1. I lost my virginity at 17 to my 25-year-old dance instructor. I had been flirting and lusting after him for two years. We did it in the park on his jacket.

2. I became pregnant my very first time having sex.

3. As a child I loved to masturbate--it was an every night thing. I guess I did it so much then, I don't really have the urge to do it now.

4. I never tell my lovers how I really dislike to have my breasts sucked or played with. Being a larger-breasted woman, people think I love it. They have so much fun playing with them, I don't have the heart to tell them I'm not interested.

5. I love to bend guys over and lick their ass. Then if I can get them comfortable enough I really enjoy fingering them. That's my ultimate fetish. I really don't get to partake in that activity much. I got back together with my ex-boyfriend twice because he lets me do this to him.

6. My back is one of my really sensitive erogenous zones. I've had many discreet orgasms at the spa.

7. I work at an elementary school. Since I've worked there I've had sex in my classroom four times during my lunch. It was awesome.

8. I once let a guy put a belt around my neck and do me from the back. He pulled on the belt so hard not only did I pass out, my trachea was cracked. As much as I desire this type of sex, I don't engage in it any longer.

9. I really don't like to kiss. Kissing to me is not pleasing and the swap of saliva I find to be disgusting.

10. Gay porn is the best porn. I've had some of the best sexual experiences watching gay porn. Only man-on-man; lesbian porn is very repetitive and uneventful.

11. I had a girlfriend for five years. We lived together for about four years. She was my very first grown-up relationship. The sex and intimacy we shared was unbelievable.

12. I've been with five women in life. I guess you can say I'm bi, but I don't identify with that. I like to think of myself as more of a free spirit. I love men but I desire women.

13. I have always seen my ultimate settled life as having a husband, kids, and no pets--with the occasional threesome hookup with my sexy next-door neighbor. I've been dreaming of this since I was a little girl.

14. I grew up sexually fast as a kid, looking at porn mags and videos from age 6 up. I used to steal porn mags from my cousin's house. He would keep them in the bathroom, and before I would leave I would shove them down my pants and run out the door. Good times.

15. I had one suitor that let me bite down hard on his penis. Ever since then I've been drawn to biting penises. I crave it like a lollipop. It sucks to have to ask first--that takes all the fun out of the surprising first bite.

16. I don't feel comfortable hugging people that aren't my lovers. This includes friends and family. I feel it's an invasion of my personal space. I've always wondered if it's because I really didn't get a lot of hugs from my parents as a child.

17. I usually keep my eyes closed during sex. Watching the sex faces of others creeps me out. I guess it's a good thing I can't see my own sex face. I had a lover that would keep a straight face during sex. That bothered me also. So I guess I don't know which I prefer.

18. My family took in a lot of foster children when I was younger. When I was about 11 or so one of the older boys in our home pinned me down and attempted to rape me in the back room of our house. I kneed him in the crotch and ran off. I never told anyone and he never tried it again.

19. I was invited to the prom by a slightly non-popular, overweight guy (I was a junior). I thought it would be cool to do him in front of his friends in the back of our limo. They loved the show, and he was a popular guy in his last few weeks of school.

20. I enjoy golden showers, but only while bathing. There's something about the warmness that turns me on.

21. I used to shave my nether regions bald until I got an inflamed hair follicle that grew to be bigger than two quarters. It was soooooooooooooo painful. I had to go to the doctor, and they cut it open. It was a horrible experience. I haven't shaved her clean since. Nowadays, I just trim.

22. Sunbathing in the nude is my favorite pastime in the summer. The bummer is trying to find a secluded place to do it.

23. I often wonder what it would be like to have sex with random people. I wonder what their mannerisms are in bed. I sometimes tend to stare at them and guess what color panties they have on. In my head I conjure up this whole story about these people. Then I ask them basic questions that may give me insight on what I really want to know. Hey, it keeps me from getting bored at work.

24. I like to have sex on rough carpet. Rug burn on my butt is a huge turn-on. I'll take rough carpet over a squeaky bed any day.

