1. I'm a 20 year old virgin who has always known she was attracted to men, but recently has been thinking a lot about women.
2. If I had to identify as something, I would say that I'm bisexual. But normally I don't like labels because they're sticky, and there's so much unnecessary stigma surrounding bisexuality. I'm in the process of coining a new term. Sexual. I am sexual.
3. I like androgyny. I like to see men with long hair, to see women with short hair; to see men wearing skintight clothes and things like nail polish, and to see women wearing baggy clothes and sexy high-top sneakers.
4. I like petite women with small tits and toned, muscular bodies. I love a woman with defined abs. I also love a muscular man, and my favorite parts of a man are his back, his neck, and his THIGHS.
5. I have a definite type, for both men and women. I can be attracted to anyone of any size or color if I like their personality, but I'll always notice someone with dark hair and dark black eyes before I notice anyone else. My biggest star crushes on looks alone are James Franco and Gemma Arterton when she plays the princess in Prince of Persia.
6. My first kiss was with a girl from my class. I was only in second or third grade. She came over to my house for a sleepover, along with another classmate. I can't remember exactly how it started, all I know is that she kissed me first, and that at the time I really had no idea what kissing was or what it meant. I didn't realize it was something bad until the other girl sleeping over murmured "I can hear you," in this small, scared sounding voice. Thinking back on it, I'm not grossed out at all. What scares me is thinking about how my classmate knew about kissing, when I didn't know. I can't help but wonder if she was sexually abused, and the very thought makes me so sad and depressed that I wish it had never happened, or that I could completely forget about it.
7. My second sexual experience was with my cousin. We were in her room, and again, I was too young to remember how it got started. All I remember is that we hid under her covers, with our pajama bottoms down, and kissed each other's asses, of all things. Nothing else happened. We didn't kiss on the mouth (that I can remember) and we didn't touch each other's vaginas. A few years later she asked me if I remembered, in the kitchen, in front of our dads. Our dads weren't paying attention but I was mortified, and so I lied and said no, that I didn't remember. To this day I still feel ashamed.
8. I never realized that I used to masturbate as a child until this year. Back then I didn't know what masturbation was, so I didn't know that it was what I was doing. But, after the kiss with my classmate, and before the incident with my cousin, I discovered that it felt good to rub myself against things. My favorite thing to rub against was this huge, stuffed white tiger (it was as big as me). Its mouth (ironically?) felt the best, and so I would turn it over on its back, position it between my legs as I laid in bed on my stomach, and grind against it in the light of my orange nightlight. And, yeah, its snout would smell like me afterward, and I felt dirty and aroused at the same time for wanting to inhale.
9. I don't masturbate now. I haven't really found the need to, and maybe that's because I just don't know what I'm missing. I've felt myself in the tub when I'm taking showers or baths, and my entrance feels so sensitive that I shy away from fully inserting my fingers. And now that I'm actually thinking about it, I'd like to explore myself more to see if it really CAN feel good, instead of overly sensitive.
10. I had a boyfriend once, when I was in the fifth or sixth grade. He was goofy looking in an endearing way, but we were both kids and "going out" for us was nothing more than SAYING that we were "going out." I told my parents about it the week it happened, and they told me that I wasn't allowed to do that. I "broke up" with him as nicely as I could, and school life went back to normal.
11. I haven't had a boyfriend, or a girlfriend, since then. I've never been on a date, and I've never even been asked out. Sometimes it makes me feel insecure, and of course I have to wonder if there's something "wrong" with me. At the same time I'm surprisingly self-confident, to what I like to think is a humble degree. I think I have a very pretty face, if not the greatest body. I think I have an engaging personality that a lot of people would enjoy if they got to know me. I'm only 20, so I know that I still have plenty of time to find someone who appreciates me, who loves me, and who wants to fuck me like crazy.
12. I discovered m/m fanfiction about four or five years ago, and when I did my entire world changed. Before then I didn't think much about sex (consciously), but once I started reading and writing my own gay fanfiction, thinking about sex became a huge part of my life. I'm not ashamed of it at all. I think it's healthy, and I love learning and exploring new things about sex every single day. As a virgin, I feel that it's important to educate myself as much as possible so I'm prepared for whatever is thrown my way in the future.
13. I used to only read m/m smut, and for the first couple of years after discovering m/m smut, I was completely turned off by heterosexual relationships. Now, I'm rediscovering an interest in heterosexual relationships, and am newly discovering an interest in f/f relationships.
14. If slapping someone around is considered a kink, then I have a kink. Through writing and reading fanfiction, I've realized a lot of things about myself that I never realized before. Just recently I realized that I like writing couples who smack each other, and roughhouse in other ways. And once I realized that, I recalled a memory from when I was younger, and in middle school. One of the first sexual thrills I experienced with a boy is when I slapped him across the face at a school dance. My excitement surged when he grinned at me afterward.
15. I haven't experienced it yet, obviously, but I have a strong feeling that I'll love doggy style. I realized this while co-writing with another writer. We used to write about various original characters involved in romantic relationships, starting off with gay couples and slowly branching into heterosexual couples. One day, a female character of mine got to talking to one of my co-writer's male characters, and the next thing we know the two of them are going at it doggy style. They couldn't stop fucking each other that way for at least two hours (through IMs on MSN). Writing about made-up people fucking each other might sound bizarre to some people, but in all actuality, it feels very natural. It feels GOOD. It's a way to explore and release your own sexual desires. And since then, a girl being fucked roughly from behind, with her ass arched high and her guy shoving himself balls-deep inside her, is one of the fantasies I think about the most.
16. I also discovered, through co-writing, that a monogamous relationship doesn't exactly mean that you can't fuck other people. I grew up believing that fucking someone other than your partner is cheating on them, and the ultimate betrayal. I grew up thinking that if you loved someone, you would never think about anyone else, and if you did, that meant that you didn't "truly" love them. But, writing for the minds of the characters I created, I learned that it's entirely possible to love someone with your whole heart even as you fantasize about someone else. I understand what it's like to want to fuck someone for pure, physical pleasure, but to want to wake up next to that other person, whom you love, for the rest of your days. I understand what it's like to give your body to someone because it feels good, but to have your soul, your heart, and your mind belong to someone else.
17. But if you want to fuck someone when you're in a committed relationship with someone else, communication is the key. I believe that if you decide to fuck someone else without telling your partner, that it IS a betrayal of their trust, and your love. To truly love someone is to respect their feelings. That means talking to them before you sleep with someone else. Let them know that you want to sleep with someone else, let them know who that person is, and let them know anything else they want to know for it to be okay. Make sure that they're comfortable with the situation before you do it, and make sure that they know that you love THEM, and only them.
18. I have an insane attraction for drag queens, or men in makeup. I specifically love men wearing lipstick. I would love to kiss a man while he's wearing lipstick. I would love to look at him in a corset, and to have him fuck me in a corset, with his brightly polished fingernails digging into my hips.
19. I used to be embarrassed by the word "fuck," and I used to be offended by the word "cunt." Now I use fuck like I use toilet paper when I take a shit, and I think that cunt, coming from the right mouth, can be incredibly sexy.
20. I am a feminist, who believes in women having anything a man can have, wanting anything a man may want, and doing anything a man can do. I believe in men and women being equal to each other, and I can't stand it when people think that men are the superior sex. That said, I fully support D/s relationships. As long as it's consensual, and as long as the submissive partner (whether they be female OR male) genuinely enjoys being dominated, I am entirely down with D/s relationships (and all things power-play). Because, of course, domination and submission is something entirely different from things like misogyny and a man's superiority complex. Anyone who knows anything about the BDSM world knows that it's built on respect for your partner, and mutual consent.
21. I fantasize about pegging. It has nothing to do with feminism, and nothing to do with wanting to turn the tables on men. It has nothing to do with "getting them back." I love the idea of pegging because I find it incredibly sexy when a man is comfortable enough in his own skin, and so trusting of his female partner, that he'd be willing to put himself in such a vulnerable position. I think it's sexy because to me, it's an incredible display of trust and love.
22. Whenever I see an attractive girl, I immediately think about her nipples in my mouth. I fantasize about nursing her nipples until they're sore, and then working my way down until I'm between her legs. I'd rather eat a girl out than give a man a blow job.
23. The above said, a man's cum is more attractive to me than a girl's fluid when she "squirts."
24. I'm in the process of "coming out" to my mom. She thinks that bisexual girls "claim" to be bisexual for attention. She thinks that they're just faking their "bisexuality" because it's the It Thing to do right now. She thinks that girls kiss each other for the sole purpose of entertaining a male audience. I asked her a year ago what she would think if I told her I was bi, and she told me that she wouldn't believe me. Because of that, I'm terrified to my very core to let her know that I've fantasized about going down on women. Sometimes I'd rather be a straight up lesbian, because at least then my mom wouldn't excuse me of lying about my sexuality just to get attention.
25. I'm worried about having penetrative sex for the first time because I'm very sensitive down there, and even though it doesn't hurt to put tampons in, it's excruciatingly painful when I pull a super out. Because of that, I refuse to use super tampons. It was also excruciatingly painful when I went to the gyno for an exam. I have no way of knowing if that's just natural, because my mom told me that the gyno is painful for her too. I don't have to worry about lubricating because I realized how wet I get after reading some steamy fanfiction. I'm hoping that the pain comes from lack of proper lubrication, and that when I do try penetrative sex, it'll be enjoyable instead of excruciating (the initial penetration notwithstanding).
Monday, September 20, 2010
1. When I was about eleven years old my step-little sister and I used to stick out our tongues and let them touch. It was very exciting and also felt very forbidden.
2. I am a 19 year old female, and when I was very young, about 5, I fell in love with the Disney mermaid Ariel. I had never seen such a beautiful girl before and all I wanted to do was to go swimming with her in the ocean.
3. I identify myself as bisexual, but the only time I've had sex with a girl was at a party. The girl in question and I were very drunk and we ended up locking ourselves in the bathroom. She went down on me but I didn't feel very much. She tasted like alcohol and chips when I kissed her. Several boys were knocking at the door screaming "Hey, what are you doing, having sex? Let us in!"
4. Some people are shocked when they hear how many persons I have slept with. It's only 5 so far. Bur I have made out with a LOT more.
5. I love having sex, all kind of sex. Anal sex can be very satisfying when you are doing it with someone who knows how to do it properly. Once I had a dick in my anus, as well as four fingers and a vibrator in my pussy.
6. On my 18th birthday I was raped by my boyfriend. My relationship with him damaged my sexual life severely. He was a sex addict and I struggled to please him every time we had sex. He had a very hard time to come at all. On that birthday I was very drunk, when we got to his place he tied me up to his bed with ropes by both legs and arms and raped me. I blamed myself, as the drunken whore I thought I was. But now I realize that I only have him to blame, not myself.
7. I lost my virginity to a really sweet guy at the age of sixteen, it was in his bed and we listened to music. It hurt very much, though, and there was a lot of blood, but I was somehow pleased at the same time. It felt right. He was a virgin too, so we did it for the first time together.
8. Two years after we had broken up we ended up in his bed again. It was amazing. It was one of the best sex experiences I have had. He had grown hair on his chest and learned new tricks..
9. I love kissing girls, but I absolutely hate that when I have done so in a club or at a party, guys stare and think it is somehow OK. When I kiss a girl it's for my own and her pleasure and not to be consider as a show for the surrounding males!
10. I long to have sex with a really beautiful girl, but I have a boyfriend that I love and commonly it would be considered as cheating if I would have sex with someone other than him. But I really don´t think love and sex are the same things. Sex can absolutely be done for pleasure and excitement, without involving love. I dislike norms, especially the look on their faces my friends get if I flirt or dance with someone who isn't my boyfriend.
11. This summer, my boyfriend and I had penetrative vaginal sex for the first time, after being together for half a year, and it was as good as it gets. He knows how to lick my pussy and he is not afraid to lick everywhere. That repaired my self-worth and view on sex.
