious about anal, but my first boyfriend tried to force it "accidentally" and it was incredibly painful and I bled, so Im a little hesitant, and I don't feel like it's something I have to do, especially since my boyfriend is quite 'normal' when it comes to sex.<br /><br />14. I've never used a sex toy, don't really feel the need.<br /><br />15. I'm quite easy to arouse.<br /><br />16. I think it's weird that romantic love is the only kind that allows any intimacy in its physical expression. My dearest friend is my old friend with benefits (without benefits now), and while I don't feel a sexual attraction to him any more, I feel like a kiss on the cheek doesn't convey how deeply I love him (platonically). <br /><br />17. I wonder if there are things someone who identifies as a lesbian could teach me about my own sexuality.<br /><br />18. I'm very self-conscious of my orgasm. I think it's a reason I like to be submissive, because I feel embarrassed or exposed being on top during sex.<br /><br />19. Size matters a little to me. It's not the end of the world, but deep penetration feels great, and it's easier for me to orgasm.<br /><br />20. I like after-sex naps, especially spooning with my partner. I like the closeness and coziness of someone holding me to them, I feel like it's a happy, lazy continuation of our intimacy.<br /><br />21. I feel weird about being vocal during sex, but hearing moans and gasps from my partner is really arousing.<br /><br />22. I think oral sex is way more intimate than people make it out to be, and I've only ever done it to my current boyfriend, and only once, because I wanted to please him without thinking about me, but he never really liked it, so it's just not really something that is part of my sexual world.<br /><br />23. I enjoy the company of people older than myself, not so much for sexual attraction, but because I enjoy being with people who can teach me something, and who I can have intelligent conversations with, but on the reverse I think that kind of relationship can be dangerous for the younger person if the elder is simply using them and exploiting their ignorance.<br /><br />24. My boyfriend has a lower sex drive than I do, but I don't often crave sex. <br /><br />25. I can make myself orgasm in under a minute.</span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-49791482914259427102012-12-11T22:11:00.000-08:002012-12-11T22:11:01.066-08:00<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">1. I am a 26-year-old woman with very liberal sexual proclivities. <br /><br />2. I currently have a boyfriend who I've been with for over two years, who is 24 1/2 years older than me, 'K'. He is not the first older man I have dated. When I was 17, I lost my virginity to a man of 34, 'P'. When I was 22, I was with a man of 44, 'M'. And now I am 26 I am with a man of 50. This equation (he is double my age) is a recurring theme in my life. The math of my partner's age in relation to mine turns me on. The bigger the age gap, the more exciting I find him. The largest age gap I have had was an affair of the heart, and just kissing, with a man 45 years older than me. I was 17 at the time. <br /><br />3. By the age of 20 I had kissed (or more) with a man in his teens, 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's and 60's. It turns me on to think of this. <br /><br />4. I lost my virginity to my teacher, 'P'. He was married. A month after we first kissed, his wife gave birth to twins. We used to meet up after hours when I made sets in the tech department for my drama course. The affair went on for 8 months. He never gave me an orgasm. I adored giving him blow jobs. I felt so wonderful being desired by him, because boys my age bullied me. About a year and a half after I started Uni I got a call from the police saying that my name had come up in investigations into his being found with a 15-year-old student. I was interviewed by the police. I was honest. The hardest thing was telling my father. He listened to my confession, held my hand and said 'Shit happens. We'll support you'. My statement was the reason 'P' confessed and was put on the sex offenders registry and blacklisted from teaching. I do not regret this. I do regret the affair. Not for his wife or children, but for the fact that I was not able to associate sex with love until years later. <br /><br />5. 'Lolita' is one of the most erotic films/books to me. I choose to see it as the desire of an older man for something beautiful and unspoilt. Since I saw it at 16 I have forever wanted to be the object of that desire. <br /><br />6. I am not heterosexual. I have kissed four women in varying degrees of depth. Two of those I was sexually intimate with and one of those involved full strap-on sex. My favourite kiss was with a drunk woman outside a pub. I had gone to drink alone after a hard week at work and chatted to a couple of lads I didn't know who bought me a few drinks. During one trip outside for a cig a man kept calling me "darlin'" in that drunk laddish way. His lady joined us, and I started chatting with her so she would not think I was returning her man's attention. At chucking out time, I had another cig with the lads before leaving, and the drunk man and his lady passed us on their way home. I gave her a light and she stood close to me and we both looked up. I gently put my hand behind her head and kissed her softly and with a tenderness I thought she might not feel very often. She looked back at me afterwards like I was made of pure love. Like I shone gold in the dark. She started walking away then had to come back for another kiss because she said it was just so beautiful. I often think of the way she looked at me and I love telling this story. <br /><br />7. The most erotic thing about the woman I had full strap-on sex with was the curve of the hollow of her collar bone. <br /><br />8. I want to be publicly spanked by 'K'. We are heavily into fetish and BDSM. We have a fantasy world where he is the Lord of the Manor/The Stable Boy/The Gardener/His Lordship's Gay Dresser and I am his Maid/Slave/Queen/Cook. Among many others. Sometimes the marks he inflicts on me last for weeks. <br /><br />9. My favourite fantasy with 'K' is 'The Boy that Works in the Morgue'. He is a fully developed character. I am the beautiful corpse he makes love to when no one is around. I lay totally still with my eyes open and unblinking while he whispers awful things to me while fucking me, made-up stories from his childhood involving abuse and incest. This fantasy came out of my pretending to be a china doll one evening and he took a risk and said I looked dead while I was in character and lying still. This was the most beautiful thing that anyone has ever said to me. I cried in his arms without blinking once as he made love to me. <br /><br />10. For all my love of older men, my first kiss was at a sleepover, aged 14, on a dare, with a 12-year-old friend of my friend's brother. I tell everyone else it was with some guy at school outside the A floor drama gallery. <br /><br />11. I occasionally tell people I slept with my cousin once when we were horrendously drunk. This is true. Neither of us came. I stumbled back to the spare room afterwards. Dismissing it as a horrible drunken mistake makes me feel better. <br /><br />12. I used to repress my sexual urges and not mention things that turned me on because my on/off boyfriend of 5 years, 'J', thought I was obsessed with sex. The day I left him for good, it was like someone cut the elastic bands constricting my chest, and I finally breathed deeply for the first time in years. Exactly one week later 'J' was staying with friends, and I invited my then-ex 'M' and his new girlfriend back for tea and kisses. Two weeks after that I taught her how to deep -throat him with a live demonstration. Things didn't really pan out after that, but we still flirt together when we meet at a goth night once a month. I would not get involved with them again. <br /><br />13. I have only had four orgasms triggered by a partner. Three were from 'J.' Those were through oral sex with additional fingers internally. It took forever. He resented me for it. One was from 'M' as he finger-fucked me and I played with my clit. It also took forever. He was so proud of himself and let me fall asleep afterward while he went back to work. I fake it ALL the time. It takes me anything from 20 minutes to an hour on average on my own. I think this is why I enjoy the pain of S&M in place of orgasms. <br /><br />14. I see beautiful women everywhere, and I hope they enjoy their beauty. Some of them look so serious or sad. I imagine making love to them. <br /><br />15. I have made love to three men with a strap-on. The first, 'M', taught me how and was very helpful with technique. The second, 'J', was in denial about liking it. It took me two years to gently persuade him. Even though he loved it, he avoided it every time I suggested it afterwards. I didn't push the matter. When I left him and said we would no longer be sleeping with each other, he suddenly wanted to do it again. The third is my current boyfriend, 'K'. He adores it when I take him in the missionary position. I love the feeling of his legs wrapped around my waist. Sometimes he wears the red and white polka-dot dress I gave him. <br /><br />16. When I masturbate I like cum shots. Hearing a man's orgasm cries and see him shoot gets me off.