1. I am a 21-year-old female who is mainly attracted to men, but has been attracted to people of all sort of other genders and can’t think of any sexuality label for myself that I care to take on.
2. Until a year ago, I had had slept with 2 people, both of whom were men my age who I was in long-term relationships with. Now, that number is up to six and someone 20 years older than me and a woman were added to my list. 2010 was good for me.
3. The sex workers I have met are some of the most incredible, brilliant, masters of the art of seduction and sexuality that I know.
4. Would BDSM/power play be as interesting if it weren’t for the terrible social inequalities that are being referenced and played with in these fantasies? I don’t know, but I am a fierce feminist, and love to be submissive in bed.
5. I orgasm easily sometimes, but other times enjoy myself a lot but don’t really reach a climactic point. This is not really something that bothers me, I know the difference between feeling satisfied and feeling unsatisfied, and for me it’s not always defined by climax.
6. I like big men... but I’ve had a skinny guy ask me to dominate him. That was fun too.
7. Giving blowjobs might possibly be my favorite sexual act. I love the feeling of constantly learning new skills to craft the perfect orgasm on the other person, who loves every minute of your creative performance. I love figuring out new blowjob skills, and if I dominant man wants to teach me some new ones, I’m eager to learn.
8. I’m overweight as well as sexy as hell. No contradiction there.
9. Watching porn has led me to imagine the people I meet naked or having sex infinitely more often than I did before, especially women. I think I have been able to do this while continuing to respect them.
10. There are a few dirty pictures of me floating around on the internet.
11. Most good orgasms involve me rubbing my clit a bit in just the way that I need... I don’t think that’s a problem. On the contrary, my clit is amazing and I wouldn’t want to leave it out of any orgasm!
12. I have group sex and threesome fantasies.
13. I have double and triple penetration fantasies.
14. I have never removed any hair on my pussy. To me it just seems wrong, though of course I would never dictate what someone else should do. But this doesn’t seem to be a problem for most people I have slept with.
15. I have two vibrators but hardly ever use them; my hands work way better for me.
16. The best orgasms- and possibly the best feeling- I think I have ever had is masturbating by myself, after smoking a joint.
17. I once took a man’s virginity and totally got off on how nervous and trembling with excitement he was.
18. I love to be spanked.
19. Although variation is the spice of life, I think my favorite trajectory when fucking my boyfriend is to start with him on top, switch on doggy style when I just need it deeper, and then get myself to climax while he fingers me.
20. I really love my boobs a lot.
21. And my pussy.
22. Some things I have not yet experienced that I would like to include learning to squirt and finally having pleasurable anal sex.
23. I would like to meet a sexual partner who gets turned on by menstrual blood. I think it’s gorgeous but none of my past sexual partners have cared for it, to say the least.
24. Every morning when I wake up my hands are down my pants... I guess my hands are just most comfortable tucked away in my pussy.
25. I know you aren’t reading this, French lover, but I want so much right now to light up a cigarette and have you go down on me for old times' sake.
Monday, January 10, 2011
1. I am a 24-year-old female who hates labels regarding sexuality almost as much as labels regarding religion.
2. It took me years, and obviously lots of practice, but I am fully able to have multiple orgasms. Only two, at the most (for now).
3. I love talking about sexuality with my partners - even past partners. All the time, constantly.
4. I own a small travel-sized bullet vibrator, and two larger dildos. (One of which is the infamous Rabbit. I've only used it twice).
5. I prefer vibrational stimulation while masturbating, but penetrative stimulation during sex.
6. I've wept sometimes at the intensity of my emotions, and the physical sensations, during an orgasm..
7. I want to try everything, at least once. (Except for a very slim list of things I deem degrading; but, to each their own!)
8. I love, love, love laughing during sex. Funny noise? Laughter! Banged our teeth together? Laughter! And so on.
9. I've never made out with a woman - I do not wish to die without having done so. I'd also love to simply ravish her body with my mouth.
10. Sometimes I just want to lose myself with my current partner and let go of rational thought. Maybe get a little rough, bite him more deeply, go faster and harder. (But I worry too much of what he'd think).
11. Despite weighing (currently) 130 pounds, I am still extremely body-conscious. I'd love to videotape at some point, though. I just want to feel more comfortable with myself first.
12. I enjoy being dominated sometimes. But there's a fine line between shivering because I'm turned on, and shivering because I'm frightened. (I've never felt 'safe' enough to experiment with this).
13. I am a sexual abuse survivor. I have never been to therapy to discuss my sexual life. All healing has been done on my own, and with extremely understanding and, I stress, patient partners. I am forever grateful to them - but I feel most of the work done came from within. I'm proud of myself, and I feel this is only just the beginning. It's an extremely exciting time in my life, as a sexually active being.
14. I enjoy amateur, couple porn. I can't stand porn stars talking dirty throughout an entire video (clearly not enjoying themselves).
15. Only recently did I finally get a guy off in my mouth. I was grinning from ear to ear all day. I'm really looking forward to practicing deep-throat again too.
16. I have had six sexual partners. But I'm tired of thinking about the number. I don't think it matters.
17. Although I have never had children (and never want to), I had an IUD inserted. I love having sex without a condom as well as the sight of my partner's cum in the toilet-water afterward. I don't know why, but I think that's incredibly hot to see physical proof of just how hard I got him off.
18.Getting facials in the shower, hell yeah - easy clean-up, and the water that's already falling masks the actual cum-splatter sensation.
19. I love my breasts. 34 D, and I am very particular about making sure they've got proper support. (Underwire, ladies!)
20. High sex is amazing. I adore having high sex with my partner. We turn into animals, and become all about nothing but each other's pleasure.
21. At some point, my partner and I have agreed to try a day of only physicality as our means of communication - nothing verbal. I'm very much looking forward to using just my body as the only way able to express how I feel about him.
22. The sounds he makes when he gets off are the hottest I've ever heard. I love it when he makes noise.
23. I prefer uncircumcised penises (but do not discriminate). I just think they're natural and more beautiful (and more fun!).
24. My favorite position (currently) is something he and I refer to as 'chair' - he sits down, I straddle him, and I'm in full control of how fast, how hard, and how deep we go. It's amazing, and I'm glad he enjoys it so much too.
25. Sometimes I feel that intercourse (in whatever fashion: making love, sex, etc). is a purer form of love than anything I could possibly say or write with words.
2. It took me years, and obviously lots of practice, but I am fully able to have multiple orgasms. Only two, at the most (for now).
3. I love talking about sexuality with my partners - even past partners. All the time, constantly.
4. I own a small travel-sized bullet vibrator, and two larger dildos. (One of which is the infamous Rabbit. I've only used it twice).
5. I prefer vibrational stimulation while masturbating, but penetrative stimulation during sex.
6. I've wept sometimes at the intensity of my emotions, and the physical sensations, during an orgasm..
7. I want to try everything, at least once. (Except for a very slim list of things I deem degrading; but, to each their own!)
8. I love, love, love laughing during sex. Funny noise? Laughter! Banged our teeth together? Laughter! And so on.
9. I've never made out with a woman - I do not wish to die without having done so. I'd also love to simply ravish her body with my mouth.
10. Sometimes I just want to lose myself with my current partner and let go of rational thought. Maybe get a little rough, bite him more deeply, go faster and harder. (But I worry too much of what he'd think).
11. Despite weighing (currently) 130 pounds, I am still extremely body-conscious. I'd love to videotape at some point, though. I just want to feel more comfortable with myself first.
12. I enjoy being dominated sometimes. But there's a fine line between shivering because I'm turned on, and shivering because I'm frightened. (I've never felt 'safe' enough to experiment with this).
13. I am a sexual abuse survivor. I have never been to therapy to discuss my sexual life. All healing has been done on my own, and with extremely understanding and, I stress, patient partners. I am forever grateful to them - but I feel most of the work done came from within. I'm proud of myself, and I feel this is only just the beginning. It's an extremely exciting time in my life, as a sexually active being.
14. I enjoy amateur, couple porn. I can't stand porn stars talking dirty throughout an entire video (clearly not enjoying themselves).
15. Only recently did I finally get a guy off in my mouth. I was grinning from ear to ear all day. I'm really looking forward to practicing deep-throat again too.
16. I have had six sexual partners. But I'm tired of thinking about the number. I don't think it matters.
17. Although I have never had children (and never want to), I had an IUD inserted. I love having sex without a condom as well as the sight of my partner's cum in the toilet-water afterward. I don't know why, but I think that's incredibly hot to see physical proof of just how hard I got him off.
18.Getting facials in the shower, hell yeah - easy clean-up, and the water that's already falling masks the actual cum-splatter sensation.
19. I love my breasts. 34 D, and I am very particular about making sure they've got proper support. (Underwire, ladies!)
20. High sex is amazing. I adore having high sex with my partner. We turn into animals, and become all about nothing but each other's pleasure.