12. I love masturbating with my little red vibrator and at the same time touching my breasts.
13. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist. One of my most vivid fantasies is to be fucked in front of an audience doggy-style.
14. Even though I've had bad experiences when it comes to power-balance in a relationship, I love being dominated, and being air-deprived during sex.
15. Once my dance teacher thought I had been beaten because I had such big bruises on my neck. It was in fact a guy who had bitten me all over and I really liked it.
16. I often get the impression that my sexuality confuses people, and that they that find me weird in general because I openly talk about sex and am in general more experienced than persons my own age. I really don't understand why, or I get that they are scared by the fact that I don't act according to the norm, but I don't understand why girls who openly talk about sex are considered to be a bit strange..
17. I like to be licked on the area around the anus, and I like having fingers in there. It´s a shame that it is such a taboo and that many persons find it in some way disgusting, just because they have been taught that it's wrong.
18. When I told my mother, with a smile on my face, that I had sex with my first boyfriend and the one I had at the time, she told me that I should be ashamed. I just laughed at her and she got even madder. She also told me once that you can't get pregnant if you have sex with a guy and he pulls out his dick before he ejaculates. Her idea of "safe sex" isn't safe at all.
19. When I was in my early puberty years I used to masturbate by using one of my stuffed animals. It was a big cat and I used to rub my pussy against it. Ever since then, I've had a fetish for cats--I find them extremely sexy.
20. I like playing what I call "the rat-mouse game" with people in clubs. I pick out a random person and set it as my goal to make him/her dance closely to me. It's not that I'm after sex, I just want to see if I can make a completely unknown person rub his/her body against mine, without even knowing me. When I succeed it is a huge thrill.
21. I used to get crushes very easily. Now that I'm older I know that I was attracted to all those people because I wanted their naked body against mine, I wasn't interested in a relationship at all, even though all the stories in books about young girls told me that love or attraction only can end with marriage.
22. The dates I've had have come after initial making out or having sex. Then the dating has come, and later sometimes a relationship.
23. I find older men and women really attractive, I would like to feel the touch of a person who has much more experience than me someday.
24. Nowadays I masturbate a lot, because I am currently living in another country from my boyfriend. I sometimes play with the thought of finding someone here to fuck. But then I'd have to ask my boyfriend first, and he would probably be fine with it.
25. Most porn is not at all overrated. I love all the gadgets in some BDSM films: gag-balls, whips, ropes, chains, fucking-machines and much more.
2. I am a 19 year old female, and when I was very young, about 5, I fell in love with the Disney mermaid Ariel. I had never seen such a beautiful girl before and all I wanted to do was to go swimming with her in the ocean.
3. I identify myself as bisexual, but the only time I've had sex with a girl was at a party. The girl in question and I were very drunk and we ended up locking ourselves in the bathroom. She went down on me but I didn't feel very much. She tasted like alcohol and chips when I kissed her. Several boys were knocking at the door screaming "Hey, what are you doing, having sex? Let us in!"
4. Some people are shocked when they hear how many persons I have slept with. It's only 5 so far. Bur I have made out with a LOT more.
5. I love having sex, all kind of sex. Anal sex can be very satisfying when you are doing it with someone who knows how to do it properly. Once I had a dick in my anus, as well as four fingers and a vibrator in my pussy.
6. On my 18th birthday I was raped by my boyfriend. My relationship with him damaged my sexual life severely. He was a sex addict and I struggled to please him every time we had sex. He had a very hard time to come at all. On that birthday I was very drunk, when we got to his place he tied me up to his bed with ropes by both legs and arms and raped me. I blamed myself, as the drunken whore I thought I was. But now I realize that I only have him to blame, not myself.
7. I lost my virginity to a really sweet guy at the age of sixteen, it was in his bed and we listened to music. It hurt very much, though, and there was a lot of blood, but I was somehow pleased at the same time. It felt right. He was a virgin too, so we did it for the first time together.
8. Two years after we had broken up we ended up in his bed again. It was amazing. It was one of the best sex experiences I have had. He had grown hair on his chest and learned new tricks..
9. I love kissing girls, but I absolutely hate that when I have done so in a club or at a party, guys stare and think it is somehow OK. When I kiss a girl it's for my own and her pleasure and not to be consider as a show for the surrounding males!
10. I long to have sex with a really beautiful girl, but I have a boyfriend that I love and commonly it would be considered as cheating if I would have sex with someone other than him. But I really don´t think love and sex are the same things. Sex can absolutely be done for pleasure and excitement, without involving love. I dislike norms, especially the look on their faces my friends get if I flirt or dance with someone who isn't my boyfriend.
11. This summer, my boyfriend and I had penetrative vaginal sex for the first time, after being together for half a year, and it was as good as it gets. He knows how to lick my pussy and he is not afraid to lick everywhere. That repaired my self-worth and view on sex.
12. I love masturbating with my little red vibrator and at the same time touching my breasts.
13. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist. One of my most vivid fantasies is to be fucked in front of an audience doggy-style.
14. Even though I've had bad experiences when it comes to power-balance in a relationship, I love being dominated, and being air-deprived during sex.
15. Once my dance teacher thought I had been beaten because I had such big bruises on my neck. It was in fact a guy who had bitten me all over and I really liked it.
16. I often get the impression that my sexuality confuses people, and that they that find me weird in general because I openly talk about sex and am in general more experienced than persons my own age. I really don't understand why, or I get that they are scared by the fact that I don't act according to the norm, but I don't understand why girls who openly talk about sex are considered to be a bit strange..
17. I like to be licked on the area around the anus, and I like having fingers in there. It´s a shame that it is such a taboo and that many persons find it in some way disgusting, just because they have been taught that it's wrong.
18. When I told my mother, with a smile on my face, that I had sex with my first boyfriend and the one I had at the time, she told me that I should be ashamed. I just laughed at her and she got even madder. She also told me once that you can't get pregnant if you have sex with a guy and he pulls out his dick before he ejaculates. Her idea of "safe sex" isn't safe at all.
19. When I was in my early puberty years I used to masturbate by using one of my stuffed animals. It was a big cat and I used to rub my pussy against it. Ever since then, I've had a fetish for cats--I find them extremely sexy.
20. I like playing what I call "the rat-mouse game" with people in clubs. I pick out a random person and set it as my goal to make him/her dance closely to me. It's not that I'm after sex, I just want to see if I can make a completely unknown person rub his/her body against mine, without even knowing me. When I succeed it is a huge thrill.
21. I used to get crushes very easily. Now that I'm older I know that I was attracted to all those people because I wanted their naked body against mine, I wasn't interested in a relationship at all, even though all the stories in books about young girls told me that love or attraction only can end with marriage.
22. The dates I've had have come after initial making out or having sex. Then the dating has come, and later sometimes a relationship.
23. I find older men and women really attractive, I would like to feel the touch of a person who has much more experience than me someday.
24. Nowadays I masturbate a lot, because I am currently living in another country from my boyfriend. I sometimes play with the thought of finding someone here to fuck. But then I'd have to ask my boyfriend first, and he would probably be fine with it.
25. Most porn is not at all overrated. I love all the gadgets in some BDSM films: gag-balls, whips, ropes, chains, fucking-machines and much more.
Sunday, September 19, 2010
1. I am a 23 year old heterosexual male.
2. I lost my virginity at 14 to a girl who, while she still had more experience than me, was also a virgin. Because of who she was and how she treated me, I developed a (I feel) bizarre perception of sex, that I feel is unhealthy and I've been trying to change.
3. I'm incredibly grateful to the four partners I've had since then, who because they actually cared about me wanted to have a healthy sexual relationship. Each of them has, I think, contributed to the kind of person I am today.
4. Of the four, three of them were virgins. Of the three, two of them were wonderful lovers. Of those two, one of them changed my life the most.
5. I enjoy being dominant, and restraining my lovers during sex, and I've never really had a chance to be the submissive one. That said, I am terrified of causing pain because I'm being forceful. It makes my guts twinge just thinking about it.
6.I don't have much of a sexual imagination. I'm trying slowly, and with some success, to change that.
7. I masturbate at least twice a day, and because of that I'm pretty sure I've never had a wet dream. I actually started masturbating because I was afraid of my mother washing my stained bedsheets.
8. I get off on BDSM porn not because of the domination, but because the pleasure seems real. I think it also helps me learn to see pain as pleasurable.
9.To me, an emotional connection is essential to good sex. I can't even get hard easily if I don't feel some sort of affection towards you. A woman is never just boobs or a vag to me.
10. Sex is not my primary motivator. Or a motivator, for that matter. I never think, "God, I need to get laid." I'm more interested in emotional intimacy. For me, physical intimacy stems from emotional.
11. I feel broken because of #10. I feel like there is something wrong with me because I don't want to have sex with every woman I find attractive. I hate it.
12. I've never had a frank discussion about sex with someone I wasn't in a relationship with.
13. I admit to being a little bi-curious. It's not about lust, though. I just want to explore sexual intimacy with another man, and see if I enjoy it. I just need to find a guy who's attractive to me.
14. I've wondered what my penis feels like to my lovers. Usually it's in the middle of sex, so they describe it with some blend of semi-mystical worship, but I just want to know what it feels like to them. The texture, shape, even the smell and taste. I just want the opinion of someone who isn't staring at it from my perspective.
15. I love the way a woman smells after the two of you have fucked relentlessly and you're gasping for breath.
16. In a primordial, primitive way, pregnant women are incredibly hot to me. The only time I can recall getting an erection in public was when a woman 8 months pregnant and good looking to begin with came into my job and stood there, waiting for her friends.
17. Does any male my age find your run-of-the-mill porn as strange as I do? I just don't get it.
18. I am living with the last woman I slept with. It was my first sexual experience where I wasn't exclusive with my partner. We haven't had sex in two months, since I moved in. I'm afraid to ask her if we can have sex again. I enjoyed it.
19. Perhaps someday I will find a woman with the patience to let me tie her up in those elaborate knots you see in some BDSM. It's like a gift, just put a bow on top!
20. Having sex has taught me to like my body.
21. Every woman I've slept with has had the rather unique peccadillo of getting extremely wet when listening to heavy metal and alt-rock. Considering that this is my music of choice, this has worked out most favorably.
22. I've never understood role-playing, but I have tried it. Not my thing.
23. I write pretty good erotica (or so I've been told) when I'm having sex on a regular basis.
24. I like having my nipples bitten. Maybe a bit too much...
25. At this point in my life, I feel that as I grow sexually, I grow emotionally, and vice versa. I'm proud of how far I've come, and I'm eager to see how far I'll go.
2. I lost my virginity at 14 to a girl who, while she still had more experience than me, was also a virgin. Because of who she was and how she treated me, I developed a (I feel) bizarre perception of sex, that I feel is unhealthy and I've been trying to change.
3. I'm incredibly grateful to the four partners I've had since then, who because they actually cared about me wanted to have a healthy sexual relationship. Each of them has, I think, contributed to the kind of person I am today.
4. Of the four, three of them were virgins. Of the three, two of them were wonderful lovers. Of those two, one of them changed my life the most.
5. I enjoy being dominant, and restraining my lovers during sex, and I've never really had a chance to be the submissive one. That said, I am terrified of causing pain because I'm being forceful. It makes my guts twinge just thinking about it.
6.I don't have much of a sexual imagination. I'm trying slowly, and with some success, to change that.
7. I masturbate at least twice a day, and because of that I'm pretty sure I've never had a wet dream. I actually started masturbating because I was afraid of my mother washing my stained bedsheets.
8. I get off on BDSM porn not because of the domination, but because the pleasure seems real. I think it also helps me learn to see pain as pleasurable.
9.To me, an emotional connection is essential to good sex. I can't even get hard easily if I don't feel some sort of affection towards you. A woman is never just boobs or a vag to me.
10. Sex is not my primary motivator. Or a motivator, for that matter. I never think, "God, I need to get laid." I'm more interested in emotional intimacy. For me, physical intimacy stems from emotional.