25. I have had sex many, many times.... but I think I've only made love 2 or 3 times. Love is so hard to come by.

1. When I was 18, about a week before I turned 19, my ex-boyfriend raped me and insulted my body while it happened. He threw me out of his house, where I was living, the next day--on Christmas. I was homeless, hated myself, ashamed to be around the few friends I still had after the breakup, and across the country from my family. He was my first boyfriend; we had talked about getting married, and he was so thoroughly integrated into my life I didn't know who I was anymore. There was a moment one day where he asked what my favorite music was, and I couldn't remember. He yelled at me, hit me when I tried to touch him, and there were one or two moments where I thought he was going to kill me. I tried to kill myself afterward, but my family still don't know the real reason why it happened. I hope they never find out. Not just out of shame, but also because I feel like my family couldn't handle it and I selfishly don't want to have to face their emotions. I don't even like how my friends' perceptions of me have changed after I told them, so what's the point? I can't do anything about it. I just have to live with it. Only maybe four people in my whole life know about this. Only one, the guy I am currently dating, knows the whole story with details. I am actually shaking as I type this and hope I don't have a panic attack.

2. I was in denial for 4 years about what had happened and how much it had affected my entire sex life. If I could have it instantly out of my life, I would.

3. I still believe that a lot of who I am sexually does not have anything to do with it.

4. I get ashamed at thinking that I am affected by it at all, because so many people have had it worse. I feel like I should be stronger than I am. I feel like I would somehow be a liar or a leech if I make it into some boo-hoo story. It's hard to get around it, though, because if I have a panic attack or avoid hooking up with someone, my friends want to know why.

5. I have only been sexually intimate with two people in my life, at 23 years old. I have very briefly dated and kissed a few women and a guy in the four years between partners, but I was not intimate with them. My friends and the people I attract tend to be sexually promiscuous, so I hide this to a fairly extreme degree. Sometimes I feel ashamed of it. Sometimes I feel proud of it.

6. Although I have only been intimate with two men, I consider my sexuality very fluid. Since the age of 14 I've been pretty "out" that I am attracted to girls just as much as boys. I've always felt that way, and I remember vivid moments of panic when I learned to masturbate and realized that I was fantasizing that I was a guy and focusing on the girl. I have gone through several "shifts" in what bodies I find myself attracted to most, but overall I'm pretty split between men and women. I identify publicly as bisexual (because people understand that more, despite the annoying preconceptions), but it's more accurate to say that I'm pansexual. When it comes to sex, it's all parts and pleasure. The mind behind it is what makes the difference.

7. I love porn. All kinds of porn. I've loved it since I was around 15. I once wondered if I had a porn addiction for a while, but felt fairly proud of it because watching porn goes against so many people's expectations. I've slowed down in my porn consumption, but I still love it. I wonder a little if maybe my porn habit is what makes monogamy and abstinence so easy for me, since my energy is directed toward that, but I don't dwell on it a lot. I truly, honestly find nothing wrong with it. I like having something extra available to me when I need inspiration, so it works.

8. I am especially fond of gay porn and anything that involves gender play and a power dynamic. I recently really got into straight porn for the first time, but usually I find it a little boring.

9. I consider myself to be extremely romantic in my private life, although I hide it in my public life. This cynical science-loving gal likes to believe in true love and the power and pervasiveness of love. For a long time I felt like I didn't deserve it, but I want to get married to someone I truly love more than anyone else. I feel like modern culture does not focus enough on the importance and necessity of love. I recommend the work of anthropologist Helen Fisher. It opened my eyes to the idea that science doesn't contradict the existence of love.

10. I don't separate romantic love and sex in my life. I am just not emotionally built that way. If I want to fulfill a biological need and relieve frustration, I'll watch some porn and not risk the drama. I know that other people would like to just have sex with me, so I don't need the confirmation of casual sex for my self-esteem. For me, the real thing deserves to be sex with feeling. My nightmare is someone who just wants to have sex with my body and not care about my intellect or have any attachment to me.