<br /><br />17. Six weeks into my relationship with 'K,' we went to see his ex of twenty years ago, whom he'd not seen for four years, out of the blue, for a BBQ and sleepover, as we were in the area. After much wine, some drunk dancing and her 15-year-old son falling asleep, she suddenly kissed me as we were searching for whiskey in the drinks cupboard. We kissed, all three of us; they fondled me. She spanked me while I sucked his cock and did things to my nipples that left them sore for a week. When I asked why I was the only one naked she said 'sweetie, it's because you're the only young and beautiful one'. We all laughed. She is about 50 as well. The next day 'K' and I were closer than I've ever felt to a partner. <br /><br />18. I prefer relationships with older men, yet I have no Daddy issues whatsoever. My father was perfectly supportive and has never let me down. My mother, on the other hand, lost interest in me as soon as I developed my own opinions. I cannot imagine having a relationship with a woman, despite my desire for them sometimes. <br /><br />19. I find pain arousing--receiving it and inflicting it. <br /><br />20. I read erotic stories all the time, either published books or internet fiction. My favourite novel is 'The Story of O,' and on the internet I read any fan-fiction involving rakish older men paired with girls many years their junior. My ultimate turn-ons are stories based on the Harry Potter books, with Severus Snape or Lucius Malfoy paired with Hermione Granger. Or stories involving all three of them. I read these stories on the bus, the train, in coffee shops. I love getting wet and aroused in public. <br /><br />21. I have had two different clitoral hood piercings at different times. Having metal in my knickers is such a turn-on--knowing there's a little secret that no one knows about. Neither have been right for me, and I have removed them both now, but the process of getting them is brilliant and at the same time the most intense pain I've ever had from a piercing. (I've had over twenty in my time.) I usually have dreams of giving birth when I'm recovering. I feel more like a woman with metal in my lady-garden. I will do it again. <br /><br />22. I have bought a rubber outfit for my second Christmas with 'K'. It comprises of a bodice top and a tight pencil skirt. The crowning glory of this ensemble is a pair of knickers that have an internal sheath that is designed to be pushed inside my vagina so he can fuck me without actually touching any part of me. I find this an incredible turn-on. We kiss through plastic clothing bags I bought specially for the purpose and through his full circle leather skirt. To touch without touching makes me so wet. <br /><br />23. As it never happens, I do not base 'good sex' on my orgasms. I think this opens me up for better appreciation of other aspects of sex. I value connection, passion, imagination and movement. If we move together right, if we reach for each other in the right places at the right moments, then we're onto something good. Sex isn't called 'the horizontal rumba' for nothing. Static jackrabbit missionary isn't going to get me going. Touch is important. I love running my hands over a body, and that's all over a body, not just the fun bits. I particularly love shoulders and collarbones. I love the way my fingers travel over the curves and bumps of bone and muscle there. I will touch your waist, the backs of your knees and your forearms. And you will love it. And I want you to do the same to me. I'll ride on top, no problem, but the best bit of being on top is when you sit up, wrap your arms around me and roll me over onto my back, my head and shoulders almost falling over the edge, and screw me into the bed. Just like the best bit of side-by-side sex with my leg slung over your hip is when I push you over and go for a ride. <br /><br />24. Kissing is the most. Fun. Thing. Ever. A good kiss is the ultimate turn on. With the right person I can kiss for hours. I love to be kissed softly at first, our lips moving over each other's gently, teasing, nibbling, and licking. As the passion rises between us, as the kiss deepens and tongues begin to dance and our arms tighten around each other, as we sigh and breathe into ourselves. The feeling lifts me off my feet, and I am genuinely flying. I have that kind of kissing in my life now. And I like to kiss every inch of 'K'. I remember once he was laid out on the bed, his feet on the bed, his knees bent. I was crawling towards him and I knelt between his legs and gently kissed his right knee. He said later on that he found that the most beautiful and erotic moment of our lovemaking that afternoon. <br /><br />25. I turn myself on more than anything else. I think I am the most beautiful thing in the world. I pose in the mirrors in 'K's' bedroom (mirrors we bought to watch ourselves), I watch myself in shop windows and any other reflective surface I catch myself in. I love my curves in candle light, my shoulders, hips, breasts. I have been told I am beautiful by so many people. I see this as making up for the years of my youth spent feeling ugly and out of place. </span></span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-83506101794246147512012-12-09T21:58:00.000-08:002012-12-09T21:58:00.079-08:00<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">1. I am an eighteen-year-old cisgender female. I don’t know what sexuality I identify with at all.<br /><br />2. I have had 2 sexual partners over the course of my life – my boyfriend, whom I am with now and have been with for a year, and a female friend I had sex with a couple times before him.<br /><br />3. I really love my boyfriend and our relationship, but sometimes I feel like I’m missing out because I haven’t had sex with very many other people.<br /><br />4. I fucking LOVE scissoring so damn much. Now that I’m with a guy, I miss it sometimes.<br /><br />5. Half the time I love giving blowjobs, the other half of the time I hate it.<br /><br />6. I’ve never had an orgasm. I have absolutely no idea why – I know that it doesn’t have to do with either partner I’ve had, because I can’t do it through masturbation either, even when I use a vibrator.<br /><br />7. I would love to try more BDSM – thinking about getting dominated turns me on a lot.<br /><br />8. When I was eight, one of my classmates sexually molested me. It still upsets me to think or talk about it much.<br /><br />9. My sex drive has just started to come back in the past two months, after about two years of next to nothing. This is due I think to two different medications that I just recently quit in the past year: antidepressants and birth control. My low sex drive has been a huge source of frustration for me, especially after I started dating my boyfriend.<br /><br />10. I have a few kinks, mainly related to BDSM, that are definitely out there, although I haven’t actually tried them yet. I don’t know if I ever will.<br /><br />11. Visual porn does nothing for me, but written erotica can definitely turn me on.<br /><br />12. Sex is a lot better for me when I love or at least deeply care about the person I’m with. I also can get turned on for it much more easily when that’s the case.<br /><br />13. The idea of a dick in my anus doesn’t really bother me, but for some reason the idea of fingers in my anus turns me off.<br /><br />14. I have a hard time feeling sexually attractive sometimes because my breasts are so small, even though no one I’ve fooled around with has ever minded them.<br /><br />15. I don’t really like how penises look in general, but I am deeply attracted to my boyfriend’s.<br /><br />16. A girl with a penis turns me on.<br /><br />17. I’m really attracted to men’s shoulders and chests, and women’s stomachs.<br /><br />18. For me, the best part of sex is the intimate connection it creates with the person(s) you do it with.<br /><br />19. I never used to tell my partners if they were not really making me feel good while we were having sex – even though my boyfriend asked me to on several occasions. Then one day, I broke down and spent a solid hour teaching him how to finger me right and eat me out correctly, and the whole experience was so intimate and hot that I wish I’d just done it way earlier.<br /><br />20. I have had sex while on mind-altering substances, but for some reason most of them--with the exception of alcohol--don’t really turn me on that much – instead they make me want to spend a lot of time talking with my partner instead.<br /><br />21. I fantasize about watching someone I’m with fuck another person.<br /><br />22. I absolutely adore the way hands feel on my hips.<br /><br />23. Seeing a boner through a guy’s boxers or jeans drives me absolutely wild.<br /><br />24. If I can’t cuddle after sex I get really sad and feel kind of empty.<br /><br />25. There are few things I like more on this planet than watching my partner’s face when he or she orgasms. <br /></span></span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-48493257066100905892012-12-05T21:48:00.000-08:002012-12-05T21:48:00.317-08:00<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">1. I'm a 35-year-old woman from Spain. Lesbian, heterosexual, bisexual, pansexual.... blup... I've never liked to define myself in terms of sexuality, or even gender, but social interactions have been forcing me to since I was born.<br /><br />2. When i was a child, until I was 9 or 10 years old, I secretly wanted to be a boy. Once playing on the fields of the school, on break time, a girl approached me<br /> and asked me if I wanted to be a male. I was wearing a red dress, very feminine, and charol shoes. I lied consciously to her. I was 6, and I already was aware of social mental rigid conceptions of gender in this world.<br /><br />3. Now I am a very attractive, feminine girl, thin, athletic, with long blonde hair and a sweet face. Also I think of myself as someone androgynous. I play the female card, and I guess people see mainly the feminine in me, even though I still feel that I reflect to the outside this little girl that wanted to be "macho."