1. I lost my virginity at 17 years old, to my first proper boyfriend who I dated for two years. First try was an awkward failure, second time with lube was much better.

2. I'm now 20 and have had sex with six boys.

3. I've gotten sexual with three girls.

4. I've taken part in a drug and alcohol fueled orgy with 7 friends. It tested friendships and relationships too much to be worth it.

5. That orgy led to many other group activitys, mmf, mmff, mmmf and mff.

6. Three out of those four I just couldn't wait to be over.

7. I've so far learned that good sex isn't about skill or experience it's all about chemistry. Mad skills are just a bonus.

8. I love giving head, and I get so much self satisfaction out of successfully swallowing. It makes me laugh when boys worry about cumming in my mouth.

9. I have a big fear of losing my "tightness".

10. But, I have let a boy attempt to fist me.

11. That same night I also had my first anal experience.

12. I really miss that boy, I was so comfortable around him and dripping wet a second after his touch.

13. He discovered that I can squirt.

14. It's like a secret challenge I set for all boys now, to see if they can make me squirt.

15. So far, no luck at all. This boy had amazing magical fingers. Too many boys have a bad habit of just wiggling their finger about in a non-specific or effective area.

16. This boy has really set the bar, making my experiences after him all very boring.

17. I'm becoming more and more attracted to 'beef cakes'. Boys that are a lot bigger then me.

18. Mostly because I find it hard to be on top of a guy with legs smaller then me. Physically difficult. It also makes me feel bad about myself.

19. I'm fairly submissive. I don't mind being roughed about a bit. I can't stand politeness when it comes to sex.

20. Saying "I want to do you" and "can we do it" is a MASSIVE turn off for me. I'm not 14 years old. I want to be fucked.

21. I love sex toys! I don't have many myself, but I have a big wish list.

22. I love the idea of nude photography and hope to try it out one day when my body is more toned.

23. I love porn and wish I didn't live at home with my parents so I could watch it more often.

24. Writing this list was harder then I thought it would be.

25. I'm really excited about what kind of list I would be able to write ten or so years from now.

1) I'm a 40 something year old man. The more I work out, the more sexual I am.

2) I've had about 20 sex partners. One of them was male.

3) I've been married for over 20 years. My wife is really beautiful. In shape and hot. We have a couple of great kids. My family is the love of my life.

4) My one male partner was my cousin when I was 18. He sucked my cock and made me orgasm. I sucked his dick (I liked the feel of it in my mouth), but couldn't make him hard. I must have not been very attractive to him, because he definitely seemed a lot gayer than I was. He wanted to kiss, and I wouldn't.

5) I sometimes fantasize about being with men. My wife's hairdresser.

6) I've always thought my wife was kind of repressed (no toys, no porn, no anal, no masturbation, very very little oral, literally no fantasies at all). As I've gotten older I've come to realize that repressed may not be as accurate as highly selective and desiring to stay in control.

7) Earlier in my marriage I hired prostitutes a few times, and went to a Nevada brothel. I felt I owed myself something for staying in my marriage. I enjoyed at least one of the encounters, whom I felt close to, but generally they seemed wrong for me. Hurried and commercial. I like to feel wanted; this was the opposite. And I felt guilt afterward.

8) About 10 years ago my wife had an affair, having sex with another man in our home while I was away. She tried to break open some of her boundaries e.g. blowjobs and fantasies, but with someone else. When I found out about it I was devastated, but I told her about my forays with commercial sex, and we started to try to rebuild our marriage. I found some peace by rationalizing that humans are just wired to cheat. She is no different from anyone else (from me) It seems like we've been successful at this reconstruction project, but it's more like a second marriage between the same two people.

9) I did hire a prostitute one more time. A secret back at'cha.

10) I like to look at online porn a lot. I sometimes masturbate a lot, but more rarely as I get older. Sometimes I go to a peep show and watch the models masturbate.

11) I have a wild fantasy life. Would love to share my wife, go to an orgy, have shared bisexual experiences. Watch her with another man or woman. To be clear, I'd like to not only talk about, but live out these fantasies.

12) My fantasy life is definitely focused on my wife. But I'm scared to be real about this with her. I do try occasionally to bring up fantasies, but her discomfort seems intense.

13) I lust after pretty much anything female and (even moderately) cute. Pretty much anyone my age or younger. I'm that letchy guy. Oh well.

14) I started masturbating when I was 10. I don't think I made myself come until I was 11. One of the most intense orgasms I can remember having was masturbating in the same room (lights out) as my cousin (see number 4) when we were 12.

15) After I learned how to make myself come I masturbated all the time. I used salad oil for lubricant, and sometimes kept my semen in a small bottle. I was amazed and delighted with the powerful smell of it. A few weeks after I learned how to come my penis was literally swollen around the crown from over-use.

16) I lost my virginity when I was 17, with my beautiful 16 year old ballet dancer girlfriend. I had lied to her, telling her I had more experience than I did. She dumped me a few weeks later, after cheating on me.

17) I fell in love with someone (i.e. they loved me back) when I got to college. She was blonde down to the pudendum, and very smart and passionate. Wore clogs and danced. We fucked all the time. I only found out after about 6 months that she wasn't having orgasms, so I learned how to make her come with my mouth.

18) She cheated on me too. In fact, every woman I've ever been in a relationship with has cheated on me.

19) I like having something in my ass. I totally fantasize about my wife pegging me. She's said no dice.

20) I was in love with a girl for years whom I only kissed once (a good night peck). She married someone else, I married someone else, but I still think about her. Not as much as I used to. Not contacting her is my gift to her and to my wife and family.

21) My wife likes how I fuck her, most of the time. She usually has at least two orgasms, often three. She tells me I have the biggest dick she's ever fucked, I find that hard to believe, as she literally can not count the number of men she's fucked. She told me it was over 40; I overheard her mention to a friend once it was over 60. At the right time of the month she can have 6 or 7 or more orgasms. I think she feels closer to me after her affair.