11. I don't think I could ever date or have a relationship with a straight man again. The guy I've been involved with recently is bisexual, and I feel like a bisexual man is my ideal partner now. Actually, I feel like I am "My partner!"-sexual right now, because he is all I think about when I masturbate (in various versions and scenarios) since we started dating a year ago.

12. I feel far more comfortable with BDSM than with vanilla sex.

13. I love to be tied down and have things done to me. I feel like it should be surprising considering #1, but a lot of the hurt with my ex had to do with being out of control and not feeling wanted. Being a power bottom and having that safe word to stop my partner at any time makes me feel so sexy, wanted, and empowered.

14. I hide my darker impulses. Some of the porn I watch is very hardcore BDSM and involves blood, submission, etc. I like to push myself and see what darker and harder things turn me on. I wouldn't trust a partner that much right now, but I would like to experience some hardcore acts with someone I love.

15. It's hard to describe the emotional security and intimacy BDSM brings to me and why it appeals to me so much.

16. I adore strap-ons, toys, leather, costumes, and all sorts of fun things.

17. Androgyny turns me on. Femme guys and butch girls are hot. There is nothing hotter than someone who can be both feminine and masculine, and is very confident in themselves while they play with their gender roles.

18. While I like that people are attracted to me (of course) and find nothing necessarily morally wrong with open relationships and polygamy (when practiced with respect), I have an extreme aversion to multiple people trying to have sex with me. I don't know how to describe it, but the idea of many people knowing what I look like naked or feel like in orgasm makes me panic and want to scream. I wasn't always like this, but I intensely like the control over who gets to see my body and know me sexually. This might be what predisposes me toward monogamy. I've tried to break out of my shell a bit, but when I did it only confirmed that I have almost a fetishistic desire to only have one partner and not have several partners over my lifetime.

19. Contradicting that, I have had fantasies of threesomes and voyeurism before. The thing is, in these fantasies it's been very emotionally secure, such as marriage to two people or the (I can't believe I'm admitting this) slash fiction sci-fi idea of a person being split or cloned in some way. In real life, dating two people at the same time is exhausting and not as fulfilling as focusing on that one special person to me. I am voyeuristic, but I think I'd giggle and laugh if I was watching people have sex in person. And I would panic and feel unsafe while having sex with other people in the room. Thus, it's just a fantasy. I want to stick with toys and one person who is my everything.

20. Many times I have wondered if something was wrong with me because I don't have a desire for many partners and I am not sexually attracted to many people. I don't want to be in love with/have sex with several different people over my life. I am attracted to many kinds of different, interesting people, but in general I feel like my "I'd actually fuck that person if they gave me the chance" or "I wonder why they're like in bed" quotient is much lower than most. I'm "I'll fuck that person if they take me out on several dates, love me for who I am, they like the same kinks, and I fall in love with them. And then only if I think that it's real, deep love and they could be that one person I needed to find."

21. I feel guilty and sad about the people I may have hurt or rejected because I am so different and not open to sex without love first.

22. I hide how easy it is for me to commit to one partner and not cheat because it upsets some of my close friends who don't find it easy at all.

23. My partner told me how much he loved how my body was shaped and how it filled his fantasies. It was so genuine and unprompted that it entirely contradicted the insults my ex said to me about how my body felt during sex. My partner didn't even know about the verbal abuse. I didn't let myself realize before how much my ex affected my perception of my body during sex, and how much he lied. It was a revelation for me. I wish I knew how to express my immense gratitude to my partner without freaking him out. He has no idea how much it has changed my point of view.

24. After a four-year drought through college, I thought I would never find someone to fall in love with and who would sexually fulfill me. I had very little hope for myself. I am so very in love right now that it's intoxicating. I am afraid of it not working out, but I love him. I've never felt romantic love so deeply and profoundly before.