21. At some point, my partner and I have agreed to try a day of only physicality as our means of communication - nothing verbal. I'm very much looking forward to using just my body as the only way able to express how I feel about him.
22. The sounds he makes when he gets off are the hottest I've ever heard. I love it when he makes noise.
23. I prefer uncircumcised penises (but do not discriminate). I just think they're natural and more beautiful (and more fun!).
24. My favorite position (currently) is something he and I refer to as 'chair' - he sits down, I straddle him, and I'm in full control of how fast, how hard, and how deep we go. It's amazing, and I'm glad he enjoys it so much too.
25. Sometimes I feel that intercourse (in whatever fashion: making love, sex, etc). is a purer form of love than anything I could possibly say or write with words.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
1. I am a 31-year-old black male. I am tall, fit, and since puberty have never had any problem getting what I want sexually.
2. I am attracted to men and women, though I do not affiliate with the politics or socialization of a queer identity.
3. Most women I know find me attractive and a few of them have gotten scared by the idea that I am also attracted to men.
4. I lost my virginity at a graduation party. I was really drunk.
5. I’ve had sexual intercourse with 9 different people, all of them women.
6. The best handjob I’ve ever had was from a man.
7. I love eating pussy. I could do it for hours.
8. The majority of “muscled” gay men are not remotely attractive to me. As an athlete, I like well-proportioned men, rather than the muscle-heads that just lift weights and wear tight t-shirts.
9. Large penises and round bottoms turn me on. If women naturally had penises, I’d probably go for that.
10. I had sex with two different women on the same day. Didn’t use a condom either time. Not the coolest. One was my then-girlfriend and the other was the girl I was cheating on her with. I don’t do such foolish things anymore.
11. I’ve simultaneously made out with two different girls twice. The first time was in 8th grade. They both let me finger them under a blanket for a while. We all just giggled. The second time was in 10th grade, but everyone got naked. It was fun, but the two girls hated each other afterward.
12. I am very attracted to androgynously athletic women. Not manly, but tall, lean, fit women are very sexy.
13. My former girlfriend and I used to play with dildos often. We both enjoyed it a great deal.
14. Pornography has played a large role in developing my sexuality. Too large a role, but more sex-positive, feminist porn is really changing my life. I first saw porn magazines around age 9 or 10. I didn’t know what it was. Maybe around 11 or 12 I started to really get it... and i liked it.
15. I started masturbating around age 11 and ejaculated for the first time around age 12. It scared me. I just rubbed my penis into the bed until I came. That first ejaculation wasn’t so good because it made a mess.
16. I think about sex all the time.
17. I have a large penis--9 or 10 inches long and pretty thick. One of my former girlfriends used to have a hard time handling it, but she also loved it. I don’t enjoy the fetishization of black dick in popular media and culture. I don’t need people speculating about whether I have a large dick. I do. End of story. Get over it.
18. I enjoy anal sex.
19. Sexuality is increasingly sacred in my life.
20. Being black and having a non-hetero reality is not something that many black people accept. Different people for some very interesting and bizarre reasons.
21. I like that people like my physical body. I show it off when I get the opportunity.
22. I have always liked nerdy girls. There is something about eating a nerdy girl's pussy that I love. It’s almost like they just don’t expect it, but they totally love it.
23. I used to love masturbating outside.
24. I cannot understand why I never made out with my best friend from high school. He was hot, fit, and he was also attracted to me. very strange. I don’t think either of us really knew what to do about it, but many people thought we used to hook up.
25. I am very cautious about STDs these days. I’ve been lucky and don’t want to rely on that. “No glove, no love.”
2. I am attracted to men and women, though I do not affiliate with the politics or socialization of a queer identity.
3. Most women I know find me attractive and a few of them have gotten scared by the idea that I am also attracted to men.
4. I lost my virginity at a graduation party. I was really drunk.
5. I’ve had sexual intercourse with 9 different people, all of them women.
6. The best handjob I’ve ever had was from a man.
7. I love eating pussy. I could do it for hours.
8. The majority of “muscled” gay men are not remotely attractive to me. As an athlete, I like well-proportioned men, rather than the muscle-heads that just lift weights and wear tight t-shirts.
9. Large penises and round bottoms turn me on. If women naturally had penises, I’d probably go for that.
10. I had sex with two different women on the same day. Didn’t use a condom either time. Not the coolest. One was my then-girlfriend and the other was the girl I was cheating on her with. I don’t do such foolish things anymore.
11. I’ve simultaneously made out with two different girls twice. The first time was in 8th grade. They both let me finger them under a blanket for a while. We all just giggled. The second time was in 10th grade, but everyone got naked. It was fun, but the two girls hated each other afterward.
12. I am very attracted to androgynously athletic women. Not manly, but tall, lean, fit women are very sexy.
13. My former girlfriend and I used to play with dildos often. We both enjoyed it a great deal.
14. Pornography has played a large role in developing my sexuality. Too large a role, but more sex-positive, feminist porn is really changing my life. I first saw porn magazines around age 9 or 10. I didn’t know what it was. Maybe around 11 or 12 I started to really get it... and i liked it.
15. I started masturbating around age 11 and ejaculated for the first time around age 12. It scared me. I just rubbed my penis into the bed until I came. That first ejaculation wasn’t so good because it made a mess.
16. I think about sex all the time.
17. I have a large penis--9 or 10 inches long and pretty thick. One of my former girlfriends used to have a hard time handling it, but she also loved it. I don’t enjoy the fetishization of black dick in popular media and culture. I don’t need people speculating about whether I have a large dick. I do. End of story. Get over it.
18. I enjoy anal sex.
19. Sexuality is increasingly sacred in my life.
20. Being black and having a non-hetero reality is not something that many black people accept. Different people for some very interesting and bizarre reasons.
21. I like that people like my physical body. I show it off when I get the opportunity.
22. I have always liked nerdy girls. There is something about eating a nerdy girl's pussy that I love. It’s almost like they just don’t expect it, but they totally love it.
23. I used to love masturbating outside.
24. I cannot understand why I never made out with my best friend from high school. He was hot, fit, and he was also attracted to me. very strange. I don’t think either of us really knew what to do about it, but many people thought we used to hook up.
25. I am very cautious about STDs these days. I’ve been lucky and don’t want to rely on that. “No glove, no love.”
Saturday, January 8, 2011
1. I'm a bi/25 year old female.
2. I've been bi from a very early age.
3. I've only experimented with one girl.
4. I have been in only a few relationships. All have been with males.
5. I can't remember the first time I masturbated. Guess I've done it forever.
6. I only know two ways to masturbate and neither involve penetration.
7. I never came to acceptance of being bi until after college.
8. I was very young when I experimented with a girl.
9. The first time I had sex was in college.
10. When I masturbate I usually visualize female on female. Though I do occasionally fantasize about being dominated by a male and recently discovered male/male sometimes does it for me.
11. I love reading erotica. I also love reading mature fan-fiction.
12. My favorite fan-fiction is Harry Potter-based. My favorite pairings are Hermione/Draco, Hermione/Snape, Harry/Draco, and I recently found a really good Draco/Ron.
13. I masturbate several times a week.
14. Most of the time I masturbate to relax. Other times it's because I woke up from a good dream.
15. I have been having more and more sexual dreams about females.
16. I'm really attracted to men who have long hair.
17. If a guy has really pretty eyes I am dangerously hooked.
18. My first real crush on a girl was in college. Think I admitted it to my at the time boyfriend.
19. I actually like to be dominated during sex. Not something I expected.
20. I have a fear of being tied up. I hate losing so much control and being so vulnerable.
21. My favorite thing on a male will be his eyes. They make me melt. My favorite thing on a female are the shape and swell of the breast.
22. Only three people close to me know that I am bi.
23. I'm attracted to redheads... male or female.
24. I've never kissed a girl but I wonder how it is.
25. I would love to experience taking a guy with a strap-on.
2. I've been bi from a very early age.
3. I've only experimented with one girl.
4. I have been in only a few relationships. All have been with males.
5. I can't remember the first time I masturbated. Guess I've done it forever.
6. I only know two ways to masturbate and neither involve penetration.
7. I never came to acceptance of being bi until after college.
8. I was very young when I experimented with a girl.
9. The first time I had sex was in college.
10. When I masturbate I usually visualize female on female. Though I do occasionally fantasize about being dominated by a male and recently discovered male/male sometimes does it for me.
11. I love reading erotica. I also love reading mature fan-fiction.
12. My favorite fan-fiction is Harry Potter-based. My favorite pairings are Hermione/Draco, Hermione/Snape, Harry/Draco, and I recently found a really good Draco/Ron.
