Saturday, November 5, 2011

1. I am a queer, poly, kinky, femme young woman. I've only recently become more comfortable with the term "femme."

2. I finally had my first kiss with another woman at the age of 19. She and I dated for approximately 3 months.

3. I once had a threesome with said woman and her long-term male partner in their apartment. He watched us have sex, I watched them have sex. Her partner and I did not have sex. It was good, sober, sexy fun. Prior to this lovely occurrence, I often slept over at their place. We made an awesome body sandwich.

4. I enjoy being tied up, blindfolded and tickled. Sometimes I enjoy being tortured, other times I like it more playful. I still feel a lot of shame about my tickle fetish, which I'm sure I developed at a young age.

5. One of my fantasies is to be bound and tickled by a few people at once. One would stimulate my clit with a feather. They would deny me an orgasm until they wanted me to come.

6. I also have a foot fetish. I love to play with other people's feet and have my own played with. This involves tickling and kissing. I also enjoy having my toes sucked.

7. Porn, for the most part, really doesn't excite me. However, I get turned on by watching videos of people being tickled, primarily women.

8. I have never performed oral sex on another woman, however I would very much like to.

9. I do not enjoy being penetrated, although recently I think my partner found my "G-spot."

10. I have multiple erogenous zones. A few of them are my lower back, feet, neck, breasts and thighs.

11. I love reading feminist erotica.

12. I am a member of FetLife and the Tickling Media Forum.

13. I think black latex gloves are quite sexy.

14. I own under-the-bed restraints which are pretty easy to use.

15. I am primarily attracted to curvy women.

16. I don't masturbate often, but when I do, I usually will masturbate multiple times that day. Masturbating before bed helps me fall asleep.

17. I really value and enjoy being in polyamorous relationships. Right now though, I'm currently in a long-term monogamous relationship. I often question monogamy and the ways in which it can be very limiting.

18. I own at least 3 vibrators.

19. I love giving hickeys.

20. I've had four friends in the past who I met through TMF and had tickle sessions with. Tickling men turns me on. I've never yet had the chance to tickle another woman.

21. I came out as bisexual at the age of 16.

22. I am interested in becoming a sex educator/therapist. I would especially like to work with individuals who are LGBTQI, kinky and/or poly.

23. I constantly wonder how many other people I know share my fetishes.

24. I frequently fantasize about having sex in public places: in an alleyway, behind a tree, in the backseat of a car.

25. I hope to one day be fully comfortable with my body and the ways in which I express arousal.

Friday, November 4, 2011

1. I am a 46-year-old male, married for 10 years with 2 children.

2. My wife and I are both kinky. She is a submissive masochist and I am a dominant sadist.

3. Sex with my wife always involves me causing her pain in some way. Usually this means spanking her ass or cunt, slapping her tits and pinching her nipples.

4. I am careful to stay within her pain limits, though. This is sometimes frustrating for me.

5. The only kind of pain that I cause her that she does not like is slapping her face while I fuck her.

6. Despite 4 above, I almost always slap her face while I fuck her. She is totally cool with this.

7. When we first met (through a web site), we tried to have a full on D/s relationship. We found this didn't work for us, particularly when the kids came along. Now our kink is mainly a bedroom-only thing, but she knows that if she really stepped out of line that I would punish her for it.

8. No one who knows us would ever believe that we are kinky.

9. We regularly have anal sex. One of my wife’s main fantasies is to have me piss into her ass. I have never done this, though, as it just is not a turn-on for me.

10. I do, however, enjoy pissing into her mouth. She likes this too.

11. When my wife sucks my cock, she will generally lick my asshole too.

12. Despite the fact that I can do anything I want to my wife and have fulfilled pretty much every fantasy I have ever had with her, I still sometimes toy with the idea of finding another woman to fuck on the side.

13. Despite the fact that I can have any kind of sex I want with my wife any time I want it, I still masturbate at least once a week.