<br /><br />4. When some people drive me crazy trying to define my sexuality, I answer to them that I'm a gay guy in a body of a women that fucks women. It really bothers me, this mental blockade that most people have in their minds, but at the same time I'm compassionate with them. I feel more comfort, in terms of sexuality, with my bisexual, or homosexual, or transsexual friends, because all these things are already understood, but I do love all my friends.<br /><br />5. I came out of the closet to my father and to my brother at the age of 14.<br /><br />6. I lost my virginity with a man at 14 also.<br /><br />7. I lost my virginity with a women at 15.<br /><br />8. At 19 I fell for a guy, and then I had to get out of the closet again, but this time the heterosexual one, because everybody thought of me as a lesbian. Then I decided to not define myself any more.<br /><br />9. I have been with 150-170 different people, more or less. Males and females. All of them before 27. After that I was in a monogamous relationship with a women with 2 kids for 7 years, and after that, maybe 5-6 people.<br /><br />10. I've had a threesome a few times. Sexually, it can work. Twice, I've been in an emotional threesome, and at the end it becomes a disaster, even<br /> though the last one ended up becoming that 7-year relationship.<br /><br />11. I was in a foursome once: 2 women, one male and me. Too much stress.<br /><br />12. I've had four long term relationships: with a man for 3 years, a woman for 2 years, another women for 2 years, and another women for 7 years. The first two were not monogamous.<br /><br />13. I think I have never really fallen in love with a man, and I wonder if one day I will. I would like to, and I think I am capable of it. I guess it's never happened because i wasn't lucky with the males that I found. I was close to it twice, but I don't know. I keep myself open. I really like women, and the feeling of falling in love with a woman, when it comes, feels easy and natural.<br /><br />14. I don't like it from behind. It is painful for me. With one or two fingers is OK. I would like to be in love with someone with the patience and the eagerness for doing it to me. But I need love to open on a certain level.<br /><br />15. I like toys. But I can only use them when I feel very comfortable with someone, and that means being in love too. Or a really, really good friendship, and long-term lover.<br /><br />16. All these sexual experiences gave me an open view of life. I was always searching for what love is (I know it sounds weird with that number of people, but in a way that was the ignition inside of me), or how many forms love can take.<br /><br />17. With time I became more respectful with myself, and more picky. Now it's hard for me to open sexually to someone if there's no friendship at least, and a good friendship. But there are so many things that I need to be there at the same time: good chemistry, an open mind, capacity of feeling, no shame, adventure for discovery...<br /><br />18. Some times I don't let anyone get close to me. These periods can be 5-6 months long, or even longer, but i consider myself too young for celibacy, so I "force" myself to open a bit to sexual lovers, even if it's not exactly-exactly what I am looking for. Usually I pick up male partners for this.<br /><br />19. Sex and emotions go together for me, but sometimes it's amazing how far away the emotions that I relate to some sexual experiences can be to the reality of whom I have in front of me. Projections. The intensity of good sex can give blindness. Not love, as is said.<br /><br />20. Sometimes i feel like a man, sometimes i feel like a women. (Inside myself, not related to any action, not related to how I look.)<br /><br />21. I like to fuck with men as if I was a man myself, and then change the role, and be fucked like a woman by a man. With women I become softer and stronger at the same time. I like when a women takes me, and seduces me, and forces me aggressively. And i like to do the same to them.<br /><br />22. I started to masturbate when I was 2 or 3. I still do it in the same way as when I started when I was a child, face down with my fingers on my clit, and the sheet in the middle. At the age of 6 i realized that it was better to not do it in front of anybody, a bit later I realized that this thing that I was doing was actually what the adults call masturbation.<br /><br />23. By myself, I prefer to have clitoral orgasms, and I like them in the shower too. If I am with someone, it does not matter if it's a women or a man, i prefer to have a vaginal orgasm. I'm multi-orgasmic both ways.<br /><br />24. To get to have a vaginal and a clitoral orgasm at the same time, I need to be with a partner that I've known for a long time. If not, I cannot open up.<br /><br />25. I like to talk about sex, but usually I have to be careful in which way I do it. If I am with a heterosexual male friend I talk about certain things, and I avoid others. If I am with a heterosexual female, the same. With a bisexual male I can be a little more open, but also not totally open; with a lesbian friend also... and so on. It's nice to just be me, and to just talk free freely.</span></span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-67088489391778184912012-12-04T21:52:00.000-08:002012-12-04T21:52:00.159-08:00<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">1. I am a 20-year-old, heterosexual, White British, cis female who is a virgin.<br /><br />2. I have never had a "formal" sex education class, apart from brief discussions of the biological aspects of reproduction and some general "abortions and contraception are evil" talks. Everything else I’ve learned has been from the Internet, and there’s a lot of "basic" stuff I’ve only just learned in the last year or so. I am rather sheltered. My parents never gave me "the talk."<br /><br />3. I wonder if anyone will ever find me attractive. The only time people have tried to state things to me has been when they’ve been using me as an object of ridicule.On one occasion a few years back, I ran into two of my childhood bullies. They hadn’t changed, and were going out of their way, still, after all these years, to make me uncomfortable. Another occasion was someone who followed me over a railway bridge near my home bugging me for my phone number the whole way. I unfortunately seem to notice every single one of my physical flaws, and my main area is actually my arms, not my stomach, which is surprising.<br /><br />4. When I was in secondary school, I was inappropriately touched on my inner thigh by a student who was older than I. He apparently did it on a dare. And no, my school didn’t really do anything, even after my mum kept me out of school for a week until they ‘sorted’ things out. I’ve noticed the memory creeping back on me over the last year or so, when I thought for the most part I’d buried it away.<br /><br />5. I’m not sure if I want a relationship for the sake of being a ‘thing’ that everyone is meant to have and/or if I’m just generally wanting the companionship and affection that tends to come along with it, as I tend to be a rather solitary person.<br /><br />6. I was a ‘late bloomer’--when I was a child and everyone started gushing about<span style="font-size: small;"> </span>boyfriends/girlfriends, I wasn’t interested, I only got somewhat ‘interested’ in my mid-teens. Even then, I’ve never had much of a sex drive.<br /><br />7. I wonder if I’ll ever be emotionally stable enough for a long term relationship.<br /><br />8. I’ve only ‘properly’ masturbated once, but I don’t know if I did it right, as it didn’t seem to work.<br /><br />9. The thought of actually having sex honestly terrifies me.<br /><br />10. I was raised Christian, so I was brought up to believe that ‘sex is not for outside marriage.' I think to some extent I still stick to that belief, even if I’m not really a believer anymore (or at the least, ‘no sex unless in a long-term, committed relationship'), but my general overall view is something along the lines of ‘do what you want provided that you’re safe and consensual.’<br /><br />11. I feel at constant conflict with how feminine I am and how I’m ‘meant’ to be. I honestly do not know ‘how’ to be feminine.<br /><br />12. I have never had any form of romantic experience (including kissing).<br /><br />13. I don’t seem to have ever had a ‘crush’ on someone I actually know/have met. The only crushes I have had have been famous people or fictional characters.<br /><br />14. I am stupidly self-conscious, not just about my appearance but it seems every aspect of me. I got bullied and generally excluded a lot as a child. I have never gotten the hang of being ‘social.’ I never know how to act around people. I am also dyspraxic, so I’ve always been self-conscious that I am not ‘normal,’ and have a feeling that people pick up on it.<br /><br />15. Visual porn doesn’t seem to have much effect on me, but saying that, well-written sex scenes have some effect on me (most, though, I’ve found in M-rated fan-fiction, ahem).<br /><br />16. I feel incredibly awkward if I get stuck in a conversation about sex. Once a classmate’s boyfriend caught onto this and purposely kept talking about it to make me squirm.<br /><br />17. I think one of the reasons I haven’t had a boyfriend is due to my rather small social circle. I am shy and introverted so I steer away from a lot of ‘social’ places, and I am not comfortable in such places. I am honestly my own worst enemy in that regard.<br /><br />18. I have tried online dating, but I don’t think it’s for me. I got inundated with requests from people who didn’t seem to read my profile. I had one person I seemed to maybe have a chance with, but I have a bad feeling I made things go sour.