25. I've used the word "hide" a few times in this. I hide my love life. I wish I felt safe enough to share it openly. I love being me, but I don't like being judged or having others feel like I am judging them.

1. I have always been fascinated with sex and the male physique. I started "borrowing" my dad's porn mags when I was about 11.

2. I peer-pressured my first boyfriend hard to have sex when I was 14. He wouldn't go for it. We did do pretty much everything else including dry-humping to orgasm. I actually miss that sort of fun.

3. I consider myself very very good at giving head. Lots of practice!

4. I often say that I have no sexual morals. If it's fun and feels good for everyone involved, I say go for it! I don't know where this attitude comes from.

5. I finally lost my virginity when I was 17. I pressured that guy into it as well. I was not the sweet innocent teen girl that everyone thinks I was. The experience was fantastic - outside on a picnic blanket. No orgasm.

6. My "second" virginity loss was when I first orgasmed during penetration. I'd mastered masturbation (snrk) at 12, but this was MUCH different. Much better. I became obsessed with having sex as often as I could. My boyfriend at the time reaped the benefits.

7. I became pregnant at 17 due to a broken condom. I lost the baby at 10 weeks after a major asthma attack. I had planned an abortion.

8. I went on the pill and became even more rapacious. I was constantly pushing the boundaries of acceptable norms... I would encourage my boyfriend to have sex anywhere and everywhere - including outside at family parks during the day, in the movie theatre, in the car, on his parents' couch while they were two rooms away.

9. When we split up in university we pursued two years of amicable "just sex" friendship. Every Thursday he would come over, we'd have sex, go out for dinner, have sex, go to a movie, have sex, and he'd go home. It was an excellent arrangement.

10. During this time I started more risky behaviour. I enjoyed picking up boys in the bar for oral sex (only once did I go "all the way" with one of these boys). I thoroughly enjoy sucking off a man. I have no idea how many partners I had during this time.

11. My husband was a classmate and, like me, looks and acts like a completely "normal" person - no one would suspect his sexual desires. He is a freak! In the best way possible.

12. When I first started dating my husband I was incredibly frustrated. He does not have a high sex drive and seemed very boring - only at night, only in the bedroom, few positions, not creative. I thought it would be the end of us. He can go months without and I hadn't gone a week without for 6 years.

13. It was only when he let me in on his secrets that I realized how incredibly suited we were for each other. It started with him expressing a fascination for threesomes, and watching me with another man. Early on we started inviting boys over for fun and it was fantastic! I got laid, he got off, and we all had fun.

14. My husband is also a closeted (from himself) bisexual. He loves ass play and he loves if I fuck him with a strap-on. He fantasizes about being with men, and I encourage it. I would love to see him with a big, muscley man.

15. Things got more interesting from there. Just last year I started "going out" and leaving him at home. Meeting up with random strangers to fuck like bunnies and then come home to him. I had never seen him hotter. He especially loves when I am with someone HUGE, as he is small and likes to feel it all stretched out.

16. I feel like when he fucks me after I've been "out," he is actually fucking the other man. It's fantastic!

17. I had sex with another man the day we conceived my son. Although it was with a condom and my husband without, I am really really glad the kid looks so much like him.

18. Paradoxically, although we had a rich sex life, he is completely unattracted to me since I've gained weight. I feel ashamed to be naked around him.

19. Since conceiving my son, I haven't had sex at all. Not once. In 15 months. All of the energy that I used to pour into masturbating, getting it, wanting it, having it, is now directed at loving and caring for the baby. I hope my sex drive comes back, but I'm not in a rush.

20. Shortly after our kid was born, my husband "made friends" with a female stripper and started seeing her without my knowledge. It was nearly the end of our marriage. I have no issues with an open relationship (obviously) and could not figure out why I was so upset. After much reflection on the issue, I have come to the conclusion that I have no morals attached to sex, but plenty of them attached to truth. I would not have objected if he hadn't seen the need to hide it. I am still baffled why he thought I would be upset. Regardless, he broke off the relationship.