14. Weirdly, when I masturbate I fantasize about doing all the things I regularly do to my wife, except in the fantasies I am doing them to someone else.

15. The biggest turn-on for me is that the person I am doing these things to, really really wants me to do them. I would not be turned on at all by the thought of doing these things to an unwilling 'victim.'

16. I occasionally fantasize about dominating a man: beating the crap out of him, pissing on him and then having him suck me off. I am almost afraid of the violence that I feel I might be capable of in this situation.

17. My first sexual experience was with a male priest. He got me drunk and sucked my cock. I have never told anyone that before. I was about 14 at the time.

18. This priest would be an excellent candidate for the victim role in #16.

19. Apart from #17 above, I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 19.

20. I have had sex with about 10 women in my life.

21. Every woman I have ever had sex with was kinky in some way. This leads me to believe that pretty much all women harbor some kinkiness of some sort.

22. As I get older, my desire for sex is diminishing. This pisses me off no end.

23. I wish I had a bigger cock. Mine is of average size, but I wish it was bigger. I also wish I produced more cum.

24. I occasionally come too soon (before I am ready). This is very frustrating.

25. I have toyed with the idea in the past of finding another submissive woman to join me and my wife in a threesome. She is open to this idea, but my occasional premature ejaculation makes me nervous about it.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

1. I’m 23, female, bisexual and not sure that I’ve ever been in love.

2. I’m a hardened cynic when it comes to love and relationships – head over heart syndrome. My friends think that someone could one day sweep me off my feet, but they acknowledge that it would be pretty difficult.

3. I started masturbating at 14 and still remember how amazing my first orgasm was. I thought I was going to have a heart attack. After that I got a bit addicted and did it as much as 15 times a day for a while. Even now I masturbate way more often than most women, and I certainly did it more than my last boyfriend, to his embarrassment and my amusement.

4. Even though I can make myself come inside a minute, I’ve only come during PIV sex a few times, and never without clitoral stimulation. When people go down on me I usually get there in the end, and it's worth the wait.

5. I’ve had sex with 4 people – 2 guys and 2 girls. The first was a girl, when I was 19 and she was 24. I was a bit of a late developer – my first kiss was at 18, and I was 20 the first time I had sex with a guy. At the time it really bothered me, but now I couldn’t care less.

6. I used to have a lot of confusion about my sexuality, constantly analyzing everything, and usually coming to multiple conclusions even within the same day. Now I’ve learned to lighten up about it. I tend to find girls hotter and think of guys more as relationship material, but there are always exceptions.

7. The first girl I had a crush on was when I was 14 or 15. I would do anything to make her laugh, and I used to fantazise about having sex with her in the study room in the library. I never told her, but I suspected she was into girls as well.

8. I’ve read porn since I was 13, but only started watching it when I was 21. I read m/m porn mostly, with some m/f and f/f, but I generally watch f/f or m/f. Also, threesomes.

9. I cross-dressed occasionally for a while, but only in private. I once used a fancy dress party as an excuse to dress as a guy and strap my breasts down, and it felt great. I really want to do it again.

10. I’ve only ever been in one serious relationship, with a guy, J., which lasted a year, on and off, but we started sleeping together again for a while last year. It was great, really good fun, and brought some closure to our relationship.

11. I ruined this by going to see him again a few months ago. We ended up having sex again and I regretted it. I won’t see him again.

12. The best kiss I have ever had, by far, was with a girl, in the middle of a crowded dance floor in a club. I was just drunk enough to be really confident and I remember simply saying to her: “I want to kiss you.” I wish I could do that more often – it totally worked and I was completely blown away by it.

13. She and I had a bit of a fling after that, nothing serious. I started to find her annoying and ditched her in a way I’m less than proud of. I still remember that kiss, though.

