Thursday, December 23, 2010

1. I am an 18-year-old bisexual girl. Woman. Female.

2. Actually, since I don't give a fuck if you're trans or cis, maybe I should be "queer," but I dislike a label that specifically describes nothing. All it seems to mean is you are different from the norm, but if monosexuality is the actual norm I will eat my hat. The fact that I do not own such an item is irrelevant. Oh, also intergender people are cool. But I'm not pan, since I see gender. Look, I'm sexual (and very, at that, to the point of being sex-obsessed), but bisexual does as a label, since people know what it means.

3. This is because I have an emotional override to my physical attraction. I definitely have a physical type, but I can like anyone so long as they are sufficiently awesome.

4. Oh, and pertaining to the "female" up there that's quite possibly got you all riled up by being equated with "woman," I am utterly confused by all this sex vs gender stuff. But I'll use whatever pronouns you want me to, within reason. And be attracted to you if you're sufficiently interesting in other ways. If you're being different just for the sake of being different, I frown upon you.

5. I think I'd have been just as happy being born male, but I'll stick with being a girl. Even if it would be awesome to have a penis, I think breasts balance it out.

6. I have never had an orgasm.

7. Ironically, my entire body is an erogenous zone. And the inside of my mouth.

8. I am afraid of purchasing sex toys for two reasons: 1) people might know I have them, and 2) orgasms.

9. That second reason is twofold, if I orgasm with the toy, my boyfriend may then worry it is his lack of skill that has lead to me not doing so beforehand. He won't, and in fact he'll probably just operate the thing himself until either of us can do it manually, but I worry that he will. On the other hand, if I do not, that means I am anorgasmic, and that is a strange and slightly terrifying thought.

10. It still surprises me that my boyfriend asks me if I want to do things. I still just figure people will tell me if I'm going too far, which I should stop.

11. I like friends. Friends are good. I have recently taken to kissing my friends, little kisses, not on the lips. I worry that this sends the wrong message to them, but then the snuggling would have done that anyway.

12. I am a total sub, but I'm a sub who knows what she wants. Mostly. And I'm getting better at articulating instead of grabbing.

13. In addition to this, I like being scritched behind the ear and petted. I would be totally cool with being a pet to a race of super-intelligent aliens. This is less to do with sexuality and more just me-ness, but subbing is part of sexuality, so why not this. Were I a furry I would have a kitten persona. Needless to say, I would be a very chaste furry.

14. When I get over my fear of sex shopping, I will buy a strap-on to surprise my boyfriend with.

15. I would love to go down on a woman.

16. I have gone down on a man, but never finished. The feeling when his erection swells in your mouth is incredible, though, cause it's like "I've done that. I've made it happy." Plus, you know, erogenous zone in mouth.

17. I have had two sexual partners. The first doesn't count.

18. That last one was a lie, but I've gotten over that now, and it doesn't need to be aired. It was the source of my sexual hang-ups for a long time, though.

19. BOOBS. ARE. AWESOME. I occasionally get to touch them and everything.

20. I occasionally make out with other girls when drunk. They are obliging, I am lonely. To do more than that would require me to be very sober and very sure of myself.

21. Sex makes me feel awesome about my body.

22. Oh yeah, kinks. I like sensation, basically. Small amounts of pain, slight asphyxiation. Real pain overrides the pleasure. I want to try bondage as well, I've always liked being restricted.

23. I doubt proper polyamory is for me. It just seems too difficult to arrange. I've had to try and split my time fairly between three sets of parents for years, and doing that with partners would tear me apart. But polyamory with one main partner and then a couple of friends with benefits I could handle. So long as everyone was okay with their position.

24. I like to be teased. Often the wanting is better than the having.

25. It's important to be able to laugh during sex, and have it not ruin the mood.

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

1. I am a 19 year old female student who's fucked a total of six men and one woman.

2. Though I'm madly in love with him, I would love to cheat on my boyfriend.

3. I lost my virginity when I was 16, to a guy who was six years older. I had dated one of his friends, had gone down on another one and after we broke up, I proceeded to date another one. To this day, I have fantasies of fucking all four of them together.

4. I love redheads and small-breasted women. I love anorexic boys with treasure trails. But what really does it for me are the hands.

5. I am much more comfortable naked than dressed. I hate winter, because I have to bury myself underneath a mountain of thick clothes. It's about the sincere, almost pure quality of nude flesh: your body isn't Zara, Chanel or Wal-Mart, it's not where you were born, or what you ate last night, or where you went to high school. It's just a body, desirable or not.

6. I didn't love the guy with whom I lost my virginity and it wasn't a planned, romantic event. It was a completely spontaneous decision, born out of pure desire, and that's what made it awesome.

7. I orgasm easily. Everybody's so surprised when I'm over the edge in less than five minutes, especially when vaginal intercourse is involved. "What? Already?" is something I always get the first time I'm having sex with someone. The irony never fails to amuse me.

8. Since orgasms come easy for me, what most arouses me is tension and denial. Ever since my boyfriend discovered it, he drives me nuts with all the teasing, and though I know I'll have a powerful orgasm later, I sometimes get the urge to just jump him.

9. When I was around eleven, we went on a road trip and my underwear was peeking above my pants. The boys in my class kept pointing and laughing, so I got mad and mooned them, saying "it's underwear, get over it!" It shut them up, but the memory never fails to make me blush.

10. I discovered masturbation when I was practically a child. I didn't know what it was; I just knew if I pressed certain spots in certain ways, I'd feel very good. When puberty hit, I was already an expert on getting off. Odd thing is, even after experimenting with dildos and vibrators, I can only get myself off with my fingers.

11. Anal sex is not for me. At least, not if I'm on the receiving end. I'd like to fuck my boyfriend's ass, but right now I can't afford a strap-on.

12. I'm bisexual, though mostly heterosexual. I like dating other bisexuals, because they're not so ashamed and insecure about sex. I find hetero lovers are too worried about maintaining their hetero status and lesbian ones are too political about sex. Politics and gender roles have no place in my bedroom, unless you plan to somehow pervert them.

13. I'm a pretty nerdy girl, I like anime, history and all sorts of fantasy books. I often imagine how it would be to have sex with some of the characters. I often worry what this means, especially when thinking about history's great personalities. I mean, they always said Napoleon was a great lover, but who actually imagines that?

14. I find art arousing. The Barberini Faun makes me come harder than any porno.

15. Though I don't like anal, I'd really like to try double penetration. I'd be a very happy sandwich filling if I ever find someone comfortable enough to do it with me and my boyfriend.

16. I'd really like to go to a sex party someday. I don't necessarily look for sex or a change of partners, but I'd like to watch and touch. I think it's an interesting idea, to kiss or touch someone while they're being fucked by someone else.

17. The fifth guy I fucked had a really big dick, so much so, it took me a while to fit it and it was very hard to move and get used to it. It was the only time I couldn't come from penetrative sex, besides my first time. So yes, size matters: there are times when big is just as awful as small.

18. I really like kissing, though it's a recent thing. My first boyfriends didn't really know how to kiss and the girlfriend wasn't exactly a master either. The third guy I fucked, however, taught me that kissing could be awesome. Ever since then, I refused to fuck anyone who didn't kiss me in a way that I enjoyed.

19. I like to read erotica and fanfiction. No one, and I mean, absolutely no one knows this about me. I'm kind of ashamed of it, because how do you explain it? It just sounds so ridiculous to say "yeah, I like Harry Potter, but I like Hermione/Snape fanfiction more than anything Rowling's ever written".

20. I can't get on well with my exes. I feel that past relationships are just failures, things I could have done better, but didn't. And really, it's just odd, having a conversation with someone who's seen you orgasm. Who you have seen orgasm.

21. I like oral sex, giving much more than receiving. I like giving, because it's such a powerful combination of power and submission: I pleasure someone else, but I control said pleasure. I don't like receiving oral that much because I feel too vulnerable and open.

22. The one thing I could never do is pee on someone. I had an accident while playing football (soccer) when I was little that derived into a rather painful infection that made peeing hard and painful for about two weeks. Since then, I spend a lot of time just sitting on the toilet trying to pee. It's psychological, but it would only be worse if I had to do it for another person.

23. I think I'm pretty obsessed with my exes. It's mostly because all my relationships so far have been rather passionate, emotionally charged affairs. I've always been a bit of a drama queen and picked all these impossible people... The only relationship I entered that I knew wasn't doomed from the start is the current one.

24. Freckles, birthmarks, blue veins peeking here and there... I find all these fascinating. It's always such a pleasure to explore a body and map out its differences from the rest... Much better than trying to map personalities.

25. I don't think great sex comes with great love. For me, it comes from great intimacy.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

1. I am a twenty-four year old female, and probably bisexual. The 'probably' is more down to lack of experience than anything else.

2. I didn't get much sex education from my parents, and had a pretty sheltered upbringing as I was homeschooled up to the age of eleven. Mostly I found out about sex through reading books.

3. I had a few crushes (all boys) in high school, but no boyfriends. I didn't realize that I was attracted to girls until I went to university.

4. I had my first kiss when I was eighteen. He was a friend of a friend, we met on a night out, and he charmed me.

5. I've honestly given up trying to describe what attracts me to people: the people I'm attracted to vary so much. With men, sometimes skinny nerdy boys do it and sometimes more muscled tough guys, and everything in between.

6. I feel 'drawn', somehow, to gay men. It's more a social thing than anything.

7. I love, love, love breasts. They don't have to be huge, just big enough to play with.

8. One of my favorite fantasies has me with an older woman, sucking on her nipples and being treated like her baby.

9. Following on from #7, sometimes I'll see a woman (in the street, on TV, anywhere) with gorgeous breasts and I just have to look at them.

10. Many of my fantasies revolve around oral sex – either sitting on someone's face, or 69ing, or kneeling in front of a gorgeous woman and just worshiping her pussy.

11. I've only kissed a girl once, while I was at university, during a game of spin the bottle.

12. I like erotic fiction – any kind – but I don't like watching porn or looking at pictures. The pictures always seem so fake and staged.

13. I'd like to participate in an orgy, but I don't think I have the confidence.

14. I want to try D/s sex someday. I want to be tied up and punished.

15. I masturbate quite frequently, several times a week at least. I use toys occasionally but I prefer just my fingers and my imagination.