21. As a reconciliation gift, and as a token of my appreciation for him putting up with my complete lack of sex drive, I purchased him an hour with a high-end hooker.

22. He currently meets with her twice a month on a lunch break.

23. I am very happy and satisfied, and have never suffered any abuse... had a wonderful nuclear family with no skeletons in the closet, and have no idea why my sexual desires run this way. I suppose it's "weird" to most people but I just can't drum up any shame about it.

24. Because I (a very normal, white-bread, ordinary person outside the bedroom) am like this behind closed doors, I can't help but imagine what others do as well. I think there are more people like me, or who want to be like me, than most people think. This is my biggest turn-on.

25. This website has made me want to masturbate again.

1. I am a 37 year old heterosexual white American male. I lost my virginity when I was 14 years old, as a freshman in high school, to a neighbor girl who was 17 and lived up the street.

2. I was the first guy among my friends to have sex with a girl. While my first was not the best-looking girl, she was more than willing to have as much sex as much I wanted, which when you are 14 is a lot. I had of course learned about safe sex and was terrified of getting her pregnant, which never happened. To this day I have not had a better blowjob.

3. The first time I masturbated to ejaculation, I was 11 years old. I recall being at the pool and seeing a friend's mother wearing a bikini. She had very large breasts, and when she would lay on the lounge chair I could see the outline of her vagina through her wet white bathing suit. It was some time after seeing her at the pool that I remember playing with myself and thinking of how sexy I thought she was. (This must be where my attraction to MILFs began.)

4. Most guys describe themselves as a tit man, a leg man, an ass man, etc. I, without question, am a pussy man. I love everything about them. It has been to my advantage for sure over the years. I once had a girl tell me that she thought all vaginas looked alike. In my opinion that could not be farther from the truth.

5. I have had sexual intercourse with 31 woman. About half of the woman that I have slept with have been older than myself, with the oldest being 45 when I was 22. She was a woman that I met while working as a lifeguard at the beach. She was married to a man who worked overseas for months at a time, and he was fully aware of what his wife was doing. They had agreed early on to have an open marriage. In the course of three months, I believe that we must have had sex 70+ times. She was by far the most spirited, adventurous lover that I have ever had. She insisted that I wear a condom, and I remember that I would make trips to the pharmacy to buy them and that the clerk would always look at me funny because I was in the store so often buying condoms.

6. I masturbate probably 6-7 times per week. The frequency of this actually increases if I am in a relationship, which I have never understood.

7. While in college I had a friends-with-benefits situation for about 2 years with a girl I met at a the library. She was double majoring, and said she did not have time for a relationship. We would typically meet twice a week very late at night for a couple hours of sex. She was the first girl that I ever fucked in the ass. She was such a little freak, but I loved it. She was totally comfortable with her sexuality, and at various times requested that I find a friend to join us. It was with her that I had my first and second threesome.

8. I had sex three times with an ex-girlfriend's mother who was a ER nurse. She once told me that she had heard her daughter and me having sex in the basement of her home.

9. I have a vague recollection of walking in as a small child and seeing my parents having sex. Which as an adult seems perfectly normal, but still odd.

10. I have made four women squirt. All but one of them had never done this before and were totally freaked out and said, while it "felt great," that they thought they peed. I explained to them that I had found their G-spot, and that it was not pee. To this day I go to extra efforts to try and make this happen with the person I am dating.

11. I can remember going to the neighborhood pool as a young child and trying to convince my friends to try and look at the women in their bathing suits underwater with our goggles on. Most of them at this age had no interest.

12. I look at sex like it's pizza: it is always something that I love, and the variety seems endless.

13. I can honestly say that I have never cheated on a girlfriend, but I have had a couple cheat on me. While I don't believe that #8 knows I screwed her mother, it makes me feel better, since she screwed one of my good friends.

14. I have a fantasy of living on a clothing-optional Caribbean island that is deserted except for eight or ten gorgeous women.