22) I still don't know how I feel about it (her affair). I do know that ending my marriage would likely result in more misery, poverty and despair for a number of people I care about. And that any other marriage I would start would have its own issues, probably of a very similar nature. And probably be with someone a lot less attractive.

23) One favorite fantasy: tying my wife up and pleasuring her (or not) as I choose. Bringing her almost to orgasm and making her wait.

24) Sometimes I think I'd like to have an affair like she did. (It is disconcerting that one of the most significant events in my sexual history happened without me being present). But when I've gotten close to cheating I've found that I'm not attracted enough to person X to want to endure the spiritual damage of lying to my wife or jeopardizing my family.

25) I love to watch women make themselves come. My wife won't do that for me.

1) Much of my early sexual education came from books like The Sensuous Woman, Thy Neighbor’s Wife and Hollywood Wives.

2) I lost my virginity shortly after my 21st birthday to a prostitute in a whorehouse a couple hours outside of Las Vegas.

3) I didn’t understand what was happening when I masturbated for the first time; it disturbed me quite a bit, and I felt some guilt. I didn’t expect the semen, and there was a lot of it.

4) I have masturbated regularly more or less ever since.

5) The guilt finally went all the way away in my mid to late twenties. This had a lot to do with my discovery of Henry Miller.

6) I really like women in fun lingerie, probably because I spent so much time looking at lingerie catalogs before I could get porn.

7) I went to my first strip club when I was 18, and have loved them ever since. They are fun treats that I indulge in a few times a year, depending on circumstances.

8) My first butt plug was a little too large and I had the wrong kind of lube. I still enjoyed playing with it, but I soon bought correct lube and eventually wound up with a small collection of butt toys.

9) I enjoy phone sex quite a bit, but I have to be in the right mood. It’s tricky to find the right match to maximize the experience. Like strip clubs, phone sex is a fun treat that I indulge in occasionally.

10) I have masturbated in port-a-potties, an M1A1 battle tank, and in peep show booths.

11) My (now) wife and I had sex for the first time on our third date. Doesn’t everyone?

12) I enjoy getting fucked in the ass with a dildo, butt-plug or fingers. It’s not an everyday activity.

13) Receiving oral sex is one of my favorite things in the world. Lucky for me, my wife enjoys, and is quite good at, giving.

14) My wife and I did have sex in an airport motel room the night of our wedding. Half-drunk as we were, it was great.

15) We were monogamous for the first six years of our relationship, but became polyamorous about a year ago.

16) I tend to define sex to include oral / genital play; it’s an arbitrary definition.

17) I’ve had group sex one time. It was with my wife, her boyfriend (at his birthday party) and two other women that he introduced us to. It was an amazing experience that I hope to repeat. The group of us should have talked about things more in advance, such as STD risks and whatnot, but I have no significant regrets.

18) I sometimes fantasize about playing directly with another man sexually. I’m especially interested in sucking cock. I’m not really interested in making out with another man, and I can’t see myself "dating" one. I comfortably identify as "straight."

19) I’ve come to really enjoy giving spankings, floggings and paddlings.

20) Sometimes, I like to be spanked myself. I like sharp, stingy ones more than deep thuddy ones; I think that’s because I’m a fairly skinny fella.

21) I have a girlfriend who I regularly have sex with in addition to my wife. I typically get laid 3 or 4 times per week.

22) I still enjoy masturbating by myself, but I don’t have time or energy to do it often. I’m lucky to do it once per week.

23) I don’t understand how guys can have sex more than once per day for many days at a time. My cock gets sore from the friction around the second time.

24) I’d like to play with a dominatrix; while I don’t want to be humiliated, I think I would enjoy being told what to do.

25) I really like to watch. I like to watch my partner and me in a mirror when I’m having sex, I like watching strippers, when I was in college, I used to peek out my bedroom window and watch folks in the apartments a block away.

1. At 30 years old I am technically still a virgin. This comes from a combination of being raised in a religious family, being extremely picky about guys, and living for a long time as an asexual.

2. I first discovered orgasm in third grade while riding a bouncing pony on the playground. I often continued to use this toy to have very happy private moments.

3. I also found that rubbing against something could bring about what I called the "pee feeling" (before I knew the term orgasm). I often masturbated this way as a child.

4. My first love gave me my first orgasm with another person. We were making out in bed and he was rubbing my lower stomach (no where near my genitals). I tried very hard to hold still and hide my pleasure when he made me climax.

5. Later in our relationship he talked me into letting him masturbate me. I had my first orgasm that he knew about on a pile of dirty clothes on his bedroom floor. We often mutually masturbated and he loved watching me "go crazy."

6. We would also often take off our pants and he would rub me with his penis through our underwear. I knew little about sex at this young age and once worried I somehow got pregnant from this activity.

7. I cannot imagine having sex with someone I am not in love with. I could never have sex with a stranger and will probably never have a one night stand.

8. I would, however, love to masturbate with a stranger in a semi-public place.

9. I do enjoy having cybersex and have been told I am very good at talking dirty and getting people off during the act.

10. I fantasize often about being held down or tied up and moaning while I am pumped very hard.

11. I enjoy masturbating and do it almost daily.

12. I love listening to the sound of people orgasming, and especially like timing my own climax to match theirs.

13. I would like to try having a sexual experience with a lesbian or bisexual woman, but am only interested in a relationship with a man.

14. I get turned on very easily and get very, very wet.

15. I think I am very good at orgasming and can come very quickly in a variety of ways.

16. When I am alone I love to moan and scream when I orgasm.

17. My first love also gave me my first experience with oral sex. He said he wanted to try "kissing me down there" and proceded to lick and suck until I orgasmed.

18. Another favorite sexual experience with my first was involved him setting me on the edge of the bed and he sat on the floor while giving me oral sex.

19. With previous boyfriends I have never been interested in giving oral sex and have never given it until the guy orgasms. However now that I am older I often crave doing it and hope to do it on the next guy I date.