16. I sometimes sign up for internet 'dating' sites, but I've never actually corresponded with anyone that way. Cybersex sounds interesting, and I'd like to try it at least once.

17. I like to masturbate when I'm on my period, it relaxes me.

18. Generally my fantasies involve people from TV shows or movies – fictional characters rather than people I really know.

19. The first time I gave a guy a blowjob was at a party when I was nineteen. It was the guy from #4, and it didn't end well between us.

20. I think most people (including my family) think I'm not that interested in sex.

21. I ejaculate when I come, sometimes.

22. I like how it feels when I piss myself. It's warm, and wet, and makes me want to try urine-play with someone else.

23. I want to be spanked, and a number of my earliest fantasies involved authority figures bending me over and spanking or caning me.

24. My preferred variety of erotica is m/m. It's the idea of two beautiful men fucking, basically.

25. 'Beautiful', for me, is a much broader term than I think it is for most people. That probably explains why there's so much variety in what turns me on.

Monday, December 20, 2010

1. I'm a 20-year-old (soon to be 21 woohoo) heterosexual female who likes to make out with girls on occasion.

2. I’ve always wanted to go down on a girl, or do something sexual with one, but have never really been given the opportunity to do so. I’m also very picky about what sorts of women I’m attracted to, and tend to only be attracted to the type that heterosexual men go after.

3. I grew up with boys, and boys were always open about their conquests and sex, so I was too. Being around boys all the time also made me incredibly forward in elementary and middle school. I was never afraid to talk to be and be friends with a boy I liked.

4. In high school, I was shameless. I’d kiss one boy and move onto to another one in the same week, and there was always some sort of trail of destruction going on whenever I was around. I have no idea how many boys I’ve made out with. I lost track around 30.

5. I’ve had dozens of boys tell me I was the best kiss they’d ever had. It’s still a point of pride for me to this day.

6. I watched Xena all the time when I was a kid, and I honestly thought that lesbianism was normal because no one, not even my own mother, ever told me otherwise.

7. I let a boy take off my pants for the first time when I was 16. No sex, we just fooled around a bit, but from that point on, I wanted to do it all the time.

8. I’ve fooled around in my yard at night, in the library parking lot, in the middle of the forest, in a public bathroom on a cruise and in someone’s car. Like I said before, no shame. I enjoyed every single experience, except maybe the forest one.

9. At one point, I considered trying to become a Playboy model. This was encouraged by my friends, who thought my raunchy attitude on life would be a perfect fit for a career posing naked in magazines. Needless to say, I’ve abandoned that career option, but I still love looking at those gorgeous girls from time to time.

10. I lost my virginity in a cruise bathroom to a man who was living with his girlfriend at the time, and I never felt shittier. I was also recently out of a bad relationship to begin with, so it didn’t help me at all. I’ve been the other woman only one other time. I hated the feeling so, so much and knew that I’d never do it again, the emotional turmoil just wasn’t worth it.

11. I used to have this terrible, terrible habit of moving on to another guy before I had officially ended my current relationship. I know a hurt a lot of people by doing this, and it just kills me that at the time I didn’t even really care about what I did.

12. I also used to be a habitual cheater. It often caused me to hate myself, and hate relationships in general, because fooling around with different guys while in a relationship had consequences, but doing that while single was perfectly fine. I started avoiding getting into relationships using this faulty logic all throughout high school.

13. You can infer from #9 and #10 that I had a hard time sticking to one guy at a time. The horrid, simple truth was that I just got bored with them eventually, so I was always moving on, looking for the next cheap thrill. I’m amazed I didn't end up with any sort of disease with the way I was going.

14. I’m terrified of anal sex. My current boyfriend and I were having sex one day, and he pulled all the way out and actually accidentally went in the wrong hole since he wasn’t really paying attention at all. Even though it was only in for less than a second, it hurt so bad that I’ve been afraid of butt play ever since, which is a shame because I was incredibly open to it before that incident. It’s a hilarious story, however, in retrospect.

15. I had a food fetish up until a previous boyfriend and I tried covering each other in chocolate syrup once and just ended up having everything in a big mess. We found that applesauce worked much better, but it was still a less than desirable result in the end. My current boyfriend and I tried eating chocolate cake off each other once, and didn’t really enjoy the experience either. Food was just not meant to be sexual for me.

16. The first time my current boyfriend and I had sex was in his apartment bedroom while his roommates were in the living room. I made sure to scream extra loud for them, and in turn they banged on the door and made obscene noises. Probably one of the best sexual encounters I’ve ever had, and also possibly the closest I’ll ever get to exhibitionism.

17. I have this wonderful fascination with gay porn and yaoi/slash fan fiction; it gets me going like no one’s business. My current boyfriend gladly indulges me in this, and I love him so very much for it.

18. My current boyfriend and I also have an odd agreement that homosexual liaisons are not considered cheating. This is mostly because of my tendency to make out with girls when drunk. He’s a typical heterosexual male who likes the idea of two hot girls making out, so it all works out. And since I have an obsession with gay porn and yaoi, I’d love to see him kiss a boy some time.

19. I love being held down and unable to move properly during sex. It’s my biggest turn on. I also love being tied up and blindfolded. I want to be gagged one day during sex.

20. I had sex once while wasted and partially blacking out in-between. I hated it. I’ve never been that drunk since.

21. I have this obsession with guys with long hair. I love to run my fingers through it, braid it, pull it during sex, and all sorts of other things. Effeminate guys with long hair are even better.

22. I’ve never been attracted to muscular guys. They always look way too box-like for my tastes. I like tall and slender guys with softer features. The only exception to this rule, oddly enough, is in video games.

23. I want a vibrator but I’ve always been too embarrassed to buy one for myself for some odd reason. Going to buy one for a friend or going shopping for one with a friend doesn’t faze me at all, though.

24. I was offered the chance to participate in a foursome once, but I turned it down because it would’ve been with three friends I knew too well. I didn’t want to have the awkwardness later.

25. Until recently, I was unable to hold a relationship for more than 8 months. I’m on my 10th. I always hated the sticky situations that came with committing to one person, and to my high school mind, staying with someone too long meant wasting your time because all relationships eventually ended. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost two years now, and we’re planning our life together after graduating college. I’ve never been happier or more satisfied with my life and sexuality, and at no point did I ever feel like I was wasting my time or missing out on other guys. It’s so wonderful to have something normal and stable, and though it sounds boring, it’s the most exciting experience I’ve ever had.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

1. I am ashamed of and disgusted by most of my desires, even though I find them blameless and laudable from anyone else. I frequently wish I were asexual like my partner.

2. I'm a cisgendered woman in her late twenties, and I identify as bisexual because my actual orientation is too unstable to be pinned down.

3. There are things I want which I'm unable to articulate well enough to ask for; the more chance I have of getting them, the less able I am to talk about them. I have scared people away by being honest and open before. Worse than scaring people away is the incredulous stare.

4. I'm submissive and into things which are categorized as "edgeplay" on all the sites I've been to; I've been to BDSM clubs but I hate them, and I dislike strongly almost all the doms I've met.

5. I don't think I'm ever going to find someone who is right for me.

6. I was sexually abused as a child and as a teenager; one of the reasons I loathe my personal kinks so much is that a lot of them are very transparently linked to those experiences. It's hard to accept that what caused me so much unhappiness now gets me off.

7. I'm very open about my particular sexual tastes and I feel like I have to set a good example in terms of self-acceptance, so I can talk about all kinds of deviance but paradoxically never about how it makes me feel revolted by myself.

8. I've discovered most of my sexual tastes by accident and through fiction.

9. Thanks to a couple of sour relationships and one-night-stands who weren't very kind, I'm now convinced that people will make fun of me if I look like I'm enjoying sex, which makes it harder to enjoy it.

10. I don't masturbate as much as I'd like to. My usual reasons are self-loathing, tiredness, and the feeling that if I do I'm somehow admitting that no one else would ever want to touch me.

11. So far, nothing anyone has done has been able to convince me that they find me attractive.

12. My best friends know more about my sexuality than anyone I've slept with does.

13. I'm most attracted to people who are a lot younger than me, but can't do anything about it because I assume that they'll think I'm a nasty older person. I'm assured that this is all in my head.

14. I'm attracted to men and to women, but not really to penises very much; the people I'm most attracted to are cis women and trans men, and I have enough trans friends to know that lumping them together like that is offensive. My libido doesn't care about that, but it's one of the things which makes me feel bad about my sexuality.

15. I frequently crack jokes or end up laughing during sex, and make self-deprecating remarks. Sometimes I think my interest in being gagged or choked is just so that I don't feel that I have to disclaim everything.

16. In recent years it's become the case that I can't get off without choking myself; my last partner wouldn't go to the length that I wanted to because of concerns for my safety and potential for brain damage.

17. The one part of my sexuality that I'm not revolted by is the part that makes people boggle and/or refuse to sleep with me, which doesn't really help toward self-acceptance.

18. The second girl I ever slept with was what porno likes to call "a squirter" and I've a taste for it now/feel like I'm not doing a good enough job if I can't get the same reaction from all the girls I fuck.

19. I like watching men and women wet themselves. I like the idea of being forced to do the same by someone. I like the idea of the sensation of wet cloth, particularly when it is wet with pee. So far I haven't told anyone this.

20. The idea of having one or more of my limbs broken by someone else as a prelude to sex turns me on.

21. Dirty talk - the kind that involves words like "slut" and "whore" or "dirty little girl" - doesn't just turn me off, it makes me never want to have anything to do with that person again.

22. I am already worried that I am too easy to identify from this list.

23. I have a readily-repeatable list of qualities that I find attractive, a "type", but I am more than happy to go outside of that type. I just don't tell people that very often.

24. The group sex I've had has been variable but on the whole I really want to try more.

25. I don't hold much hope for the future.

Saturday, December 11, 2010

1. I am a 25-year-old bisexual woman who is recently single after a 5 1/2 year long relationship with a man. We lived together for almost the entire duration of that time and were engaged for 4 of those years.

2. My ex is my first and only serious relationship, as I met him when I was 19 and had just moved away from home and my home country. Before that I had had a 7-month relationship with a girl that I adored, and a series of short flings and one night stands.