13. I masturbate several times a week.
14. Most of the time I masturbate to relax. Other times it's because I woke up from a good dream.
15. I have been having more and more sexual dreams about females.
16. I'm really attracted to men who have long hair.
17. If a guy has really pretty eyes I am dangerously hooked.
18. My first real crush on a girl was in college. Think I admitted it to my at the time boyfriend.
19. I actually like to be dominated during sex. Not something I expected.
20. I have a fear of being tied up. I hate losing so much control and being so vulnerable.
21. My favorite thing on a male will be his eyes. They make me melt. My favorite thing on a female are the shape and swell of the breast.
22. Only three people close to me know that I am bi.
23. I'm attracted to redheads... male or female.
24. I've never kissed a girl but I wonder how it is.
25. I would love to experience taking a guy with a strap-on.
Friday, January 7, 2011
1. I'm 41. I was married when I was 25 and widowed at 38. Since then it's as if my whole sexual identity has changed and I've played around trying things I'd never done before. I don't have a regular partner now but I enjoy sex and I let myself have it as often as I want, when I can find someone.
2. My first time was when I was only just 15. We both went to a group at a YMCA and eventually got thrown out for too much kissing. After that we went on getting together. He was 18. He really liked me but he wanted to be having full sex and he was worried I was too young. He thought we should finish. I knew he didn't really want to. I decided I was ready, old enough to make up my own mind, and I'd rather lose my cherry than lose him so I went to his place one rainy day and made him an offer. He accepted.
3. Before that we'd touched each other a lot but never been naked together. He used to touch my breasts under my clothes and I'd never felt anything so exciting. I was shaking the first time he undressed me. He was very kind and gentle and even though it hurt I was really happy. He was too. After, I knew I'd been right. I was really, really ready. And it got better, too.
4. We used to talk a lot in bed as well as exploring each other and it was a really good way to begin. I got a lot of confidence and I think if you have that with your first you can take the bad times when they come later. We talked about all the things I could never talk about with my parents. That's fantastic when you're in your mid teens, in love, and naked in bed with your first lover. I always like to take it slow and talk while I'm getting it on with someone. Words can be a huge turn-on. If they're the right ones.
5. We did it out of doors a lot in summer. I've never felt anything as sensual as a warm wind over my naked skin and him playing with me. Sometimes I still go out and lie naked in the sun and wind. Sometimes, even, with a man. Or a woman.
6. I masturbate more days than not. I use my fingers or a toy and I've got a collection of those. Sometimes I do dp with them though I've never done it for real. That can blow me away. It's one of my big fantasies to do it although I don't know if I'd ever meet two guys I could trust, who were both up for it, at the same time.
7. I like to strip in front of the mirror. Slowly. While I touch myself. Is that narcissism? Don't know, don't care.
8. I like being looked at. Naked. What I've learned is that people like confident women who like being looked at and don't care, they think it's hot. And I like that. It gets me going.
9. I've modelled for life classes and sometimes afterwards I've gone home with one of the men. Or a couple of times with one of the women. I can always tell the ones while I'm sitting there. Back at their place I like to pose for them, in a way that shows off everything. They have to look at me for a long time, and maybe sketch me, before I let them touch. I like to turn and move and feel their eyes on my flesh.
10. I didn't go with a woman until after my husband died. I wanted sex but somehow it didn't seem possible with another man, not for a while. So one day I was round at a friend's and feeling both weepy and hot and she started to give me a cuddle. I'd had a couple of glasses of wine and I just went with it. She told me she'd been attracted to me for a long time. Actually I got a lot of that after he died. Men I'd thought of as just our really close friends started to come on to me. I didn't always understand what was happening at first. When I did, I felt complimented and insulted at the same time. As if all it was about was not having someone to fuck. But with her it was ok and somehow not like betraying my husband because it was with a woman.
11. I think for women younger than me, the idea of going with another woman is easier to cope with. When I was growing up no-one talked about it and you felt somehow bad if you even thought about it. If I hadn't been widowed I don't think I'd ever have been open to it; but that changed so many things. I had to start all over again when I hadn't expected to, and all my feelings about my body and my sexuality were different from the first time around. Accepting my husband's death, accepting that he'd never strip me, touch me, penetrate me, come in me again, was like diving into a deep pool and coming out as someone else. Letting that woman do the things she did to me was like diving in again, only it was easier the second time.
12. I really, really like the messy bits of sex. My juice, a man's sperm - I always would rather have him come in me without a condom though of course it isn't always wise - a woman's wetness on my hand or my face. Even blood, in season. It's earthy and real. Life flowing between my / her legs.
13. I'll sometimes get flashbacks to things I felt intensely as a child, and then forgot. The sensuality of things around me. Warm winds over my skin. Playing in waves, feeling the water splash up my thighs. Holding a warm loaf of bread to my stomach. I didn't know, then, what it would become. Looking back now, I think it was me getting ready.
14. Once, when I was about 6, I peed in my knickers. Deliberately. It felt bad and daring and exciting and I loved the hotness and the rank smell of it and the feeling of release and how it went on and on. All things I got to love about sex later.
15. Horses: oh, horses! Their strong bodies, shiny coats, beautiful eyes, their rough hot breath, the way they smell... and the males when you see their erections. I never rode but as a teenager I used to fantasize sitting astride one, bareback, naked, my legs gripping his body.
16. Maybe that's why one of my favorite positions is astride my lover. Also my husband was a very big man and I loved riding him. Feeling both in control and that I was on top of someone powerful enough to throw me and do what he wanted with me. Is that what riding a horse is like?
17. I like to give the breast to another woman. To see her face nuzzle into it, feel her mouthing it. To cradle her. Both of us naked. So much tenderness.
18. After really good sex, I sometimes get a kind of wild energy, craziness. I can do hand-stands, or run naked out into the garden in the rain.
19. The first man I made love with after my husband was a stranger. It felt important that it shouldn't be anyone I knew and also I'd never done that before - just gone with someone I'd just met - and I felt like I needed to do something different. We met at a conference and I went back to his hotel room. I pretended to myself that I was a prostitute that he'd picked up. It helped me to go through with it. I never told him that.
20. When I married, I put my sexuality into the marriage. Pretending to be a whore is a way of taking it back. I still do that sometimes, to re-affirm that. Though I don't tell the person I'm with.
21. I don't like abusive language from men but I get hot if it's a woman. A woman calling me slut or bitch or whore can get me to come really hard. Only she has to be gentle with it. I don't do aggression.
22. I do have times, maybe for as long as a few weeks, when I feel completely non-sexual and then I come on again and get really sexy. Needy. Needing to go and find someone.
23. I still sometimes get it on with the woman in no. 10. I feel like I lost my virginity again with her. She's married but her husband doesn't know and I like the secrecy, the hiding, the subterfuge - pretending we're going to go out together but just staying in at mine and getting naked together.
24. One woman artist did a really fantastic nude study of me (in her home, not at the class). I sat for her a few times and when it was finished she kind of made it obvious that I could have it if she could have me. So I did what she wanted. I still can't decide if it counted as selling my body but thinking like that about myself gets me excited and often looking at the drawing I do too.
25. Friends have started to tell me I should find another 'life partner' but I'm different now from when I married. I might go back to monogamy one day but for now I like the unpredictability and the variety of being with different people and never being sure who the next one will be.
2. My first time was when I was only just 15. We both went to a group at a YMCA and eventually got thrown out for too much kissing. After that we went on getting together. He was 18. He really liked me but he wanted to be having full sex and he was worried I was too young. He thought we should finish. I knew he didn't really want to. I decided I was ready, old enough to make up my own mind, and I'd rather lose my cherry than lose him so I went to his place one rainy day and made him an offer. He accepted.
3. Before that we'd touched each other a lot but never been naked together. He used to touch my breasts under my clothes and I'd never felt anything so exciting. I was shaking the first time he undressed me. He was very kind and gentle and even though it hurt I was really happy. He was too. After, I knew I'd been right. I was really, really ready. And it got better, too.
4. We used to talk a lot in bed as well as exploring each other and it was a really good way to begin. I got a lot of confidence and I think if you have that with your first you can take the bad times when they come later. We talked about all the things I could never talk about with my parents. That's fantastic when you're in your mid teens, in love, and naked in bed with your first lover. I always like to take it slow and talk while I'm getting it on with someone. Words can be a huge turn-on. If they're the right ones.
5. We did it out of doors a lot in summer. I've never felt anything as sensual as a warm wind over my naked skin and him playing with me. Sometimes I still go out and lie naked in the sun and wind. Sometimes, even, with a man. Or a woman.
6. I masturbate more days than not. I use my fingers or a toy and I've got a collection of those. Sometimes I do dp with them though I've never done it for real. That can blow me away. It's one of my big fantasies to do it although I don't know if I'd ever meet two guys I could trust, who were both up for it, at the same time.
7. I like to strip in front of the mirror. Slowly. While I touch myself. Is that narcissism? Don't know, don't care.
8. I like being looked at. Naked. What I've learned is that people like confident women who like being looked at and don't care, they think it's hot. And I like that. It gets me going.