20. I often enjoy sex play with a special hairbrush that i reserve for myself. The ridges on the handle feel so good.

21. I can orgasm in a variety of ways, using my clitoris, G-spot, penetration or a combination.

22. I love having my nipples sucked, especially while my clitoris is being rubbed.

23. I would love to have a guy fuck me while another guy is kissing me or sucking my nipples.

24. My favorite position to masturbate in is laying face down. I always use my middle finger to rub myself.

25. When I have a really good orgasm, my ears feel numb and my eyes water.

1. The first time I ever made out with a girl was during a drunk night in college. She was in all honesty the "ugly one" in her little clique. We were playing pictionary and she leaned over and bit my thigh. We ended up making out in the bathroom, then proceeded to my room. While telling me that she wouldn't fuck me, she ended up naked on top of my fully clothed self while I fingered her. We were subsequently interrupted before things could progress further by my stoned roommate back from a Grateful Dead concert.

2. The second girl I ever made out with was on the night before my college graduation. She had already dated my roommate and one other friend, and eventually had mercy on me. We didn't fuck, but made out deep into the night to the tune of James Brown's "CD of JB, Vol. 1" on repeat. She was petite and chunky and had the most beautiful large, heavy breasts.

3. The girl from #2 and I had one more experience, when she came to visit me that summer. We were hanging out, and out of the blue she disappeared from the room and returned in a green nightie and white thigh-highs. I went down between her luscious thighs and ate her out for what seemed like forever (my first time...). Her head was hanging over the edge of the bed, and after she could take no more, I helped her sit up and jokingly asked "Where have you been?" "In heaven," she responded, "with all the other girls getting their pussy eaten." We subsequently tried to fuck, but I was so nervous and aroused that I ended up never even penetrating her and came while pumping against her pubic hair. I was ashamed and embarrassed, but she was sweet about it. From this experience came my fetish for both eating pussy and thigh highs.

4. I have a fetish for hosiery. When I was just learning the joys of masturbation, I used to steal my mother's hose and use them to masturbate. I have also tried on my wife's hose (not in her presence) and was incredibly turned on and pleasured myself in front of the mirror while wearing them. I have no desire to cross-dress, but the texture of the hosiery quakes me.

5. While I was separated from my wife last year, I had a fling with a girl that I met on the internet. On the second time we ever hung out, we were watching a horror movie at my house and, out of the blue, she leaned over and nibbled my ear. We started kissing and she ended up straddling my lap topless. I nibbled and sucked her breasts for hours while she writhed against me. She eventually lay down on the couch, where I continued attending to her breasts and lips while also tentatively caressing her crotch outside of her pants. I eventually sought out her clit through the fabric and made her come HARD. She had THE most beautiful breasts I have ever seen in person. They were much more lovely and luscious than my wife's.

6. A week or so later (the time frame escapes me), my fling and I consummated our fling at her house (after much email, chat, and telephone flirting). I ate her out extensively after which she gasped "I want you inside me NOW". I was so dead-set on the pussy eating, that I had to get her to masturbate a bit so I could get hard enough to fuck her. Although the foreplay was incredibly hot, the actual sex was underwhelming, as her vocalizing and sex talk was kind of ludicrous and honestly almost made me laugh during the act. She told me I was the best she had ever had.

7. The night before I broke it off with my fling, I had one-way webcam sex with her. We were chatting, and I started touching myself. At first, she could only watch my face, and she got turned on watching my expressions. I eventually focussed the camera on my cock as I masturbated, while she pleasured herself invisibly to me on the other end. She goaded me on by telling me how she wanted to suck my balls and how she wanted me doggy style. I still wonder if she saved the feed and still watches it.

8. The first time I ever went out with my first serious girlfriend (hereafter known as the ex), we had to drive around for hours past her "curfew" because she had let her best friend borrow her car and we couldn't find her. While we were parked in a parking lot, she sucked my cock to orgasm, and I later fingered her to multiple orgasms as we drove around.

9. The first time I ever saw the ex's breasts, I was disappointed. She was a big girl, which usually means big boobs, but hers were uneven and kind of small and weird looking.

10. I lost my virginity with the ex on the floor in the storeroom of the store where I worked when I was 26. Neither of us had any privacy at home, and, as she was a big girl, we didn't have room in my car to fuck. It was too quick and brought no pleasure to either of us.

11. The best sex I ever had with her was at her grandparents house. While they were in the next room watching TV, she straddled me across the arms of an armchair (she was wearing a flowing "hippy" dress) and fucked me silently. We later went to her bedroom and she rode me for five hours. She came so damn many times; I came once at the end. The bed was drenched in sweat when we were done. I had to sneak out the next morning before her grandparents awoke.

12. When the ex and I were living together, we bought a double-headed strap-on dildo so she could fuck me in the ass and fuck herself as well. Even though sex with her wasn't consistently satisfying (as it is with my wife now), we were a lot more adventurous.

13. Not long before we broke up, I dry-fucked the ex in the ass without her permission while we were in bed. She didn't really resist, but she didn't consent or enjoy it, and told me never to do it again afterward.

14. The girl that I had the biggest crush on in high school never, ever entered my sexual fantasies. She was too ideal, in my mind, and although she was absolutely gorgeous, I don't recall ever thinking about any sex acts with her.

15. I have a streak in me that likes to masturbate in public. I have masturbated in a car driving on the interstate, at a local park while alone, and lying on the deck at night outside of a garage apartment I shared with my ex.

16. I once worked with a girl that turned me on so much that I would occasionally masturbate in the bathroom during break time.

17. Athough my wife and I rarely get to have sex anymore, due to her health issues, she absolutely satisfies and turns me on. Even though we both have a very adventurous streak, straight-forward missionary, doggy, and oral sex with her is sumptuous and is by far the norm for us.

18. I always want my partner to achieve orgasm first. There have been many times that I made my lover come repeatedly, then stopped without gaining any physical pleasure for myself.

19. Even though she had gained a lot of weight over the past couple of years and is a brash and coarse woman, I am still very attracted to my sister-in-law, and have fantasized about a threesome with her and my wife.