3. When I met my ex he had really long hair, and that turned me on something rotten. I have always LOVED men with long hair, and there's something special about a man with long hair going down on you, I love all that hair all over my body, and especially like to tousle my fingers into it when they lick me. The wilder, longer and thicker the hair the sexier. My ex cut his hair after a few years, and even though I was OK with it, I did miss it a lot.

4. I have recently realized I really like mustaches. From thinking they were pretty off-putting, I suddenly find them incredibly sexy! I also find it hilarious when men with mustaches or beards go down on you and come up with wet facial hair which smells heavenly of fanny!

5. When I was in my long relationship, I had periods of liking sex a LOT and periods of not really being fussed. When we met we fucked like rabbits, all the time, everywhere and in all kinds of positions. We were extremely compatible and always wanted sex at the same time. That changed some time into our relationship, and my sex drive decreased MASSIVELY. I had a long period when I didn't feel good about myself and was almost never horny. This caused a lot of problems as my partner was feeling inadequate and unsexy, and was worried that I didn't get turned on by him anymore. Which made me have sex with him because I loved him and didn't want him to feel bad. He obviously noticed that I wasn't really that into it but just did it to please him, which made him even more upset and worried. It was a difficult time, but luckily we managed to keep a dialogue and work through it.

6. I have only licked one girl's fanny, but really want to do it again. I was really drunk when I did it but I really fancied this girl, and she fancied me, so it was a fun experience. She tasted good and I enjoyed being naked with a woman, but I didn't really get that turned on when she returned the favor. I think this was just down to her not being very good.

7. I love women and have 'known' since I was about 13 that I was bisexual (without knowing that term at the time). The first time I properly fell in love with a girl was first year in high school, at the age of 13. She was a friend of a friend and used to be in my arts class, and I used to look at her during the entire class and think about how beautiful she was. This was very confusing and I never told anyone or wrote about it in my diary.

8. After becoming single recently I have become incredibly horny and have had more sex partners in 5 months than I had during my first 7 years of being sexually active. I love having one night stands, and love that I can take on a different 'persona' with someone I don't know, and just be as dirty as I like 'cause I will never see them again

9. My last year in high school (age 16) I saw this girl in the first year (age 14) who made a very big impression on me. It started off with me being very annoyed with her, as everyone kept saying she looked like a mini copy of me, she wore similar clothes, had similar hair, etc. This annoyed me a lot as I had (or thought I had) a very alternative style, and thrived on being different. After a while she started interesting me instead, and I noticed that she was looking at me a lot. I used to be in the cafeteria or the library and I could feel a look on the back of my neck, and turning around she was always there. So we started having lingering eye contact over crowded spaces and faraway distances. I started noticing small things about her, that she had a scar on her hand, that she favoured long scarves, that she had the cutest giggle, that she walked with a lot of purpose in her steps. After eye contact and fantasies about her for more than half a year I decided to do something about it in the last month before leaving high school, so one late night after spending hours with my friend talking endlessly about her I texted her, saying something like "I have seen you around and think you are very cute... and don't faint now, but I'm a girl." I almost crapped my pants with anxiety and nervousness. Next morning I had a reply, she said thanks and that she thinks she knows who I am, and if she is right she thinks I'm cute too! I was ecstatic! This led to a series of texts, developing into us saying hi to each other in school, and then a 'coffee date' one week into our summer holiday. After that we met as often as we could, talked for hours, listened to music and kissed. It was one of the loveliest summers and autumns of my life. So sweet, so innocent, but so much love and tenderness.

10. I used to not like going down on men, but I quite like it these days. I won't do it unless I get favours returned, though. I get really pissed off with men who don't go down on me, as I think this is common bed courtesy, especially if you have gone down on him already. I have only had this once with a one-night stand (which also was the worst sex experience of my life) and it made me super pissed off.

11. I usually get horny at random times when I really need to concentrate, such as when I'm supposed to write an essay, and just have to take my clothes off and jump into my bed and get my rabbit out. My rabbit lives in my knicker drawer and is one of my most treasured belongings. It can take me to the moon and back every time. Foolproof satisfaction.

12. I don't enjoy vanilla sex with one night stands. Vanilla can be nice and beautiful with someone you love, but right now I want fucking, not making love, and vanilla bores me. I met this gorgeous gorgeous man, tall, skinny, funny, sexy, and with a mane like a lion (Looooong, curly and reddish brown) and was so incredibly turned on by him. Took him home after a few hours of bar-hopping, and literally had to pounce on him like a tiger to get some action. Nothing wrong with that, I don't mind initiative, but he was the softest and most gentle man in bed I have EVER met, and I just wanted to shout 'BITE ME, PULL MY HAIR, FUCK ME HARDER!' throughout the sex. It wasn't bad sex though, as he could go on for a long time, and also start again straight after coming, so we had sex quite a few times in a row and I climaxed the last time (LOUDLY). He did not say a word. He came three times, but hardly even sighed as he came! I found his quietness very unsettling, and drunk as I was I told him he was the quietest man I'd ever been with. I think he may have taken it as an insult.

13. I find very different things attractive in men and women, but I like androgyny in both men and women. I like my boys pretty, skinny and with long hair, and I love my girls hard, sleek and masculine without being butchy. And I do love a girl with a shaved head. I find paleness extremely alluring, and there are few things sexier than a freckly shoulder or back.

14. I have a tendency when coming home drunk and alone to think that playing with myself would be a good idea. I usually get bored half way and wake up the next morning feeling like death with the dildo between my thighs. It has happened more than one time.

15. I used to think about sex all the time when I was a teenager, and could not wait to have my first sexual experience. However, I didn't end up losing my virginity until I was 18. It wasn't by choice or because I wanted to wait, but more like I took the first boy that came along and wanted to have sex with me.

16. The first guy I slept with (#15) was Italian. He was not my type but pretty sexy in a traditional macho way (which has never really appealed to me). We met at a foam party (how tacky) and kissed and groped each other in the foam for hours. At the end of the night, he asked for my number, and we met the next day for pizza and then drove to a beach nearby where we kissed and fooled around on the jetty for about an hour, before going to his parent's car and having sex in the car in the parking lot. It was not the most comfortable, and not the sexiest, but not a terrible experience either. I still remember which knickers I wore. The best bit was having a cigarette afterward in the autumn chill and he lent me his huge leather jacket which smelled of smoke and aftershave. The best after-sex cigarette I have ever had.

17. I later got to know that the guy mentioned in #10 never goes down on girls as it 'makes him gag' !?! Seriously???! He was the most terrible sex partner I have ever had, and he did NOT know what to do to a woman! I seriously had to TAKE his hand, place it on my clit and say 'that's what you have to concentrate on if you want some action'! He still didn't manage to make it interesting or pleasurable in the slightest.

18. I don't really like porn and never watch it, but I love reading sex novels, they turn me on something rotten! I especially enjoy reading ones that include bondage, dominance and submission and SM. I am not sure if I'm very into it in real life, but I like fantasizing about it.

19. Biting is my passion, and I cannot have sex without biting. I try to tailor the power of my bite to the person I'm with, if they like it I go a bit wild, if they seem a bit scared I go a bit softer, but sometimes I can't help myself from having a great big chomp into a nice juicy body part. I have this booty-call shag buddy that I've seen about four or five times, and last time he was around he was lying on my bed after sex, on his belly, and I came back to the bed after getting a glass of water. Seeing that pretty, plump, juicy ass I jumped on top of him and sank my teeth into his buttcheek pretty hard.The poor guy did NOT see that coming and actually screamed in pain and shock! I felt a little bad afterward, but also enjoyed the bite too much to be too embarrassed.

20. I refuse to have sex without condoms with one night stands, and have twice been in situations (both times very drunk) where a guy would not or could not use a condom. I refused to have sex both times, which I am proud about. We did other stuff instead. I think my body and health is more important than the risk of getting STD's (I'm not worried about getting pregnant as I have a coil anyway).

21. I actually love the taste of my fanny, and have had several men comment on how good I taste (and smell). I like men who give my fanny compliments. Two guys in particular (both Aussie, wonder if it's a coincidence?...) made very explicit and sincere comments in the middle of giving me oral sex about how amazing my fanny was, to then dive down again and continue their 'work' with even more passion. I especially liked that one of the guys called it my 'puss', not pussy, but 'puss'--it was kinda cute and made me laugh. I love being able to laugh during and about sex.

22. I talk a lot and explicitly about sex, as I enjoy sex and think sex is a natural and wonderful thing in our lives. My good friends are the same and are used to it, but when I meet new people they are quite often shocked by how graphic I can be, which slightly amuses me. I think that as long as sex is consensual and does not involve any parties being hurt (unless they want to) I cannot see any harm in any type of sexual activity. As long as there is mutual respect people can and should experiment and do whatever turns them on. And it if doesn't turn you on, tell the other person so, and stop doing it! Never do anything which feels wrong or doesn't turn you on, it will make you feel shitty at some point.

23. I am still dreaming of having an adult, proper relationship with a woman, and hope that I will meet a woman at some stage of my life with whom I can settle down. I have always thought that if I would be in a long-term relationship it would be with a woman, but then along came my ex and swooped me off my feet, and now five years later I am single again. I enjoy the different relationship you have with a woman compared to a man, and I generally feel that I can be 'myself' more completely among women.

24. I love being naked, and I love being watched when I am naked. I am very comfortable about my body and am very bound by my senses, and thus love to look, smell, feel and touch a naked body. The same with my own. Preferably I will get naked as soon as I come home with someone, and then spend a long time exploring each other. I also really like early mornings with a one-night stand, and applying body lotion slowly all over my body when I know they are watching while pretending to be asleep. I get uncomfortable with things like stripping and sexy dancing, but being naturally naked is the best and sexiest thing I know. One particular time I remember well was sitting on a guy's glass dinner table, at 6 o 'clock in the morning, naked except a pair of fishnet stay-up stockings, blowing smoke out of the window and drinking vodka out of a bottle. My makeup was all over my face and my hair was sex-messy. Then we had some more sex.

25. I don't generally have very sensitive nipples, but when someone bites them hard during a hard fuck that can make me climax by itself. I love the sensation of pain mingling with the sweet sensation of orgasm.

Friday, December 10, 2010

1. I am a 22 year old pansexual biological female who wishes that she would have been born intersexed. I feel like it would match my true gender much more closely than just being the androgynous sort of girl I am.