14. I have a ‘one that got away’ – I spent a year abroad in Spain and met an American girl there. We were friends for months but nothing happened, and then at a house party she suddenly dragged me into another room and kissed me. It happened a couple of times but she went back to America before we could take it further. I wish I’d been brave enough to make the first move earlier, but I also like wondering what might have been, and if she thinks the same.

15. A similar thing happened with a guy, D., at uni – we knew we liked each other for six months before anything happened. I don’t think of myself as shy generally but when it comes to starting relationships I’m appalling.

16. I’m very reserved when I’m in relationships as well. When I finally got together with D. everything was excruciatingly awkward (we were both virgins at the time) and we split up very quickly. With J. I could never talk about my feelings, though he was surprisingly good at it, considering he was the more reserved one in public.

17. I sometimes worry that I’m a little bit in love with my best friend. She, unfortunately, is the straightest and most unsingle one of all my friends, but she knows something’s up. Sometimes I think something could happen – there’ll be a look, or a comment. She once said that she was thinking about kissing me, and she keeps mentioning that her boyfriend suggests we should have a threesome, which usually comes off as a joke, but sometimes looks like testing the water. (I would totally be up for it.) She’s a very flirty person in general, though, and most of the time I’m fairly sure I’m deluding myself. A more likely, and cynical, explanation is that she’s flattered by the attention and can’t quite bring herself to end it completely.

18. I haven’t had sex in five months, and only once in the last 14.

19. I’ve just joined the army, and I was completely uninterested in sex for the first few weeks – I think it was because I was focusing on the training so much. Now, though, I’m becoming aware that I’m surrounded by hundreds of young, fit men and women, and I’m starting to look for opportunities. I’m fairly sure this is mostly because of 16.

20. I think I’m very open-minded when it comes to sex, and there’s virtually nothing I wouldn’t try, except anal, for reasons too personal to mention even here. My greatest fantasy, though, is to fuck someone (probably a girl) with a strap-on. I suggested it to J. once, and he thought I was joking. I never told him I wasn’t.

21. I don’t think of myself as a relationship person, but every so often I’ll see a couple, whether in the street or in a club, whose closeness and intimacy is so palpable that I actually feel a physical pain in my chest. Those are the moments when I feel lonely.

22. The flip side of my awkwardness in relationships is that I never know when I’m flirting. Twice it’s been pointed out to me that I’m flirting outrageously with someone, and I’m completely unaware of it. I did fancy both of them though.

23. One of the two in #22 is a girl I’ve been friends with for a few years. We kissed a couple of times, and later she told me that I really confused her (she’s straight). Once she came back to mine after a night out to ‘pick up some stuff’ and I completely missed the signs. We never had another opportunity, though I tried my best.

24. Of everyone I've ever kissed, I was always drunk the first time. I thought this was unusual, but if my friends are to be believed it's depressingly common. I've told myself that the next time will be different, but I doubt it somehow.

25. I don’t like opening up to people, and I think that the building up of a serious relationship would be worse than being in it. I’m fairly sure I’ll settle down with someone eventually, but part of me really wants to go a little crazy for a while first.

Monday, October 31, 2011

1) I am a 29 year old male homosexual. I married my husband this year, which is legal in the country where we live.

2) When I was 20, I had a girlfriend at university, but it only lasted six weeks and was more sort of an experiment. I talked her into having sex before exploring the relationship in more depth, because I still was a virgin and this would release some tension. It did and I still think it was a good idea.

3) When she kissed me the first time, I was surprised and confused because it came somehow unexpected and I had never kissed someone before. I told her that I was willing to see where things might go and that I might be bisexual. She agreed.

4) She broke up with me six weeks after (which might also be related to the fact that I sucked in bed, and I don’t mean the good kind of sucking). I was not too disappointed. Her next boyfriend turned out to be gay, too. But she got over it and we are still friends.

5) I started masturbating when I was 13 and found out how things worked. I do it ever since, usually every day. At nighttime, it gives me a most relaxing weariness and sleep.