11. I feel broken because of #10. I feel like there is something wrong with me because I don't want to have sex with every woman I find attractive. I hate it.
12. I've never had a frank discussion about sex with someone I wasn't in a relationship with.
13. I admit to being a little bi-curious. It's not about lust, though. I just want to explore sexual intimacy with another man, and see if I enjoy it. I just need to find a guy who's attractive to me.
14. I've wondered what my penis feels like to my lovers. Usually it's in the middle of sex, so they describe it with some blend of semi-mystical worship, but I just want to know what it feels like to them. The texture, shape, even the smell and taste. I just want the opinion of someone who isn't staring at it from my perspective.
15. I love the way a woman smells after the two of you have fucked relentlessly and you're gasping for breath.
16. In a primordial, primitive way, pregnant women are incredibly hot to me. The only time I can recall getting an erection in public was when a woman 8 months pregnant and good looking to begin with came into my job and stood there, waiting for her friends.
17. Does any male my age find your run-of-the-mill porn as strange as I do? I just don't get it.
18. I am living with the last woman I slept with. It was my first sexual experience where I wasn't exclusive with my partner. We haven't had sex in two months, since I moved in. I'm afraid to ask her if we can have sex again. I enjoyed it.
19. Perhaps someday I will find a woman with the patience to let me tie her up in those elaborate knots you see in some BDSM. It's like a gift, just put a bow on top!
20. Having sex has taught me to like my body.
21. Every woman I've slept with has had the rather unique peccadillo of getting extremely wet when listening to heavy metal and alt-rock. Considering that this is my music of choice, this has worked out most favorably.
22. I've never understood role-playing, but I have tried it. Not my thing.
23. I write pretty good erotica (or so I've been told) when I'm having sex on a regular basis.
24. I like having my nipples bitten. Maybe a bit too much...
25. At this point in my life, I feel that as I grow sexually, I grow emotionally, and vice versa. I'm proud of how far I've come, and I'm eager to see how far I'll go.
Monday, September 13, 2010
1. I'm a 22-year-old genderqueer dyke. I've had sex with 8 people in my life.
2. My favorite thing in the entire world is giving/getting head. I could do it, and recieve it, for HOURS. Sticky eyelids are the best.
3. I've orgasmed during sex only 3 times in my life. It takes a lot of patience to make it happen, since you have to lick a certain spot a certain way for a certain amount of time. I haven't orgasmed during partner sex in over 4 years, but that's okay with me. Orgasm is never my goal.
4. I masturbate by rubbing my clit through my underwear. I figured out that's the way I liked it when I was 13 and haven't really switched it up since. I love to touch myself while someone's watching, but when doing that I take off the underwear (obviously).
5. I love, love, LOVE FTMs. I had sex with my FTM friend when I was 18 and it was ridiculously hot. Something about how I could eat him out and then he could strap on a dick and fuck me with it ... amazing. My last ex started taking T and I wish we hadn't broken up before it really started to change his body.
6. I cut myself to help me get off. Something about the sight of blood really turns me on. If I'm really comfortable with the person I'm with (really, REALLY comfortable), I let them lick my blood up. I can't even describe how much it turns me on.
7. I have no complaints whatsoever about losing my virginity. I was in love with the girl I was dating, she took her time and really listened to my body, was very open to what she wanted, and made me waffles afterward. Such good memories associated with that day.
8. The woman I'm seeing right now is insecure about her body, so we haven't yet gotten to the point where she'll let me fuck her. I want to say that I feel bad about being the only one being fucked, but honestly, I enjoy it immensely. She introduced me to breath play during sex, and I can't get enough of it now. She's also, hands down, the absolute BEST at oral.
9. I consider myself fairly kinky, but I haven't yet explored fisting, spanking/caning/etc, or play piercing, and I want to ... SOON.
10. I shave everything "down there", and don't think I could ever go back to any amount of hair. I like it on my partners, though.
11. My favorite part of a woman's body (besides the obvious - cunt) is the lower back or clavicle.
12. I love to bite, and especially love to leave bruises. I never leave hickeys on the neck, but everywhere else is fair game. Sticky-outy bones are my weakness ... my current girl has many fading marks on her hipbones, clavicle, and the bottom of her ribcage. I love bones. Mmmm.
13. I've never had sex with a biological male, but am not opposed to the idea. I fall in lust/love with people, not gender/bodies, so perhaps one day it will happen. I have masturbated to the idea of a (real!) penis in me before, which was hard to let myself do, but now I'm open to the fact.
14. I tell everyone I don't like porn, but I secretly watch videos on a few sites. I'm too embarassed to go out and buy porn, and I don't know when/if I'll ever get over that, so for now, erotica and free vids on those websites will have to suffice.
15. I love reading about LGBT, group, and non-consensual sex (both hetero and homo), but can only bring myself to watch girls fucking.
16. I love the idea of eating a girl out who's on her period. I've done it once before and I enjoyed it a lot. I have never mentioned it to anyone I've had sex with since, because most girls I've encountered think earning your "red wings" is "dirty." I like the taste, smell, and feel of it, myself.
17. I was never open to the idea of group sex until my last ex and I broke up, and I started reading group sex erotica. I don't know how the dynamics of it would work, but I would love to try it at least once... ideally with two other women.
18. My nipples aren't very sensitive, but I let them be played with if the other person likes it. My right nipple is pierced and I'm planning to get the other one done soon to make everything even.
19. I love when marks are left on me. Nothing makes me happier then waking up the next morning and checking myself out in the mirror and seeing nail marks all down my back and bruises decorating my chest and hipbones.
20. I get really, really bad charlie horses in my right foot if I'm having really awesome, intense sex. I've learned to just push past the pain and deal with it, but they are ridiculously annoying.
21. I don't have good stamina for fingering, and I need to work on that. I love the feeling of being inside someone but get tired way too easily. I'd also like to learn how to properly fuck someone with a strap-on ... I've had great experiences on the recieving end and would like to be able to return the favor.
22. I love to be told what to do. I love being strapped down to the bed with someone over me, calling me names. The first time my current girl told me to shut the fuck up, I knew I was going to fight it so she would say it again. I get so wet being yelled at.
23. I bought my first vibrator about 6 months ago and have used it a handful of times. My fingers just work so much better for me ... and they're wayyyy cheaper.
24. I love the way I taste. I also love, after fingering someone, to suck my fingers off while they watch. Every single person I've done that with has loved it, and most of them have said they'd never seen anyone do that before.
25. Nibbling on the lower lip while making out is my favorite. I was recently told that I don't "share" my bottom lip (it's pierced), and I've been trying to be nicer about that. The sound of my metal (in my lip, ears, navel, tongue, and nipple) clicking against teeth is such an intense turn-on.
2. My favorite thing in the entire world is giving/getting head. I could do it, and recieve it, for HOURS. Sticky eyelids are the best.
3. I've orgasmed during sex only 3 times in my life. It takes a lot of patience to make it happen, since you have to lick a certain spot a certain way for a certain amount of time. I haven't orgasmed during partner sex in over 4 years, but that's okay with me. Orgasm is never my goal.
4. I masturbate by rubbing my clit through my underwear. I figured out that's the way I liked it when I was 13 and haven't really switched it up since. I love to touch myself while someone's watching, but when doing that I take off the underwear (obviously).
5. I love, love, LOVE FTMs. I had sex with my FTM friend when I was 18 and it was ridiculously hot. Something about how I could eat him out and then he could strap on a dick and fuck me with it ... amazing. My last ex started taking T and I wish we hadn't broken up before it really started to change his body.
6. I cut myself to help me get off. Something about the sight of blood really turns me on. If I'm really comfortable with the person I'm with (really, REALLY comfortable), I let them lick my blood up. I can't even describe how much it turns me on.
7. I have no complaints whatsoever about losing my virginity. I was in love with the girl I was dating, she took her time and really listened to my body, was very open to what she wanted, and made me waffles afterward. Such good memories associated with that day.
8. The woman I'm seeing right now is insecure about her body, so we haven't yet gotten to the point where she'll let me fuck her. I want to say that I feel bad about being the only one being fucked, but honestly, I enjoy it immensely. She introduced me to breath play during sex, and I can't get enough of it now. She's also, hands down, the absolute BEST at oral.
9. I consider myself fairly kinky, but I haven't yet explored fisting, spanking/caning/etc, or play piercing, and I want to ... SOON.
10. I shave everything "down there", and don't think I could ever go back to any amount of hair. I like it on my partners, though.
11. My favorite part of a woman's body (besides the obvious - cunt) is the lower back or clavicle.
12. I love to bite, and especially love to leave bruises. I never leave hickeys on the neck, but everywhere else is fair game. Sticky-outy bones are my weakness ... my current girl has many fading marks on her hipbones, clavicle, and the bottom of her ribcage. I love bones. Mmmm.
13. I've never had sex with a biological male, but am not opposed to the idea. I fall in lust/love with people, not gender/bodies, so perhaps one day it will happen. I have masturbated to the idea of a (real!) penis in me before, which was hard to let myself do, but now I'm open to the fact.
14. I tell everyone I don't like porn, but I secretly watch videos on a few sites. I'm too embarassed to go out and buy porn, and I don't know when/if I'll ever get over that, so for now, erotica and free vids on those websites will have to suffice.
15. I love reading about LGBT, group, and non-consensual sex (both hetero and homo), but can only bring myself to watch girls fucking.
16. I love the idea of eating a girl out who's on her period. I've done it once before and I enjoyed it a lot. I have never mentioned it to anyone I've had sex with since, because most girls I've encountered think earning your "red wings" is "dirty." I like the taste, smell, and feel of it, myself.
17. I was never open to the idea of group sex until my last ex and I broke up, and I started reading group sex erotica. I don't know how the dynamics of it would work, but I would love to try it at least once... ideally with two other women.
18. My nipples aren't very sensitive, but I let them be played with if the other person likes it. My right nipple is pierced and I'm planning to get the other one done soon to make everything even.
19. I love when marks are left on me. Nothing makes me happier then waking up the next morning and checking myself out in the mirror and seeing nail marks all down my back and bruises decorating my chest and hipbones.
20. I get really, really bad charlie horses in my right foot if I'm having really awesome, intense sex. I've learned to just push past the pain and deal with it, but they are ridiculously annoying.
21. I don't have good stamina for fingering, and I need to work on that. I love the feeling of being inside someone but get tired way too easily. I'd also like to learn how to properly fuck someone with a strap-on ... I've had great experiences on the recieving end and would like to be able to return the favor.
22. I love to be told what to do. I love being strapped down to the bed with someone over me, calling me names. The first time my current girl told me to shut the fuck up, I knew I was going to fight it so she would say it again. I get so wet being yelled at.
23. I bought my first vibrator about 6 months ago and have used it a handful of times. My fingers just work so much better for me ... and they're wayyyy cheaper.
24. I love the way I taste. I also love, after fingering someone, to suck my fingers off while they watch. Every single person I've done that with has loved it, and most of them have said they'd never seen anyone do that before.
25. Nibbling on the lower lip while making out is my favorite. I was recently told that I don't "share" my bottom lip (it's pierced), and I've been trying to be nicer about that. The sound of my metal (in my lip, ears, navel, tongue, and nipple) clicking against teeth is such an intense turn-on.
Sunday, September 12, 2010
1. I am a twenty-one-year-old female.
2. Around the seventh grade I got very into music, and one day I was looking up punk rock bands, and I accidentally stumbled across male/male slash fanfiction. My entire world changed.
3. I identify as bisexual. I’ve had two real relationships with men and two with women. I’ve kissed more women than men.
4. I’ve always known that I liked both genders, from the time I was in Catholic grade school. I used to hold hands with the other girls, and I never really understood why the teachers thought that was unacceptable. I’ve always been ultra-affectionate, but reluctantly, I began hiding my attraction to girls because of the way teachers would talk to me about my “behavior”.
5. Because of this, I upped the amount of time I spent flirting with and talking to boys. In retrospect I was severely overcompensating, but I wanted the adults to know I was someone they could look at and be proud of.