2. Relating to that last sentiment, most of my fantasies and dreams revolve around being able to shapeshift, a la Mystique from X-Men. But in a less creepy and manipulated-by-Magneto sort of way.

3. I’ve been masturbating for as long as I can remember, and I felt guilty about it up until I was 19 or so. I once sat my mom down and talked to her about it when I was about 10, explaining that I was doing something that felt really good “down there” but that I felt guilty about it. Her response was somewhere along the lines of “well don’t feel bad, honey, just don’t do it anymore.” Needless to say, the advice didn’t stick.

4. My first kiss was when I was about 7 and very much in love with The Adventures of Tom Sawyer. I talked my best friend into reenacting the scene where Becky and Tom kiss, and he was up for it, so we went down the street away from our houses and he pecked me on the lips behind a tree.

5. I have never admitted that my first sexual experience was with this same best friend’s sister. We used to go into her woodshed and she would pull her pants down (sometimes to pee, sometimes just to let me look), and I would watch and masturbate. Now that I think about it, it’s fairly obvious that this is why I have a secret desire to try urine-play someday.

6. During those early childhood years, I have vivid memories of sex-play with one boy and three girls, which pretty much sets up my sexuality for you. I’d say my past is a 70/30 ratio of girls to guys relationship-wise.

7. I have only felt completely comfortable in my female body twice in my life. The first time was with an amazing ginger-haired boy I met abroad and had an intensely emotional fling with, and the second time was when I had my first orgasm with a girl I’d been dating for three years. Both moments left me with the most overwhelming “I am woman, hear me roar” sort of sensation that made me feel like my body was the most beautiful and feminine thing in the world.

8. I have only had one orgasm in my life not caused by masturbation, and this was the one in #7. I think it was caused partially by the fact that the girl I was dating, and had been dating for three years, was waiting until marriage (whatever that means when you’re in a gay relationship *sigh*), which meant that I hadn’t had sex in those three years either and I was jonesing for it like no other. Then, on Valentine's Day, we both got hot and bothered and she slipped her fingers into me and within seconds I felt like my whole body was vibrating like a plucked string. It was heavenly.

9. I totally cried after that orgasm, by the way, and I’m not sure to this day if they were happy tears or sad tears. I’ve never cried during sex before or after that.

10. I’ve cheated on two people I’ve been with, if you want to be technical about it. On both occasions the person I was dating and I were on a “break,” but I still feel bad about it. Both of the people I cheated with were amazingly attractive redheads. I’ll admit to having a bit of a fetish in that area.

11. My first love was my best friend when I was 14. She was the first girl in my life I was ever physically, emotionally and mentally attracted to, and she was the cutest little thing I’ve ever seen. Super girly, with long blond hair to boot. I was head over heels. Too bad she was dating a boy! Well, we had that sorted before long: after trying to figure out a sort of three-way relationship she ditched him for me, and we had the most hedonistic, lay-in-bed-all-day-having-sex-then-get-up-and-make-chocolate-chip-pancakes, go-for-walks-holding-hand-in-the-snow-at-midnight sort of love all teenagers dream about. But she ended up being too much for me (her sex drive was and still is through the roof, for one thing, and this is coming from someone who is SO OK with sex a couple times a day), and after much angst we ended it. I’m lucky enough that after a couple rocky years we’ve become best friends again, but without all the drama that teenage puppy-love brings.

12. I watch porn about once a month (jeeze, I wonder what could possibly correspond with that?) and most of it is either guys jacking off, or flat-out guy-on-girl doggie style.

13. I’m WAY more into written porn, slash and erotica than I am into pictures and videos.

14. I’m pretty sure that I’ll always be in love with that ginger-haired fellow I mention in #7. He has the honor (or misfortune?) of being the only male I’ve ever fallen in love with, and I didn’t recognize it as love until too late. Had the situation been slightly different, and had we made slightly different choices, I might still be with him today. But that’s always the way, isn’t it?

15. He and I did everything except have full-on intercourse, because I froze up at the last minute. I was suddenly taken over by memories of the other time I cheated on a girlfriend and how I promised myself I’d never do it again. I left his room that day with my self-respect mostly intact, but I’ve wished every single day since then that I’d gone through with it.

16. I’ve come to realize that being so unsure and uncomfortable with my assigned gender can be a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, it means that because I feel like half a girl and half a guy (though I hate the binary that brings up) I can pretty much become whatever the person I’m dating wants me to be. That’s pretty useful when your girlfriend just wants you to drill her, or your boyfriend wants you to make him feel like he’s the manliest man around (or vice versa!), but it can also lead you down the road of just being something to please someone else. If I feel like I’ve been pigeonholed into one exclusive role in a relationship, I get a bit freaked out. I have to be able to flow back and forth between masculine and feminine, or I don’t feel like I’m being true to myself.

17. All that about gender being said, I have to also admit that I’m fascinated by the trans community. I don’t want to objectify anyone, but I feel like dating somebody who was trans would be perfect! They’d understand my need for fluidity, I think, and I hope I’d be decent enough to treat them like the gender they’ve always known they are. On a randier note, I’ll totally own up to being turned on by a transguy who’s packing.

18. As for kink, I’m down with light to medium BDSM (I identify as a switch, not surprisingly), I LOVE being tied up and held helpless but I also have a lot of tie-you-up-and-do-naughty-things-to-you fantasies. I’ve never tried anal, but as per my rules regarding sex I’ll try anything once. I was once with a girl who was into choking, and as much as I wanted to do it to make her happy, I just couldn’t. It seemed too abusive, so I guess that rules out the hard stuff for me!

19. One thing I KNOW I want to try, but I’m too shy to ask for it, is spanking. The idea turns me on to no end, but it’d have to be with the right person.

20. Doggie is my favorite position by far, which is strange because I haven’t done it much. I have a fantasy about a guy just pounding into me like this until I scream, and it’s very animalistic, which I suppose classifies as kink(?). But of course I also have the corresponding fantasy of strapping on a cock and giving it to a girl until we fall down, exhausted. So there you go.

21. Because of this doggie-style fetish thing, spooning is tough on me. I can handle being the little spoon for a couple of minutes, but after that I’m so riled up I just want more.

22. Despite all this “I’m confused about my gender-identity” stuff I have going on, I’m SUPER excited to be a mother someday. I imagine I’d be equally excited to be a father if I was a guy, but anyway... I think pregnancy and birth are two of the coolest things in nature, and I’m looking forward to being part of it and seeing my body go through all those changes.

23. I go gaga for dirty talk. Seriously, start telling me what you want to do to me and I’ll be all over you in seconds.

24. But a total turn-off for me is when someone goes down on a guy and he grabs their head and starts shoving it back and forth. I’ve never had it done to me (and if you did I’d probably bitchslap you), but just the idea creeps me out.

25. I used to think I was immune to jealousy, and my younger self thought this meant I was polyamorous. Turns out I just hadn’t met someone I cared enough about to be monogamous with. This certainly isn’t the case for everyone, but I’m glad I’ve learned the difference in my life.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

1. I am a 22-year-old possibly bisexual, possibly straight male.

2. I had very little in the way of sex education, mostly due to the fact that I was home-schooled between the ages of 6 and 16. Perhaps as a result of this, I wasn't very aware of my body, and found myself perplexed (if not overly concerned) about the tendency of my penis to become hard from time to time. Even at the age of 13 I recall overhearing some older men joking about erections and feeling a vague sense of recognition about what still seemed a very strange phenomenon. If anything, I associated erections with discomfort and even pain as opposed to pleasure.

3. I have, for all intents and purposes, never masturbated. I certainly must have been touching myself at an early age, as I remember making myself come a little bit one day when I was 12. The sight of white fluid emerging from my penis shocked me so much that I immediately assumed that I had broken it. I distinctly recall also having similar thoughts about my erections during this time, combined with a sense of guilt that can surely be sourced to my Christian upbringing. I continued to fondle myself from time to time, but never engaged in anything resembling what would be commonly known as 'jacking off' - and, apart from that one time, my only emission of sperm came during wet dreams. As I became more sexually aware over the course of my teenage years, I developed a strange apathy towards masturbation that continues to this day.

4. I had had no sexual experiences whatsoever until the age of 18. At that point, I had only ever been kissed once, and had never seen a woman naked in person. My first real experience touching a girl was at a New Year's Eve party, when I sat on her lap and kissed her repeatedly, at one point putting my hand in her top and feeling her breast after she encouraged me to. The next time I kissed a girl was a couple of months later, at a university toga party, when a girl made out with me and gave me a hand job on the dance floor. About a month later, I touched a girl's vagina for the first time at another party, when the sister of my friend's girlfriend made out with me and encouraged me to put my fingers inside her. Until the beginning of my first relationship, these three incidents constituted my only sexual experiences.

5. Although I had crushes on girls in high school, I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 19. Although we were quite intimate from the beginning (we made out on my bed on our first date), it would be close to seven months until I finally had sex for the first time. The delay was almost exclusively due to nervousness on my part, as I found myself unable to maintain erections when putting on condoms. The first time was a massive anti-climax and I was simply relieved that I had gotten it over with. We would only have sex another three times over the course of our relationship, which lasted just over a year.

6. As grim as this sounds, we were in fact quite sexually active and slept together every night for about 9 months. A technique that we discovered early on was what might be known as frottage (or 'dry humping', I think), in which I would rub my penis against her vaginal area and vice-versa. In contrast to the sparsity of penetrative sex, we would engage in this activity quite frequently, and both often orgasm from it. Although I am now far more confident with sexual intercourse, I still enjoy this position and have used it to different degrees in most subsequent relationships.

7. It wasn't until this year that I felt confident about having sex. My problems in my first relationship led me to perfect my techniques in other areas, meaning that by the time I had broken up with my first girlfriend I felt quite confident about my abilities in oral sex and being able to bring a girl off with my hand. In the 13 month period between the end of my first relationship and the beginning of 2010, I only had penetrative sex with two other women (quite frequently over the course of my brief second relationship, and once with another girl during a one-night stand), and it was only upon meeting the girl with whom I would have a 6-month long-distance relationship that I became very confident about my technique. Although we only saw each other for a total of 18 days over three separate visits, we had sex nearly every day. I enjoy sex now a lot more than I used to.