20. My wife and I attended a party at the home of a married couple that we were friends with. Until the party, we didn't know they were swingers (at least, I didn't). We lingered and lingered and eventually were the only couple left there with them. My wife and the swinger wife went in the bathroom and popped some pills (don't remember what). The husband was so drunk that he was babbling. The idea was proposed that we "swing" with them. I felt so intimidated and was so averse to the idea of sharing my wife (even though I was incredibly turned on by the swinger wife) that I refused. Years later, after separations and some extramarital flings on both sides during the separation time, I wish we'd fucked them.

21. I once fingered my ex to orgasm standing in front of the stage at a concert at a small club. The song was a transcendent love song that we loved to fuck to. I was standing behind her, and I slid my hand down the front of her jeans and tweaked her clit until she shuddered and sagged back against me. The singer saw us doing it, smiled and nodded at us. When the song was over, he reached out and touched our heads and said "Thank you for your enthusiasm." We later fucked surreptitiously in the back seat of my friend's car during the long drive home.

22. I like it when my wife gnaws on me. Not just bites, but GNAWS. Nothing makes me hornier. She has bruised me to the point that blood leeched through the skin, and I fucking love it.

23. I once had a dream that I was showering with a very effeminate gay man that shopped where I worked. We sucked each other off in the dream. I have never before or after had such a dream, that I recall, and I do not find myself attracted to men in the least.

24. My ex and I once skinny-dipped in broad daylight in the above-ground pool at her grandparents' house. She showed me how she masturbated with the stream from the water intake, and I ate her out at poolside. Her grandfather even came out of the house to check on us while we were fucking in the water, but because of the height of the pool and the fence around it, he couldn't see us.

25. My wife likes to be spanked, strangled and restrained when we fuck. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable to do any of these, but it also turns me on immensely. Go figure.

1. I didn't masturbate regularly and with intent until I was 20 or 21, but I used to wake up masturbating when I was younger. Most of the time, I'd withdraw my hand quickly in shame and embarrassment. But occasionally, I'd pretend I was still sleeping and couldn't do anything about it.

2. I didn't understand the clitoris until my first boyfriend fingered me at 18. When I masturbate without a vibrator, I still do it the way he did it.

3. I went to college as a virgin because of religion (Catholicism). I started getting male attention almost immediately, but didn't realize I was pretty. Which led to an unfortunate situation where I was nearly date-raped by a "friend". I must have said stop 100 times before he actually did. If he'd decided not to, there wasn't really much I could do as he was bigger, stronger... hairier. I wasn't interested in sex or sexuality after that for almost two years, and started making gay boys my best friends.

4. The first person I allowed myself to be intimate with after that experience was a girl almost two years later. She was very kind and understanding. We remain good friends to this day.

5. Because of that, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24 (I'm 26 now). I felt a release one day and decided I was ready. It took six years to get over the effects, and he didn't even rape me. I went home with a stranger I met in a gay bar shortly thereafter. He was kind, but the sex was terrible. I've only seen him once since.

6. I don't regret it.

7. In the two or so years since I lost the big V, I've slept with 13 people (12 boys and 1 girl). My friends tell me I'm just catching up.

8. Of the 13 people, six were one-night stands... practice. Also, one was Italian, one Thai, one Irish, one English, one Puerto Rican, two African-American, one Asian-American, and 5 white American. I have absolutely no type. And apparently foreigners find me sexy.

9. I love going down on a guy, but I don't think I've very good at it. I wish boys wouldn't be so nice. I want you to tell me what you want when I ask. Not, "I like everything." That's not helpful. I'm just trying to please you. So, please, let me do that, won't you?

10. I'm not scared of the asshole. I want to have anal sex. But I don't want to do it with just anyone. Nothing else about my sexuality has been special, so I'm "saving" that. I also want it to be with someone who's willing to take the time to do it properly and make sure I feel good too. Up to this point, the biggest thing that's been in my ass was two fingers. And it wasn't done properly.

11. I'd also like to be fisted.

12. Lesbian sex is completely fulfilling for me. But I tend to date more guys because it's easier. Everyone seems to be assumed straight until proven otherwise.

13. I've dated people I met online. It hasn't worked out. Flaky, a little strange, and less attractive than their photos seems to be a running theme.

14. I grew up in the town with the highest teen pregnancy rate in the entire country. No less than seven girls were pregnant at my high school at any given time. Less than five hundred people total went to my high school. Rebelling was not having sex. I was a rebel.

15. I've faked orgasms with all but three guys and the girl. Once, in the beginning of a relationship, I didn't fake it. We were smoking after sex and all he would talk about was getting me off. As soon as we went back to bed we were naked again, he was fingering me, he was hard, he was fucking me. I still had to fake it, but not lying was worth the extra effort. I should have learned from that.

16. I randomly called that guy the other night. And we had some of the best sex of my life. Didn't fake it. Lots of orgasming. And the most intense orgasm I've ever had with someone else. Ever. We haven't spoken since.

17. In the last year, I've dated roughly one person per month. For awhile, I was moving from "relationship" to "relationship" so quickly that my roommate thought I may have lost my mind. And so did I. I realized recently that I was preventing myself from feeling the pain by jumping directly into bed with someone else. It kind of bit me in the ass when guy number three in a string of three back-to-back situations (not even a day between them) dumped me for another girl. I didn't even care about him, but it was the first time I let myself cry about any of it.

18. I'm a very affectionate person naturally. Perhaps it's from growing up in the South, but I'm more inclined to believe it's because I'm a Scorpio. I often touch people more than normal, I definitely look directly into eyes with such intensity that it makes them look away all the time, and I kiss friends. Sometimes, on the lips. I really don't think of any of this as sexual. But I understand how it could be confusing.

19. Even though I lost my virginity relatively late in life, I've always been a very sexual person. A person people described as "sexy" even when I wasn't interested in anything related to the s, e, or x.

20. My lips turn an astounding shade of red when I have an orgasm. If the boys who I fake it with ever find this out, I'm in trouble. As far as I can tell, it's the only way of telling if I actually came or if I was tired of letting them try.