<br /><br />19. On the one hand, rom-coms and ‘romantic’ movies in general make me want to throw up, and I criticize how inaccurate they are, and I can’t stand to watch them--yet I still like the idea of romantic gestures and ‘old fashioned’ courting and would actually really love to be slightly doted on like that at least once.<br /><br />20. I’ve had an ‘imaginary boyfriend,' or at least a random imaginary guy my mind conjured up to try and see what my ‘ideal’ person would be.<br /><br />21. I’ve never really been attracted to ‘macho’ guys. I also have a bit of a thing for red hair, and long hair, and green eyes, yet I’ve never really liked guys with blond hair.<br /><br />22. The thought of giving someone a blowjob honestly squicks me out a fair deal.<br /><br />23. I don’t think I could ever have sex with someone I didn’t have feelings for.<br /><br />24. Whoever I end up having sex with, I’d need to trust them completely.<br /><br />25. I’ve noticed I have a thing for guys wearing eyeliner, and guys with nice eyes in general.</span></span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-40981272845758778882012-12-03T21:43:00.000-08:002012-12-03T21:43:00.106-08:001. I'm a 42-year-old male. <br /><br />2. I've been married for 13 years and 100% faithful. I surprised myself - until meeting my wife I wasn't good at being faithful. I didn't mean any harm, I just liked fucking.<br /><br />3. We've had periods of lots of sex, and periods with very little. Daily masturbation gets me through the slow times. <br /><br />4. On average, I've orgasmed every day since I was 15.<br /><br />5. I've had days where I've orgasmed 10 times. Things got a bit sore, but it was worth it.<br /><br />6. Until doing this, I've never counted sexual partners, but it would be 40ish.<br /><br />7. I was very lucky with my partners--most of them were great in the sack. I don't claim credit for their performances, but I had some sensational times.<br /><br />8. I don't understand how people could "save themselves" for one person. <br /><br />9. I dated a girl who was terrible in bed. I had no idea someone could have so little idea/interest in sex. The relationship ended abruptly.<br /><br />10. I can last as long as I like, or come as quickly as I like. It's about a moment, being in it, or being a little detached from it.<br /><br />11. When I was younger blowjobs didn't make me orgasm. <br /><br />12. In my early 20's, when a girl did get me to orgasm by giving me head, it blew me away so much it scared me off them. <br /><br />13. My wife gives me great blow jobs. It's making me hard right now thinking about them, and I'm at work.<br /><br />14. Nothing makes me hornier than a partner coming. <br /><br />15. I loved partners who were comfortable in their own skin. I love seeing a girl masturbate to orgasm if I couldn't help them get there. <br /><br />16. Little catches of breath, quivers and shivers. Nothing better.<br /><br />17. A partner showed me how to go down on her. It was a set of explicit (no pun intended) instructions. Lick here and insert two fingers now. The intensity of her orgasm made me orgasm, with no hands or touching--the first and only time that's ever happened.<br /><br />18. There's nothing that I really hunger for. I once was offered anal, but declined. I've thought about that offer quite a bit, mentally it turns me on because of the taboo thing, but reality might not match up.<br /><br />19. I fantasize about old partners a lot when masturbating. Special things stick in your mind.<br /><br />20. My fantasies are matching my age. I don't get horny over younger women, I fantasize over women about the same age as me. Women in their 40s always made me hot. In my mid 20s I had 2 relationships with women 10 years older than me. They were super horny.<br /><br />21. My wife fantasizes lots during sex. I like to hear about them afterwards. They're cool fantasies, and nothing that I would ever think of.<br /><br />22. We've never thought about role-playing them. <br /><br />23. Outdoor = good (and naughty).<br /><br />24. I like all sex. In bed naked together is as good as pants 'round her knees standing in the hallway.<br /><br />25. I love lingerie, but my tastes change. Currently it's panties that show lots of bum cheek underneath and look very soft. I'm not sure whats going on in my head either, but I like my own tastes.<br />25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-33389422462881215482012-12-01T21:05:00.000-08:002012-12-01T21:05:00.165-08:00<span style="font-size: small;">1. I am a nineteen-year-old woman. I'm a virgin by common moral standards, and sex scares me. Religion is a dirty word in my personal experience, and I'm one of those people who says gosh, geeze, and darn just to avoid it, although I can swear like a sailor with no provocation.<br /><br />2. I don't like relying on anything. I used to drink and pop at least eight 350 mg painkillers every day. The people I've talked with about sex agree that they wouldn't know what to do if they had to be celibate. Addiction runs in my family, but I can kick habits like those mentioned above in a single day. It hurts like a bitch, but I think I get a power trip out of it. Nevertheless, I don't like trying my abilities where I don't need to.<br /><br />3. Pretty much every male figure until third grade was a perceived threat. My first male teacher, a Vietnam vet, spoke to us early in the year about a friend who died in the war. He showed us the etching of his name on the War Memorial. Up until then I hadn't really thought men could have the kind of peace he did. It wasn't depressing, or overly reassuring. Just this brief little talk, but he trusted us and cared enough about us to do it, and I loved him for it.<br /><br />4. Oftentimes, people blame tumultuous childhoods for issues later in life. Those who don't know me well tell me I'm very strong, assertive, and sexual, but my closest friends know that if someone so much as touches my arm without my consent, I'm likely to feel nauseous. I had a violent upbringing.<br /><br />5. Referencing 1 and 2, I despise weakness, particularly co-dependence and reliance. I can't deal with people in pain or withered from sickness, and I can't really stand the thought of coming to rely so heavily on someone else for physical purposes. I can pleasure myself, and I do so three or four times a week.<br /><br />6. On a cabin trip we took, I wrote a note to my boyfriend in his diary and removed the bookmark. I told him the gist of what I'm telling you, and to forgive me and be patient with me because it's difficult to think about what's happened. Several days later, he sent me a note telling me that I am not, as I wrote, "dirty," and that he respected me. I almost cried, so I went to bed at 19:00. A few weeks after, he gave me a carved picture frame with a picture of us in it. In the back cover, once you open it, is something I wrote him. It made my eyes water and he cuddled me for a very long time.<br /><br />7. I've been masturbating since about the fourth grade. I looked at filthy stuff, even then--mostly rape and violent assault. I was eleven.<br /><br />8. Scars and bruises and rope, all placed artfully, turn me on. I hate seeing bruises on the face. I can't tell you how much. But old gashes, purple and yellowed skin, and bloody noses are fuel to the fire.<br /><br />9. Sex was a solid enough concept by the second grade that I was forcing my favorite doll, one with short hair and highlights and tanned skin, one that looked exactly like me, to prostitute herself to my other male and female dolls, but mostly male. I made a little veil, and they would go underneath it and I would violently mash them together, a deep voice growling, "Take it. Yeah. You like that?!" while a higher, pleading, scared voice said things along the lines of, "No! Stop! Please!" I entertained my friend with my antics and she joined in. Then she moved and I had no one with whom I could share my little game.<br /><br />10. I didn't care if my Barbies were naked because they didn't look like real people or kids, but if my baby and porcelain dolls were exposed, I could freak out.<br /><br />11. Shortly after getting into darker and darker porn at eleven, I discovered gay fiction. I read it avidly, and it was much more calming and normal than the shit I'd been viewing before. For years, I could only come thinking about gay sex.<br /><br />12. I was terrified when I first started menstruating. Before, I passed as a boy, a quiet one, but a boy. The jig was up.<br /><br />13. If I don't masturbate for three days I have a sex dream. That's that. I'm two or so years past the puberty gate, and my sex drive can go like clockwork rather than spontaneous, unbidden hours of... well, "heat," I guess.<br /><br />14. I hated myself for several years before going through severe depression, self-mutilation, therapy, suicide attempts, and an SSRI that gave me paranoia alongside my "uplifted" moods. During this time, I began drawing obscene pornographic comics involving tentacles, rape, torture, date rape, imprisonment, gang rape, and murder. They made me laugh and feel good about myself. Filled four decently-sized sketchbooks in something like three years.<br /><br />15. The pastor at my school liked to see kids in his office. I stopped attending Sunday school at six because I always wanted to be near my mother, no exceptions, and when I was left in the class, I laid low at first, trying not to be noticed, and then I acted out. I was very, very happy to go. It's been thirteen years. I have never told anyone anything about this and this the last time.