8. My second relationship was with a girl who was nearly 5 years older than me and had two other boyfriends at the time. Although I knew little about polyamory, I was interested in the idea and very keen on her. Our relationship fizzled out after a perfect first couple of weeks, and I lost a considerable amount of self-esteem over the fact that she lost interest in me so quickly.

8. I first kissed a man at the age of 18, and had often harboured a suspicion that I might be bisexual. My first sexual experience with another man was at the age of 20, while I was with my second girlfriend. We went to a bar and picked up a male acquaintance in order to have a threesome. We didn't go much further than going down on each other, and, although I enjoyed the experience, I found it difficult to get aroused.

9. We kept in contact, and on the night my girlfriend broke up with me (after going out for less than a month), I dropped by his place for some comfort and intimacy. We spent the night together, and this time I was quite aroused by the experience, although once more it didn't proceed far beyond oral sex. This encounter threw me into a considerable degree of turmoil, as it seemed to prove beyond doubt that I was bisexual, a label that I openly embraced for some time afterwards. Nowadays, I think I may have been a little hasty in declaring my bisexuality: although I can definitely be attracted to men, and can be aroused by sexual experiences with men, I am still primarily attracted to women. In any case, I view sexuality as more of a spectrum than an either-or scenario.

10. From this point onwards, my sexual behaviour altered considerably. Up until then, I had only slept with two women, kissed less than seven and was still relatively sexually inexperienced. In the coming months, I participated in casual sex, threesomes and what might even be described as an orgy. This period of my life culminated in a two-month open relationship with an older man. Although in many ways this time was quite sexually liberating for me, I remember the defining feelings being loneliness and very low self-esteem. In many ways, I used sex and intimacy as a method of making up for my seeming inability to arouse any serious interest from the opposite sex.

11. I have never tried anal sex, although one guy did attempt to have sex with me during a one-night stand. I said yes, but began to feel physically uncomfortable and asked him to stop. Strangely, I'm almost more uncomfortable with the idea of giving it, although I wouldn't rule out trying it with my girlfriend if we both wanted to broaden our horizons.

12. Although my first girlfriend was three years younger than me, five out of my seven relationships have been with older partners. My current girlfriend is nine years older than me, and there has been a six year age gap with two other partners.

13. The first time I saw a naked woman was at the age of 12. I had gone music shopping with my dad and bought a cassette tape of "I Robot" by '70s prog rock band Alan Parsons Project. It wasn't uncommon for cassettes to contain song lyrics inside the insert, and I pulled it out to have a look. There, beneath the cover, was a rather tasteful photograph of a full-frontally nude woman. I went completely pale and recall feeling this crushing sense of shame and guilt. A few days later, I snuck the cassette into my Dad's tape collection and tried to forget about what I had seen. I found it there where I left it eight years later, and found it strange and sad that such an innocent photograph could have upset me so much.

14. A few years after my accidental discovery, I began to develop an obsession with the female form. At the age of 15, I would occasionally get out of bed after midnight (when my parents were asleep) and surf the TV for late-night films in the hope of seeing some female nudity. I would also go to the library from time to time and browse the photography section for the same reason. Even today, I'll be more interested in a film if it has female nudity in it.

15. I still get very turned on by the process of undressing, both doing it myself and watching someone else do it.

16. I have never found pornography particularly arousing. As a teenager, I found everything about it repulsive, and always felt a little disgusted by it. I still find porn stars completely unattractive and mainstream internet porn lurid and unerotic. Having said that, I have a strong voyeuristic streak and enjoy watching sex if it is portrayed in a realistic manner. Despite my flirtations with the idea of bisexuality, I have never sought out gay porn or felt the desire to do so.

17. Although I don't think I have any notable fetishes, I do have a big thing for pubic hair. I find it one of the sexiest aspects of the female body, and it's difficult for me to find a woman's pubic area aesthetically pleasing without it. I also find something erotic about underarm hair.

18. I am a little bit narcissistic, in the sense that I have loved taking photographs of myself for a long time. When I was in high school I would happily send naked photos of myself to girls I became close to on the internet, and also posted naked photographs of myself on the internet several times. To this day, the act of photographing myself naked still turns me on.

19. A defining aspect of my personality is my near-complete lack of inhibition. Although I didn't like using public showers or urinals throughout my childhood and early teenage years, I now have no problem with being naked in front of a room full of strangers and enjoy being looked at. I am also quite open sexually and enjoy talking about it and experimenting with it.

20. I'm quite happy to experiment with S&M, but I don't think it's really my thing. I do enjoy a bit of spanking, however.

21. I have had many sexual dreams about my siblings (male and female) and even my mother. Although I still have these dreams from time to time, they were more common in my early teenage years. Although I felt guilt and embarrassment over anything sexual at the time, I mostly felt guilty that I was dreaming about my sister. I practically never have sexual dreams about people I am attracted to in real life.

22. While I take an open-minded view of sex and am happy to experiment with it, I now think I am essentially monogamous (although I am quite open to the concept of polyamory). I love my girlfriend dearly and, although I still enjoy flirting with other women from time to time, I have no interest in them on any level. Although I have enjoyed promiscuity in the past, I am quite comfortable about the concept of never sleeping with anyone else again.

23. I think I would probably like to have a threesome with my girlfriend one day, although I think I would prefer it to be with another woman. Although I have already enjoyed two threesomes with a man and a woman in the past, I think I feel irrationally jealous about the idea of sharing my girlfriend with another man. Something that I might feel more comfortable about would be the idea of group sex with another couple or just multiple people.

24. I have never videotaped a sexual experience, but I think I would like to. The idea of other people watching us having sex turns me on.

25. I think I would rather never have sex again than never be able to kiss. There is something very intimate to me about kissing, and it has saddened me in the past to be with girls who didn't enjoy it much.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

1. I'm a 24 year old married heterosexual female who likes kissing girls sometimes.

2. I was 20 when I lost my virginity. He was 42. I never told him he was my first; he never noticed.

3. I met him on a fetish dating site. He fucked my face and my ass and he whipped me before getting anywhere near my cunt. It was good fun.

4. My husband was my second lover. I met him just weeks after I got involved with Mr. 42. Husband thinks I've had many more lovers then I have. The idea of being my first serious boyfriend freaked him out so much that I just invented some fuck-buddy exes to appease him. We've been married two years and he still sometimes asks about them.

5. I've been in and out of BDSM websites since I was 14. I've always had serious kinks. I've always been a bottom/masochist.

6. I'm not a submissive person outside of bed, and I never wanted a D/s relationship. Unfortunately I really really want D/s sex and my husband is very vanilla (compared to me at least).

7. We try to be open and talk about sex in our relationship. One idea I had was to have my husband watch some of the BDSM porn that I masturbate to. This resulted in him bringing 60 feet of scratchy hemp rope and a butcher knife to bed one night. He had been drinking (trying to get up his courage, he said) and I woke up with him attempting to tie me up. Which was funny, until I rolled over onto the butcher knife. Luckily, no one was hurt, and this is something we laugh at now. But it kind of scared him off trying anything else.

8. I have a much much higher sex drive then my husband- like he'd have sex 3 or 4 times a month and be happy. I'm wanting 3 or 4 times a week (at least!).

9. He's really not very good in bed--I come maybe every 10th time we have sex. He tends to treat everything as a quickie (even anal). It makes me feel more like a masturbatory aid then a partner.

10. I really really miss having good sex. I never realized how much I need it to feel sane.

11. I masturbate a lot. Sometimes 4 or 5 times a day.

12. One of my favorite ways to masturbate is in bed next to my husband when he is asleep. When I do that, I'm never fantasizing about him.

13. I really want to explore breath play with my partner. Sometimes I push my face into the pillows on the bed when we're having sex. But there is only so much a girl can do on her own.

14. I used to have makeout/groping sessions with my husband's female friends (never in front of him--I kiss girls 'cause I like it, not for your entertainment thankyouverymuch). I miss that.

15. One girl made me come just by rubbing her knee on my clit though my pants while I was sucking on her breasts. Hubby was downstairs with the guys smoking a cigarette.

16. Hubby is bi (has been with men in the past) and still checks out guys/flirts. I would love love love to have a threesome with him and another guy, but he is nervous about opening up our relationship (once you cross that line, you can't go back, is his thought).

17. I still have cybersex online when my husband is at work. I don't consider this cheating. I do this instead of cheating.

18. I enjoy anal sex. I'll even come during anal if my clit is stimulated at the same time.

19. I would love to be DPed. I think it would feel awesome.

20. I've never been with a guy with a large cock. I would really like to fuck a guy with a big cock at least once.

21. I think my vagina is a bit roomier then average. Hence the desire for a really big cock. A lot of times I can barely feel my husband when he's in me (at about 6" long and maybe 1 1/2"-2" diameter).

22. I like talking to people about their sex lives to see how it compares to mine.

23. I love my husband more then anything but I'd really really like to talk him into swinging a little.

24. I've gotten kinda horny writing this list.

25. I think more of MY 25 things were about my husband then about me. I think that's a problem.

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

1 - I'm a 21 y.o. gay male and virgin as they come. And by virgin, I really mean no sexual interaction of any kind with a second person. Not even a kiss, or a handjob, or a mutual jerk-off. Nothing. And here's the kicker: I'm an art student. Yep.

2 - I guess this is due to a number of factors. I was pretty shy growing up, and very overweight, and in a very conservative town. People say I don't look gay, whatever that means. I'm not in the closet (except with family, for now), but it seems I only ever meet straight guys (with girls, that's a different story). I've never been really interested in any of the very few out gay guys I met, and all the guys I've felt any kind of attraction to were, as far as I know, straight (maybe with the exception of one, who might actually have been interested in me, but when I realized this and tried to re-connect, it was too late). And, last but not least, I'm not looking for casual sex.

3 - The closest I've ever come to "experimenting" as a teenager was watching porn with a childhood friend. His eyes were glued to the boobs on the screen, mine were glued to the bulge in his pants. Obviously, nothing happened (besides him having to ride his bike back home with a boner).