21. I've had unprotected sex with three people. I was adamant about condoms until a sloppily drunken night with a guy I was dating at the time. We'd used condoms to that point (to his horror). About three thrusts into the unprotected fiasco, he asked if he should get a condom. I responded that it was too late. I had to go back to some friends and apologize for my inability to believe that condoms felt that much different.

22. It's a huge turn off to me if a guy doesn't ask about diseases or protection before sex. I've had several instances of guys who were just going to stick it in without thinking about it. I always stop them before to ask if they're clean. A friend told me he thought it was the idea that asking that type of question could ruin the moment, and guys who are about to land some pussy aren't willing to sacrifice that. Even if it means lifetime repercussions.

23. I dated a guy with a pierced penis (frenum). It was weird at first. But I grew accustomed to it to the point that I missed it when we broke up even though it limited the positions we could have sex in because of pain. The next guy I dated had a pierced lip, so I didn't think it too far fetched that he might have a genital piercing too. But no luck.

24. Other than penis piercings, I really couldn't care less about that stuff. If your nipples are pieced, so what? Balls? What does that do for me? None of it matters. As long as you're happy, I'm happy. I think this attitude is what attracts people to me. I also think it's why I felt (and still feel) such comfort in the LGBT community for so long.

25. I'm curvy. I'm not fat, but I have a shapely figure. I love it. I love looking so womanly. I'm attracted to androgyny sometimes, but I can't escape my own gender and it makes me happy. I'm a womanly woman with breasts and hips and full lips and long legs. And I couldn't be prouder.

1. I came out as a lesbian to my mother when I was 13. I had a crush on a girl in my class and I didn't know how I really felt about it. I grew up in a Catholic household, and she just laughed at me. I cried and told her I liked girls. She responded by not taking me seriously at all. Seven years later, I am still confused about my sexuality.

2. That being said, I am a practicing heterosexual. I have slept with 10 men and am currently dating a man.

3. My current boyfriend knows that I don't have my sexuality pegged down, and he still loves me. I am really grateful about that.

4. I am an androgynous woman. I am letting my hair grow out mostly because I can't afford a haircut, but I love looking slightly ambiguous. Gender cues are overrated. (Although I do enjoy wearing a dress every now and then).

5. Porn rarely turns me on. I hate the forced quality of it. I love erotica though, especially really dirty incest/orgy erotica.

6. My brother and I used to play doctor with each other. I eventually told my parents about it, but they never reprimanded us for it. About the time when I came out as a lesbian to my mother, it horrified me. Now it barely fazes me at all.

7. I get really, really intense crushes on girls. I love beautiful faces, high cheekbones. Height and weight is unimportant. The last girl I had a crush on was a voluptuous, gorgeous Polynesian woman. Ugh, just thinking about her is sexy.

8. I bought my first vibrator a few months ago, and have succeeded in giving myself multiple orgasms. Some may think that this would ruin my sex life with my boyfriend, but it has taught me the details of what exactly I want done, and therefore I can please myself through communication during sex.

9. When I was around 11-14, I would get orgasms during my sleep. I would wake up not knowing what had happened and feel dirty. I would pray for it to stop. Sad, right?

10. I would do ANYTHING to get those wet dreams back.

11. I must dominate in bed. I can't handle being told what to do, sexually or otherwise. I am always in control. Many men have found this trait sexy.

12. I once took an interview for a job as a dominatrix. I am still interested in BDSM.

13. I fantasize about women and have really detailed dreams about being a hermaphrodite. I feel like my sexuality is more hermaphroditic--partially a woman, partially a man--in attractions to other genders, as well as attitude and presentation.

14. I would LOVE to fuck someone with a strap-on. Love it.

15. The idea of bringing food into bed grosses me out beyond belief.

16. However, the idea of play piercing is incredibly, incredibly sexy.

17. I would love to have my first sexual encounter with a woman with my boyfriend present. I sincerely love him and would want him to gain pleasure from the experience as well.

18. Until very recently, I have been guarded and uneasy of my sexuality. I am more open to exploration now.

19. I think hermaphrodites are sexy, as well as FTM and MTF transgender people. I would love to have a sexual experience with someone of any of these persuasions.

20. I love my back being touched during sex, or my belly. These are very erogenous zones for me, as well as the inside of my thighs.

21. I LOVE being spanked, no matter how much I dominate. I love sex doggy-style and being spanked.

22. When I first bought my vibrator I was staying at a friend's house for the night. I made myself come 4 times with it and I think I gushed a little. I had to clean the couch before they woke up. It was amazing.

23. The best sex I've ever had was with my current boyfriend. He is the first person I've ever been with who can make me come multiple times from sex. We are very silly with each other and bring our sense of humor into bed with us. I love it.

24. I can deep throat and I don't mind giving head at all. I think I'm pretty damn good at it. I love to 69, too.

25. My sexuality is constantly changing and evolving. Some days I feel more attracted to women, some days to men. It depends on the individual rather then their genitalia, in my opinion.

1. I ‘m a 56 year old man who lost his virginity when he was 19-20 years old.

2. I was raised in a strict Christian home which parent who never spoke of sex. I often think I’m still carrying that burden around with me--I have a high guilt factor.

3. When I was 9 or 10, a cousin and I use to play around when we’d spend nights with each other. We’d get nude and touch each others penis and a couple of times tried oral on each other. It never ended in climax but felt great. I think I was more into it then he was.

4. I began masturbating in ernest when I was 12 and clearly remember my first real ejaculation when I was 13--it made me feel like a man.

5. In my teens I was very shy and hardly ever dated. There were a number of girls in high school I had a crush on but was too shy to let them know.

6. There was a period in my early twenties when I’d go to local massage parlors and have sex. One time I took a shower with the masseuse, an older woman, and she climaxed while we fondled each other. Afterwards she rode me cowgirl style on the massage table to another climax for her and one for me. I left feeling like she should have paid me. This period of paid sex help me get over my shyness around women.

7. I’m a physically large guy and I always seem to attract sexually submissive women. The truth is I like a women to take total control sometimes.