15. I have always heard and read that a guy's sexual peak is somewhere between 18-22 years old. I can honestly say that I am as horny at almost 38 as I have ever been.

16. Most of the time, when I meet a woman for the first time, I try and imagine what she must look like naked. I know: typical male.

17. When I was a senior in high school, I was caught in the shower with my girlfriend by her father, who was a FBI agent and carried a gun. To this day I have flashbacks about that day.

18. Above looks, what attracts me most to women is confidence in themselves and being comfortable with their bodies.

19. I have had sex with a few different ethnic backgrounds over the years. I have never had sex with a black woman, but I find them really sexy.

20. With the new social media, I have been contacted by women that I have dated, and some have suggested that we should meet up again. The thought of that is very inviting.

21. I once had sex in a janitor's closet at an international airport, after a girlfriend who had been away for months arrived back in the country. This was prior to 9/11.

22. I am a bit obsessed about the grooming of my pubic hair.

23. To this day, I have never admitted to anyone that I crashed my dad's car into a parked car in college while getting a blowjob.

24. I wear a suit and tie and work in an office every day, but what people don't know about me is that I am a guy that likes to have harmless fun, and that I have a large Koi tattoo that covers most of the side and back, and another one that covers most of my shoulder and all of my upper arm. In this environment, everyone is way too serious, but hey: it allows me to live the life I want.

25. I once was invited to a orgy by a woman that I was dating. When I showed up, it turned out to be six woman and two guys. Everyone looked really nervous. They were all wearing clothes and drinking alcohol in an attempt to loosen up their inhibitions. After a couple hours of drinking, I ended up just having sex with my girlfriend while everyone watched. What a turn-on.

1. Talking about sex is incredibly hot to me, but I don't mean in a filthy way. I mean like asking my partner how they want me to pleasure them. One of my current fantasies is to ask a girl I like (but haven't been physical with) to describe how she kisses.

2. I'm a bit of an audio voyeur as well. I've overheard lots of couples having sex – including my former roommate – and found myself getting really turned on. I've never watched someone have sex (other than in porn) so I don't know how that would go. I feel it wouldn't be as interesting as just hearing things.

3. I'm transgender, male-to-female. I haven't yet had surgery, but plan to. I'm also bisexual. I never cease to be amazed at how few people understand how that's possible.

4. I've had sex and masturbated, using my penis. Some people haven't been able to understand that, and I'm not sure I fully do either. I like the sensations I get, particularly during ejaculation. But I also know that piece of me isn't something I want to keep.

5. I think it's the feeling of depth that I like about ejaculation and using my penis. I'm just analyzing this for the first time as I type this, but essentially what I'm saying is that I like the feeling of something extremely pleasureful resonating from deep within and traveling through me. So I guess the idea that I want a vagina isn't so crazy after all.

6. Even though I consider my being transgender a handicap in terms of finding a romantic partner, it's also something of a blessing. Generally, whomever I get involved with is truly interested in me for who I am, not just my body.

7. Not that I mind someone telling me that I have a sexy body. When I had a fuck-buddy for a while, it was reassuring in a way to think that someone could just want to have sex with me. It's the same way I felt when I played the part of the “other man” and when I cheated on a former girlfriend.

8. Now all that being said, I couldn't keep going with my fuck-buddy, nor do I take pride in my involvement in affairs. It may work for some people and that's great, but for me it wasn't healthy. I've been a serial monogamist ever since. And I mean that in a good way, not the insult some people use it as.

9. Before I was a reformed-cheater-turned-monogamist, I was constantly the “better as friends” guy. I'm still often fed that line and fear that my kindness is mistaken for clinginess or dependence. Really, I just want to make people happy. But people tell me I need to play it more aloof; act like I don't care as much as I do.

10. Fuck that. I'm unwilling to change the way I pursue people. I'm not clingy, and I'm not dependent. I'm relatively confident in my ability to tell when I'm coming on too strong and I'd rather get turned down than be something I'm not. I will always strive to be honest with people.