4 - I can't seriously imagine myself in a "one thing led to another" scenario. Or anyone else, for that matter. I think the total desert that my sex life has been all my life has lead me to subconsciously elevate any kind of romantic/sexual interaction to the level of myths. Like it's something that simply doesn't ever happen. A situation where two people would be mutually interested in each other at the same time feels like such a farfetched idea - yet, rationally, I know perfectly well it's not.

5 - Despite all this, I never felt like meeting guys online was the way to go. I'm a hopeless romantic. If things don't change, though, I think I might have to force myself to think otherwise. This is getting silly. At this point, casual sex is really not an option (I think. Maybe). I'm not looking for Prince Charming, but is it too much to ask that my first time is with someone I trust and care about?

6 - Technically, I have had my first kiss, both with a girl and with a boy. The former was in kindergarten, with a friend who wanted to be my "girlfriend", the later in primary school, when me and a friend shared a quick peck on the lips to annoy my brother (hey, what do you know, I was already gay and he was already a homophobe). And no, the way I see it, they don't count. My first kiss will be a real one, dammit.

7 - Growing up, I was so glad that I didn't usually look or act effeminate because I was terrified by the idea of someone even suspecting I was gay. Now, however, I feel like I might have a better chance of finding someone if, at least, I looked like I'm into guys. I mean, how am I supposed to get a boyfriend if I don't look like I want one? Again, I'm not in the closet, but it's not like I introduce myself as "hi, my name is X and I'm gay" either. I'm just being me.

8 - I know that people who meet me nowadays don't imagine my clean track record when it comes to relationships. Referring to #2 - I'm A LOT more sociable and confident, I lost enough weight to put me in the ideal weight zone and, even though I'm not a model, I know I'm not a hideous monster either - I've been told I'm good looking, but you can't really trust your friends when they say that. Maybe I suffer from ugly duckling syndrome. Or maybe it's the fact that, among the dozens and dozens of guys I've met in the past two months in my new school, there doesn't seem to be a single gay guy. Either way, I'm still not getting any.

9 - After reading this blog, I'm absolutely delighted so many people experimented with both genders and that there might be more fluidity in the world than I thought. I totally respect when people say they don't want to be labeled and I wholeheartedly agree. I consider myself a very open-minded person. Who can say I'll never be interested in a girl?

10 - ...Yet, even as I typed that last sentence, I didn't really believe myself, to be completely honest. Yes, no one knows what's in store, but my whole life I've never felt the slightest romantic/sexual attraction to any girl. Quite often, I find myself thinking "I really like hanging out with this female friend of mine, if I was straight I'd totally be in love with her", but the most I've ever felt like doing with any of them was hugging and staying up all night talking (seriously). I recall having ONE sex dream (not wet dream) involving a random woman, and even then there was also a couple of my male friends involved. I was, maybe, twelve. So, personally, I don't really have an issue with calling myself "gay". I'm pretty sure I am.

11 - #10 also explains why I never did anything with a girl. I never really felt inclined to even try it. At all.

12 - I used to worry that my penis was small, but it's not really an issue now. It's not big, but I'm pretty sure it's average-ish. I guess I'm a grower, not a shower. Plus, the confidence thing.

13 - When I start getting aroused, I start pre-cumming. When I start pre-cumming, I pre-cum a lot. I don't really have a term of comparison, but I'm pretty sure it's a lot. When I'm jerking off, I usually have to wipe the excess a couple of times to prevent it from running down my dick. I love it, by the way.

14 - I'm bored of porn. I still watch it, but really, I have to try way too hard to find stuff that's not over-produced and obviously fake and it's annoying. Erotic stories are better, much better, but even those used to have a much greater effect on me.

15 - Yet, all the old, tired porno clich├ęs really get my imagination going. You know, the plumber, the construction worker, the neighbour, the hot teacher, the room mate. I wonder what it would be like to have spontaneous sex of that type. I don't think I'd be able to try anything now even if the opportunity presented itself, but maybe I'll think differently when I'm more experienced.

16 - Because I keep to myself (even though that's changing, bit by bit), I think people got the idea I was sort of asexual, or not very interested in sex. However, I'm VERY interested and extremely curious about it - sucking cock in particular. I'm pretty sure it's something I'm going to love doing (actually, now that I think of it, in most of my wet dreams, I was blowing someone). But kissing is definitely number one, simple as it may be. Seeing really passionate kissing between two guys arouses me more than I can admit. I guess I'm a very oral person. Also, I've tried licking my cum and hated the taste, but the idea of swallowing someone else's, or someone swallowing mine, gets me royally turned on. Facials, however, do nothing for me. I find them pretty yucky.

17 - I'm very vanilla. Saliva, sweat and sperm are the only bodily fluids I'd be comfortable with. I'm not interested in any kind of pain or blood or BDSM. If anything, I guess I'd be okay with a bit of watersports, if my partner really wanted, but then only in a "clean" environment (like the shower) and nowhere near my face. But personally - no.

18 - My biggest kink is definitely incest. Those are the stories I usually read. Only in fantasy though, looking from the outside; I have absolutely no sexual interest in anyone in my family. It's a bit weird, now that I think of it.

19 - I find foreskins sexy, but I really don't care when it comes to my partner. I'm really glad I'm uncut, though. I also have a thing for weirdly shaped/unusual cocks.

20 - After a bit of thought, I realized that if I ever fell for a guy and he turned out to be a f-to-m trans person, and he hadn't had a sexual reassignment surgery, I probably wouldn't give a shit. Okay, he wouldn't have a penis, but vaginas don't really disgust me or turn me off by themselves, it's the women attached to them. However, if he still had feminine breasts, that would probably affect me. I don't know why either of these things are so - but they are.

21 - Which reminds me - for some reason, I can't seem to be attracted to guys with long hair, at all. He could be the hottest guy on earth, but if he wears a ponytail, chances are I won't look twice. Again, I have no idea why this is, but it just is. Of course, I'm talking solely of physical attraction, and I don't rule out the possibility of having a relationship with a long-haired dude.

22 - I'm not really comfortable with the idea of being with someone much older, but the truth is, older men get me hot. I once spent a couple of hours on a train sitting next to a man in his forties, wearing a suit. The faint scent of his cologne made me secretly wish he would fuck my brains out. I had a hard-on most of the time.

23 - Because of my inexperience, I'm afraid my ability to withhold my orgasm during my earlier sexual experiences will be similar to that of a 13-year-old. But I'm pretty sure I'll turn out to be a pretty good lover. I got imagination to boot and, stupid as it may sound in this context, I've read a lot.

24 - As a little kid, I used to enact sex scenes between my Barbie and my brother's Action Man. I always felt very attracted to his plastic chest, and I'm pretty sure that, if we'd had two Action Men, Barbie would stay in the toy box quite often.

25 - I've never told anyone this, and I don't think I ever will, but during my teenage years I really wished I was a girl. It just seemed so much easier - I wouldn't have to hide the fact that I was into guys, I could be affectionate to my female friends without people thinking I had second intentions, my lack of talent for team sports would be overlooked. I'm not sure I ever wanted to really be a girl, though, or if I just wanted my life to be easier and being a girl seemed like a better option than liking girls. Nowadays, I just wish I was a much hotter, open and adventurous gay guy. That would be awesome.

Monday, November 22, 2010

1. I'm a 22 year old queer girl. My favorite term for myself is "bisexual dyke."

2. A man broke into my friend's house and raped us both when I was 17. He used a knife on and in us. It goes without saying that this was a traumatic and life-changing experience.

3. After the rape I started drinking heavily and having anonymous sex with a lot of women. I tried to use the experiences I had with them to erase the memory of being violated. It took me years to end this behavior.

4. I am proud of the fact that I triumphed over my sexual assault and am able to enjoy sex. Physical intimacy with someone I love is like therapy to me.

5. I am very sexually experienced. I stopped counting years ago, but if I were to guess I would put the number at 70 women and 20 men.

6. I don't care if people think I'm a slut because of #5; I'm happy with my sexual past and I hope everyone else is, too.

7. I like almost any and everything about sex. The things that lead up to it, the act itself, and the aftermath are all wonderful experiences.

8. I LOVE going down on girls. There are few things I enjoy more in the world than letting her ride my tongue and fingers. I'll spend hours down there if she wants me to; watching a beautiful woman come is so, so sexy.

9. Despite #8, I almost never enjoy receiving oral sex. It just doesn't do it for me. It feels fine, but rarely so much as to get me off.

10. At the same time, I can't stand it when people refuse to go down on me. I have no respect for anyone who won't. So I guess my ideal partner is someone who loves doing it, but who doesn't require it.

11. I have REALLY intense orgasms, but have never been able to multiple. I'm fine with this; one of mine is enough to turn my legs to jelly.

12. My most serious relationship lasted four years and was with a person who started out as my girlfriend and slowly became my boyfriend. I immediately and effortlessly accepted and embraced this and was with him throughout his entire transition. Now he passes effortlessly, and you can't even tell he was born female. I think the relationship left me with a bit of a FtM fetish.

13. I used to be only into women, but since going to college have found myself more and more interested in men.

14. I become a 13-year-old boy when I see breasts. They render me nearly speechless and totally retarded. Boobs might be my favorite thing in the world.

15. I've had numerous threesomes, almost all successful and fun, with no awkwardness. They've all been either FFM or all-girls. I've never been in a guy-guy-girl situation.

16. The porn that turns me on the most is all the dirty, nasty stuff I would never enjoy doing in real life. The more hardcore and depraved, the more it turns me on.

17. Until I turned 18, my biggest fantasy was to be an older woman's dirty little secret. Preferably a housewife with kids with a secret lust for young dykes.

18. The hottest sexual experience of my life was with a 30-something mother in the restaurant I worked at bussing tables. She was a belly dancer (the restaurant was middle-eastern themed) and I got wet whenever she performed. One day she shoved me into the employee bathroom and had me suck her clit. It was the sexiest thing I had ever seen or imagined in my life, especially when she came. It never happened again, and I still masturbate to the memory.

20. I love doggy-style and missionary sex. Girl on top feels great too, but it's harder to thrust.

21. Sometimes I want to get pounded by a gigantic cock until I can't see straight and sometimes I want to suck on a girl's clit until she's hoarse from screaming.

22. I recently discovered that I'm just not polyamorous. I wish I were, but it's simply not in my nature. I had to end a great relationship because of this and I'm still upset about it.