8. I love giving oral sex to women and will happily spend an evening bringing a women to multiple climaxes with my tongue and lips. I love the taste, the feel and the how it makes me feel to have a women grap my hair and forcibly grind herself on my face as she climaxes. This is probably part of my submissive side.

9. I like porn but find erotic literature more exciting.

10. I’ve had a number of loves in my life but have usually fallen harder for them then they did for me. For a long time it was hard for me to separate the sex from emotion in many cases. This usually resulted in my heart being broken.

11. I’m of average endowment and while I’d like to be bigger there are advantages to not being too large. I’ve had the pleasure of introducing five women to the pleasures of their first anal sex. If I’d been “hung” this probably wouldn’t have happened.

12. I can still get a nice firm natural erection but I enjoy using one of the ED drugs for that rock hard feeling. These drugs also seem to make it harder to climax so I can go for a long time.

13. As I get older I’m also getting kinkier in my fantasies and sexual turn-ons.

14. I use to not like my nipples played with during sex. Now I can’t get enough of it--pinch, lick, suck and bite--a little pain, a lot of pleasure. How did that change?

15. I like being tied. I like it when it gets rough so I feel out of control and apprehensive.

16. I also like enjoy tying my partner up and taking total control (always with a safe word.) I love making her crazy with desire, bringing her to the edge of climax and then ramming my self into her roughly until we’re both physically exhausted and totally satisfied.

17. Sometimes when my wife is giving oral sex she’ll ease a finger or two up my arse which usually makes me climax quickly. I wonder what a penis there would feel like?

18. I now believe that to a certain degree we’re all bisexual. I certainly didn’t believe this when I was younger. Men are usually not comfortable talking about this.

19. Several years ago, when single, I met a bisexual couple through an online ad. He gave me head and made me cum in his mouth. I gave him a hand job. He had a small (3 inches hard) penis that did nothing for me and his wife just wanted to watch. I felt so weird afterwards I left and never communicated with them. I’d like to try the experience again with a couple that appeals more to me.

20. I enjoy going down on my wife after having cum in her. I think my cum is sweet tasting and she agrees. Sometimes I’ll taste my cum when I masturbate.

21. I’d like to making a guy cum in my mouth. I don’t know if I’d have the nerve to do it but the thought turns me on.

22. I’m now married but still masturbate five to seven times a week. My wife doesn’t know the extent of my masturbation. Her sexual needs aren’t as high as mine.

23. Sex with a sense of humor is best. The best sex has always been with someone I’ve also shared laughs with.

24. With time and experience I’ve defined the female body features I seem attracted to most: Women who are slim with small breast and small diameter areola; nipples that grow long when excited; proportional hips; meaty labia; an obvious clitoris; and shapely but slim legs. Pierced nipples and labia or clitoris piercings are also a turn-on. And no, I’ve never had a women who’s had them all.

25. The more I find out about myself sexually the more questions I seem to have.

1. Some of my earliest memories involve sex. I remember, when I was two, my father was watching pornography while I was around and must have thought I was too young to remember. A woman on the flick was performing fellatio on two men. I have a separate memory of trying to touch my father’s penis while he was teaching me to pee standing (he smacked my hand away)… I guess my interest in the male anatomy blossomed early on.

2. Likely as a result of modeling (see #1) I experimented with two other boys in preschool/kindergarten. I would routinely perform fellatio on them. These experiences were mutually enjoyable and went on for some time. The day care that I attended found out about this and I was sent to counseling. They tried to teach me shame about my budding sexuality. It didn’t work. One of those boys was my first crush ever. He gave me a valentine’s day present when I was four that I still have and treasure.

3. When I was nine/ten my neighbor – the father of my friend – who was watching me while my mother was at church would get naked and encourage me to touch his penis. My first images of men in cut-off denims come from this man. I was always, always well aware of what was going on and how the events would be viewed by others. I put off telling my mother about them because I was curious and interested in the sexual contact – hormones active or not. I was once encouraged to get in the shower with him and then into bed… I was nervous about it but not against it. I regret not doing it. I also learned about pre-cum from this man. When the events eventually went to court – I told because I knew I was “supposed to” – a part of me felt bad for this man. A part of me did not forgive him for doing this with other children whom I knew did not fully understand what was happening.

4. When I was in sixth grade I finally put two and two together and slapped “gay” on myself. It was one of the most freeing experiences of my life. I was eleven though I had always known without the language to back it.

5. I discovered pornography when I was in sixth grade by typing “gay” into a search engine while looking for information about who I was. I found gay porn instead and am still enjoying trying to quench my desire for erotic stimulation.

6. All my early and a majority of my current sexual experiences are negotiated over the internet. I grew up in a very rural area and the only, only access I had to other queer folk was online. My sexuality has formed through this medium and I oscillate between being empowered by and feeling atrophied in having skills of engaging in sexuality off the internet.

7. What I consider my first adult sexual experience was when I was thirteen. He was twenty-four. He paid me $80 for my time. I have always remembered being perplexed by the stigmas surrounding sex work. I felt elated and would many years later rekindle this energy (see #16).

8. Virginity was never a thing I cared about. I was waiting to find someone who knew what they were doing and could guide me through the process. I found a very attractive guy who was twenty-two when I was sixteen. When we were having sex (first time in the shower) he said “are you sure you haven’t done this before?” I am half proud and half annoyed by that statement. It made me feel like I had some competency during sex. What I was working very hard to suppress was the intense pain of my first penetration. Once I finished I held the sentiment of “good, that’s over with.”

9. I really only like being penetrated in bed. All other acts are secondary to this – except kissing. I am very erotic/sensual and incredibly sensitive to touch but I really just want to get fucked. I would rather masturbate for an hour by myself then jerk off with someone for one minute. Put it in my ass!

10. I know that I kiss well. I know that I give amazing head. I am proud that I have a talented mouth and am often reaffirmed of this. Oh yeah, and I can deep-throat like a Hoover.

11. I have always been sexually adventurous and very, very open with my sexuality. I have never understood when people are uncomfortable with or ashamed of their sexuality. I take pride in helping people I care about grow into/beyond their sexuality.