<br /><br />16. His son ran Christian Youth Nights at the Lutheran church and offered twisted logic aside his Jesus rant. He told us men and women have their places, then had the boys and girls play various Mars Vs. Venus games. One of them could be compared to Venus in Furs. I thought it was fine, even fun at first, but then something was wrong and slowly throughout the night I felt dirtier, and dirtier, until I finally sneaked out through the girls' locker room. To this day, no one from my hometown talks about it. My peers say things like "Oh, well, that's just what kids do, right? I mean, it was a joke. Totally funny. Why are you so uptight?" I'm one of those people who doesn't shower or try to mentally cleanse or repress after something bad happens. I earned that anger. It is mine, and I am going to keep it until the day I die.<br /><br />17. I don't trust authority figures because of all that and many, many things non-sexual, but the sight of an officer's uniform still gets me going like no tomorrow.<br /><br />18. Every girl I liked in the past was heavily religious. I moved to a big city where it wasn't much of a problem, and then all I had to do, with the people I got to know, was ask. However, every boy has had to pursue me like nobody's business. The main reason my boyfriend is my boyfriend is that we shared that hunt. We challenged each other, he, used to being in control, me, used to being alone with free rein. One of our friends has called him my bitch, and I laugh, but I'm perfectly weak to him if he deserves it.<br /><br />19. My first boyfriend hit me during our second fight. In passing period. In front of my friends.<br /><br />20. I hate Hollywood movies with unattractive, geeky failures who magically obtain the perfect woman because it's fine if they're untouchable, but a female is a sexual object, and that's all she's good for. On the other side, I hate movies which figure that the only way to have a strong female character is to "give her control of her own sexuality." As long as she flaunts her double-Ds and gives blowjobs because that's feminism. Which is to say, I despise Hollywood. But it goes into another factor, because I don't believe all of these gorgeous gals are flocking to the computer science building, that many of these women aren't fully consenting with the plot, just going along with it. And this should really have its own point, so check out #24.<br /><br />21. Some of my more disturbing fantasies include inter-species rape, zombies, blood kinks, cannibalism, broken bones, amputation, alien cross-species implantation, and... horrible things involving Robert Downey Jr. Honestly, given the chance, I want to make him cry and crawl and beg on his knees. That's affection.<br /><br />22. I love love love telling erotic stories and I'm very good at it. I've never not gotten a reaction.<br /><br />23. I goaded two men on a ferry to have sex with me when I was seventeen, but they said, after some conversation, that I was too young, and they respected me. Lesson from that is: Sex ≠ respect. Again.<br /><br />24. Non-consensual, real life sex makes me physically ill. Occasionally I drift back to old habits and check out some simulated rape videos, but I always come back to the same conclusion. No exceptions.<br /><br />25. My boyfriend is the most patient person I know. We're about to have our first anniversary, he's a healthy 18-year-old boy, and he's never pressured me into sex. His most repeated and honest phrase during make-out/fondling/fingering/jerking time is "Only if you want to." I want to tell him I love him, but I have this strange, old-school idea that you only say that to family members. Dating, engaged, or married. I say it jokingly to friends, but I've never said it seriously to anyone when it wasn't platonic, and I burn with embarrassment and a bit of shame thinking about it.</span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-39727148585592894572012-11-29T20:53:00.000-08:002012-11-29T20:53:00.664-08:001. I am a straight (ish) cisgender 20-year-old female.<br /><br />2. I say straight-ish because I have had sex with a woman, but I would like to explore that part of myself more before making any conclusions. <br /><br />3. I have had six sexual partners, five males and one female. <br /><br />4. I fantasize a lot about scissoring. I love the thought of two wet vaginas rubbing against one another. <br /><br />5. Even though I identify as mostly straight, I really like lesbian porn. Partially because of them eating each other out, a large part because it looks like both parties are actually enjoying themselves. Maybe in the future, I will pay to become a member of a feminist porn site. I think that would be really fucking cool.<br /><br />6. I really really really love being eaten out. All my sexual partners have enjoyed giving me head or have wanted to give me head. I think that it would be a dealbreaker if a partner didn't like oral sex. <br /><br />7. One of my best sexual relationships was with a guy with whom I never engaged in oral sex or PIV sex. I still fantasize about him a lot and I really hope we have sex in the future. <br /><br />8. I love hearing myself moan. It gives me goosebumps. <br /><br />9. I love oral piercings. They are really fun to play with while I'm making out with someone. I've kissed someone with a vertical labret piercing and with a tongue piercing.<br /><br />10. I think pierced nipples are super hot and I really want to get my own pierced. <br /><br />11. I think I'm a little fat, but I don't really care. If you're not into my body, obviously you don't need to see me naked.<br /><br />12. I'm still trying to figure out what gets me off. I want to work up to having orgasms where I can't move. I love grinding motions and that often helps me get off. <br /><br />13. Something that really turns me on is rubbing against a hard dick. I love feeling our bodies rub against one another.<br /><br />14. I have a major thing for Jewish boys. Or just boys with dark hair in general.<br /><br />15. One of my proudest moments was when I got eaten out in the dorm showers at my college. Another one was hooking up with my figure model after drawing him naked. It was a dominance trip in a way, because he was naked for me. It was pretty hot being clothed and having him naked. <br /><br />16. As much as I like receiving head, I love giving head too. I like to share pleasure.<br /><br />17. I would love to be tied up during sex. I am interested in the bondage and domination aspects of BDSM, but I'm kind of afraid of the pain parts. That's not to say that I don't like rough sex, however. I'd get really bored if we just "made love" all the time. <br /><br />18. I am interested in being dominant and being submissive. I need different things at different times. <br /><br />19. I have only had PIV sex twice with one partner. He was my first boyfriend. We were together for six months. I still feel guilty about that relationship because I feel like I was in it for the wrong reasons, namely just to have a boyfriend. He was pretty misogynistic and could be very manipulative at times. He would spend a lot of time trying to convince me to do more than I was comfortable with. This is why I'm waiting until I'm extremely comfortable with someone to have PIV sex. It doesn't necessarily need to be a boyfriend; I can think of some friends I'd probably have PIV sex with. <br /><br />20. I like to cuddle, but I don't really like to spoon while I sleep. I feel the need to move around.<br /><br />21. Anal sex is an interesting prospect, but it makes me anxious because of the poop. I am slightly OCD when it comes to germs, and I don't want poop somewhere I'm gonna put my mouth or whatever. Same goes with pee. If you're into that, that's OK--I'm just not really into it. <br /><br />22. I really like hickies. Especially if they're on the insides of my legs or on my breasts. It really turns me on to look at them and remember how I got them. <br /><br />23. I don't really need to be penetrated at this point to get off (this may change).<br /><br />24. There were naked pictures of me for someone's senior art project in our college's library. I felt anxious about this at first, but then I found it to be extremely empowering. <br /><br />25. Finally, I love biting. Biting is really fun for me. But you have to not just chomp down. That hurts and isn't sexy for me. 25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-45129075357572251052012-11-27T20:46:00.000-08:002012-11-27T20:46:00.702-08:001. I am a bisexual man in my late twenties. I currently am in a relationship with another man.<br /><br />2. The man I am together with is my first same-sex partner. We've been together for about half a year now.<br /><br />3. Before that, I was in a relationship with a woman, but she broke up with me.<br /><br />4. I always fantasized about sex with men, but I didn't try it as long as I was in a relationship. When I am in a relationship, I am law-abiding and do not cheat on my partner.<br /><br />5. When my last girlfriend broke up with me, I decided to try sex with men. I started an affair with the guy I am together with now. We met each other online. It was only sex, no feelings, no kissing. We met, fucked and left each other. It went like this for some months.<br /><br />6. With time, our relationship changed and we started talking and having a few beers after sex. I guess we developed something like a friendship-plus, but the plus was there before the friendship was.<br /><br />7. One day after work, he called me and asked me if I'd like to come over. We sat in his flat and had some beers, when he suddenly sat over next to me and kissed me. I was really surprised, but I somehow liked it. It may sound strange, but even though we were making out for several months, I never really thought that our relationship could turn this way. However, the night that followed had the most intense sex I ever had. Since then, we've been a couple.