6. My first memory of masturbation was when I was six or seven. Disney’s Return of Jafar had just come out, and I had a very erotic dream about being forced to do the evil sorcerer’s bidding. I woke up panting and rubbing against my bed sheets. Since then I’ve always masturbated the same way, tangled in my sheets and using them to rub against my clitoris.
7. I hadn’t ever attempted to touch myself with my fingers until about six months ago. I’ve tried only a handful of times, but as soon as I feel my first finger pressing inside I either climax or get overstimulated and need to stop.
8. I’ve never been truly pleasured by a partner. My first girlfriend always made me do everything myself, because she was in an ‘experimental’ phase and wasn’t comfortable touching me. My first boyfriend tried to finger me twice and both times I told him to stop because it was horribly painful. The second boy was a virgin and nervous, and my current partner (another woman) and I are taking things very slowly.
9. Part of me is crushed by the previous, and the other relieved. I’ve always been ultra-sensitive about my vagina—as mentioned above, the few attempts I’ve had with it haven’t exactly turned out well— in fact, during my one and only ever pelvic exam I felt so violated that I sobbed and almost passed out.
10. I feel that this is the time to mention that I am also still a virgin. When my doctor tried to make a joke with me about the pain being from my still very, very intact hymen, I couldn’t hold back the responding, “No shit. Really.”
11. My first girlfriend was a completely toxic situation. I was an experiment for her, and even after we broke off the physical aspect of the relationship she completely dominated my life. I couldn’t go out without her permission, I couldn’t talk about my boyfriends, I gave her money when she had none… It went on for about five years. I finally walked away when she started seeing a man that began doing the exact thing to her she’d done to me. I couldn’t stand it.
12. My first boyfriend was very religious, and often talked about the importance of sexual purity. The funny thing about this is that when I was seventeen he asked me to give him head, and when I was reluctant to do so he made me feel horribly guilty. I finally gave in, and he broke up with me that same weekend.
13. The second time around with this same boyfriend he did the exact same thing. We were in his basement, making out, and he asked for head again (this was three years after the first time we’d dated). This time I said no, and he broke up with me two days later.
14. There has been one man that I, without even a second thought, would have had sex with any time, any place. He was a playboy, and I spent over three years trying to flirt my way into him making a move—I even let him take photos of me naked while we went skinny-dipping one night— it wasn’t until later that I found out that he only sleeps with girls who approach him first. That way he doesn’t have to deal with as much drama when he leaves them.
15. He never, ever, laid a hand on me.
16. I don’t think that he’s capable of ever really loving anyone but himself, and this thought more than anything else completely devastates me.
17. My second boyfriend was amazing. He was funny, he was intelligent, he was more than willing to make out or grope or frot anytime I wanted. He was also a virgin, and very shy about touching me or letting me touch him. We broke up because the attraction had died, it was very mutual and very easy for us to part ways.
18. I still write fanfiction. I still write mainly homo-erotica, though my interests have widened significantly. There is nothing that arouses me more than the thought of two men grinding against each other or giving each other head.
19. I met my current girlfriend writing erotica. We even write it together.
20. She is significantly older and more experienced than I am, but I rarely feel like I’m young around her. She has a way of making me feel completely at ease with myself and my desires, and I never feel as if she’s judging me.
21. In every relationship I’ve been in until now I’ve been the dominant party. As much as I enjoy the control and the thrill of being the one giving pleasure, there is nothing I’d like more than to be pushed down by my partner and taken to the brink. I’d like someone to want to do that for me.
22. I jokingly told my girlfriend that I’ve been the man in every relationship I’d had. She laughed and told me, “Well let’s both be women this time.” The idea is far, far too pleasing to be healthy.
23. I love my girlfriend’s body. She’s pear-shaped with small, perky breasts and a round ass... And while I think those are glorious and I love them, my favorite places on her body are her calves, shoulders, wrists and the very tops of her feet. For some reason those places, when I get a peek of them, arouse me to no end.
24. I have been in two long-distance relationships. The first boyfriend lived three hours away by car. My girlfriend lives two hours away by plane. I think that the distance works for me. I have no way to become annoyingly clingy or too affectionate, and there’s much more time to focus on emotional intimacy rather than the physical part of the relationship being the driving force.
25. I recently ordered my very first vibrator. I’m too excited for words.
2. Around the seventh grade I got very into music, and one day I was looking up punk rock bands, and I accidentally stumbled across male/male slash fanfiction. My entire world changed.
3. I identify as bisexual. I’ve had two real relationships with men and two with women. I’ve kissed more women than men.
4. I’ve always known that I liked both genders, from the time I was in Catholic grade school. I used to hold hands with the other girls, and I never really understood why the teachers thought that was unacceptable. I’ve always been ultra-affectionate, but reluctantly, I began hiding my attraction to girls because of the way teachers would talk to me about my “behavior”.
5. Because of this, I upped the amount of time I spent flirting with and talking to boys. In retrospect I was severely overcompensating, but I wanted the adults to know I was someone they could look at and be proud of.
6. My first memory of masturbation was when I was six or seven. Disney’s Return of Jafar had just come out, and I had a very erotic dream about being forced to do the evil sorcerer’s bidding. I woke up panting and rubbing against my bed sheets. Since then I’ve always masturbated the same way, tangled in my sheets and using them to rub against my clitoris.
7. I hadn’t ever attempted to touch myself with my fingers until about six months ago. I’ve tried only a handful of times, but as soon as I feel my first finger pressing inside I either climax or get overstimulated and need to stop.
8. I’ve never been truly pleasured by a partner. My first girlfriend always made me do everything myself, because she was in an ‘experimental’ phase and wasn’t comfortable touching me. My first boyfriend tried to finger me twice and both times I told him to stop because it was horribly painful. The second boy was a virgin and nervous, and my current partner (another woman) and I are taking things very slowly.
9. Part of me is crushed by the previous, and the other relieved. I’ve always been ultra-sensitive about my vagina—as mentioned above, the few attempts I’ve had with it haven’t exactly turned out well— in fact, during my one and only ever pelvic exam I felt so violated that I sobbed and almost passed out.
10. I feel that this is the time to mention that I am also still a virgin. When my doctor tried to make a joke with me about the pain being from my still very, very intact hymen, I couldn’t hold back the responding, “No shit. Really.”
11. My first girlfriend was a completely toxic situation. I was an experiment for her, and even after we broke off the physical aspect of the relationship she completely dominated my life. I couldn’t go out without her permission, I couldn’t talk about my boyfriends, I gave her money when she had none… It went on for about five years. I finally walked away when she started seeing a man that began doing the exact thing to her she’d done to me. I couldn’t stand it.
12. My first boyfriend was very religious, and often talked about the importance of sexual purity. The funny thing about this is that when I was seventeen he asked me to give him head, and when I was reluctant to do so he made me feel horribly guilty. I finally gave in, and he broke up with me that same weekend.
13. The second time around with this same boyfriend he did the exact same thing. We were in his basement, making out, and he asked for head again (this was three years after the first time we’d dated). This time I said no, and he broke up with me two days later.
14. There has been one man that I, without even a second thought, would have had sex with any time, any place. He was a playboy, and I spent over three years trying to flirt my way into him making a move—I even let him take photos of me naked while we went skinny-dipping one night— it wasn’t until later that I found out that he only sleeps with girls who approach him first. That way he doesn’t have to deal with as much drama when he leaves them.
15. He never, ever, laid a hand on me.
16. I don’t think that he’s capable of ever really loving anyone but himself, and this thought more than anything else completely devastates me.
17. My second boyfriend was amazing. He was funny, he was intelligent, he was more than willing to make out or grope or frot anytime I wanted. He was also a virgin, and very shy about touching me or letting me touch him. We broke up because the attraction had died, it was very mutual and very easy for us to part ways.
18. I still write fanfiction. I still write mainly homo-erotica, though my interests have widened significantly. There is nothing that arouses me more than the thought of two men grinding against each other or giving each other head.
19. I met my current girlfriend writing erotica. We even write it together.
20. She is significantly older and more experienced than I am, but I rarely feel like I’m young around her. She has a way of making me feel completely at ease with myself and my desires, and I never feel as if she’s judging me.
21. In every relationship I’ve been in until now I’ve been the dominant party. As much as I enjoy the control and the thrill of being the one giving pleasure, there is nothing I’d like more than to be pushed down by my partner and taken to the brink. I’d like someone to want to do that for me.
22. I jokingly told my girlfriend that I’ve been the man in every relationship I’d had. She laughed and told me, “Well let’s both be women this time.” The idea is far, far too pleasing to be healthy.
23. I love my girlfriend’s body. She’s pear-shaped with small, perky breasts and a round ass... And while I think those are glorious and I love them, my favorite places on her body are her calves, shoulders, wrists and the very tops of her feet. For some reason those places, when I get a peek of them, arouse me to no end.
24. I have been in two long-distance relationships. The first boyfriend lived three hours away by car. My girlfriend lives two hours away by plane. I think that the distance works for me. I have no way to become annoyingly clingy or too affectionate, and there’s much more time to focus on emotional intimacy rather than the physical part of the relationship being the driving force.
25. I recently ordered my very first vibrator. I’m too excited for words.
Saturday, September 11, 2010
1. I am a 30 year old male.
2. I LOVE women. Nearly all women. All types, thick, thin, short, tall, blondes, brunettes and redheads.
3. If I had a type, it would be a thick, curvy woman with large breasts.
4. I lost my virginity at 13 to a girl I met while on vacation. I don't remember her name and was nervous as hell. She was 17.
5. I don't like my penis. I wish it were bigger. I have never had a complaint, but it is something I'm insecure about.
6. I love giving oral sex. I have gotten really good at it. I think part of the reason I love oral sex and have been so determined to master it is because of my "penis complex."
7. I don't usually call it a penis. I normally call it a dick, or while being intimate I call it my cock.
8. I got married this year. Last year I started an affair with a coworker. She is an older woman, who I know could never make me happy in a relationship, and I feel bad for doing it. The sex is really good, though--her blowjobs are the best I've ever had.
9. I've got to find a way to end things with this other woman.
10. I have had 8 different sexual partners, if you count intercourse as defining sex.
11. One of my sexual partners could orgasm up to 20 times during the course of intercourse. It was a huge ego booster! I wasn't completely attracted to her, but that was a huge turn-on.
12. I have had a voyeur/group sex fantasy for a while, but I am too apprehensive to bring it up to my wife. She is very vanilla when it comes to sex. I am somewhat reluctant to bring up some of my kinkier desires to her.
13. I love porn. Mostly amateur gonzo-style porn. I also like BBW and interracial porn. I enjoy all ages, just as long as they are into it. My tastes change from week to week, though. Currently, it's interracial MILFs.
14. I've never been attracted to men. The thought grosses me out. Don't get me wrong, I can openly admit if I think a guy is attractive, but beyond that is kind of beyond my limits.
15. I've considered visiting a Nevada brothel and having sex with a girl there. It's pretty expensive, but it would allow me to explore with a person I never have to see again.
16. I began masturbating at around 12. For a while I would do it just to see how many times I could come in one day.
17. Weirdest moment ever: My mom caught me masturbating in the shower once while on vacation... I didn't notice until she told me she saw what I was doing. Like it was something bad.
18. I've never used a condom. I know that sounds really fucked up. I've never had VD, and am very careful about partners.
19. Squirting is a huge turn-on. I have only made a woman squirt once or twice. I would love to make it happen more often.
20. I've actually learned a lot reading this site. I've had to Google terms sometimes.
21. I've never let a woman near my ass, and I don't think I ever will. The thought really doesn't do anything for me.
22. I know it's dumb, but I consider it kind of insulting if a woman doesn't swallow. If I can go down and ingest the juices coming out of her, then she should do the same for me.