12. I identify as queer. This was an evolution. In college I went through a period of shock/denial when I first was attracted to a woman. I was actually ashamed of it because our culture carves out very safe roles for “gay” men and “straight” women. I was scared that my female friends with whom I feel very akin to and comfortable with would reject me. I got over it and have embraced evolution of my sexuality/sensuality. I have always been very, very attracted to trans men.

13. I have had a lot of sex with a lot of people. My count is relatively high and I have no idea what it is. I recently had the “how many have you” conversation and realized that my number – well over a hundred (I’m twenty-three) is not typical of many people my age. I like that I have been confident in my sexuality. I worry that my emotionality has been neglected though.

14. I liked my ex-partner very much but the sex was awful. He would not last more than thirty seconds before he would cum. I always felt that I was racing to finish before/with him. I have not had many long-term sexual partners or relationships so I stuck with it. I should have listened to my friends who were shocked that I would remain in a sexually unfulfilling relationship.

15. I hate that I’m a size queen – but it’s true. Size does matter – for me at least.

16. While in college I was behind on rent one month and in desperation put an ad out to do sex work (prostitution). I earned a whole month’s rent in two days. I realized that I was so wired to do this work. The feeling of elation I got after a job still stays with me today. I have not worked a square (mainstream) job in over a year. I have paid my tuition, rent, trips, food, etc – all of it – with sex work. I love my job. Ups and downs like any field… but I can’t see myself doing anything else for a good while (see # 7).

17. Through my line of work (see #16) I have come to reaffirm my understanding that most people are desperately, potently seeing love/affection. Sex may be the vehicle for this but most of my clients are looking for love/affection. It is a powerful position to be providing this for other human beings. My work fills this need for me often. Sometimes, I think I’m “winning” to be getting paid to have sex, meet great (mostly) people, and be affectionate with many other human beings.

18. I hate having sex when I’m tired. I used to just blow my ex-partner when he was horny and I was tired to get him off of me. I am almost always aroused in the morning.

19. When people perform fellatio on my penis I’m not that into it. I think this is related to my loose attachment to my (trans)gender identity. I identify adamantly as genderqueer.

20. I have very powerful erogenous zones – simple areas that respond to touch. There are spots on my body that if stimulated will override everything in my psyche. My body will buck, I will contort, all arrays of sounds come out of me, and I am unable to think of anything but the ecstasy of what is happening. I would rather have this than any other kind of foreplay. People who have bothered to explore these parts of myself have awed me with the generosity and beauty of what my body is capable of. I am sad to say too few have done so.

21. I don’t know what I think/feel about mono/polyamory. I suspect that I will settle on a polyamorous view of how I want a relationship. I’m still not sure. I’ve been lied to and that makes me cautious.

22. I want children. Through my sex work, my promiscuous nature, my free and often unattached sexuality I am always wanting children. I want to raise my children to embrace their sexuality/sensuality in a healthy and full manner. I do not like that our culture does not make room for prepubescent sexuality (see # 2).

23. I want to be topped by a woman with a strap-on.

24. Empathy is one of my strongest skills and gifts. So is my sexuality. I, like many queer folk, came into dating later then many of my peers and have only had one serious relationship (I’m twenty-three.) I worry that I will end up a very sexually expressed, sexually bored old queer man with no one to love but many to fuck. This is very scary for me.

25. Being a prostitute – and good at what I do – I am very good at picking up on what people are looking for sexually and have done a great deal. That being said I know there are fields and fields of sexual experiences out there for me to explore – and I look forward to it. I am quite actively looking for people to show me the way.

1. When my sister and I were growing up, we always secretly assumed my father was gay. Circumstantial evidence amounted to the following: He and my mother divorced early on in their marriage, he worked for Conair (a company that designs and manufactures hair products/appliances), he married/dated characteristically strong-willed, independent, socially “masculine” women, he got facials, massages and manicures on a regular basis, had a keen eye for quality and design, and had mostly gay male friends. We also frequently vacationed in Rehoboth Beach post-divorce (hello?!). However, as my sister and I aged, we disgruntledly accepted my father’s heterosexuality, and came to admire and appreciate our father, who was the very model of “live and let live.” It is because of him that all of my first memories of LGBT people are positive ones, and why I never saw being LGBT-identified as anything out of the ordinary.

2. Despite having virtually no memories before the age of 7 or 8, I vividly recall being aware of myself as a sexual being at a very young age. Even so, I had very few questions, and those whose answers I couldn’t intuit through observation I actively sought information about through other means (magazines, the internet, the books of erotica shoved haphazardly under my mother’s bed, etc.). As proved true through my adolescent life, I became something of a sexual sage for my friends, even before I lacked the hands-on experience.

3. My earliest crushes on boys proved to be all-consuming affairs. I was an awkward child, slightly overweight with a deep throaty voice and an affinity for baggy jeans and vests, so very rarely were any of my attractions returned. My best friend was a voluptuous Colombian beauty, and if it weren’t for her heart of gold I would’ve distanced myself from her early on; my jealousy, too, was often all-consuming (as a side note, that girl and I are coming up on our fifteenth year of solid friendship).

4. When I hit the eighth grade my body composition changed, as did my eye for fashion, and I found a new confidence. It was around this time that those around me began coming out to me as gay/lesbian-identified. It was also the time that I began a 6-year-long affair with one of those confidants, a gay-identified male whose undeniable attraction to me he couldn’t begin to articulate.

5. I am a firm believer that your sexual orientation/gender identity is a direct result of a combination of genetics and environmental influences. That being said, I am certain that since my earliest sexual experiences were with queer men, such as the one identified in #4, it provoked a lifetime of attraction to pretty, emotive, styled men (who have been, more often than not, queer-identified).

6. I was first shown porn in the eighth grade by a gay male friend; the internet clip depicted a very attractive young man jerking off of a stone balcony. Much of the porn I sought thereafter was male-on-male, though I soon found that I could be turned on by virtually any combination of genders, and I would often fantasize about being the center of group attention, whether it was a group of men, women, or mixed.