<br /><br />8. I am a bottom. I enjoy getting fucked, but I don't care that much about fucking actively. I also like receiving a blowjob. Giving head is OK to me. I like it to feel how much pleasure I can give that way. Sometimes I enjoy swallowing come, but that really depends on my mood. Usually I swallow when he is coming into my mouth. When I had sex with girls I always loved it when they swallowed, so I do now, too.<br /><br />9. I can orgasm from passive anal sex. The orgasms I get this way are so much better than the ones I get from stimulating my penis. I don't come every time, mostly because it takes quite long to get me stimulated enough that I can come.<br /><br />10. My preferences match my boyfriend's quite well. He doesn't like getting fucked that much. So he definitely is the more active party in bed. I've only fucked him two or three times.<br /><br />11. My favorite position is riding cowboy-style, with my boyfriend sitting. I like the penetration that way. Unfortunately, I don't come that way. To bring me to an orgasm, missionary position is the best. So our sex mostly ends in this position.<br /><br />12. I really love making out. I could spend hours just kissing and touching each other's bodies - it nonetheless always leads to sex in the end anyway. I also really enjoy undressing each other slowly. <br /><br />13. Since my partner and I are both working a lot, we don't have sex really regularly. Sometimes we don't see each other for a week or more, even if we live in the same town. Despite that, we mostly do it three or four times in a row when we meet each other after some time.<br /><br />14. We do not live like a couple in public. But it's not like we are hiding it. If someoe asks me I say that I have a boyfriend but I do not deal with it offensively. I guess my boyfriend does it the same way. If we stay together longer, we may change it one day, but for now this is perfectly fine.<br /><br />15. I like porn. In many ways. I like watching it. and also reading hentai manga. My favorite genres with manga are yaoi (gay) and yuri (lesbian). When it comes to porn movies, my favorite genres change from time to time. Most of the time it is amateur porn. I like to watch normal people doing it and not professionals.<br /><br />16. My favorite porn genre for a long time was she-male sex. Recently I started watching lesbian sex. Generally everything turns me on that is playing with gender roles and crossing them.<br /><br />17. What I really like about sex with girls is the taste of their vagina and their breasts. I really enjoy licking a girl and touching her breasts and playing with them.<br /><br />18. I don't care much about BDSM. I think I would try it if my partner wanted to, but neither giving nor receiving pain turns me on. Some spanking during sex is OK, but i don't like it too much. <br /><br />19. I usually prefer slow sex. I like when I can touch my partner and enjoy the intensity of feeling him inside. Sometimes rough sex really turns me on, but those cases are rare. I also like it when my partner comes inside me and then leaves his penis inside for some moments until it almost slips out on its own.<br /><br />20. We've only done it without a condom for some weeks now. We got ourselves tested before we decided to do it without. I've never slept with someone without a condom without being tested first. I am quite afraid of AIDS and other STDs.<br /><br />21. I do not identify as a cross-dresser, but sometimes I wear woman's underwear. I like the feeling of it on the skin, and the cute looks. I posses a few pieces, mostly tangas and strings, most of them open-crotch. I enjoy sex still wearing the underwear a lot. <br /><br />22. Some days I've gone out with woman's underwear on. I enjoy the feeling that no one knows what you are wearing underneath. But I'm too shy to do it very often. Mostly I wear the panties underneath boxers.<br /><br />23. In general, lingerie is a real turnon for me. I like that you cannot see the things you like to, but you need to imagine.<br /><br />24. My affection for female underwear is somehow strange, since I am a very manly guy, judging by looks.<br /><br />25. I like to try sex toys. I have a dildo, but I didn't use it for some time. The first thing on my list will be a butt plug. I was also talking with my boyfriend about a cock ring to intensify his orgasms. 25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-75002967458595354302012-11-25T20:31:00.000-08:002012-11-25T20:31:00.237-08:001. I am a lesbian in my early twenties. My gender is hard to pin down. I usually go with genderfluid. My presentation is more feminine with tomboyish undertones.<br /><br />2. I'm a bit of an amateur porn connoisseur. There tends to be more chemistry between humans who are not paid actors. Outside of the obvious reason, I enjoy amateur porn because I like to dissect the relationships between partners.<br /><br />3. Generally speaking, I prefer to watch heterosexual porn. I can never get past the botox, breast implants, and the staged atmosphere of male-targeted lesbian porn to find any of it arousing.<br /><br />4. I sometimes envision myself as being in the role of the man while watching porn. This terrified me at first, as I thought it implied that I was transgender. <br /><br />5. There is one video where a Black woman is straddling the face of a Black man, who is on his back, pleasuring himself with his hand. Their positions do not change for the entire film. She climaxes multiple times, and he ejaculates near the end. It's hot because it disrupts the heterosexual narrative that penis-in-vagina sex is superior to all other sexual acts.<br /><br />6. There is one amateur lesbian video of a buxom blonde and slender brunette which is nearly perfect. I’ve watched it dozens of times over the last few years.<br /><br />7. I climax more easily while lying on my stomach. Few women have gotten me off while I was on my back. I have to be incredibly comfortable around someone in order be okay with feeling that vulnerable.<br /><br />8. I had sex for the first time at 19. It was with a 40-something-year-old Guatemalan man. Whether I consented or not is up for interpretation. I was drunk, and in love with a girl living in the same city.<br /><br />9. I had my first orgasm at 14, while lying on top of a body pillow. I started shifting my hips, and it just kind of... happened.<br /><br />10. Melina Kanakaredes was one of the first women I fantasized about. This was when "Providence" was still on the air. I thought I only wanted her to be my sister. In retrospect, I know better.<br /><br />11. I prefer sex to be versatile. I like to touch and be touched.<br /><br />12. I have been in a dominant-submissive relationship before. It was erotic at first, yet I quickly became bored with being shoved into the same role each time we fooled around.<br /><br />13. The same woman mentioned in #12 encouraged me to enact a rape fantasy with her.<br /><br />14. While my relationship following the one in #11 was incredibly versatile, the woman was the one who exclusively wore the strap-on. I didn't mind, as it wasn't our only means of lovemaking. <br /><br />15. I deep-throated #14’s baby blue strap-on.<br /><br />16. I have fisted a woman before upon her request.<br /><br />17. I prefer clitoral stimulation. I’ve never had a vaginal orgasm before.<br /><br />18. I am subconsciously attracted to women based upon their waist-to-hip ratio. I almost always go for the curvier girls.<br /><br />19. Digital penetration is more intimate for me than oral sex. I feel like a woman could do more damage with her fingers than her mouth. <br /><br />20. My clitoris is so sensitive that I rarely need direct simulation to achieve orgasm. All it takes is a partner moving her fingers against my inner labia. I do not like having my clit sucked--it always feels a little painful.<br /><br />21. If I am control of a sexual act/topping my partner, I can almost always climax when she does. It doesn’t matter if I am being touched, or if I am rubbing against her thigh. <br /><br />22. If I am ticklish when you touch me, odds are good that I’m still not 100% comfortable around you.<br /><br />23. When I was eight, I asked my 13 year-old female babysitter how babies were made. She took me into her bedroom. I straddled her, fully clothed, and she kissed me on specific places, and I responded by doing to same to her. “This is how adults make love,” she’d told me.<br /><br />24. That same woman has now aged, has two children, and has been divorced twice.<br /><br />25. My masturbation cycles are erratic. Sometimes, I will have an every-other-day routine. Others, I will touch myself multiple times in a day.25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-82173986759005555242012-11-23T20:19:00.000-08:002012-11-23T20:19:00.133-08:001. I am a 29-year-old man. I mostly identify as male, but I don't agree with the standard behaviors expected from men (aggressiveness, initiative, dominance, etc.)<br /><br />2. I am platonically attracted to women and physically attracted to men.<br /><br />3. I was a virgin until age 28, when a stranger I met in a bus crossed my gaze and, after many hidden bumps and touches, gave me his number. When I went to his apartment, I insisted (perhaps too many times) that I didn't want anything anal, and he accepted it. I consider myself lucky that my first time was with someone who treated me with gentleness and respect. We haven't seen each other since.<br /><br />4. When my older brother went through puberty, his body turned considerably uglier in my eyes, and I was terrified that the same would happen to me. I was revolted by my own puberty until I finally noticed that my body was not doomed to mimic his. I'm more or less glad with how it turned out.<br /><br />5. I would like more chest hair, though. I have a fair amount, but I'd like lots more.<br /><br />6. Women wearing a tie look extremely sexy to me. In fact, I think I like drag kings.