23. The daily medication I need to function seriously depletes my sex drive. It also screws with my ability to get wet. It's embarrassing and I hate having a lower sex drive.

24. Drunk sex is very pleasurable to me.

25. My sex motto is that nothing you do in the bedroom is wrong if it perpetuates love (and is consensual).

Sunday, November 21, 2010

1. I am a 20-year-old heterosexual female. I find women attractive but rarely to the same degree as boys and I've never had romantic feelings for a woman, hence the hetero part. I think labels are sometimes annoying, sometimes useful.

2. I had my first orgasm when I was about seven or so. My best friend and I used to hump things together, without thinking too much about what we were doing.

3. Over the years, I've progressed from humping things to actually touching myself and figuring out how to make myself orgasm with more and more success. Once, I thought I'd test myself, and I managed to come five times in fifteen minutes. I'm still oddly proud of that record. One of my favourite positions is where I lie on my back, pull my legs close and wrap my arms over my thighs and under my calves.

4. My first crush was really intense, unrequited, and took me years to get over. I had a lot of unnecessary angst at that age (about thirteen).

5. Technically, my first kiss was with my best friend, but I only half count it as such because there were no romantic feelings attached.

6. I've kissed one girl and five boys. I've had sex with three boys.

7. I don't feel emotionally equipped to enjoy one night stands. Maybe one day I will but I would rather fuck someone I care about and that cares about me. For me, friends with benefits is a terrible idea. I'm sure it works for some people but I do not see the point.

8. I like menstrual blood. It's not a hardcore kink (I don't really have any of those) but I like it. I've had period sex once but found myself a little disappointed that it wasn't more bloody. I think it's aesthetically pleasing and there's just something sexy about it. A big part of the appeal is about someone embracing even the "icky" parts of me. I also think there's something awesome about a bolder, prettier visual representation of my arousal.

9. My first real boyfriend was wonderful. It was the first, and only, time I've been in love. I don't really believe in the idea of "virginity" but I define it as the first time I had sex. We lasted about six months before I realised I had to end things. He no longer made any effort and it made me miserable so that was that.

10. If someone asked if I had ever cheated on someone, I would say no. However, I do think that I wandered into a slightly grey area at one point.

11. I am an incredibly emotional person. I love sex and love and all the parts in between. Most of the time, I feel content with being single because every other aspect of my life is awesome. I have a pretty good level of confidence and I don't feel any less of a person for not having someone. However, I would like a special someone.

12. So I joined a dating site. It's been pretty fun but there I haven't found anything lasting.

13. I really want to try anal sex and pegging one day. For entirely different reasons, of course.

14. I used to feel very guilty about wanting a boyfriend but I've now come to terms with that. It's not like I don't love my life and it's not like I'll take just anyone to "fill the void."

15. Intimacy, friendship, love and sex are all tied together in my head. I want it all and I won't settle for less. If I want to get off, I can do that by myself, and if I want friendship, I already have that.

16. I enjoy porn but more photography and audio. I guess I like it when there's more left up to the imagination and I guess I find photos and audio are generally more emotional. I've been investigating solo male masturbation videos lately, and they seem to do it for me. I wish there was more audio out there--I think it's so hot!

17. I really love it when I have the chance to be noisy. I love listening to my partner too, but I've always been much louder than any of my partners.

18. I feel incredibly comfortable in my own skin. I used to feel very insecure, but now I love my body.

19. I am a fairly passive lover. I guess I'm just a fairly passive person and I find it hard to make decisions that affect other people. I would like to work on that, though. I would like to ask for more of what I want.

20. I love being kissed or fucked up against a wall or being picked up. I suppose this has to do with my passive nature. I don't like pain but I do enjoy a good spanking. I also like being told what to do so long as it works the other way too and that I feel respected.

21. I really want more cunnilingus. I've had it done to me a number of times but not nearly as much as I've returned the favour. I would love to find a guy who likes getting me off and tasting me as much as I love pleasuring him.

22. That said, I love sucking cock.

23. I thought I had learned everything about my own body and tastes, but I keep getting surprised. Through my long-term boyfriend, I discovered that I can get off through my g-spot and now I can do it myself. Through another boy, I discovered I can come through PIV sex. Through the wonders of the internet, I've learnt that breathing deeply helps improve my orgasms.

24. I'm a chubby chaser. I can find any body type attractive, depending on the person, but husky boys really do it for me. There's something so hot about thick fingers, big, stubbly cheeks, chunky thighs and soft stomachs.

25. I've grown a lot through my various experiences. Emotionally, I keep getting better at letting things go and just being grateful for the experiences I have. I have faith that one day there will be a boy who's just right. In the meantime, it's self portraits, porn, dildos and discussions, here we come!

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

1. I am a 34-year-old bi-curious woman. I have only been in romantic relationships with men, so I'm reluctant to call myself bisexual, but I am very sexually attracted to women. I am not PC, and I secretly hate all the PC terms for gender and sexuality. I am respectful, though; I will go along with what people prefer to be called.

2. The kinkiest thing I have ever done is pee in a guy's mouth. I got performance anxiety and had a hard time getting started, but once I did, it gushed into his mouth, and he swallowed. We both really enjoyed it.

3. My clit is so sensitive that it is very painful if someone touches it directly. It has to be touched through my hood. My urethra is also extremely sensitive and hurts if it is touched the wrong way.

4. I used to be able to come fairly easily in most positions either by myself or with a partner. A few years ago I went through a period of time where I could hardly come at all. Now it's difficult for me to come when I'm with a partner, and I usually need to be lying flat on my back with my legs straight down for it to happen. I can sometimes come in other positions with a vibrator, but it takes a while. This really bothers me, and I wish it were different, but I'm too lazy to work with myself and relearn how to come in other positions. When I'm with a partner, I have to focus really hard to come, and the closer I get, the quieter and more still I get. Sometimes partners are confused by this.

5. When I masturbate I almost always make myself come as quickly as possible. I start with grand ideas of teasing myself and prolonging my orgasm, but as soon as I get started, I get greedy and want to come right away. The most I've ever come in one session masturbating is five times. The most I've ever come with a partner is twice.

6. I fantasize almost exclusively about fucking women and making them come. For porn to get me off it has to show women having real orgasms. I like amateur and realistic stuff - girl on girl and girls masturbating - the best.

7. I currently have intense sexual crushes on two of my female friends. One of them would probably have sex with me, but I'm too intimidated and shy to make the first move, and I don't think she will initiate, although she likes to flirt with me and tease me.

8. I am submissive and like pain during sex. I have a high pain tolerance. I like being slapped, punched, grabbed, bitten, choked, and having my hair pulled. I also like being dominated, degraded, and feeling used. My favorite thing to be called is a dirty little slut. I love having marks left on me after sex. Once I got a hickey right on the front of my neck the night before I had to go to a wedding. I went to the MAC store and got them to cover it up for me.

9. I once met a bisexual guy off Craigslist in a parking lot, followed him to his male friend's house, watched the two of them have sex, and then joined in. I got to suck a dick and be fucked in the pussy at the same time. I still stay in touch with the guy and hook up with him every now and then.

10. My ex-boyfriend got another girl pregnant while we were together. After we broke up, I had two threesomes with the two of them when she was 8 months pregnant. It was very hot but way too emotionally charged. I'm good friends with her now, but it's a strange relationship peppered with jealousy and mild animosity. I'm still dying to fuck my ex again, and I know I could easily do it, but I also know it would be terrible for all of us and would ruin my relationship with her.

11. The hottest moment of my life was during a MFF threesome with my ex while we were still together. I was eating her out, and he was fucking me from behind. They both came at the same time. I felt like such a stud.

12. The most uninhibited I've ever been during sex was when another ex-boyfriend used to fuck me in the ass. I couldn't believe the things that would come out of my mouth, and I'd have the best orgasms ever. When I was a teenager masturbating, if I stuck my finger in my ass, it would make me come right away. It doesn't do that for me anymore. Now I really have to be in the mood for anal, and I go through long periods of time where I don't feel like doing it.

13. I am very attractive, and guys check me out all the time. In some ways this makes me self-conscious and uncomfortable, but if it stopped happening, I'd be bummed. Despite being checked out all the time, guys rarely hit on me or ask me out. I am aloof and intimidating and awkward and shy.

14. When I first started masturbating in my early teens I did it every night, but then I went to boarding school and had a roommate, and I stopped. I think this really interfered with my sexual development.

15. Every few months or so I have a sex dream that makes me have an orgasm in my sleep.

16. I wish a lot of things were different about my sexuality. I wish I had a higher sex drive. I wish I were one of those girls who could come easily any time and in any position. I wish I were very flirtatious and could pick up guys or girls anytime I wanted. I wish my clit and urethra weren't so sensitive. I wish my sexuality wasn't so tied in with my stress and emotions. My fantasy is that when I meet the right partner, I'll magically be cured of all my sexual problems.

17. I want to fuck a pre-op MtF transsexual. I think it would be so hot. I had a dream once that I was being fucked by a female coworker of mine, and she had a dick.

18. I had abortions when I was 22 and 25. Despite years of therapy and working through my feelings, I still regret them and hate myself for succumbing to pressure from others to have them. I think this has had a major negative impact on my sexuality today, but I feel hopeless about fixing it.

19. I learned a lot about sex from the Clan of the Cave Bear series when I was a preteen. I used to get so turned on reading the sex scenes in those books. Now reading erotica does almost nothing for me.

20. The smell of a guy's armpit is super sexy to me. I like natural body odors and tastes. I used to hate any artificial scents, but my ex used Old Spice deodorant, so now the smell of that turns me on. I also love the smell of heads.

21. I love the idea of group sex, orgies, and swinging, but I am afraid I am too shy to actually do them. I hope to have a partner someday who will encourage me and help me open up.

22. I have had my heart broken or been terribly let down by all of my serious boyfriends. I have the same pattern with my dad. I worry that I won't ever be attracted to a man who won't treat me like this.

23. I read sex blogs incessantly. I got to meet the author of my favorite sex blog, and we hit it off right away. I hooked up with her partner (they have an open relationship), and hopefully we'll all have great threesome sex the next time we see each other.

24. I get really turned on hanging out with groups of guys, the raunchier the better. All that testosterone gets me going. I wish I could be a fly on the wall and know how guys really talk about women when there's no woman in the room. I love girl-watching with guys. I love everything about the way men crave, objectify, and worship women.