23. I've only been with one spitter and I quickly converted her to a swallower.
24. I love clits--the bigger the better.
25. The best sex I've had has been with my wife. There was a time that we would be in bed all day and fuck for the majority of it. I even experimented with ED drugs and would push the limits of my endurance to constantly have the feeling of being inside of her and filling her up. She has the perfect pussy--it's tight, it's sweet tasting, and her clit is the perfect size to lick and suck. She comes mostly by oral sex, but when I am in a groove I can make her come with my dick.
2. I LOVE women. Nearly all women. All types, thick, thin, short, tall, blondes, brunettes and redheads.
3. If I had a type, it would be a thick, curvy woman with large breasts.
4. I lost my virginity at 13 to a girl I met while on vacation. I don't remember her name and was nervous as hell. She was 17.
5. I don't like my penis. I wish it were bigger. I have never had a complaint, but it is something I'm insecure about.
6. I love giving oral sex. I have gotten really good at it. I think part of the reason I love oral sex and have been so determined to master it is because of my "penis complex."
7. I don't usually call it a penis. I normally call it a dick, or while being intimate I call it my cock.
8. I got married this year. Last year I started an affair with a coworker. She is an older woman, who I know could never make me happy in a relationship, and I feel bad for doing it. The sex is really good, though--her blowjobs are the best I've ever had.
9. I've got to find a way to end things with this other woman.
10. I have had 8 different sexual partners, if you count intercourse as defining sex.
11. One of my sexual partners could orgasm up to 20 times during the course of intercourse. It was a huge ego booster! I wasn't completely attracted to her, but that was a huge turn-on.
12. I have had a voyeur/group sex fantasy for a while, but I am too apprehensive to bring it up to my wife. She is very vanilla when it comes to sex. I am somewhat reluctant to bring up some of my kinkier desires to her.
13. I love porn. Mostly amateur gonzo-style porn. I also like BBW and interracial porn. I enjoy all ages, just as long as they are into it. My tastes change from week to week, though. Currently, it's interracial MILFs.
14. I've never been attracted to men. The thought grosses me out. Don't get me wrong, I can openly admit if I think a guy is attractive, but beyond that is kind of beyond my limits.
15. I've considered visiting a Nevada brothel and having sex with a girl there. It's pretty expensive, but it would allow me to explore with a person I never have to see again.
16. I began masturbating at around 12. For a while I would do it just to see how many times I could come in one day.
17. Weirdest moment ever: My mom caught me masturbating in the shower once while on vacation... I didn't notice until she told me she saw what I was doing. Like it was something bad.
18. I've never used a condom. I know that sounds really fucked up. I've never had VD, and am very careful about partners.
19. Squirting is a huge turn-on. I have only made a woman squirt once or twice. I would love to make it happen more often.
20. I've actually learned a lot reading this site. I've had to Google terms sometimes.
21. I've never let a woman near my ass, and I don't think I ever will. The thought really doesn't do anything for me.
22. I know it's dumb, but I consider it kind of insulting if a woman doesn't swallow. If I can go down and ingest the juices coming out of her, then she should do the same for me.
23. I've only been with one spitter and I quickly converted her to a swallower.
24. I love clits--the bigger the better.
25. The best sex I've had has been with my wife. There was a time that we would be in bed all day and fuck for the majority of it. I even experimented with ED drugs and would push the limits of my endurance to constantly have the feeling of being inside of her and filling her up. She has the perfect pussy--it's tight, it's sweet tasting, and her clit is the perfect size to lick and suck. She comes mostly by oral sex, but when I am in a groove I can make her come with my dick.
Friday, September 10, 2010
1. When I was young (think 10, 11) I read an article about why women “don’t respond” to pornography. I spent a good four years thinking that there was something REALLY wrong with me, because even then, I knew that I couldn’t look away from people kissing—or more.
2. Luckily, a friend in high school kind of set me straight on that one. And before her, a friend in eighth grade introduced me to the idea of word porn. To this day, I like to say that I’m famous online—if you read fanfiction, you’ve probably read some of my porn.
3. Fanfiction and the like were my introduction to all the vagaries of human sexuality. I sometimes wonder how I would have turned out without certain influences, but I’m pretty sure that most of the things I’m drawn to, I would have been drawn to, with or without the internet. The internet and fandom just let me know that I’m not alone in my interests.
4. I’m a prolific fantasizer, with an incredibly healthy imagination. Put a hottie on screen, and I’m off to the races. Despite this, I’m the first to admit that my sexuality rests on theory and fantasy. I have little to no interest in people I actually know/have a snowball’s chance in hell at seeing in a sexual situation. It’s almost as if a man has to be completely out of my realm of existence to become a sexual figure for me.
5. I identify mentally and physically as female, but sexually as male. Confusing, right? What it basically boils down to is that I am a straight girl (okay, a Kinsey 1.5) with a gay man’s sexuality. I am attracted to men in such a way that I identify on a similar sexual field, I fantasize about being the penetrating partner, and I sometimes think that sex would make so much more sense if I had a penis.
6. As there is no way I am getting a penis, most of my fantasies (and there are a lot of them) involve strap-ons and gay men. I’m kind of getting resigned to the fact that my favorite/best fantasies all involve threesomes, and slowly learning to enjoy the fact that, yeah, alright, there’s a fair bit of poly in me.
7. I have it on really good authority that I write great porn. I write women’s AND men’s erotica, and am kinda sorta planning on paying for college that way. Writing porn lets me put my fantasies onto paper, and there’s something wonderful about putting the images and sensations in my mind into words.
8. Despite my wonderful mental life, I have never had romantic contact with ANYONE. I have never held hands, kissed, or been touched by someone who desires me, or whom I desire. As I am nearing twenty, I get more and more afraid that my romantic/sexual life will be forever constrained to my fantasies.
9. I have pretty much zero confidence in my body, most of the time. I am 5’5” and weigh 200 pounds, and have been gaining weight steadily since I was 11. I wore a AA bra until the last semester of eighth grade, when I shot to a DD. Baby got back, but even though my friends in my predominantly African-American neighborhood assure me that this is attractive to the right men, I have to confront the fact that a) the right men don’t seem to exist and b) they may think that, but the wider world would much rather I wore a size 0.
10. The only times I’m really confident in my skin—the only times I actively feel sexy, hot, or desirable—are the times I’m in costume. I make costumes and cosplay for various anime/fantasy/sci-fi cons, and I make a point of choosing characters that are believably larger. But even though I’m your stereotypical “fat cosplay girl”, something about the act of putting on another face makes me feel like I’m someone else, and that I have all the attractiveness of that person. Quite possibly, this is all tied up in that thing where I only have the hots for men who might as well live in another universe.
11. Every once in a while, I go into fits of “girliness.” I go shopping, buy make-up, and put some serious effort into my appearance. Standing in front of the mirror, sponge applicator in hand, I feel beautiful. I like to do big, dramatic things when I’m going out, so I have a lot of bright and dark colors with lots of glitter. When I’m just going to work or class, though, I go for what my BFF refers to as "maneater lawyer": subtle and dangerous. It makes me feel more like a woman, more like an adult, someone who people look at and consider a sexual being.
12. When I want to be seen, I like to play up the drama. Leather maneater skirt, sequined tank top, and heels that put me a good four inches taller. Top with sparkly eyeliner and glittery, smoky eyeshadow, and you’ve got a recipe for my kind of night out. I’m hard to miss, and I know it. So I’m determined to make sure you remember something besides my chub-arms. I gotta say, some days, I’m pretty sure I succeed. (And hell, even if I don’t? I make myself forget. To me, that’s all that really matters.)
13. I masturbate. A lot. There are no two ways about this. I started to masturbate when I was in the third grade, not that I knew what it was, but when I was thirteen? Yeaaaaah. Now, six years later, I can safely say that the longest I have gone without masturbating is two months. Normally, I’ll masturbate twice a day. When I’m premenstrual, though, that number increases. Like you would not believe.
14. When I say twice, I mean two completely separate occasions. Because not only am I orgasmic, but I am multi-orgasmic. Consecutively. My record is eight orgasms in five minutes, not counting the ten minute build-up to the first one.
15. But I can’t handle penetration, at all. The single worst experience of my life was not being sexually assaulted on the bus, it was my first pelvic exam. I’m kind of certain that there’s something wrong with me, because even using tampons hurts, but I’m not sure how to bring it up with the doctor without being brushed off; she didn’t seem that concerned about how much pain I was in from the pelvic.
16. I get off embarrassingly quickly while fellating some phallic object. Don’t ask; I have no effing clue.
17. The idea of shaving my pubic hair freaks me out. A light trim, sure. But going nude? Or even mostly bare? HELL TO THE NO. Maybe it’s the idea of a sharp object that close to my clit and labia. Maybe it’s the fact that hey, men aren’t expected to have cute designs shaved into their rug. Maybe it’s just the fact that I am so, so lazy when it comes to shaving ANYTHING. Whatever it is, though, if it’s not a factor of getting into a swimsuit without humiliating myself, you can forget about it.
18. Even without sexual experience, I am a kinky bitch and I know it. I am into BDSM, and am a regular contributor (paid, and paid well, thankyouverymuch) to a BDSM erotica site. I’ll admit that the sense of power I get (this overweight, fish-belly-white 19-year-old girl is getting you off, what) from knowing that people pay premium prices to see my work is quite heady. But that’s really the least of it. If you name a kink, I’ve probably considered it for a few seconds, quite possibly more. At this point in my life, however, I feel safe in saying that I am into dominating multiple men who would still be comfortable enough to be confident in their own sexuality and pleasure, who would also allow me to nurture/coddle them on occasion.
19. I cannot find the guts to buy a vibrator. Part of it is that whole penetration issue, even though half the reason I want to get a vibrator is because I think experiencing it in a more pleasurable context might help. Another part of it is—and this is stupid—I’m worried what people would think if they found out.
20. I don’t think that sex and love are necessarily related, and, quite frankly, the idea of pinning all of my sexuality on waiting for “true love” seems like a load of bull to me. Besides, I’d much rather get through that awkward “the only thing I know about your genitalia I either learnt from porn or bio class” thing with someone else, maybe even a couple of someone elses. I know that there are definitely things I would enjoy that I can’t even think of at this moment, and the idea of missing out on that because I allowed society to artificially control my sex drive? Yeah, no.
21. I’m a very sexual person, and any men I might someday have a relationship with need to know that I will come into said relationship with a very solid knowledge of my own pleasure. I am determined that I will not be afraid to ask for what I want or need. At the same time, however, I want my men to be on an even playing field. Tell me what you want, and I’ll let you know.
22. I want to date older men. Boys my age just don’t do it for me. But I like them young looking. Like Matthew Gray-Gubler? I’d be all over that. In a heartbeat. But even in my mind I need someone a little more sexually secure, so I’d have to say either Mark Salling (as Puck) or Christopher Gorham are pretty much the epitome of who I’d like to be tying to my bed... actually, preferably both. Mrow.
23. Paradoxically, I am both ashamed of and proud of my sexuality. It all depends on the context and the situation. For instance, if my mother ever read this? I would die of embarrassment. Same for at least two of my college friends. But if my BFF from high school saw this, I’m pretty damn sure she’d just shake her head and laugh. After all, she was the first person I told about the fact that I sometimes feel like a gay man in a woman’s body.
24. I want to have sex. Like, stupidly badly. I just get so insecure when I see all these people saying “I didn’t lose my virginity until I was (insert age that is younger than I am)” and acting like OMG THEY ARE SUCH OLD MAIDS. Maybe because I’m terrified that I’ll become an old maid. And maybe just because I’m a horny college girl.
25. I am a horny college girl. There’s no getting around that fact. And I’m not sure that I should have to.
2. Luckily, a friend in high school kind of set me straight on that one. And before her, a friend in eighth grade introduced me to the idea of word porn. To this day, I like to say that I’m famous online—if you read fanfiction, you’ve probably read some of my porn.
3. Fanfiction and the like were my introduction to all the vagaries of human sexuality. I sometimes wonder how I would have turned out without certain influences, but I’m pretty sure that most of the things I’m drawn to, I would have been drawn to, with or without the internet. The internet and fandom just let me know that I’m not alone in my interests.