<br /><br />7. Contrary to what my friends may think, I very much do really badly want to have sex. It's just that I never learned how to get it. I'm afraid I never will.<br /><br />8. I don't think I would enjoy pain in any form.<br /><br />9. As a kid I would envy my sister's dolls. My mother let me play with them once, but I felt there was something very wrong about it. I dared not do it again.<br /><br />10. My mother always chastised me when I didn't walk "manly" enough.<br /><br />11. I remember some moments as a child when I felt I'd like to be a girl. Today I still see women as the luckier ones in this world.<br /><br />12. I liked the smell of my mother's lipstick. I would put it under my nose and breathe for several seconds, afraid that my mother would find me and mistakenly conclude that I was about to put it on.<br /><br />13. Two or three times I have tried to let my hair grow to my shoulders, but I've never been able to learn how to comb and style it properly.<br /><br />14. I get idiotically nervous around beautiful women. And men, but they don't seem to notice.<br /><br />15. I don't watch pornography. Sometimes I masturbate to photos of athletes or actors, but that's about it. I strongly dislike anything more hardcore than that.<br /><br />16. My nipples are the center of the universe. Touch them and I'm yours.<br /><br />17. I began masturbating at age 9, even before I had erections. I rubbed my penis against the inside of my underpants, and I remember perfectly the surprise and puzzlement of my first orgasm.<br /><br />18. When I started to have erections, I had to explore different masturbation methods. My orgasms began to function very differently from that moment, even though I still couldn't ejaculate.<br /><br />19. I never had wet dreams. My first ejaculation was during masturbation, at age 12.<br /><br />20. I've never felt comfortable exposing my body. I choose shirts long enough to avoid revealing any portion of my belly when I stretch. As a child I would do everything to avoid going shirtless.<br /><br />21. A couple times, during a shower, I suppose around age 20, I put my finger inside my anus. I didn't like or dislike it; it was just a foreign object that was doing nothing there. I tried to feel for my prostate, but nothing happened. That was the end of my anal explorations.<br /><br />22. Only very few times, with great concentration and effort, have I been able to masturbate and have an orgasm without touching my penis.<br /><br />23. As a teenager I often ate my own semen, mainly to leave no evidence.<br /><br />24. I am very glad to be uncircumcised.<br /><br />25. I fear I'll not find a life mate. I don't feel attractive enough, though both male and female friends have tried to convince me that I'm quite good-looking. But it doesn't seem enough.25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-87238164278952909372012-11-21T20:17:00.001-08:002012-11-21T20:17:04.600-08:00we're back!Hi, devoted readers. Sorry it's been a few months since the last post here. We're back up and running, though, and there should be posts every few days for a bit.<br />
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Also, if you haven't sent us your list yet, this would be a great time to do so! (And spread the word about the site!)25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-8791141885236337022012-11-21T20:15:00.000-08:002012-11-21T20:15:00.012-08:00<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">1. I'm pansexual, an equal opportunist, though I don't believe "gender doesn't matter." It does matter-- it just matters less than the soul; and it is something to play with, not a restriction. I'm female-but-genderfluid.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />2. My first and most powerful attractions were to beautiful, feminine men. I still hope I will find one someday; most male androgynes I've met are gay.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br /><span style="font-size: small;">3. </span>Regardless, I find many more women than men attractive in both a physical and personal dimension. Walking down the street is overwhelming.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">4. Somehow, I am still effectively equal-opportunity: this makes the fewer men I find attractive stand out all the more. Which, on top of sheer numbers, is possibly the reason that my three major relationships have been with men.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: small;">5</span>. Those relationships have overlapped. I'm polyamorous. I'm still with the person to whom I lost my virginity.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: small;">6</span>. I find roping girls arduous. I have casual sex with them, but I've never had a girlfriend, to my immeasurable disappointment.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">7. With all sexes, I am profoundly gynocentric. I like cocks a lot, but sex, to me, is about vaginas. Mine or other people's, it doesn't matter which. Sex with men is about the cock's reaction to a vagina. I can't fathom finding my own pussy disgusting-- I'm honestly a bit sad for the women who do. I relish my body and what it does for me. (This is speaking generally, of course. I'm sure I'd have no problem having sex with an attractive transgendered person if the opportunity arose.)<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: small;">8</span>. Perhaps related: I have dominant tendencies. I feel most feminine when I am dominant. I think this is because, after a lifetime of encouragement to subsume my desires, I relish expressing them. That and<span style="font-size: small;"> </span>I like to make someone feel... perhaps “objectified” is not the word: I mean something more like “cherished.” But with a harsh edge to it. I don't feel much in common with the BDSM scene-- this dominance doesn't have anything to do with a fetish for latex, feet, or degradation-by-feminizing men (which is honestly insulting to me).<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-size: small;">9</span>. If you burrow under the strata of my generosity, absentmindedness, and generally<span style="font-size: small;"> </span>friendly disposition, you'll find an insane sexual sadist in me. Drawing blood turns me on. I have never acted on those desires.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">1<span style="font-size: small;">0</span>. A lot of women are submissive; and some resent me because I'm more dominant. If I'm honest, their sexuality skeeves me out as well, but ultimately I blame fucked-up gender dynamics for that reaction. Obviously there's nothing wrong with what they want, or what I want.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">1<span style="font-size: small;">1</span>. Though if one of my boyfriends wanted to tie me up, I think I might be amenable to that as long as it were an exercise in trust and love and I weren't made to feel submissive.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">1<span style="font-size: small;">2</span>. My masculine side wants to be gallant, heroic, boyish, rakish. One of my long-term fantasies is the elegant older woman and the pageboy (with me in the latter role, of course).<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">13. One of my boyfriends goes well out of his way to acknowledge and respect the genderqueer side of me, despite being hetero, and I am so, so grateful to him.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />1<span style="font-size: small;">4. </span>Gynocentric as I am, I still love strap-on play-- with women, but also with straight men. It's intoxicating to see a man orgasm in that position.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">15. I was raised religiously<span style="font-size: small;">, </span> with a powerful sense of how sexist the world can be. Becoming comfortable with my sexuality has taken time. When I was masturbating as a teenager, the idea of sex with the man behind me was repulsive: it felt degrading. When I tried it, though, it felt natural, and of course quite pleasurable. There have been a lot of incidents like that, but occasionally I'll try something that sounds iffy to me and freak out afterwards. I still can't give a guy head when he's towering over me, and I would probably stop altogether if he tried to face-fuck me (none of my boyfriends have tried it, thank god).<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">16. This is also so odd given what I've said, but one of my oldest recurring fantasies involves imagining myself in the male role of sex, both with other men and women.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">17. I'd absolutely love to dominate a pair of bisexual (or bi/homo-curious) men. One of my favorite bits of porn features this, and it was incredibly heartening to see how many gay dudes responded favorably to it.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">18. I'm becoming sad about my age, though I'm still in my twenties. As a woman, I feel as though I have a hard expiration date, and I resent the fact that I was most desired when I was jailbait and vulnerable and so, so much less knowledgeable about who I am, what I want, and how to get it.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">19. I'm afraid of sex losing its novelty. In long-term relationships, I'd prefer to only have sex two or three times a week, though I have the appetite for more. A sense of anticipation is an amazing aphrodisiac, but I don't want to be howling at the moon every night.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">20. The idea of actively desiring someone, as a female, is important to me. So much of the way we think of female desire is desire as the result of being desired by men, if that makes any sense, and I can't stand it. I actively lust after people, and after sex.