7. While porn certainly turned me on (and continues to), I’m much more of a literary mind than a visual one, and reading erotica turned into one of my favorite pastimes. I would often swipe my mother’s stash (see #2) while she was at work, lock my bedroom door and have at it. I’m extremely fond of my vibrant and detailed imagination.

8. My mother’s aforementioned stash didn’t stop at erotica; in high school my sister and I stumbled upon a large cache of sex toys in her closet. While my sister displayed genuine disgust, I faked mine, and later stole my mother’s vibrator, sanitizing it before using it for my own devices. My mother and I were on rocky ground throughout my adolescence, and one of our more violent altercations occurred after she discovered the vibrator in my room.

9. It was with the vibrator that I discovered that I have virtually no sensation inside my vagina; fortunately, the case with my clit was a different story. Even so, I didn’t orgasm until I was 20 years old, though not for lack of trying. I’ve faked orgasms (Oscar performance-worthy, I must say) through four different boyfriends and a few one-night stands, and even penned a 30-page dissertation on pre-orgasmic women my sophomore year of college, drawing majorly from personal experience.

10. I am extremely loud in bed, and sometimes am embarrassed by my inability to shut the fuck up.

11. When I’m masturbating, sometimes I’ll talk dirty to myself out loud, and 9 times out of 10 it’ll make me come. However I find it difficult to talk dirty to a sexual partner, no matter how much I want to, and I can’t figure out if it’s because I’m more submissive in bed than I’ll readily admit or because I’m too self-conscious.

12. Though I identified as heterosexual until two years ago (I’m now 21), I’ve always felt at home in the queer community, and used to wish desperately throughout my adolescence for a higher power to zap me with same-sex-loving tendencies (so maybe there is a God, after all!).

13. I’ve never had anyone try and put food on me erotically (ice doesn’t count), and I’m not sure how I’d feel about it, though I’m generally very open to safe and consensual experimentation.

14. Even though I advocate safe sex in my daily life and have written papers as well as taught workshops on it, there was a month-long period of time where I had unprotected sex with a guy who had never ejaculated (not even pre-cum), with no negative repercussions. I feel a lot less guilty about it than I reason I should.

15. I was very recently introduced to slapping (full-face) as something erotic, and I must say that I enjoy being the “slapper” more than I’d previously anticipated. Sometimes, as a student of psychology, I wonder if this says anything less-than-upstanding about me.

16. Having my feet sucked feels so unbelievably good, but I can’t get over how unhygienic it must be (unless you’re fresh out of the shower)!

17. I enjoy nipple play immensely – having them sucked, tweaked, pinched, rolled around, clamped, soft, hard, slow, fast, any which way! If someone has their mouth on my nipples and makes eye contact with me, it’s often intense enough to drive me crazy.

18. My favorite sexual position, hands down, is from behind. What I can feel but not directly see never fails to turn me on. During the most spectacular sex of my life, the person took their time seducing me completely from behind: massaging, kissing, scratching, etc, and it made all the difference.

19. I had a year-and-a-half relationship (my longest to date) with a Methodist youth minister while I was finishing up high school. We were deeply in love, and after months of torment made the decision to begin sleeping with each other, a decision that continuously tore at his faith and his opinion of himself, as well as strained relations with his family and friends; this strain, in the end, proved impossible to ignore, and succeeded in ending the relationship. Even though I’m agnostic, I used to silently attribute all that time spent not being able to orgasm (see #9) to being a kind of punishment from God for putting the burden of temptation on my ex.

20. My first sexual experience with a woman was about a year ago, during a month spent in San Francisco studying human sexuality. I’d be lying if I said I that I wasn’t interested in experimenting with women primarily for the novelty of it, but I’d also be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy it, cliché locale (Frisco? C’mon) as it was. I find myself primarily attracted to slim, small-breasted androgynous women; women who look like pretty boys, in essence (sound familiar?). Androgyny in general has become such an unexpected turn-on for me. Even trans boys have begun to attract my attentions within the past year, and I welcome the complexity.

21. I hesitate to self-identify as anything in particular (except as cisgendered; I have a dominant personality but I’m very much a high femme), but when pressed I will identify as “queer,” because I feel as though it’s the label with the least strings attached to it, and the least amount of assumptions made about it. It’s an umbrella term coated in shades of grey, and that way when I wake up 6 months from now finding myself suddenly attracted to turkeys (as I’m fully expecting to do!), I won’t have to keep swapping my identifier. On a more serious note, I’ve always felt that the best parts of myself shine the brightest when I’m surrounded by a variety of members of the LGBT community, and being “queer” seems to appropriately reflect that.

22. I really enjoy anal sex. Not fingers so much; it’s a matter of depth for me (SLOWLY. With, of course, a LOT of lube! Hah). Being open about this has literally garnered more critique/skepticism/surprise from people than recently embarking on my first relationship with a woman has.

23. In 3-4 years I’ve had a mere handful of sexual experiences that have contained an element of emotional intimacy as well as physical chemistry; in short, I’ve had a lot of flings. So much so that I’d forgotten how awe-inspiring sex can be with someone with whom you’ve made a tangible connection. My girlfriend is doing an excellent job at refreshing my memory.

24. Laughter in bed is key, and a lack of it has proven to be a dealbreaker more than once. Whoever said sex always had to be a tense, grave affair full of unspoken desires and unwavering eye contact just needed a good tickle below the belt.

25. Being in the human sexuality field and oftentimes unconsciously radiating erotic energy, it is assumed by most that I have (and require) the sexual appetite of a rabbit; this is incorrect. In my opinion, you can’t possibly define “intimacy” – it’s way too broad a term, and is too frequently simply attributed to procreation. When my girlfriend meets my gaze in a crowded room, it’s intimate. When she gets excited by something trivial, and turns to me alone for affirmation in her excitement, it’s intimate. When she selflessly offers to help my coworker (whom she’s never met before) move out of her house, and I can so easily read between her words, intuiting the message that states, “If this is important to you, it’s important to me,” it’s intimate. In my opinion, all these things trump sex.