9. I've modelled for life classes and sometimes afterwards I've gone home with one of the men. Or a couple of times with one of the women. I can always tell the ones while I'm sitting there. Back at their place I like to pose for them, in a way that shows off everything. They have to look at me for a long time, and maybe sketch me, before I let them touch. I like to turn and move and feel their eyes on my flesh.
10. I didn't go with a woman until after my husband died. I wanted sex but somehow it didn't seem possible with another man, not for a while. So one day I was round at a friend's and feeling both weepy and hot and she started to give me a cuddle. I'd had a couple of glasses of wine and I just went with it. She told me she'd been attracted to me for a long time. Actually I got a lot of that after he died. Men I'd thought of as just our really close friends started to come on to me. I didn't always understand what was happening at first. When I did, I felt complimented and insulted at the same time. As if all it was about was not having someone to fuck. But with her it was ok and somehow not like betraying my husband because it was with a woman.
11. I think for women younger than me, the idea of going with another woman is easier to cope with. When I was growing up no-one talked about it and you felt somehow bad if you even thought about it. If I hadn't been widowed I don't think I'd ever have been open to it; but that changed so many things. I had to start all over again when I hadn't expected to, and all my feelings about my body and my sexuality were different from the first time around. Accepting my husband's death, accepting that he'd never strip me, touch me, penetrate me, come in me again, was like diving into a deep pool and coming out as someone else. Letting that woman do the things she did to me was like diving in again, only it was easier the second time.
12. I really, really like the messy bits of sex. My juice, a man's sperm - I always would rather have him come in me without a condom though of course it isn't always wise - a woman's wetness on my hand or my face. Even blood, in season. It's earthy and real. Life flowing between my / her legs.
13. I'll sometimes get flashbacks to things I felt intensely as a child, and then forgot. The sensuality of things around me. Warm winds over my skin. Playing in waves, feeling the water splash up my thighs. Holding a warm loaf of bread to my stomach. I didn't know, then, what it would become. Looking back now, I think it was me getting ready.
14. Once, when I was about 6, I peed in my knickers. Deliberately. It felt bad and daring and exciting and I loved the hotness and the rank smell of it and the feeling of release and how it went on and on. All things I got to love about sex later.
15. Horses: oh, horses! Their strong bodies, shiny coats, beautiful eyes, their rough hot breath, the way they smell... and the males when you see their erections. I never rode but as a teenager I used to fantasize sitting astride one, bareback, naked, my legs gripping his body.
16. Maybe that's why one of my favorite positions is astride my lover. Also my husband was a very big man and I loved riding him. Feeling both in control and that I was on top of someone powerful enough to throw me and do what he wanted with me. Is that what riding a horse is like?
17. I like to give the breast to another woman. To see her face nuzzle into it, feel her mouthing it. To cradle her. Both of us naked. So much tenderness.
18. After really good sex, I sometimes get a kind of wild energy, craziness. I can do hand-stands, or run naked out into the garden in the rain.
19. The first man I made love with after my husband was a stranger. It felt important that it shouldn't be anyone I knew and also I'd never done that before - just gone with someone I'd just met - and I felt like I needed to do something different. We met at a conference and I went back to his hotel room. I pretended to myself that I was a prostitute that he'd picked up. It helped me to go through with it. I never told him that.
20. When I married, I put my sexuality into the marriage. Pretending to be a whore is a way of taking it back. I still do that sometimes, to re-affirm that. Though I don't tell the person I'm with.
21. I don't like abusive language from men but I get hot if it's a woman. A woman calling me slut or bitch or whore can get me to come really hard. Only she has to be gentle with it. I don't do aggression.
22. I do have times, maybe for as long as a few weeks, when I feel completely non-sexual and then I come on again and get really sexy. Needy. Needing to go and find someone.
23. I still sometimes get it on with the woman in no. 10. I feel like I lost my virginity again with her. She's married but her husband doesn't know and I like the secrecy, the hiding, the subterfuge - pretending we're going to go out together but just staying in at mine and getting naked together.
24. One woman artist did a really fantastic nude study of me (in her home, not at the class). I sat for her a few times and when it was finished she kind of made it obvious that I could have it if she could have me. So I did what she wanted. I still can't decide if it counted as selling my body but thinking like that about myself gets me excited and often looking at the drawing I do too.
25. Friends have started to tell me I should find another 'life partner' but I'm different now from when I married. I might go back to monogamy one day but for now I like the unpredictability and the variety of being with different people and never being sure who the next one will be.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
1. I am an 18-year-old bisexual girl. Woman. Female.
2. Actually, since I don't give a fuck if you're trans or cis, maybe I should be "queer," but I dislike a label that specifically describes nothing. All it seems to mean is you are different from the norm, but if monosexuality is the actual norm I will eat my hat. The fact that I do not own such an item is irrelevant. Oh, also intergender people are cool. But I'm not pan, since I see gender. Look, I'm sexual (and very, at that, to the point of being sex-obsessed), but bisexual does as a label, since people know what it means.
3. This is because I have an emotional override to my physical attraction. I definitely have a physical type, but I can like anyone so long as they are sufficiently awesome.
4. Oh, and pertaining to the "female" up there that's quite possibly got you all riled up by being equated with "woman," I am utterly confused by all this sex vs gender stuff. But I'll use whatever pronouns you want me to, within reason. And be attracted to you if you're sufficiently interesting in other ways. If you're being different just for the sake of being different, I frown upon you.
5. I think I'd have been just as happy being born male, but I'll stick with being a girl. Even if it would be awesome to have a penis, I think breasts balance it out.
6. I have never had an orgasm.
7. Ironically, my entire body is an erogenous zone. And the inside of my mouth.
8. I am afraid of purchasing sex toys for two reasons: 1) people might know I have them, and 2) orgasms.
9. That second reason is twofold, if I orgasm with the toy, my boyfriend may then worry it is his lack of skill that has lead to me not doing so beforehand. He won't, and in fact he'll probably just operate the thing himself until either of us can do it manually, but I worry that he will. On the other hand, if I do not, that means I am anorgasmic, and that is a strange and slightly terrifying thought.
10. It still surprises me that my boyfriend asks me if I want to do things. I still just figure people will tell me if I'm going too far, which I should stop.
11. I like friends. Friends are good. I have recently taken to kissing my friends, little kisses, not on the lips. I worry that this sends the wrong message to them, but then the snuggling would have done that anyway.
12. I am a total sub, but I'm a sub who knows what she wants. Mostly. And I'm getting better at articulating instead of grabbing.
13. In addition to this, I like being scritched behind the ear and petted. I would be totally cool with being a pet to a race of super-intelligent aliens. This is less to do with sexuality and more just me-ness, but subbing is part of sexuality, so why not this. Were I a furry I would have a kitten persona. Needless to say, I would be a very chaste furry.
14. When I get over my fear of sex shopping, I will buy a strap-on to surprise my boyfriend with.
15. I would love to go down on a woman.
16. I have gone down on a man, but never finished. The feeling when his erection swells in your mouth is incredible, though, cause it's like "I've done that. I've made it happy." Plus, you know, erogenous zone in mouth.
17. I have had two sexual partners. The first doesn't count.
18. That last one was a lie, but I've gotten over that now, and it doesn't need to be aired. It was the source of my sexual hang-ups for a long time, though.
19. BOOBS. ARE. AWESOME. I occasionally get to touch them and everything.
20. I occasionally make out with other girls when drunk. They are obliging, I am lonely. To do more than that would require me to be very sober and very sure of myself.
21. Sex makes me feel awesome about my body.
22. Oh yeah, kinks. I like sensation, basically. Small amounts of pain, slight asphyxiation. Real pain overrides the pleasure. I want to try bondage as well, I've always liked being restricted.
23. I doubt proper polyamory is for me. It just seems too difficult to arrange. I've had to try and split my time fairly between three sets of parents for years, and doing that with partners would tear me apart. But polyamory with one main partner and then a couple of friends with benefits I could handle. So long as everyone was okay with their position.
24. I like to be teased. Often the wanting is better than the having.
25. It's important to be able to laugh during sex, and have it not ruin the mood.
2. Actually, since I don't give a fuck if you're trans or cis, maybe I should be "queer," but I dislike a label that specifically describes nothing. All it seems to mean is you are different from the norm, but if monosexuality is the actual norm I will eat my hat. The fact that I do not own such an item is irrelevant. Oh, also intergender people are cool. But I'm not pan, since I see gender. Look, I'm sexual (and very, at that, to the point of being sex-obsessed), but bisexual does as a label, since people know what it means.
3. This is because I have an emotional override to my physical attraction. I definitely have a physical type, but I can like anyone so long as they are sufficiently awesome.