11. I fantasize about my friends. A lot. Often, I'll be listening to someone talking or watching them and I'll start wondering what it would be like to suckle their neck or kiss their bare chest. I constantly find myself curious: What is So-And-So like in bed? What does their o-face look like? What sounds do they cry out, muffled by sweat-soaked pillows?

12. I have a huge crush on one of my friends in particular. I have felt this way for quite awhile, too. She's dating someone (who I'll admit I don't particularly like and think she deserves better than him, but I'm obviously biased) so I have definitely found myself wondering what it would be like to be with her both emotionally and physically. But I'm respectful enough not to make a move, and if she's happy in her relationship, I won't do anything to break it up. Like I said, I don't like the part of me that helped someone else cheat. I don't want to put anyone (including myself) through that again.

13. Going back to the subject of fantasy for a second: Even though I fantasize about friends and people I find attractive often, I never do so while masturbating. I feel guilty, like I have no right to even fictionally place someone in that position. Sometimes, even while not masturbating, I catch myself feeling that way, and guilt sinks in.

14. Even though I'm bi, I like different things about guys and girls. For example, while I love sucking dick and eating pussy about equally and I'm also pretty evenly balanced when it comes to being a top or submissive, I like guys for their ability to be fun and independent outside of physical endeavors. Being in a relationship with a guy can be tons of fun. On the flipside, I like girls for their softness and intimacy in said physical endeavors and ability to connect emotionally. Being in a relationship with a girl can be very comforting and fulfilling.

15. I love hearing and feeling the sharp gasps and sighs when I hit someone's sweet spot and they can't control their reaction. That kind of honesty is beautiful and hot.

16. Music can help set the mood and get me ready for being sexy, but I can't be physical with it still going. Too much background noise. I tried once and just kept humming and even singing along to the tunes I knew.

17. I like sex that gives the impression of spontaneity. Lights on, doors unlocked, places other than the bed, that kind of thing. I think I like the idea that, sometimes, you just need that other person. RIGHT NOW.

18. My favorite “position” isn't really a position so much as an idea. I want someone to push me in desperate lust against a door or wall, yank up my shirt, and slide their hand down the front of my pants to feel me through my jeans. I wouldn't mind switching the roles and doing that to someone else, too.

19. My favorite part on a guy is his stomach and chest. I like it strong and heavy with muscle, but I actually really dislike when he's extremely chiseled or ripped. It doesn't look natural to me.

20. My favorite part on a girl is something that's bound to seem a little creepy. Ahem. So, you know the small of the back? You know how, on girls, there's usually a patch of fine, soft hairs there? For some reason that is incredibly hot to me. I want to kiss and nuzzle that spot more than almost any other.

21. I don't want sex to be just a physical thing. I want it, but I want it to be just one avenue of many through which I can express intimacy to my partner.

22. I really don't want the girls I'm physical with to get rid of all their pubic hair. Natural, clipped, or trimmed is perfect. Bald is creepy, pokey, or dirty and inflamed. Same for guys. It's fucking hair, get over it.

23. I really, really don't want my partners to ignore taking care of their downstairs. For God's sake, there's nothing more of a turn-off than getting to my prize and barely being able to stomach the smell or taste. And that's not just cleanliness, it's diet too. Eating junk food all the time and smoking makes a sweet spot taste terrible. I actually threw up a little once giving a guy head because his semen was so bitter tasting due to his love of alcohol and nicotine.

24. My favorite part of a relationship, both physical and otherwise, is exploring. I want to know my partner's loves, hobbies, erogenous zones, turn-ons, passions, motivations, moans, movements, goals. I don't want to find this all out at once, mind you; I want to discover it over time. A relationship (and sex) should work like that, by continually evolving and growing.

25. I'm just noticing that, despite this being a “25 Things About My Sexuality” list, a lot of my answers somehow involve someone else. And a lot of those answers are specifically about relationships. I actually find that really encouraging.