6) An orgasm from my own hands feels very different to me from sex. It’s almost like chocolate and strawberries. Both are fine, you have to be in the mood for one or the other.

7) I can shoot quite far. Although it is not always practical as you have to clean the sheets, wall or furniture, it is a huge turn on. I pity the porn stars that only drip.

8) I watch quite a lot of porn. I prefer a natural setting, with people hugging, kissing and laughing. Also, they are allowed to have hair where adults have hair. Trimmed and groomed is OK (this is also how I wear it). I can’t help it, but shaved reminds me of children.

9) Although I should know better, condoms in porn are really a turn-off for me. It just does not work. The main sexual organ is between one’s ears, so I get off on true intimacy, and that includes for me mucosa contact. This is by no means generally anti-condoms. Have safer sex, people, and protect yourselves!

10) My husband is the only man I ever had sex with. It started as an experiment when I was 21, and we sort of stuck together. Although I certainly would have liked to sow my wild oats, I cherish very much what I have. It just turned out that way. We are exclusive and intend to stay so until further notice.

11) Once I was told by a guy in his fifties that every gay relationship opens sooner or later. I was really pissed because who the hell was he to say so? Defiantly, I really hope to prove him wrong (but I’m afraid he might be right).

12) When I was 16, I jerked off a friend when he stayed over. He did not like it, so I apologized the next day and it was OK. I am still a little sorry for urging him, but: hey, it didn’t kill him, and it is also amusing to have had the same cock in my hands that has fucked several girls of our clique.

13) By the way: Someone wrote here before that the world would be a much better place if every man knew about the magic of prostate stimulation. I totally and absolutely agree. One should start campaigning.

14) A few weeks ago, a male gay couple in a magazine was asked whether they practice anal sex as it was quite a challenging/brutal technique. I was really astonished by the tone of this question because although one has to be careful at anal sex, I never looked at it this way. There are days I have trouble fitting the dick of my husband, which is not small. But anal sex is such an intense sensation (also of aforementioned intimacy) that I would never want to miss it.

15) I hate to admit it, but I am a total bottom. Fucking my husband gives me nothing. Zero. (Apart from the slightly encouraging feeling of dominance, also because he is bigger than me.)

16) Blowjobs give me nothing.

17) Because of #15 and #16, I sometimes wonder whether I am a “real” man. I mean, what is “wrong” with me if I can’t come in or by someone else? It is generally very hard if not impossible for me to come without my own hands.

18) Speaking of which, I am sexually really complicated to handle. Sometimes I wished to have a button that makes me come, but instead I have this thing “Touch me there. No, not any longer. Now touch me there. Ouch, your kisses hurt...”

19) The first time we had sex, I was too blocked to come all night.

20) #18 is also the reason I refrain from inviting a third and fourth man into our bed. I’d love to try it, but I’m afraid to “not function” because he doesn’t know how to play me. And additionally I am much more afraid to fuck something up in my relationship. So we don’t. Our sex life is satisfying anyway (for the moment).

21) Luckily, my environment is very liberal and open. I almost never encountered refusal. Coming out was not a big thing either. At work I am also completely outed (OK, it’s academia, but anyway). When I get visited at home, I do not particularly hide our lube. I mean, come on: We are young and healthy, of course we have sex. Hiding it would be more pretentious in my eyes.

22) 25 things are really a lot. Here are a few fun facts: Spontaneous boners in puberty are no fun. I had them for years in school.

23) I had to grin when I got one in a seminar a few weeks ago. Maybe it’s just a neuronal reaction from the combination of hard chairs and boredom.

24) Celebrities I’d like to fuck: Zachary Quinto, Ed Westwick and Elijah Wood. Also Dita von Teese, which is really odd.

25) It’s always funny to see guys getting alcohol-gay, getting all touchy-feely after a few drinks. I can assure you, there is also an alcohol-heterosexual…