4. Oh, and pertaining to the "female" up there that's quite possibly got you all riled up by being equated with "woman," I am utterly confused by all this sex vs gender stuff. But I'll use whatever pronouns you want me to, within reason. And be attracted to you if you're sufficiently interesting in other ways. If you're being different just for the sake of being different, I frown upon you.
5. I think I'd have been just as happy being born male, but I'll stick with being a girl. Even if it would be awesome to have a penis, I think breasts balance it out.
6. I have never had an orgasm.
7. Ironically, my entire body is an erogenous zone. And the inside of my mouth.
8. I am afraid of purchasing sex toys for two reasons: 1) people might know I have them, and 2) orgasms.
9. That second reason is twofold, if I orgasm with the toy, my boyfriend may then worry it is his lack of skill that has lead to me not doing so beforehand. He won't, and in fact he'll probably just operate the thing himself until either of us can do it manually, but I worry that he will. On the other hand, if I do not, that means I am anorgasmic, and that is a strange and slightly terrifying thought.
10. It still surprises me that my boyfriend asks me if I want to do things. I still just figure people will tell me if I'm going too far, which I should stop.
11. I like friends. Friends are good. I have recently taken to kissing my friends, little kisses, not on the lips. I worry that this sends the wrong message to them, but then the snuggling would have done that anyway.
12. I am a total sub, but I'm a sub who knows what she wants. Mostly. And I'm getting better at articulating instead of grabbing.
13. In addition to this, I like being scritched behind the ear and petted. I would be totally cool with being a pet to a race of super-intelligent aliens. This is less to do with sexuality and more just me-ness, but subbing is part of sexuality, so why not this. Were I a furry I would have a kitten persona. Needless to say, I would be a very chaste furry.
14. When I get over my fear of sex shopping, I will buy a strap-on to surprise my boyfriend with.
15. I would love to go down on a woman.
16. I have gone down on a man, but never finished. The feeling when his erection swells in your mouth is incredible, though, cause it's like "I've done that. I've made it happy." Plus, you know, erogenous zone in mouth.
17. I have had two sexual partners. The first doesn't count.
18. That last one was a lie, but I've gotten over that now, and it doesn't need to be aired. It was the source of my sexual hang-ups for a long time, though.
19. BOOBS. ARE. AWESOME. I occasionally get to touch them and everything.
20. I occasionally make out with other girls when drunk. They are obliging, I am lonely. To do more than that would require me to be very sober and very sure of myself.
21. Sex makes me feel awesome about my body.
22. Oh yeah, kinks. I like sensation, basically. Small amounts of pain, slight asphyxiation. Real pain overrides the pleasure. I want to try bondage as well, I've always liked being restricted.
23. I doubt proper polyamory is for me. It just seems too difficult to arrange. I've had to try and split my time fairly between three sets of parents for years, and doing that with partners would tear me apart. But polyamory with one main partner and then a couple of friends with benefits I could handle. So long as everyone was okay with their position.
24. I like to be teased. Often the wanting is better than the having.
25. It's important to be able to laugh during sex, and have it not ruin the mood.
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
1. I am a 19 year old female student who's fucked a total of six men and one woman.
2. Though I'm madly in love with him, I would love to cheat on my boyfriend.
3. I lost my virginity when I was 16, to a guy who was six years older. I had dated one of his friends, had gone down on another one and after we broke up, I proceeded to date another one. To this day, I have fantasies of fucking all four of them together.
4. I love redheads and small-breasted women. I love anorexic boys with treasure trails. But what really does it for me are the hands.
5. I am much more comfortable naked than dressed. I hate winter, because I have to bury myself underneath a mountain of thick clothes. It's about the sincere, almost pure quality of nude flesh: your body isn't Zara, Chanel or Wal-Mart, it's not where you were born, or what you ate last night, or where you went to high school. It's just a body, desirable or not.
6. I didn't love the guy with whom I lost my virginity and it wasn't a planned, romantic event. It was a completely spontaneous decision, born out of pure desire, and that's what made it awesome.
7. I orgasm easily. Everybody's so surprised when I'm over the edge in less than five minutes, especially when vaginal intercourse is involved. "What? Already?" is something I always get the first time I'm having sex with someone. The irony never fails to amuse me.
8. Since orgasms come easy for me, what most arouses me is tension and denial. Ever since my boyfriend discovered it, he drives me nuts with all the teasing, and though I know I'll have a powerful orgasm later, I sometimes get the urge to just jump him.
9. When I was around eleven, we went on a road trip and my underwear was peeking above my pants. The boys in my class kept pointing and laughing, so I got mad and mooned them, saying "it's underwear, get over it!" It shut them up, but the memory never fails to make me blush.
10. I discovered masturbation when I was practically a child. I didn't know what it was; I just knew if I pressed certain spots in certain ways, I'd feel very good. When puberty hit, I was already an expert on getting off. Odd thing is, even after experimenting with dildos and vibrators, I can only get myself off with my fingers.
11. Anal sex is not for me. At least, not if I'm on the receiving end. I'd like to fuck my boyfriend's ass, but right now I can't afford a strap-on.
12. I'm bisexual, though mostly heterosexual. I like dating other bisexuals, because they're not so ashamed and insecure about sex. I find hetero lovers are too worried about maintaining their hetero status and lesbian ones are too political about sex. Politics and gender roles have no place in my bedroom, unless you plan to somehow pervert them.
13. I'm a pretty nerdy girl, I like anime, history and all sorts of fantasy books. I often imagine how it would be to have sex with some of the characters. I often worry what this means, especially when thinking about history's great personalities. I mean, they always said Napoleon was a great lover, but who actually imagines that?
14. I find art arousing. The Barberini Faun makes me come harder than any porno.
15. Though I don't like anal, I'd really like to try double penetration. I'd be a very happy sandwich filling if I ever find someone comfortable enough to do it with me and my boyfriend.
16. I'd really like to go to a sex party someday. I don't necessarily look for sex or a change of partners, but I'd like to watch and touch. I think it's an interesting idea, to kiss or touch someone while they're being fucked by someone else.
17. The fifth guy I fucked had a really big dick, so much so, it took me a while to fit it and it was very hard to move and get used to it. It was the only time I couldn't come from penetrative sex, besides my first time. So yes, size matters: there are times when big is just as awful as small.
18. I really like kissing, though it's a recent thing. My first boyfriends didn't really know how to kiss and the girlfriend wasn't exactly a master either. The third guy I fucked, however, taught me that kissing could be awesome. Ever since then, I refused to fuck anyone who didn't kiss me in a way that I enjoyed.
19. I like to read erotica and fanfiction. No one, and I mean, absolutely no one knows this about me. I'm kind of ashamed of it, because how do you explain it? It just sounds so ridiculous to say "yeah, I like Harry Potter, but I like Hermione/Snape fanfiction more than anything Rowling's ever written".
20. I can't get on well with my exes. I feel that past relationships are just failures, things I could have done better, but didn't. And really, it's just odd, having a conversation with someone who's seen you orgasm. Who you have seen orgasm.
21. I like oral sex, giving much more than receiving. I like giving, because it's such a powerful combination of power and submission: I pleasure someone else, but I control said pleasure. I don't like receiving oral that much because I feel too vulnerable and open.
22. The one thing I could never do is pee on someone. I had an accident while playing football (soccer) when I was little that derived into a rather painful infection that made peeing hard and painful for about two weeks. Since then, I spend a lot of time just sitting on the toilet trying to pee. It's psychological, but it would only be worse if I had to do it for another person.
23. I think I'm pretty obsessed with my exes. It's mostly because all my relationships so far have been rather passionate, emotionally charged affairs. I've always been a bit of a drama queen and picked all these impossible people... The only relationship I entered that I knew wasn't doomed from the start is the current one.
24. Freckles, birthmarks, blue veins peeking here and there... I find all these fascinating. It's always such a pleasure to explore a body and map out its differences from the rest... Much better than trying to map personalities.
25. I don't think great sex comes with great love. For me, it comes from great intimacy.
2. Though I'm madly in love with him, I would love to cheat on my boyfriend.
3. I lost my virginity when I was 16, to a guy who was six years older. I had dated one of his friends, had gone down on another one and after we broke up, I proceeded to date another one. To this day, I have fantasies of fucking all four of them together.
4. I love redheads and small-breasted women. I love anorexic boys with treasure trails. But what really does it for me are the hands.
5. I am much more comfortable naked than dressed. I hate winter, because I have to bury myself underneath a mountain of thick clothes. It's about the sincere, almost pure quality of nude flesh: your body isn't Zara, Chanel or Wal-Mart, it's not where you were born, or what you ate last night, or where you went to high school. It's just a body, desirable or not.
6. I didn't love the guy with whom I lost my virginity and it wasn't a planned, romantic event. It was a completely spontaneous decision, born out of pure desire, and that's what made it awesome.