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">21. The loss of my libido I experienced while taking birth control fucked with me (ironic pun intended). I was on it for a year and a half and in that half, my sex drive died. It felt as though a part of me was lost. To regain it I changed my diet, began lifting, and began manipulating my hormones through nutrition and supplements. I've regained my old libido and then some (and now I can manipulate it!).<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">22. Masturbation is an important part of my sexual life and sexual exploration, but I can't help but hate a lot of porn. I know much of it is harmless, but each of my boyfriends have had sex problems as the result of it, and I can't help but resent the rotating cast of skinny white 18 -year-olds that makes up so much of the porn roster. I just wish that more realistic and inventive porn were more popular. <br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">23. That said, I totally consume porn, both video and in the form of dirty fanfic, haha. I don't have anything against it on principle.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;">24. I do like vanilla heterosexual sex quite a lot. It's odd: I love the drama of heterosexual sex, the anticipation of penetration, the reverence I get, how vulnerable men are. But with women I feel more myself, and I feel that fucking gender is less dangerous. With men, there is always the risk of emasculation. I hate the whole phenomen<span style="font-size: small;">on</span> of emasculation-- I hate the inherent sexism of it-- but I also love and respect the boys I've been with and have no desire to damage their pride. They can't help that they were raised with certain expectations.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />25. I guess that's why I want a feminine boy sometime. I want an ultimate triumph over gender. I want someone as fluid as I am. <br /></span></span>25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2671711964178166139.post-4484140084806857502012-08-05T16:59:00.000-07:002012-08-05T16:59:00.108-07:001. I'm a 26-year-old cisgender female. I identify as a lesbian, but am aware that (as with all identifications) the precise meaning will remain permanently unclear. In fact, I am a little suspicious of my own ability to articulate sexual desire, but I do not think that reflecting on my desire will ruin it. I just think we fool ourselves, most of the time, when we try to talk to ourselves about what really turns us on.<br /><br />2. I've had 5 sexual partners. One was a 5-year commited relationship with the man to whom I lost my virginity. One of them is my current (also committed long-term) relationship with a woman who I love very much. The other three were friends I messed around with in the interim. Four of them were women. One of these experiences was an attempt to prove to myself that I can have sex without romantic feelings. Turns out I can, and it was fun and I would hypothetically do it again, but I was somewhat surprised and a little relieved to find that my orgasms are better within the terms of a committed, loving relationship.<br /><br />3. I'm slim, but not super-skinny, I'm pretty happy with my B-C breast size, and I think my ass is probably pretty cute. I don't have a large stomach but my abs are not tight and never will be. I think about the way I look much more than I ought to. I blame the male gaze that has infected society like a cancer, has been feeding me messages since before I could speak...<br /><br />4. My nipples are my favorite part of my body. Seriously, you could lick/suck on them for days and I wouldn't stop you. This is one of the secret reasons why I never want to give birth to a child. I'm worried I would lose that relationship to my own breasts.<br /><br />5. I love wearing a strap-on. This strikes me as odd because I look and feel pretty girly most of the time. I never thought I'd want to wear something that protrudes from my crotch, but what a feeling. Wow.<br /><br />6. Whenever I have sex while wearing a strap-on I fantasize about being penetrated with the strap-on. (I have always wondered if straight men feel this way when they have PIV sex with women.) However, if I do wind up being penetrated, I usually don't enjoy it as much as I thought I would. I really can only take so much penetration.<br /><br />7. I came out of the closet before I had had sex with a woman. I always felt a little strange about that--as if I decided my destiny before I really knew--but then I remember that that's how I wound up sleeping with a guy, I decided THAT destiny before I had any empirical knowledge too. We all walk into sexuality completely blind, don't we?<br /><br />8. I have some weird kinks that I'm not ready to admit to myself. Old internet search histories would probably really disturb my partner. I really don't think I'll ever act on them though.<br /><br />9. Tribadism is really amazing. The problem is that 9 times out of 10, when I try it, I just feel ridiculous. When it works, though... wow.<br /><br />10. I have this twisted fantasy of having a threesome and gently tribbing with another girl on either side of a guy's penis. It would probably be too awkward of a position to hold, and I will probably never act on it, but still...<br /><br />11. I fantasize about exhibitionism, but I tend to behave as an almost compulsive voyeur. <br /><br />12. I masturbate frequently. Often daily. This borders on a political act for me. I think it's important to understand my own individual and ever-changing sexuality.<br /><br />13. The amount of sex I have directly reflects the amount of emotional intimacy in my relationship. I'm not sure which is the chicken and which is the egg. <br /><br />14. I love porn. I am a feminist, I am vocal about the harmful effects of objectifying/overly sexualizing women, but I LOVE porn. I do not see this as a contradiction. I think sexual expression is a key component in a culture that values freedom and I think that more women need to pick up cameras/write erotica/talk about what turns them on. If we don't, the market is just going to keep defining desire in terms of the male (usually heterosexual) gaze.This is why I prefer amateur or body-positive porn. But please don't sell me that lame "sensual," "romantic," "female-friendly" bullshit that attempts to define "female sexuality" for me. I'll decide what the fuck porn I'm into. Just show me people who are really enjoying themselves and I'll probably enjoy it too. <br /><br />15. The anus repulses me. My own anus repulses me. I don't judge you for enjoying analingus but I'll never do it/want it.<br /><br />16. I have much better orgasms with my own fingers than with a vibrator, but every once in a while I like to mix it up.<br /><br />17. I like women of color more than white women, and have always felt guilty about that. I'm white and I hate the thought of desiring race qua race, like I need a certain degree of "exoticism" as defined from the perspective of my bourgeois white privileged perspective... but their nipples and skin are just prettier! And freckles (sorry Celts) kind of freak me out.<br /><br />18. I like women both chubby and skinny, both femme and androgynous, but I have never been attracted to a stone butch. Dunno why, because I feel a lot of personal admiration for very butch women.<br /><br />19. Every once in a while I want to fuck a random male stranger. It's a fleeting fantasy that I'll likely never act on, and even if I did I probably wouldn't enjoy it, but it's there. <br /><br />20. I really want to have group sex. My partner would never be cool with it and I cannot imagine a context in which such a thing could spontaneously develop, but I really hope I get to try it one day. <br /><br />21. There are, in fact, naked photos of me on the internet. They're on a site with very little traffic, and it's unlikely you'll ever see them...but If I do say so myself, they're really hot. <br /><br />21. I started masturbating around 9 years old and I used the exceedingly thin handle of a paintbrush holder. I think I did orgasm, but I didn't know what it was.<br /><br />22. I experienced my next real orgasm while at a horseback riding lesson. I thought something was wrong with me and was very scared. Then it happened again. I told me mom about it but she didn't tell me what happened. I didn't figure it out until much, much later.<br /><br />23. I've experimented with sex under the influence of consciousness-altering drugs with my partner. It was fun, but really, all I wanted to do while on all these sex/party drugs is talk. Sex is great, but I think the intimacy that I crave has to do with really knowing/being honest with someone. This intimacy is a lot more elusive than it should be. <br /><br />24. I think that there is something that is fundamentally consciousness altering about sex itself and I think it's more than the happy chemicals and neurotransmitters that fly around in the bloodstream. I think that messing with the boundaries of your body, inviting someone inside, being welcomed in by someone else, reminds us of something elusive and primal about our natures. I also don't think that will ever be made into a commodity. <br /><br />25. I wish I could talk about sex more freely and more openly with more people. I push people's boundaries too much, but I don't mean to be predatory. Despite the impossibility of articulating sexual desire, I think we need to confront it, to challenge the way it is used against it, to challenge the way we express/repress it, to understand its power for good and its danger... this blog is pretty great.25 Thingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09120635853021058659noreply@blogger.com