4. I’m a prolific fantasizer, with an incredibly healthy imagination. Put a hottie on screen, and I’m off to the races. Despite this, I’m the first to admit that my sexuality rests on theory and fantasy. I have little to no interest in people I actually know/have a snowball’s chance in hell at seeing in a sexual situation. It’s almost as if a man has to be completely out of my realm of existence to become a sexual figure for me.
5. I identify mentally and physically as female, but sexually as male. Confusing, right? What it basically boils down to is that I am a straight girl (okay, a Kinsey 1.5) with a gay man’s sexuality. I am attracted to men in such a way that I identify on a similar sexual field, I fantasize about being the penetrating partner, and I sometimes think that sex would make so much more sense if I had a penis.
6. As there is no way I am getting a penis, most of my fantasies (and there are a lot of them) involve strap-ons and gay men. I’m kind of getting resigned to the fact that my favorite/best fantasies all involve threesomes, and slowly learning to enjoy the fact that, yeah, alright, there’s a fair bit of poly in me.
7. I have it on really good authority that I write great porn. I write women’s AND men’s erotica, and am kinda sorta planning on paying for college that way. Writing porn lets me put my fantasies onto paper, and there’s something wonderful about putting the images and sensations in my mind into words.
8. Despite my wonderful mental life, I have never had romantic contact with ANYONE. I have never held hands, kissed, or been touched by someone who desires me, or whom I desire. As I am nearing twenty, I get more and more afraid that my romantic/sexual life will be forever constrained to my fantasies.
9. I have pretty much zero confidence in my body, most of the time. I am 5’5” and weigh 200 pounds, and have been gaining weight steadily since I was 11. I wore a AA bra until the last semester of eighth grade, when I shot to a DD. Baby got back, but even though my friends in my predominantly African-American neighborhood assure me that this is attractive to the right men, I have to confront the fact that a) the right men don’t seem to exist and b) they may think that, but the wider world would much rather I wore a size 0.
10. The only times I’m really confident in my skin—the only times I actively feel sexy, hot, or desirable—are the times I’m in costume. I make costumes and cosplay for various anime/fantasy/sci-fi cons, and I make a point of choosing characters that are believably larger. But even though I’m your stereotypical “fat cosplay girl”, something about the act of putting on another face makes me feel like I’m someone else, and that I have all the attractiveness of that person. Quite possibly, this is all tied up in that thing where I only have the hots for men who might as well live in another universe.
11. Every once in a while, I go into fits of “girliness.” I go shopping, buy make-up, and put some serious effort into my appearance. Standing in front of the mirror, sponge applicator in hand, I feel beautiful. I like to do big, dramatic things when I’m going out, so I have a lot of bright and dark colors with lots of glitter. When I’m just going to work or class, though, I go for what my BFF refers to as "maneater lawyer": subtle and dangerous. It makes me feel more like a woman, more like an adult, someone who people look at and consider a sexual being.
12. When I want to be seen, I like to play up the drama. Leather maneater skirt, sequined tank top, and heels that put me a good four inches taller. Top with sparkly eyeliner and glittery, smoky eyeshadow, and you’ve got a recipe for my kind of night out. I’m hard to miss, and I know it. So I’m determined to make sure you remember something besides my chub-arms. I gotta say, some days, I’m pretty sure I succeed. (And hell, even if I don’t? I make myself forget. To me, that’s all that really matters.)
13. I masturbate. A lot. There are no two ways about this. I started to masturbate when I was in the third grade, not that I knew what it was, but when I was thirteen? Yeaaaaah. Now, six years later, I can safely say that the longest I have gone without masturbating is two months. Normally, I’ll masturbate twice a day. When I’m premenstrual, though, that number increases. Like you would not believe.
14. When I say twice, I mean two completely separate occasions. Because not only am I orgasmic, but I am multi-orgasmic. Consecutively. My record is eight orgasms in five minutes, not counting the ten minute build-up to the first one.
15. But I can’t handle penetration, at all. The single worst experience of my life was not being sexually assaulted on the bus, it was my first pelvic exam. I’m kind of certain that there’s something wrong with me, because even using tampons hurts, but I’m not sure how to bring it up with the doctor without being brushed off; she didn’t seem that concerned about how much pain I was in from the pelvic.
16. I get off embarrassingly quickly while fellating some phallic object. Don’t ask; I have no effing clue.
17. The idea of shaving my pubic hair freaks me out. A light trim, sure. But going nude? Or even mostly bare? HELL TO THE NO. Maybe it’s the idea of a sharp object that close to my clit and labia. Maybe it’s the fact that hey, men aren’t expected to have cute designs shaved into their rug. Maybe it’s just the fact that I am so, so lazy when it comes to shaving ANYTHING. Whatever it is, though, if it’s not a factor of getting into a swimsuit without humiliating myself, you can forget about it.
18. Even without sexual experience, I am a kinky bitch and I know it. I am into BDSM, and am a regular contributor (paid, and paid well, thankyouverymuch) to a BDSM erotica site. I’ll admit that the sense of power I get (this overweight, fish-belly-white 19-year-old girl is getting you off, what) from knowing that people pay premium prices to see my work is quite heady. But that’s really the least of it. If you name a kink, I’ve probably considered it for a few seconds, quite possibly more. At this point in my life, however, I feel safe in saying that I am into dominating multiple men who would still be comfortable enough to be confident in their own sexuality and pleasure, who would also allow me to nurture/coddle them on occasion.
19. I cannot find the guts to buy a vibrator. Part of it is that whole penetration issue, even though half the reason I want to get a vibrator is because I think experiencing it in a more pleasurable context might help. Another part of it is—and this is stupid—I’m worried what people would think if they found out.
20. I don’t think that sex and love are necessarily related, and, quite frankly, the idea of pinning all of my sexuality on waiting for “true love” seems like a load of bull to me. Besides, I’d much rather get through that awkward “the only thing I know about your genitalia I either learnt from porn or bio class” thing with someone else, maybe even a couple of someone elses. I know that there are definitely things I would enjoy that I can’t even think of at this moment, and the idea of missing out on that because I allowed society to artificially control my sex drive? Yeah, no.
21. I’m a very sexual person, and any men I might someday have a relationship with need to know that I will come into said relationship with a very solid knowledge of my own pleasure. I am determined that I will not be afraid to ask for what I want or need. At the same time, however, I want my men to be on an even playing field. Tell me what you want, and I’ll let you know.
22. I want to date older men. Boys my age just don’t do it for me. But I like them young looking. Like Matthew Gray-Gubler? I’d be all over that. In a heartbeat. But even in my mind I need someone a little more sexually secure, so I’d have to say either Mark Salling (as Puck) or Christopher Gorham are pretty much the epitome of who I’d like to be tying to my bed... actually, preferably both. Mrow.
23. Paradoxically, I am both ashamed of and proud of my sexuality. It all depends on the context and the situation. For instance, if my mother ever read this? I would die of embarrassment. Same for at least two of my college friends. But if my BFF from high school saw this, I’m pretty damn sure she’d just shake her head and laugh. After all, she was the first person I told about the fact that I sometimes feel like a gay man in a woman’s body.
24. I want to have sex. Like, stupidly badly. I just get so insecure when I see all these people saying “I didn’t lose my virginity until I was (insert age that is younger than I am)” and acting like OMG THEY ARE SUCH OLD MAIDS. Maybe because I’m terrified that I’ll become an old maid. And maybe just because I’m a horny college girl.
25. I am a horny college girl. There’s no getting around that fact. And I’m not sure that I should have to.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
1. I seem to have a nerve bundle along the left side of my outer labia that feels as good or better when touched as clitoral stimulation. I didn’t figure out how to touch myself with my hands until about three years ago. I’m 38. My husband refers to it as my true North having been dragged about a half inch to the left. I love that description and how funny and caring it is. Now when I want him to touch or lick me there, I call it true North.
2. I first masturbated at seven by rocking back and forth on the bench of my family piano when I should have been practicing. The bench had a poorly attached leg and would move when I played. That’s the first hint I had that something felt good between my legs, when it moved beneath me. This piano is now in my house.
3. I had a couple of really positive sexual experiences when I was fourteen, one after the other. One with a guy who I had a deep mutual affection for and we had a lot of fun in bed together. The other was someone I would hook up with sometimes and didn’t have feelings for, but the sex was hot. While I didn’t have intercourse with either of them, we did everything else. I remember enjoying touching and being touched, experimenting, having orgasms, giving pleasure, the whole nine yards. I got very freaked out that I wasn’t in love with either of them and that neither of them was really what I thought I wanted or needed in a boyfriend. I guess I wasn’t emotionally mature enough for the situation. I didn’t really date again until I was nearly seventeen. I still have really mixed feelings about this. I think I didn’t do things that made me uncomfortable, which is great; on the other hand, it would have been great if I could have had those relationships without feeling uncomfortable or like I was doing something wrong.
4. The bulk of my sexual experiences after that were not so good. I felt like the other person should love me; when they did like me or have feelings for me, I normally freaked and ran. I sucked at relationships and hookups in high school, and pretty much into my twenties, really. It was all tied up with rejection.
5. I asked my mother how babies were made when I was 5 or 6. She gave me a really thorough, honest explanation, including how birth control worked. By the end of it I was so bored I actually asked if we could just not talk about it anymore.
6. My mom had a copy of Delta of Venus on her bookshelf. I read the lesbian threesome story so many times that the book eventually disintegrated at that point in the spine. Erotica, both writing it and reading it, and reading about sex and sexuality in general has figured heavily in my life ever since.
7. I had a really phenomenal summer romance at seventeen. I had intercourse for the first time with him, and I would say that’s when I lost my virginity, too. I think the two can be mutually exclusive. He was sixteen, a sweetheart, funny, lovely and a really good lover. I know how lucky I am
8. I also have him (and those two guys when I was fourteen) to thank for my sanity, because I was sexually assaulted by a friend when I was nineteen. Sex was somewhat screwed up for me for a couple of years after that and I think I’m so lucky I had formative experiences that showed me it could be good. When things were at their worst, I knew I’d had positive sexual experiences before and that I could have them again. If there was a way for me to find these three people and thank them without it being tremendously weird, I would.
9. I’ve been on anti-depressants twice. The first time I had a harder time climaxing. The second time (the past year), I remained just as orgasmic but my body map changed a lot. I feel things in different places on my body, come differently, masturbate less and want partner contact more. I actually feel sensations of arousal across my collarbone now, which is totally new for me. It’s been really interesting.
10. I identify as bi. I’ve been in one relationship with a woman and have hooked up with one other. I still have attractions to women. It seems to happen once every two or three years and it’s usually totally overwhelming, like, God, if weren’t in a monogamous relationship I’d have my face between your legs right now. I am attracted to men more frequently, but it’s not usually that devastating.
11. I had both asthma and a near-drowning experience as a kid. These are the two reasons I normally tell people I can’t read about, write about or have sex involving breathplay or choking in any way. The third reason is that in the year or so after I was assaulted, the only way I could orgasm during sex is if I was being choked out. I had a partner I trusted who did this for me and it was actually very enjoyable. But now I associate it with that time of recovery and I never want to do it again. I think I’d hyperventilate if I tried it. I don’t tell anyone about this.
12. While I certainly switch up and have lots of non-role oriented sex, at the end of the day I identify as a pushy bottom. It makes me happy.
13. I love giving head. Love it. I actually go into a near-meditative state doing it sometimes; sometimes it turns me on so much I have to stop and have intercourse immediately because I get so close to coming.
14. I love receiving head. Nothing else feels like that to me. It’s the best. My husband is amazing at it and I make sure to tell him that. A lot.
15. I had anal sex routinely with one long-term partner (and a couple of others) and really liked it. It didn’t interest me again until the last year or so. I’d really like to do it with my husband, both giving and receiving, rimming, fingering, etc. Whatever variation of it would turn him on. I’m really afraid to bring this up though since he has no interest in it to my knowledge and I don’t want him to feel pressured about it.