7. I orgasm easily. Everybody's so surprised when I'm over the edge in less than five minutes, especially when vaginal intercourse is involved. "What? Already?" is something I always get the first time I'm having sex with someone. The irony never fails to amuse me.
8. Since orgasms come easy for me, what most arouses me is tension and denial. Ever since my boyfriend discovered it, he drives me nuts with all the teasing, and though I know I'll have a powerful orgasm later, I sometimes get the urge to just jump him.
9. When I was around eleven, we went on a road trip and my underwear was peeking above my pants. The boys in my class kept pointing and laughing, so I got mad and mooned them, saying "it's underwear, get over it!" It shut them up, but the memory never fails to make me blush.
10. I discovered masturbation when I was practically a child. I didn't know what it was; I just knew if I pressed certain spots in certain ways, I'd feel very good. When puberty hit, I was already an expert on getting off. Odd thing is, even after experimenting with dildos and vibrators, I can only get myself off with my fingers.
11. Anal sex is not for me. At least, not if I'm on the receiving end. I'd like to fuck my boyfriend's ass, but right now I can't afford a strap-on.
12. I'm bisexual, though mostly heterosexual. I like dating other bisexuals, because they're not so ashamed and insecure about sex. I find hetero lovers are too worried about maintaining their hetero status and lesbian ones are too political about sex. Politics and gender roles have no place in my bedroom, unless you plan to somehow pervert them.
13. I'm a pretty nerdy girl, I like anime, history and all sorts of fantasy books. I often imagine how it would be to have sex with some of the characters. I often worry what this means, especially when thinking about history's great personalities. I mean, they always said Napoleon was a great lover, but who actually imagines that?
14. I find art arousing. The Barberini Faun makes me come harder than any porno.
15. Though I don't like anal, I'd really like to try double penetration. I'd be a very happy sandwich filling if I ever find someone comfortable enough to do it with me and my boyfriend.
16. I'd really like to go to a sex party someday. I don't necessarily look for sex or a change of partners, but I'd like to watch and touch. I think it's an interesting idea, to kiss or touch someone while they're being fucked by someone else.
17. The fifth guy I fucked had a really big dick, so much so, it took me a while to fit it and it was very hard to move and get used to it. It was the only time I couldn't come from penetrative sex, besides my first time. So yes, size matters: there are times when big is just as awful as small.
18. I really like kissing, though it's a recent thing. My first boyfriends didn't really know how to kiss and the girlfriend wasn't exactly a master either. The third guy I fucked, however, taught me that kissing could be awesome. Ever since then, I refused to fuck anyone who didn't kiss me in a way that I enjoyed.
19. I like to read erotica and fanfiction. No one, and I mean, absolutely no one knows this about me. I'm kind of ashamed of it, because how do you explain it? It just sounds so ridiculous to say "yeah, I like Harry Potter, but I like Hermione/Snape fanfiction more than anything Rowling's ever written".
20. I can't get on well with my exes. I feel that past relationships are just failures, things I could have done better, but didn't. And really, it's just odd, having a conversation with someone who's seen you orgasm. Who you have seen orgasm.
21. I like oral sex, giving much more than receiving. I like giving, because it's such a powerful combination of power and submission: I pleasure someone else, but I control said pleasure. I don't like receiving oral that much because I feel too vulnerable and open.
22. The one thing I could never do is pee on someone. I had an accident while playing football (soccer) when I was little that derived into a rather painful infection that made peeing hard and painful for about two weeks. Since then, I spend a lot of time just sitting on the toilet trying to pee. It's psychological, but it would only be worse if I had to do it for another person.
23. I think I'm pretty obsessed with my exes. It's mostly because all my relationships so far have been rather passionate, emotionally charged affairs. I've always been a bit of a drama queen and picked all these impossible people... The only relationship I entered that I knew wasn't doomed from the start is the current one.
24. Freckles, birthmarks, blue veins peeking here and there... I find all these fascinating. It's always such a pleasure to explore a body and map out its differences from the rest... Much better than trying to map personalities.
25. I don't think great sex comes with great love. For me, it comes from great intimacy.
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
1. I am a twenty-four year old female, and probably bisexual. The 'probably' is more down to lack of experience than anything else.
2. I didn't get much sex education from my parents, and had a pretty sheltered upbringing as I was homeschooled up to the age of eleven. Mostly I found out about sex through reading books.
3. I had a few crushes (all boys) in high school, but no boyfriends. I didn't realize that I was attracted to girls until I went to university.
4. I had my first kiss when I was eighteen. He was a friend of a friend, we met on a night out, and he charmed me.
5. I've honestly given up trying to describe what attracts me to people: the people I'm attracted to vary so much. With men, sometimes skinny nerdy boys do it and sometimes more muscled tough guys, and everything in between.
6. I feel 'drawn', somehow, to gay men. It's more a social thing than anything.
7. I love, love, love breasts. They don't have to be huge, just big enough to play with.
8. One of my favorite fantasies has me with an older woman, sucking on her nipples and being treated like her baby.
9. Following on from #7, sometimes I'll see a woman (in the street, on TV, anywhere) with gorgeous breasts and I just have to look at them.
10. Many of my fantasies revolve around oral sex – either sitting on someone's face, or 69ing, or kneeling in front of a gorgeous woman and just worshiping her pussy.
11. I've only kissed a girl once, while I was at university, during a game of spin the bottle.
12. I like erotic fiction – any kind – but I don't like watching porn or looking at pictures. The pictures always seem so fake and staged.
13. I'd like to participate in an orgy, but I don't think I have the confidence.
14. I want to try D/s sex someday. I want to be tied up and punished.
15. I masturbate quite frequently, several times a week at least. I use toys occasionally but I prefer just my fingers and my imagination.
16. I sometimes sign up for internet 'dating' sites, but I've never actually corresponded with anyone that way. Cybersex sounds interesting, and I'd like to try it at least once.
17. I like to masturbate when I'm on my period, it relaxes me.
18. Generally my fantasies involve people from TV shows or movies – fictional characters rather than people I really know.
19. The first time I gave a guy a blowjob was at a party when I was nineteen. It was the guy from #4, and it didn't end well between us.
20. I think most people (including my family) think I'm not that interested in sex.
21. I ejaculate when I come, sometimes.
22. I like how it feels when I piss myself. It's warm, and wet, and makes me want to try urine-play with someone else.
23. I want to be spanked, and a number of my earliest fantasies involved authority figures bending me over and spanking or caning me.
24. My preferred variety of erotica is m/m. It's the idea of two beautiful men fucking, basically.
25. 'Beautiful', for me, is a much broader term than I think it is for most people. That probably explains why there's so much variety in what turns me on.
2. I didn't get much sex education from my parents, and had a pretty sheltered upbringing as I was homeschooled up to the age of eleven. Mostly I found out about sex through reading books.
3. I had a few crushes (all boys) in high school, but no boyfriends. I didn't realize that I was attracted to girls until I went to university.
4. I had my first kiss when I was eighteen. He was a friend of a friend, we met on a night out, and he charmed me.
5. I've honestly given up trying to describe what attracts me to people: the people I'm attracted to vary so much. With men, sometimes skinny nerdy boys do it and sometimes more muscled tough guys, and everything in between.
6. I feel 'drawn', somehow, to gay men. It's more a social thing than anything.
7. I love, love, love breasts. They don't have to be huge, just big enough to play with.
8. One of my favorite fantasies has me with an older woman, sucking on her nipples and being treated like her baby.
9. Following on from #7, sometimes I'll see a woman (in the street, on TV, anywhere) with gorgeous breasts and I just have to look at them.
10. Many of my fantasies revolve around oral sex – either sitting on someone's face, or 69ing, or kneeling in front of a gorgeous woman and just worshiping her pussy.
11. I've only kissed a girl once, while I was at university, during a game of spin the bottle.
12. I like erotic fiction – any kind – but I don't like watching porn or looking at pictures. The pictures always seem so fake and staged.
13. I'd like to participate in an orgy, but I don't think I have the confidence.
14. I want to try D/s sex someday. I want to be tied up and punished.
15. I masturbate quite frequently, several times a week at least. I use toys occasionally but I prefer just my fingers and my imagination.
16. I sometimes sign up for internet 'dating' sites, but I've never actually corresponded with anyone that way. Cybersex sounds interesting, and I'd like to try it at least once.
17. I like to masturbate when I'm on my period, it relaxes me.
18. Generally my fantasies involve people from TV shows or movies – fictional characters rather than people I really know.
19. The first time I gave a guy a blowjob was at a party when I was nineteen. It was the guy from #4, and it didn't end well between us.
20. I think most people (including my family) think I'm not that interested in sex.
21. I ejaculate when I come, sometimes.
22. I like how it feels when I piss myself. It's warm, and wet, and makes me want to try urine-play with someone else.
23. I want to be spanked, and a number of my earliest fantasies involved authority figures bending me over and spanking or caning me.