25. I love the idea of exploring intimate lovemaking and intense BDSM, but I am also terrified of them and have rarely allowed myself to go there even with long-term partners. Trust and intimacy are really hard for me. I'm more comfortable having casual sex with someone than with dating them.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

1. Before I start any of this, I tend to keep my sexuality intensely private. I am ashamed of almost all of it to varying degrees, with the exception of my one committed relationship. If you're reading this stuff and it starts to sound too familiar, like you might know me, please skip on to the next one. I don't think I could deal with any friends or family finding this stuff out.

2. I'm a 21-year-old male-bodied bi-gender person. I've only had one sexual partner in my life, although I did finger one girl before that. It didn't last long, though, and I didn't feel anything.

3. The girl who I lost my virginity with is easily one of the hottest women I've ever seen. When I'm around her I tend to think about sex, although I think about sex a lot anyway.

4. We stopped having sex a while back and we're in a rough patch right now. The lack of sex really makes it hard for me to feel like there's a deep connection.

5. Sex is intensely emotional and personal for me. That kind of physical closeness to somebody is amazing, and it makes me really feel like they accept me and my body.

6. I hate my body. A lot of the time I forget what my face looks like. I'm fairly flabby and most of my features I just don't like at all. It's still a mystery to me that that girl found me attractive in the first place.

7. Although I am bi-gendered and don't plan on getting any kind of sexual reassignment surgery, I feel like it would have made so, so much more sense for me to have been born female.

8. I generally prefer the company of women by a lot, probably because they always seem to be way more accepting of my being bi-gendered. I feel like I can just be female around them if I want to. It also makes flirting really fun and easy.

9. My first serious girlfriend helped me crossdress on more than one occasion. It meant so much to me and, when I was all crossdressed, things really felt right. I still couldn't stand my body, but at least I could look how I wanted to in some way.

10. She let me borrow her high heels to go to my school's homecoming one year. I tried to hide them all night, but I never took them off. To this day I am absolutely amazed I did that.

11. Because I grew up as a guy and I was weird anyway--I got picked on a whole lot and became suicidal when I was really young, around 9--I became hyper-masculine in a lot of ways. I haven't cried for 9 years, but I cried all the time when I was a little kid.

12. I still can't bring myself to refer to myself as a girl, even when I'm feeling intensely female. I'm still really scared of it. I wish someone else would do it, though, because I would feel so legitimated. I don't want to tell anyone that.

13. I desperately want to dress as a woman many days, and the fact that I can't kills me. I'm afraid of so much, including violence, lack of employment and being disowned by my family.

14. Part of the reason I'm so scared is that when I came out to my parents my mom said it felt like a death to her. My biological dad was speed-addicted and abusive to her and I was never close to my stepdad until recently, so hearing that devastated me. I came out to her about it when I was 17 and didn't start identifying as queer again until I was almost 21. I'm still afraid to give her the full story and I can't stand the thought of my parents knowing. They are normally liberal people, but neither of my parents--especially my mom--understands what it means to be queer or how it affects me.

15. I think I might be attracted to men. For most of my life I thought I was totally straight but recently I keep seeing more guys and being struck by just how hot they are. I can't imagine anything sexual, but I can imagine being held by them and maybe kissing.

16. Although I'm generally far outside of the mainstream in my tastes in music or movies and I don't ever hang out with these types of people, I do see myself dressing and being a lot like the sorority girl type. There are a lot of them around my campus and, even though they get annoying sometimes, I wish I could be one of them.

17. I can't stand watching sex between anybody. The image of any kind of sex to me is just disgusting, especially straight sex. I've never seen gay male sex, but it still seems like it would be really unpleasant.

18. Because of that, I've never watched porn. I've watched videos of people stripping, but never of sex.

19. I love looking at pornographic pictures on the internet but only ever softcore stuff. I look at this stuff constantly.

20. I masturbate at least once a day. I am totally ashamed of it.

21. I didn't masturbate till I was either 16 or 17. Before that I just got a lot of very embarrassing wet dreams. When I did finally do it, it was because I was crossdressing with a weird-smelling pair of panties I found at a Goodwill (not dirty-smelling, but just that Goodwill sort of smell.) They were pretty ugly. I was trying to stuff my dick in between my legs but it was tricky, so I just kept pushing it back. Eventually I finally came. I was unbelievably ashamed and this is the first time I've ever told the whole story. Since then it's almost been an addiction.

22. I read a huge amount of gender transformation erotica. I've looked at it all over the internet and nothing gets me so horny. The idea of getting turned into a girl--particularly the process of getting a pair of boobs--is ridiculously hot to me.

23. It's even hotter when there's a mental transformation to the air-headed bimbo type of girl. I would love to somehow forcibly be turned into some giggly, dumb blonde girl with a really bimbo-ish voice. Part of this is probably that I pride myself on my intelligence and I really tend to excel in academics. It's sort of like people in power wanting to be the submissive partner in S&M. The process of crossdressing--putting on the clothes and all that--is also really hot to me.

24. Being female--as in actually dressing like a girl and letting myself be a girl--is really non-sexual for me. It just feels really nice and comfortable. However, I would really, really love to be dominated as a girl.

25. A lot of my friends are guys and I don't feel totally comfortable around them because I think they'd be really freaked out by me presenting as female.

Monday, November 8, 2010

1. I am a married 37-year-old male and I have a reasonably good sex life with my wife (2-3 times a week). She is the best sexual partner that I have ever had.

2. I have cheated on my wife a couple of times, but never anything as far as intercourse.

3. The last woman that I cheated with gave me the best blowjob of my life. The first woman that I cheated with... I spent about an hour photographing her while she was nude; she then asked me to feel how wet she was, so I slid two fingers inside her (she was very wet) -- nothing else happened beyond that. Afterwards, she complained that I didn't pull out my cock and jerk off while photographing her.

4. My wife has an orgasm 95% of the time that we have sex. Apparently, my cock swells just before I have an orgasm and she really likes the feeling. I have tried to fake orgasms and I have tried to hide the fact that I was about to have an orgasm -- and she can tell every time. I rarely can get my wife to orgasm any other way (and I've tried!)

5. I lost my virginity when I was 17. I was fooling around with a slightly older but MUCH more experienced woman. She got so horny that she begged me to fuck her, which I did without a condom. My brother came home about 10 minutes after we started having sex, so we went elsewhere and finished on a deserted road in my car.

6. My first sexual partner was basically a series of one-night stands. We had sex a half-dozen times, most of which involved her cheating on a long-distance boyfriend. She said that I was better in bed than him, but I think that it was simply because I was so nervous that it took me a long time to get off, giving her the illusion that I had tremendous stamina.

7. I now can almost completely control how long it takes me to have an orgasm (except in the morning, when it always takes me a long time). I can get off in 30 seconds or 60 minutes, whichever you prefer.

8. My ex-wife claimed that I took her virginity but I don't believe her and I never did -- and not because her hymen had already been broken (at the time, it just seemed like she was lying). For about 5 years, that was the only time that I assumed that she was lying. Eventually, I learned that she lied to me almost all of the time (including with cheating on me with several different guys).

9. I enjoy watching porn so much that I sometimes think that I am addicted to it. I particularly like amateur porn in which the woman is very vocal and has an orgasm. I am almost completely unaffected by solo porn, gay porn, lesbian porn, or porn with high production values in which the actors are clearly acting.

10. I really love performing oral sex on a woman. I love the taste and the smell and the subtle motions that her body makes as she enjoys the experience.

11. Although my cock isn't quite 6 inches long, it is thick. None of my partners have complained about it being too small and one of them complained that it was too big. My wife claims that mine is the only cock that has ever gotten her off.

12. I think that my current wife cheats on me when she travels for work. I am almost certain that she is planning to meet one of her ex-boyfriends for sex within the next year. I'm not sure that I care as long as the rest of our relationship is fine.

13. The best orgasm of my life happened when I was grinding on my girlfriend when I was 27. She was a virgin and she had declared that she was waiting until she got married to have sex. We had spent the entire day making out and I was ridiculously horny. I came so hard and so much that it scared me -- it literally felt like I was peeing instead of coming.

14. I average about one orgasm every day. If I skip a day, then I'll usually get off twice the next day. If I get off twice in one day, then I'll skip the next day.

15. I once had sex five times in one day. My then-girlfriend tried to wake me up for a sixth time, but I refused. This still bothers me because one of my fantasies is to be woken up for sex.

16. I have been in love four times -- both of my wives, the girlfriend from #15, and the virgin from #13.

17. Although I am turned on by the thought of receiving oral sex, it's actually rare that I can get off while receiving a blow job (and it usually takes a long time).

18. I once went skinny dipping on a first (blind) date. She was clearly very attracted to me and I wanted to see how far she'd go. While driving to the lake, she declared that she wasn't going to fuck me -- though I am certain that she would have if I had tried. Although we fooled around a few more times after that first date, we never had intercourse. I refused to sleep with her (i.e,. actual slumber) and she refused to have intercourse if I didn't stay the night.

19. I received a blow job from the best friend of my girlfriend from #15.

20. I cheated on my most recent girlfriend before meeting my current wife. We had broken up temporarily, so I started looking for dates via the internet. After we got back together, one of my internet acquaintances invited me over for a night of NSA sex and I accepted.

21. I had sex with the woman from #20 another couple of times after breaking up with my girlfriend and it was awful each time. One time, it literally hurt (for reasons that I do not understand).

22. My current wife is the only person with whom I have had anal sex. The first time, she did it without telling me because she wanted it and I had previously refused. I have had anal sex with her a half-dozen times since then and I enjoy it although she doesn't anymore.

23. I have had sex with my wife several times in public places where we could get caught. The most dangerous was the middle of the day, just off of a busy hiking trail in a state park. The most recent time was on a dock on a lake, at night, during a meteor shower.

24. When I was younger, I used to shoot come 5 to 10 times when having an orgasm. Now, I mostly just dribble out a small amount of come -- this disappoints me greatly.

25. I regret not exploring sex more with the girlfriend from #20. She loved to swallow; she was bisexual and interested in threesomes; and she clearly would have tried anything that I requested. For some reason, we mostly had vanilla sex.