16. My husband and I are working up to doing vaginal fisting and I’m really looking forward to it. I think we’ll both like it. Everything we’ve done building toward it so far has been intimate and awesome and hot.
17. I regret not having ever had group sex. It’s something I fantasize about. I have been in a threesome, and a couple of kissing parties with friends, and it was fun.
18. I don’t regret my decision not to enter into a relationship with someone who was only interested in my feet (and basically proposed a sexual relationship with my feet). The guy in question was really hot and some of my friends thought I was nuts not to do it, but I have no foot fetish or interest in having my feet worshipped, so it wasn’t right for me.
19. Monogamy is part of my sexuality these days. It’s part of what makes me feel safe enough to be completely free in my sexuality and with my husband. I’ve wished in the past sometimes that I was more evolved and more open to other experiences. But I’ve come to feel this works for me so I’m good with it. It’s possible this will change in the future, but so far this is what works.
20. That said, I’ve been in a few situations since getting together with my husband where we were in front of other people while touching sexually – once at a party, once at a massage workshop. We were both totally into it and never had any weird feelings or jealousy or shame about it. It occurs to me now this is something we might want to explore further.
21. I have been writing and reading slash fiction for the last year. It’s become my main hobby. It has had a really positive effect on my sex life. I feel more in touch with my desires and more open to trying new things.
22. It’s also great to be in constant dialogue about sex and sexuality with my online communities. I have trouble talking about sex with most of my friends now that I’m married. It feels like I’m betraying my husband somehow.
23. I definitely have masculine characteristics. Sometimes I feel like I’m closer to being a gay man than anything else. And two guys together, the idea of it, turns me on no end.
24. Three years ago I was fairly certain my husband and I were headed for divorce and our sex life was practically non-existent. A lot of hard work later, we’re not only stronger than ever but I’m having the best sex of my life. I’m very proud of both of us for this. Clear air is the best aphrodisiac.
25. Sex can be so many things. An expression of love, comforting, a distraction, a high, a thrill, silly, exciting. It can be awesome on your own or with someone you care about or with someone you don’t. I think all that matters is that you feel good about what’s happening and can forgive yourself for when it’s not perfect. Took me a long time to get to that, but I’m there now.
2. I first masturbated at seven by rocking back and forth on the bench of my family piano when I should have been practicing. The bench had a poorly attached leg and would move when I played. That’s the first hint I had that something felt good between my legs, when it moved beneath me. This piano is now in my house.
3. I had a couple of really positive sexual experiences when I was fourteen, one after the other. One with a guy who I had a deep mutual affection for and we had a lot of fun in bed together. The other was someone I would hook up with sometimes and didn’t have feelings for, but the sex was hot. While I didn’t have intercourse with either of them, we did everything else. I remember enjoying touching and being touched, experimenting, having orgasms, giving pleasure, the whole nine yards. I got very freaked out that I wasn’t in love with either of them and that neither of them was really what I thought I wanted or needed in a boyfriend. I guess I wasn’t emotionally mature enough for the situation. I didn’t really date again until I was nearly seventeen. I still have really mixed feelings about this. I think I didn’t do things that made me uncomfortable, which is great; on the other hand, it would have been great if I could have had those relationships without feeling uncomfortable or like I was doing something wrong.
4. The bulk of my sexual experiences after that were not so good. I felt like the other person should love me; when they did like me or have feelings for me, I normally freaked and ran. I sucked at relationships and hookups in high school, and pretty much into my twenties, really. It was all tied up with rejection.
5. I asked my mother how babies were made when I was 5 or 6. She gave me a really thorough, honest explanation, including how birth control worked. By the end of it I was so bored I actually asked if we could just not talk about it anymore.
6. My mom had a copy of Delta of Venus on her bookshelf. I read the lesbian threesome story so many times that the book eventually disintegrated at that point in the spine. Erotica, both writing it and reading it, and reading about sex and sexuality in general has figured heavily in my life ever since.
7. I had a really phenomenal summer romance at seventeen. I had intercourse for the first time with him, and I would say that’s when I lost my virginity, too. I think the two can be mutually exclusive. He was sixteen, a sweetheart, funny, lovely and a really good lover. I know how lucky I am
8. I also have him (and those two guys when I was fourteen) to thank for my sanity, because I was sexually assaulted by a friend when I was nineteen. Sex was somewhat screwed up for me for a couple of years after that and I think I’m so lucky I had formative experiences that showed me it could be good. When things were at their worst, I knew I’d had positive sexual experiences before and that I could have them again. If there was a way for me to find these three people and thank them without it being tremendously weird, I would.
9. I’ve been on anti-depressants twice. The first time I had a harder time climaxing. The second time (the past year), I remained just as orgasmic but my body map changed a lot. I feel things in different places on my body, come differently, masturbate less and want partner contact more. I actually feel sensations of arousal across my collarbone now, which is totally new for me. It’s been really interesting.
10. I identify as bi. I’ve been in one relationship with a woman and have hooked up with one other. I still have attractions to women. It seems to happen once every two or three years and it’s usually totally overwhelming, like, God, if weren’t in a monogamous relationship I’d have my face between your legs right now. I am attracted to men more frequently, but it’s not usually that devastating.
11. I had both asthma and a near-drowning experience as a kid. These are the two reasons I normally tell people I can’t read about, write about or have sex involving breathplay or choking in any way. The third reason is that in the year or so after I was assaulted, the only way I could orgasm during sex is if I was being choked out. I had a partner I trusted who did this for me and it was actually very enjoyable. But now I associate it with that time of recovery and I never want to do it again. I think I’d hyperventilate if I tried it. I don’t tell anyone about this.
12. While I certainly switch up and have lots of non-role oriented sex, at the end of the day I identify as a pushy bottom. It makes me happy.
13. I love giving head. Love it. I actually go into a near-meditative state doing it sometimes; sometimes it turns me on so much I have to stop and have intercourse immediately because I get so close to coming.
14. I love receiving head. Nothing else feels like that to me. It’s the best. My husband is amazing at it and I make sure to tell him that. A lot.
15. I had anal sex routinely with one long-term partner (and a couple of others) and really liked it. It didn’t interest me again until the last year or so. I’d really like to do it with my husband, both giving and receiving, rimming, fingering, etc. Whatever variation of it would turn him on. I’m really afraid to bring this up though since he has no interest in it to my knowledge and I don’t want him to feel pressured about it.
16. My husband and I are working up to doing vaginal fisting and I’m really looking forward to it. I think we’ll both like it. Everything we’ve done building toward it so far has been intimate and awesome and hot.
17. I regret not having ever had group sex. It’s something I fantasize about. I have been in a threesome, and a couple of kissing parties with friends, and it was fun.
18. I don’t regret my decision not to enter into a relationship with someone who was only interested in my feet (and basically proposed a sexual relationship with my feet). The guy in question was really hot and some of my friends thought I was nuts not to do it, but I have no foot fetish or interest in having my feet worshipped, so it wasn’t right for me.
19. Monogamy is part of my sexuality these days. It’s part of what makes me feel safe enough to be completely free in my sexuality and with my husband. I’ve wished in the past sometimes that I was more evolved and more open to other experiences. But I’ve come to feel this works for me so I’m good with it. It’s possible this will change in the future, but so far this is what works.
20. That said, I’ve been in a few situations since getting together with my husband where we were in front of other people while touching sexually – once at a party, once at a massage workshop. We were both totally into it and never had any weird feelings or jealousy or shame about it. It occurs to me now this is something we might want to explore further.
21. I have been writing and reading slash fiction for the last year. It’s become my main hobby. It has had a really positive effect on my sex life. I feel more in touch with my desires and more open to trying new things.
22. It’s also great to be in constant dialogue about sex and sexuality with my online communities. I have trouble talking about sex with most of my friends now that I’m married. It feels like I’m betraying my husband somehow.
23. I definitely have masculine characteristics. Sometimes I feel like I’m closer to being a gay man than anything else. And two guys together, the idea of it, turns me on no end.
24. Three years ago I was fairly certain my husband and I were headed for divorce and our sex life was practically non-existent. A lot of hard work later, we’re not only stronger than ever but I’m having the best sex of my life. I’m very proud of both of us for this. Clear air is the best aphrodisiac.
25. Sex can be so many things. An expression of love, comforting, a distraction, a high, a thrill, silly, exciting. It can be awesome on your own or with someone you care about or with someone you don’t. I think all that matters is that you feel good about what’s happening and can forgive yourself for when it’s not perfect. Took me a long time to get to that, but I’m there now.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
1. I lost my virginity when I was 20 on a cold beach in the middle of the night during a retreat. I told everyone that I orgasmed, including the girl I slept with. I lied.
2. My boobs aren't sensitive at all. Neither are my nipples. I feel kind of guilty because my girlfriend loves to play with them and it does nothing for me and it frustrates her. I'm very grateful that hers are super sensitive, though, because I looooove sucking them so, so much.
3. When I was around 6 or 7, I had my first kiss with a boy who lived down the street. We kissed all the time, lying in his bed and hiding under blankets and pillows. My mom eventually found out and told me I was only allowed to kiss him goodbye.
4. In second grade, my best friend at the time slept over at my house. In the middle of the night I woke up while he was still sleeping. I spent a good 5 minutes deciding whether or not to kiss him. I got really close to doing it but ultimately decided against it.
5. I really, really, really like to be a tease, especially when I'm going down on my girlfriend. Having her push my head down or lift up her hips to try and get me to touch her is one of the hottest things ever.
6. I guess it's a control thing because I also love holding her hands down so that she can't guide me or anything.
7. That being said, I also love being completely submissive and fucked relentlessly.
8. I'm guess I'm kind of an exhibitionist. It's not necessarily that I get off on the idea of having sex in public, I just want to have sex everywhere and “everywhere” just happens to include public places.
9. I started looking at porn when I was 13. I watched straight porn for a while, but it didn't really do much for me, so I turned to gay porn. It's still the only kind of porn I really watch because most lesbian porn is ridiculous/boring unless it's the Crash Pad series (or any porn made for/by queer women).
10. I only watch porn when I'm too tired to read erotica (which I find much more enjoyable). When I watch porn, it's more for the audio. I'd much rather let my mind wander through my own fantasies.
11. Girls with shortish brown hair and a bit of hipster style/androgyny will make me turn my head, but femmes with long blonde hair and legs for days will make me stare. Especially if they walk around like they're hot and they know it. (See: Blake Lively, Dianna Agron, etc.)
12. Along those same lines, I think it's amazingly sexy when a girl raises her eyebrow just so.
13. When it comes to ass or tits, you gotta have both. There's nothing I love more than grabbing ass. Except for maybe sucking on tits.
14. My favorite place to kiss is right above the collarbone where the neck meets the shoulder. And by kiss I mean bite/suck.
15. My ears are one of the most sensitive places on my body. Licking or sucking them will send shivers down my spine every single time.
16. I had my first girl kiss my freshman year of college. She was blackout drunk and didn't remember a thing.
17. I had my first real kiss my senior year of high school with my best guy friend who I had liked on and off all through high school. We tried being friends with benefits but it never really worked out.
18. The furthest I ever went with a boy was a handjob while a bunch of us were sleeping in a friend's dorm room freshman year. It was my 19th birthday, first time I'd ever drank, and I'd only known the guy for a few hours. I can't remember his name for the life of me.
19. I'm pretty quiet during sex. When I lived at home, I had to be really quiet while masturbating because we have fairly thin walls and I didn't want to get caught. Making noise while getting off is such a foreign concept to me.
20. That being said, I love it when my girlfriend moans and gasps when we have sex. Even more so when I'm close to coming. It makes my orgasm just that much better. I might even go so far as to say I can't orgasm without at least some audible cues letting me know that I'm making her feel good.
21. I could spend hours eating pussy. I love everything about it. Taste, smell, feel. I feel very fortunate that my girlfriend loves when I go down on her.
