Monday, May 4, 2009

1. For society’s sake I label myself as a lesbian. Since I have never had a relationship with a man I think this is just easier. If prompted I am more than willing to discuss it further and have had some great conversations about sexuality with all sorts of people because of it.
2. I don’t really see myself as ever dating a man. I love having sex with them and often wish I did more often but I have never had any kind of sexual and emotional connection with a man.
3. I love women. I used to think I had a type. The girls who usually turn my head right away look gay; they have short hair, dress a little androgynous, and are short and little in general. This is what I used to think my “type” was. Now I realize I just really love girls and the female body and while the people I’m attracted to are normally considered pretty in some conventional way, they are all very different.
4. Recently I’ve been really into ‘straight’ girls. It’s not like I’m out there trying to recruit straight girls for my team or anything but I think I’m really good at picking out which ones are curious/attracted to me.
5. I am currently in a relationship with a straight girl. It’s been going on for almost a year but everything about it is very messy and undefined. I know we both love each other very much and we always make time to be together but we have never been monogamous for a multitude of reasons. We have both dated and hooked up with other people since we have been together which has made things a little rocky at times but things are still going very well.
6. I came out when I was 14. I started dating a girl I met my freshman year of high school and my mom saw us kissing goodbye one day in front of my house, this is how my parents found out I wasn’t straight.
7. I had lots of crushes on girls in middle school, these are the first crushes I can remember having. I thought it was just an intense desire to be friends with them. I actually didn’t realize what the deal was until a few months before I came out.
8. I lost my virginity to a boy when I was 16. He was 15. We were both high and at a friend’s house that often had parties. A few weeks before we had sex I called him up when I was with my friends and told him I wanted to fuck him, it was kind of a joke. I absolutely do not regret this in any way; I still think it is funny. After we were done I gave him a high five and said, “let’s go smoke more weed.” And that we did.
9. I have had sex with six men but have only had sex with one of them on more than one occasion. The only reason I have had sex with him more than once is because we happened to fun into each other again at a party and I was horny.
10. The best sex I have ever had with a guy was at my sister’s wedding. I was a bride’s maid and I had sex with the best man while a little tipsy outside on the church grounds during the reception. I just took off my panties and laid down and he undid his pants and we had the best quickie ever. I tired to find him on Facebook later but I couldn’t. I would have sex with him again at the drop of a hat; it was some of the most amazing sex I have ever had.
11. I have had two threesomes. One was with two other girls and one was with a straight couple. The one with the straight couple is much more memorable because the guy involved stuck his dick in my ass, literally. I thought he just wanted me to flip over so we could be doggy style but that was not the case. I think this would have pissed a lot of people off but I just went with it, even his girlfriend was kind of surprised about that. I think this is a pretty hilarious story, I tell it as often as is appropriate, most of my friends also thing it is funny.
12. In high school most of my friends were pretty promiscuous. Everyone was having sex with each other and having group sex. I know a certain amount of sluttiness goes along with kids who party but I think what we did was way beyond that. I left high school with a list of 30-some people I had sexual contact with and that was much lower than many of my close friends.
13. Since all the people I was around when I was beginning to come into my own sexually were all very open and un-judgmental I’ve become a really accepting and open person about sex myself and I love it. I love having sex and talking about it and I don’t have any shame about how my sex life really.
14. In the summer I am a camp counselor. At night since the staff have nothing to do but sit around in the staff rooms without TV, cell phones, computers, etc. So we sit around and talk and play games for hours. Most of the people there are shocked by how open I am about sex and all of the different experiences I have had though I do not consider myself very experienced or slutty I love shocking them and talking to them about sex.
15. This camp is also where I end up seducing a lot of straight girls. I have worked there for going on five summers and have gotten three hook ups/relationships out of it. I know if I would have acted on it I could have had more and I already have a girl I will be hooking up with there this summer. I love my job and I know I would get fired for this but I just think it is so fun to sneak around with girls and open them up to possibilities outside of heterosexuality.
16. I have seriously looked for sex online before but never quite followed through. I’ve only ever looked for men and I’ve stood two up. I think one day I will end up going through with it. Finding sex online is just so easy and you can shop around for exactly what you would like in most cases. I really like this part of it because that way everything is up front.
17. When I was younger I was really shy and always wanted to be the submissive person in a relationship or in bed. I seem to have a knack for getting into things with people who either want to be dominated or are not very experienced which I have found to my surprise, I kind of like. This is mostly due to the fact that I love getting girls off, any way I can. I don’t get off very easily during sex and I would much rather just concentrate on the other person. Having a girl tell me I am amazing in bed is probably one of the best compliments someone can give me. I especially love it when straight girls tell me they’ve had better orgasms with me than they have with a boy.
18. I masturbate almost every day. Usually I watch porn, the type depends on my mood. My favorites generally involve doggy style where the girl is laying down with pillows under her hips and the guy is laying on top of her and really pumping with his hips. I think I like this the most because this is how I would like to have a guy fuck me the most.
19. When I am watching porn, I usually get off from the way the guy is moving, though I also love the sounds involved. I almost always think lesbian porn is gross. I think this is mostly due to the fact that it all seems so fake and made for straight men. When I watch porn it is usually the real amateur stuff that you can tell is somebody’s web cam or whatever. Real sex is just so much hotter than acting.
20. I’m not really that kinky during sex. I like things like bites, and scratches and handcuffs and blindfolds, I also wouldn’t say no to having anal again. Besides those few things I am open to suggestions from a partner.
21. I love having my nipples played with. They are so sensitive that if I don’t wear a bra certain shirts and materials will irritate them.
22. In most all of the sexual encounters I have had in the last year or two the focus has been on the other persons needs. I do really like this but I also want someone to pay attention to my body. My current girlfriend doesn’t even really touch me or pay attention to my body at all during sex and while I’m OK with this for now I would really like to have a partner soon who wants to explore my body the way I have explored so many other people’s, I just want to know what it feels like.
23. I own a vibrator but I don’t use it super often. It’s fun to play with and gets me off pretty fast but I almost exclusively masturbate while on my stomach so it makes it a little bit more awkward to use.
24. I’d like to think I am a very attentive lover. I put my partner’s wants and needs first and I like it when people tell me what they like. I hate walking out of a sexual encounter that goes past second base without giving the other person an orgasm.
25. In some situations when I have had sex with men I am quite certain that if I were a different type of girl I would think I got taken advantage of but personally, I don’t think I was at all. While I think that things like date rape are despicable I also firmly believe in both parties taking responsibility for their actions. Our society has such a nasty prejudice about men and sex. I think girls need to be responsible and in some situations have the brains to read what is going on around them and learn how to deal with it. Plus, what’s up with sex being such a big deal to begin with? I don’t think I’ll ever understand why some people are so uptight about it.