24. My preferred variety of erotica is m/m. It's the idea of two beautiful men fucking, basically.
25. 'Beautiful', for me, is a much broader term than I think it is for most people. That probably explains why there's so much variety in what turns me on.
Monday, December 20, 2010
1. I'm a 20-year-old (soon to be 21 woohoo) heterosexual female who likes to make out with girls on occasion.
2. I’ve always wanted to go down on a girl, or do something sexual with one, but have never really been given the opportunity to do so. I’m also very picky about what sorts of women I’m attracted to, and tend to only be attracted to the type that heterosexual men go after.
3. I grew up with boys, and boys were always open about their conquests and sex, so I was too. Being around boys all the time also made me incredibly forward in elementary and middle school. I was never afraid to talk to be and be friends with a boy I liked.
4. In high school, I was shameless. I’d kiss one boy and move onto to another one in the same week, and there was always some sort of trail of destruction going on whenever I was around. I have no idea how many boys I’ve made out with. I lost track around 30.
5. I’ve had dozens of boys tell me I was the best kiss they’d ever had. It’s still a point of pride for me to this day.
6. I watched Xena all the time when I was a kid, and I honestly thought that lesbianism was normal because no one, not even my own mother, ever told me otherwise.
7. I let a boy take off my pants for the first time when I was 16. No sex, we just fooled around a bit, but from that point on, I wanted to do it all the time.
8. I’ve fooled around in my yard at night, in the library parking lot, in the middle of the forest, in a public bathroom on a cruise and in someone’s car. Like I said before, no shame. I enjoyed every single experience, except maybe the forest one.
9. At one point, I considered trying to become a Playboy model. This was encouraged by my friends, who thought my raunchy attitude on life would be a perfect fit for a career posing naked in magazines. Needless to say, I’ve abandoned that career option, but I still love looking at those gorgeous girls from time to time.
10. I lost my virginity in a cruise bathroom to a man who was living with his girlfriend at the time, and I never felt shittier. I was also recently out of a bad relationship to begin with, so it didn’t help me at all. I’ve been the other woman only one other time. I hated the feeling so, so much and knew that I’d never do it again, the emotional turmoil just wasn’t worth it.
11. I used to have this terrible, terrible habit of moving on to another guy before I had officially ended my current relationship. I know a hurt a lot of people by doing this, and it just kills me that at the time I didn’t even really care about what I did.
12. I also used to be a habitual cheater. It often caused me to hate myself, and hate relationships in general, because fooling around with different guys while in a relationship had consequences, but doing that while single was perfectly fine. I started avoiding getting into relationships using this faulty logic all throughout high school.
13. You can infer from #9 and #10 that I had a hard time sticking to one guy at a time. The horrid, simple truth was that I just got bored with them eventually, so I was always moving on, looking for the next cheap thrill. I’m amazed I didn't end up with any sort of disease with the way I was going.
14. I’m terrified of anal sex. My current boyfriend and I were having sex one day, and he pulled all the way out and actually accidentally went in the wrong hole since he wasn’t really paying attention at all. Even though it was only in for less than a second, it hurt so bad that I’ve been afraid of butt play ever since, which is a shame because I was incredibly open to it before that incident. It’s a hilarious story, however, in retrospect.
15. I had a food fetish up until a previous boyfriend and I tried covering each other in chocolate syrup once and just ended up having everything in a big mess. We found that applesauce worked much better, but it was still a less than desirable result in the end. My current boyfriend and I tried eating chocolate cake off each other once, and didn’t really enjoy the experience either. Food was just not meant to be sexual for me.
16. The first time my current boyfriend and I had sex was in his apartment bedroom while his roommates were in the living room. I made sure to scream extra loud for them, and in turn they banged on the door and made obscene noises. Probably one of the best sexual encounters I’ve ever had, and also possibly the closest I’ll ever get to exhibitionism.
17. I have this wonderful fascination with gay porn and yaoi/slash fan fiction; it gets me going like no one’s business. My current boyfriend gladly indulges me in this, and I love him so very much for it.
18. My current boyfriend and I also have an odd agreement that homosexual liaisons are not considered cheating. This is mostly because of my tendency to make out with girls when drunk. He’s a typical heterosexual male who likes the idea of two hot girls making out, so it all works out. And since I have an obsession with gay porn and yaoi, I’d love to see him kiss a boy some time.
19. I love being held down and unable to move properly during sex. It’s my biggest turn on. I also love being tied up and blindfolded. I want to be gagged one day during sex.
20. I had sex once while wasted and partially blacking out in-between. I hated it. I’ve never been that drunk since.
21. I have this obsession with guys with long hair. I love to run my fingers through it, braid it, pull it during sex, and all sorts of other things. Effeminate guys with long hair are even better.
22. I’ve never been attracted to muscular guys. They always look way too box-like for my tastes. I like tall and slender guys with softer features. The only exception to this rule, oddly enough, is in video games.
23. I want a vibrator but I’ve always been too embarrassed to buy one for myself for some odd reason. Going to buy one for a friend or going shopping for one with a friend doesn’t faze me at all, though.
24. I was offered the chance to participate in a foursome once, but I turned it down because it would’ve been with three friends I knew too well. I didn’t want to have the awkwardness later.
25. Until recently, I was unable to hold a relationship for more than 8 months. I’m on my 10th. I always hated the sticky situations that came with committing to one person, and to my high school mind, staying with someone too long meant wasting your time because all relationships eventually ended. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost two years now, and we’re planning our life together after graduating college. I’ve never been happier or more satisfied with my life and sexuality, and at no point did I ever feel like I was wasting my time or missing out on other guys. It’s so wonderful to have something normal and stable, and though it sounds boring, it’s the most exciting experience I’ve ever had.
2. I’ve always wanted to go down on a girl, or do something sexual with one, but have never really been given the opportunity to do so. I’m also very picky about what sorts of women I’m attracted to, and tend to only be attracted to the type that heterosexual men go after.
3. I grew up with boys, and boys were always open about their conquests and sex, so I was too. Being around boys all the time also made me incredibly forward in elementary and middle school. I was never afraid to talk to be and be friends with a boy I liked.
4. In high school, I was shameless. I’d kiss one boy and move onto to another one in the same week, and there was always some sort of trail of destruction going on whenever I was around. I have no idea how many boys I’ve made out with. I lost track around 30.
5. I’ve had dozens of boys tell me I was the best kiss they’d ever had. It’s still a point of pride for me to this day.
6. I watched Xena all the time when I was a kid, and I honestly thought that lesbianism was normal because no one, not even my own mother, ever told me otherwise.
7. I let a boy take off my pants for the first time when I was 16. No sex, we just fooled around a bit, but from that point on, I wanted to do it all the time.
8. I’ve fooled around in my yard at night, in the library parking lot, in the middle of the forest, in a public bathroom on a cruise and in someone’s car. Like I said before, no shame. I enjoyed every single experience, except maybe the forest one.
9. At one point, I considered trying to become a Playboy model. This was encouraged by my friends, who thought my raunchy attitude on life would be a perfect fit for a career posing naked in magazines. Needless to say, I’ve abandoned that career option, but I still love looking at those gorgeous girls from time to time.
10. I lost my virginity in a cruise bathroom to a man who was living with his girlfriend at the time, and I never felt shittier. I was also recently out of a bad relationship to begin with, so it didn’t help me at all. I’ve been the other woman only one other time. I hated the feeling so, so much and knew that I’d never do it again, the emotional turmoil just wasn’t worth it.
11. I used to have this terrible, terrible habit of moving on to another guy before I had officially ended my current relationship. I know a hurt a lot of people by doing this, and it just kills me that at the time I didn’t even really care about what I did.
12. I also used to be a habitual cheater. It often caused me to hate myself, and hate relationships in general, because fooling around with different guys while in a relationship had consequences, but doing that while single was perfectly fine. I started avoiding getting into relationships using this faulty logic all throughout high school.
13. You can infer from #9 and #10 that I had a hard time sticking to one guy at a time. The horrid, simple truth was that I just got bored with them eventually, so I was always moving on, looking for the next cheap thrill. I’m amazed I didn't end up with any sort of disease with the way I was going.
14. I’m terrified of anal sex. My current boyfriend and I were having sex one day, and he pulled all the way out and actually accidentally went in the wrong hole since he wasn’t really paying attention at all. Even though it was only in for less than a second, it hurt so bad that I’ve been afraid of butt play ever since, which is a shame because I was incredibly open to it before that incident. It’s a hilarious story, however, in retrospect.
15. I had a food fetish up until a previous boyfriend and I tried covering each other in chocolate syrup once and just ended up having everything in a big mess. We found that applesauce worked much better, but it was still a less than desirable result in the end. My current boyfriend and I tried eating chocolate cake off each other once, and didn’t really enjoy the experience either. Food was just not meant to be sexual for me.