22. I get wet really easily.
23. I love having my neck sucked/bitten. I'm not sure how I feel about the marks afterwards, but for the most part I think they're worth it.
24. I'm a very attentive lover. I will do anything and everything to make my partner enjoy every second of sex.
25. My girlfriend has never orgasmed with another person, and I would do anything to be the one to change that.
2. My boobs aren't sensitive at all. Neither are my nipples. I feel kind of guilty because my girlfriend loves to play with them and it does nothing for me and it frustrates her. I'm very grateful that hers are super sensitive, though, because I looooove sucking them so, so much.
3. When I was around 6 or 7, I had my first kiss with a boy who lived down the street. We kissed all the time, lying in his bed and hiding under blankets and pillows. My mom eventually found out and told me I was only allowed to kiss him goodbye.
4. In second grade, my best friend at the time slept over at my house. In the middle of the night I woke up while he was still sleeping. I spent a good 5 minutes deciding whether or not to kiss him. I got really close to doing it but ultimately decided against it.
5. I really, really, really like to be a tease, especially when I'm going down on my girlfriend. Having her push my head down or lift up her hips to try and get me to touch her is one of the hottest things ever.
6. I guess it's a control thing because I also love holding her hands down so that she can't guide me or anything.
7. That being said, I also love being completely submissive and fucked relentlessly.
8. I'm guess I'm kind of an exhibitionist. It's not necessarily that I get off on the idea of having sex in public, I just want to have sex everywhere and “everywhere” just happens to include public places.
9. I started looking at porn when I was 13. I watched straight porn for a while, but it didn't really do much for me, so I turned to gay porn. It's still the only kind of porn I really watch because most lesbian porn is ridiculous/boring unless it's the Crash Pad series (or any porn made for/by queer women).
10. I only watch porn when I'm too tired to read erotica (which I find much more enjoyable). When I watch porn, it's more for the audio. I'd much rather let my mind wander through my own fantasies.
11. Girls with shortish brown hair and a bit of hipster style/androgyny will make me turn my head, but femmes with long blonde hair and legs for days will make me stare. Especially if they walk around like they're hot and they know it. (See: Blake Lively, Dianna Agron, etc.)
12. Along those same lines, I think it's amazingly sexy when a girl raises her eyebrow just so.
13. When it comes to ass or tits, you gotta have both. There's nothing I love more than grabbing ass. Except for maybe sucking on tits.
14. My favorite place to kiss is right above the collarbone where the neck meets the shoulder. And by kiss I mean bite/suck.
15. My ears are one of the most sensitive places on my body. Licking or sucking them will send shivers down my spine every single time.
16. I had my first girl kiss my freshman year of college. She was blackout drunk and didn't remember a thing.
17. I had my first real kiss my senior year of high school with my best guy friend who I had liked on and off all through high school. We tried being friends with benefits but it never really worked out.
18. The furthest I ever went with a boy was a handjob while a bunch of us were sleeping in a friend's dorm room freshman year. It was my 19th birthday, first time I'd ever drank, and I'd only known the guy for a few hours. I can't remember his name for the life of me.
19. I'm pretty quiet during sex. When I lived at home, I had to be really quiet while masturbating because we have fairly thin walls and I didn't want to get caught. Making noise while getting off is such a foreign concept to me.
20. That being said, I love it when my girlfriend moans and gasps when we have sex. Even more so when I'm close to coming. It makes my orgasm just that much better. I might even go so far as to say I can't orgasm without at least some audible cues letting me know that I'm making her feel good.
21. I could spend hours eating pussy. I love everything about it. Taste, smell, feel. I feel very fortunate that my girlfriend loves when I go down on her.
22. I get wet really easily.
23. I love having my neck sucked/bitten. I'm not sure how I feel about the marks afterwards, but for the most part I think they're worth it.
24. I'm a very attentive lover. I will do anything and everything to make my partner enjoy every second of sex.
25. My girlfriend has never orgasmed with another person, and I would do anything to be the one to change that.
Monday, August 23, 2010
1 . I'm 32, female. I'm married to a man but I like women too.
2 . I don't like to call myself bisexual. I think sometimes labels are too rigid and I don't feel comfortable with them.
3 . Maybe a reason for #2 is that I have never been in love with a woman. I like to have sex with both women and men, but I don’t think I'm capable of having a serious relationship with a female.
4 . Another possible reason is that I don't enjoy being with a woman as much as I do with a man. I don't know if this is because I'm not that into women, or I just haven't found the right female partner yet.
5 . My husband and I are swingers. I love the idea of sharing intimacy with other people, without the classic commitment of a romantic relationship. It's refreshing, and at the same time it feels like going home. I think we all need physical, erotic contact to feel alive. And I can't find a reason to limit that to a monogamous partnership. I've thought this way since I can remember, which caused me some trouble in the past.
6 . Despite #5, I understand and respect other ways to be in a relationship; I don't even know if I'll like to swing until I die. For now, it just works for me.
7 . Polyamory sounds interesting to me, too. I've recently got into a 'friend-with-benefits' relationship. It just happened. He is a very good friend of us, and I've been always sexually attracted to him. I talked about it with my husband, and with my friend, of course. We decided to give it a shot, and it was awesome. We fuck with love. Now I'm in love with two people, and I feel my heart has expanded. Again, I don't know if this will last till death do us part, but for now it feels great.
8 . My first time was with my cousin, at the age of 16. He was 18. We had been in an on-off relationship since I was 12. He was my first love, and although it wasn't sexually 'good', it felt natural and I remember it as a beautiful moment. We didn't have sex again. I think he was just in the right time and right place to share my sexual awakening, and I'm thankful for that.
9 . I've masturbated since I was 8 or 9. But I didn't find my clit until I was 12. Before that, I just loved to touch myself, mostly my butt, my legs and my belly. When I finally discovered my clit and vagina, I was amazed. I had my first orgasm that same day, and I couldn't believe all that pleasure was inside of me.
10 . Now I like to masturbate using basically my fingers on my clit. Sometimes I use a vibrator ring. I usually fantasize about threesomes or group sex while I'm doing it.
11 . I love oral sex. Giving and receiving it. I love the feeling of a hard cock in my mouth; the taste, the texture of the skin, and the sounds my partner makes while I'm down there. I like to do it slowly, playing with my tongue while we are in foreplay, and I also like to do it fast,
just to make him cum.
12 . I don't have much experience in giving oral to a woman yet, but I expect to learn quickly.
13 . I've recently found out I love anal sex. Before that, I used to do it just to make my partner happy. Now I enjoy it very much. It's not always on the menu, though. I have to be in the right mood--incredibly horny.
14 . Even if I'm not going to have anal sex, I love to get my anus stimulated. My favourite position is doggy-style, with my fingers on my clit and my husband's in my ass.
15 . Most of the time, if I'm having sex in the missionary position, I need to fantasize I'm being raped in order to come.
16 . That doesn't mean I like being humiliated or forced in any way. I just get excited about the idea of passiveness and not being in control.
17 . I like some pain too. Spanking, biting, pulling hair... I like the feeling of being dominated. But I only let this happen if I trust my partner 100%. This means, my husband and my friend in #7.
18 . Porn is mostly something that just makes me laugh or bored. But sometimes, if the scene is not too false, the actors and actresses are nice and the script is not too obvious, I enjoy it and even get turned on by it.
19 . On the other hand, I love reading porn. There's something about XXX stories that makes my imagination fly. I guess this shows, one more time, that the brain is the most important sexual organ.
20 . My deepest and darkest fantasy is to be a sex slave, and to be offered by my master to all his friends. But the idea scares me as well. Maybe it'll never happen.
21 . I sometimes fantasize about being in a dom role too, mostly with a woman. I like the idea, but I guess I don't have the energy. My character tends to be passive.
22 . Sex with children, animals, or with any person whom I'm not entirely sure has consented to have sex, is simply off limits to me.
23 . I don't like peeing either.
24 . I don't have any fetishes.
25 . Although my last 3 things have been dislikes, I think it is pretty obvious I love sex!
2 . I don't like to call myself bisexual. I think sometimes labels are too rigid and I don't feel comfortable with them.
3 . Maybe a reason for #2 is that I have never been in love with a woman. I like to have sex with both women and men, but I don’t think I'm capable of having a serious relationship with a female.
4 . Another possible reason is that I don't enjoy being with a woman as much as I do with a man. I don't know if this is because I'm not that into women, or I just haven't found the right female partner yet.
5 . My husband and I are swingers. I love the idea of sharing intimacy with other people, without the classic commitment of a romantic relationship. It's refreshing, and at the same time it feels like going home. I think we all need physical, erotic contact to feel alive. And I can't find a reason to limit that to a monogamous partnership. I've thought this way since I can remember, which caused me some trouble in the past.
6 . Despite #5, I understand and respect other ways to be in a relationship; I don't even know if I'll like to swing until I die. For now, it just works for me.
7 . Polyamory sounds interesting to me, too. I've recently got into a 'friend-with-benefits' relationship. It just happened. He is a very good friend of us, and I've been always sexually attracted to him. I talked about it with my husband, and with my friend, of course. We decided to give it a shot, and it was awesome. We fuck with love. Now I'm in love with two people, and I feel my heart has expanded. Again, I don't know if this will last till death do us part, but for now it feels great.
8 . My first time was with my cousin, at the age of 16. He was 18. We had been in an on-off relationship since I was 12. He was my first love, and although it wasn't sexually 'good', it felt natural and I remember it as a beautiful moment. We didn't have sex again. I think he was just in the right time and right place to share my sexual awakening, and I'm thankful for that.
9 . I've masturbated since I was 8 or 9. But I didn't find my clit until I was 12. Before that, I just loved to touch myself, mostly my butt, my legs and my belly. When I finally discovered my clit and vagina, I was amazed. I had my first orgasm that same day, and I couldn't believe all that pleasure was inside of me.
10 . Now I like to masturbate using basically my fingers on my clit. Sometimes I use a vibrator ring. I usually fantasize about threesomes or group sex while I'm doing it.
11 . I love oral sex. Giving and receiving it. I love the feeling of a hard cock in my mouth; the taste, the texture of the skin, and the sounds my partner makes while I'm down there. I like to do it slowly, playing with my tongue while we are in foreplay, and I also like to do it fast,
just to make him cum.
12 . I don't have much experience in giving oral to a woman yet, but I expect to learn quickly.
13 . I've recently found out I love anal sex. Before that, I used to do it just to make my partner happy. Now I enjoy it very much. It's not always on the menu, though. I have to be in the right mood--incredibly horny.
14 . Even if I'm not going to have anal sex, I love to get my anus stimulated. My favourite position is doggy-style, with my fingers on my clit and my husband's in my ass.
15 . Most of the time, if I'm having sex in the missionary position, I need to fantasize I'm being raped in order to come.
16 . That doesn't mean I like being humiliated or forced in any way. I just get excited about the idea of passiveness and not being in control.
17 . I like some pain too. Spanking, biting, pulling hair... I like the feeling of being dominated. But I only let this happen if I trust my partner 100%. This means, my husband and my friend in #7.
18 . Porn is mostly something that just makes me laugh or bored. But sometimes, if the scene is not too false, the actors and actresses are nice and the script is not too obvious, I enjoy it and even get turned on by it.
19 . On the other hand, I love reading porn. There's something about XXX stories that makes my imagination fly. I guess this shows, one more time, that the brain is the most important sexual organ.
20 . My deepest and darkest fantasy is to be a sex slave, and to be offered by my master to all his friends. But the idea scares me as well. Maybe it'll never happen.
21 . I sometimes fantasize about being in a dom role too, mostly with a woman. I like the idea, but I guess I don't have the energy. My character tends to be passive.
22 . Sex with children, animals, or with any person whom I'm not entirely sure has consented to have sex, is simply off limits to me.
23 . I don't like peeing either.
24 . I don't have any fetishes.
25 . Although my last 3 things have been dislikes, I think it is pretty obvious I love sex!
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