16. The first time my current boyfriend and I had sex was in his apartment bedroom while his roommates were in the living room. I made sure to scream extra loud for them, and in turn they banged on the door and made obscene noises. Probably one of the best sexual encounters I’ve ever had, and also possibly the closest I’ll ever get to exhibitionism.
17. I have this wonderful fascination with gay porn and yaoi/slash fan fiction; it gets me going like no one’s business. My current boyfriend gladly indulges me in this, and I love him so very much for it.
18. My current boyfriend and I also have an odd agreement that homosexual liaisons are not considered cheating. This is mostly because of my tendency to make out with girls when drunk. He’s a typical heterosexual male who likes the idea of two hot girls making out, so it all works out. And since I have an obsession with gay porn and yaoi, I’d love to see him kiss a boy some time.
19. I love being held down and unable to move properly during sex. It’s my biggest turn on. I also love being tied up and blindfolded. I want to be gagged one day during sex.
20. I had sex once while wasted and partially blacking out in-between. I hated it. I’ve never been that drunk since.
21. I have this obsession with guys with long hair. I love to run my fingers through it, braid it, pull it during sex, and all sorts of other things. Effeminate guys with long hair are even better.
22. I’ve never been attracted to muscular guys. They always look way too box-like for my tastes. I like tall and slender guys with softer features. The only exception to this rule, oddly enough, is in video games.
23. I want a vibrator but I’ve always been too embarrassed to buy one for myself for some odd reason. Going to buy one for a friend or going shopping for one with a friend doesn’t faze me at all, though.
24. I was offered the chance to participate in a foursome once, but I turned it down because it would’ve been with three friends I knew too well. I didn’t want to have the awkwardness later.
25. Until recently, I was unable to hold a relationship for more than 8 months. I’m on my 10th. I always hated the sticky situations that came with committing to one person, and to my high school mind, staying with someone too long meant wasting your time because all relationships eventually ended. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost two years now, and we’re planning our life together after graduating college. I’ve never been happier or more satisfied with my life and sexuality, and at no point did I ever feel like I was wasting my time or missing out on other guys. It’s so wonderful to have something normal and stable, and though it sounds boring, it’s the most exciting experience I’ve ever had.
Sunday, December 19, 2010
1. I am ashamed of and disgusted by most of my desires, even though I find them blameless and laudable from anyone else. I frequently wish I were asexual like my partner.
2. I'm a cisgendered woman in her late twenties, and I identify as bisexual because my actual orientation is too unstable to be pinned down.
3. There are things I want which I'm unable to articulate well enough to ask for; the more chance I have of getting them, the less able I am to talk about them. I have scared people away by being honest and open before. Worse than scaring people away is the incredulous stare.
4. I'm submissive and into things which are categorized as "edgeplay" on all the sites I've been to; I've been to BDSM clubs but I hate them, and I dislike strongly almost all the doms I've met.
5. I don't think I'm ever going to find someone who is right for me.
6. I was sexually abused as a child and as a teenager; one of the reasons I loathe my personal kinks so much is that a lot of them are very transparently linked to those experiences. It's hard to accept that what caused me so much unhappiness now gets me off.
7. I'm very open about my particular sexual tastes and I feel like I have to set a good example in terms of self-acceptance, so I can talk about all kinds of deviance but paradoxically never about how it makes me feel revolted by myself.
8. I've discovered most of my sexual tastes by accident and through fiction.
9. Thanks to a couple of sour relationships and one-night-stands who weren't very kind, I'm now convinced that people will make fun of me if I look like I'm enjoying sex, which makes it harder to enjoy it.
10. I don't masturbate as much as I'd like to. My usual reasons are self-loathing, tiredness, and the feeling that if I do I'm somehow admitting that no one else would ever want to touch me.
11. So far, nothing anyone has done has been able to convince me that they find me attractive.
12. My best friends know more about my sexuality than anyone I've slept with does.
13. I'm most attracted to people who are a lot younger than me, but can't do anything about it because I assume that they'll think I'm a nasty older person. I'm assured that this is all in my head.
14. I'm attracted to men and to women, but not really to penises very much; the people I'm most attracted to are cis women and trans men, and I have enough trans friends to know that lumping them together like that is offensive. My libido doesn't care about that, but it's one of the things which makes me feel bad about my sexuality.
15. I frequently crack jokes or end up laughing during sex, and make self-deprecating remarks. Sometimes I think my interest in being gagged or choked is just so that I don't feel that I have to disclaim everything.
16. In recent years it's become the case that I can't get off without choking myself; my last partner wouldn't go to the length that I wanted to because of concerns for my safety and potential for brain damage.
17. The one part of my sexuality that I'm not revolted by is the part that makes people boggle and/or refuse to sleep with me, which doesn't really help toward self-acceptance.
18. The second girl I ever slept with was what porno likes to call "a squirter" and I've a taste for it now/feel like I'm not doing a good enough job if I can't get the same reaction from all the girls I fuck.
19. I like watching men and women wet themselves. I like the idea of being forced to do the same by someone. I like the idea of the sensation of wet cloth, particularly when it is wet with pee. So far I haven't told anyone this.
20. The idea of having one or more of my limbs broken by someone else as a prelude to sex turns me on.
21. Dirty talk - the kind that involves words like "slut" and "whore" or "dirty little girl" - doesn't just turn me off, it makes me never want to have anything to do with that person again.
22. I am already worried that I am too easy to identify from this list.
23. I have a readily-repeatable list of qualities that I find attractive, a "type", but I am more than happy to go outside of that type. I just don't tell people that very often.
24. The group sex I've had has been variable but on the whole I really want to try more.
25. I don't hold much hope for the future.
2. I'm a cisgendered woman in her late twenties, and I identify as bisexual because my actual orientation is too unstable to be pinned down.
3. There are things I want which I'm unable to articulate well enough to ask for; the more chance I have of getting them, the less able I am to talk about them. I have scared people away by being honest and open before. Worse than scaring people away is the incredulous stare.
4. I'm submissive and into things which are categorized as "edgeplay" on all the sites I've been to; I've been to BDSM clubs but I hate them, and I dislike strongly almost all the doms I've met.
5. I don't think I'm ever going to find someone who is right for me.
6. I was sexually abused as a child and as a teenager; one of the reasons I loathe my personal kinks so much is that a lot of them are very transparently linked to those experiences. It's hard to accept that what caused me so much unhappiness now gets me off.
7. I'm very open about my particular sexual tastes and I feel like I have to set a good example in terms of self-acceptance, so I can talk about all kinds of deviance but paradoxically never about how it makes me feel revolted by myself.
8. I've discovered most of my sexual tastes by accident and through fiction.
9. Thanks to a couple of sour relationships and one-night-stands who weren't very kind, I'm now convinced that people will make fun of me if I look like I'm enjoying sex, which makes it harder to enjoy it.
10. I don't masturbate as much as I'd like to. My usual reasons are self-loathing, tiredness, and the feeling that if I do I'm somehow admitting that no one else would ever want to touch me.
11. So far, nothing anyone has done has been able to convince me that they find me attractive.
12. My best friends know more about my sexuality than anyone I've slept with does.
13. I'm most attracted to people who are a lot younger than me, but can't do anything about it because I assume that they'll think I'm a nasty older person. I'm assured that this is all in my head.
14. I'm attracted to men and to women, but not really to penises very much; the people I'm most attracted to are cis women and trans men, and I have enough trans friends to know that lumping them together like that is offensive. My libido doesn't care about that, but it's one of the things which makes me feel bad about my sexuality.
15. I frequently crack jokes or end up laughing during sex, and make self-deprecating remarks. Sometimes I think my interest in being gagged or choked is just so that I don't feel that I have to disclaim everything.
16. In recent years it's become the case that I can't get off without choking myself; my last partner wouldn't go to the length that I wanted to because of concerns for my safety and potential for brain damage.
17. The one part of my sexuality that I'm not revolted by is the part that makes people boggle and/or refuse to sleep with me, which doesn't really help toward self-acceptance.
18. The second girl I ever slept with was what porno likes to call "a squirter" and I've a taste for it now/feel like I'm not doing a good enough job if I can't get the same reaction from all the girls I fuck.
19. I like watching men and women wet themselves. I like the idea of being forced to do the same by someone. I like the idea of the sensation of wet cloth, particularly when it is wet with pee. So far I haven't told anyone this.
20. The idea of having one or more of my limbs broken by someone else as a prelude to sex turns me on.
21. Dirty talk - the kind that involves words like "slut" and "whore" or "dirty little girl" - doesn't just turn me off, it makes me never want to have anything to do with that person again.
22. I am already worried that I am too easy to identify from this list.
23. I have a readily-repeatable list of qualities that I find attractive, a "type", but I am more than happy to go outside of that type. I just don't tell people that very often.
24. The group sex I've had has been variable but on the whole I really want to try more.
25. I don't hold much hope for the future.
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