Thursday, October 29, 2009

1. I lost my virginity at 17 years old, to my first proper boyfriend who I dated for two years. First try was an awkward failure, second time with lube was much better.

2. I'm now 20 and have had sex with six boys.

3. I've gotten sexual with three girls.

4. I've taken part in a drug and alcohol fueled orgy with 7 friends. It tested friendships and relationships too much to be worth it.

5. That orgy led to many other group activitys, mmf, mmff, mmmf and mff.

6. Three out of those four I just couldn't wait to be over.

7. I've so far learned that good sex isn't about skill or experience it's all about chemistry. Mad skills are just a bonus.

8. I love giving head, and I get so much self satisfaction out of successfully swallowing. It makes me laugh when boys worry about cumming in my mouth.

9. I have a big fear of losing my "tightness".

10. But, I have let a boy attempt to fist me.

11. That same night I also had my first anal experience.

12. I really miss that boy, I was so comfortable around him and dripping wet a second after his touch.

13. He discovered that I can squirt.

14. It's like a secret challenge I set for all boys now, to see if they can make me squirt.

15. So far, no luck at all. This boy had amazing magical fingers. Too many boys have a bad habit of just wiggling their finger about in a non-specific or effective area.

16. This boy has really set the bar, making my experiences after him all very boring.

17. I'm becoming more and more attracted to 'beef cakes'. Boys that are a lot bigger then me.

18. Mostly because I find it hard to be on top of a guy with legs smaller then me. Physically difficult. It also makes me feel bad about myself.

19. I'm fairly submissive. I don't mind being roughed about a bit. I can't stand politeness when it comes to sex.

20. Saying "I want to do you" and "can we do it" is a MASSIVE turn off for me. I'm not 14 years old. I want to be fucked.

21. I love sex toys! I don't have many myself, but I have a big wish list.

22. I love the idea of nude photography and hope to try it out one day when my body is more toned.

23. I love porn and wish I didn't live at home with my parents so I could watch it more often.

24. Writing this list was harder then I thought it would be.

25. I'm really excited about what kind of list I would be able to write ten or so years from now.
1) I'm a 40 something year old man. The more I work out, the more sexual I am.

2) I've had about 20 sex partners. One of them was male.

3) I've been married for over 20 years. My wife is really beautiful. In shape and hot. We have a couple of great kids. My family is the love of my life.

4) My one male partner was my cousin when I was 18. He sucked my cock and made me orgasm. I sucked his dick (I liked the feel of it in my mouth), but couldn't make him hard. I must have not been very attractive to him, because he definitely seemed a lot gayer than I was. He wanted to kiss, and I wouldn't.

5) I sometimes fantasize about being with men. My wife's hairdresser.

6) I've always thought my wife was kind of repressed (no toys, no porn, no anal, no masturbation, very very little oral, literally no fantasies at all). As I've gotten older I've come to realize that repressed may not be as accurate as highly selective and desiring to stay in control.

7) Earlier in my marriage I hired prostitutes a few times, and went to a Nevada brothel. I felt I owed myself something for staying in my marriage. I enjoyed at least one of the encounters, whom I felt close to, but generally they seemed wrong for me. Hurried and commercial. I like to feel wanted; this was the opposite. And I felt guilt afterward.

8) About 10 years ago my wife had an affair, having sex with another man in our home while I was away. She tried to break open some of her boundaries e.g. blowjobs and fantasies, but with someone else. When I found out about it I was devastated, but I told her about my forays with commercial sex, and we started to try to rebuild our marriage. I found some peace by rationalizing that humans are just wired to cheat. She is no different from anyone else (from me) It seems like we've been successful at this reconstruction project, but it's more like a second marriage between the same two people.

9) I did hire a prostitute one more time. A secret back at'cha.

10) I like to look at online porn a lot. I sometimes masturbate a lot, but more rarely as I get older. Sometimes I go to a peep show and watch the models masturbate.

11) I have a wild fantasy life. Would love to share my wife, go to an orgy, have shared bisexual experiences. Watch her with another man or woman. To be clear, I'd like to not only talk about, but live out these fantasies.

12) My fantasy life is definitely focused on my wife. But I'm scared to be real about this with her. I do try occasionally to bring up fantasies, but her discomfort seems intense.

13) I lust after pretty much anything female and (even moderately) cute. Pretty much anyone my age or younger. I'm that letchy guy. Oh well.

14) I started masturbating when I was 10. I don't think I made myself come until I was 11. One of the most intense orgasms I can remember having was masturbating in the same room (lights out) as my cousin (see number 4) when we were 12.

15) After I learned how to make myself come I masturbated all the time. I used salad oil for lubricant, and sometimes kept my semen in a small bottle. I was amazed and delighted with the powerful smell of it. A few weeks after I learned how to come my penis was literally swollen around the crown from over-use.

16) I lost my virginity when I was 17, with my beautiful 16 year old ballet dancer girlfriend. I had lied to her, telling her I had more experience than I did. She dumped me a few weeks later, after cheating on me.

17) I fell in love with someone (i.e. they loved me back) when I got to college. She was blonde down to the pudendum, and very smart and passionate. Wore clogs and danced. We fucked all the time. I only found out after about 6 months that she wasn't having orgasms, so I learned how to make her come with my mouth.

18) She cheated on me too. In fact, every woman I've ever been in a relationship with has cheated on me.

19) I like having something in my ass. I totally fantasize about my wife pegging me. She's said no dice.

20) I was in love with a girl for years whom I only kissed once (a good night peck). She married someone else, I married someone else, but I still think about her. Not as much as I used to. Not contacting her is my gift to her and to my wife and family.

21) My wife likes how I fuck her, most of the time. She usually has at least two orgasms, often three. She tells me I have the biggest dick she's ever fucked, I find that hard to believe, as she literally can not count the number of men she's fucked. She told me it was over 40; I overheard her mention to a friend once it was over 60. At the right time of the month she can have 6 or 7 or more orgasms. I think she feels closer to me after her affair.

22) I still don't know how I feel about it (her affair). I do know that ending my marriage would likely result in more misery, poverty and despair for a number of people I care about. And that any other marriage I would start would have its own issues, probably of a very similar nature. And probably be with someone a lot less attractive.

23) One favorite fantasy: tying my wife up and pleasuring her (or not) as I choose. Bringing her almost to orgasm and making her wait.

24) Sometimes I think I'd like to have an affair like she did. (It is disconcerting that one of the most significant events in my sexual history happened without me being present). But when I've gotten close to cheating I've found that I'm not attracted enough to person X to want to endure the spiritual damage of lying to my wife or jeopardizing my family.

25) I love to watch women make themselves come. My wife won't do that for me.
1) Much of my early sexual education came from books like The Sensuous Woman, Thy Neighbor’s Wife and Hollywood Wives.

2) I lost my virginity shortly after my 21st birthday to a prostitute in a whorehouse a couple hours outside of Las Vegas.

3) I didn’t understand what was happening when I masturbated for the first time; it disturbed me quite a bit, and I felt some guilt. I didn’t expect the semen, and there was a lot of it.

4) I have masturbated regularly more or less ever since.

5) The guilt finally went all the way away in my mid to late twenties. This had a lot to do with my discovery of Henry Miller.

6) I really like women in fun lingerie, probably because I spent so much time looking at lingerie catalogs before I could get porn.

7) I went to my first strip club when I was 18, and have loved them ever since. They are fun treats that I indulge in a few times a year, depending on circumstances.

8) My first butt plug was a little too large and I had the wrong kind of lube. I still enjoyed playing with it, but I soon bought correct lube and eventually wound up with a small collection of butt toys.

9) I enjoy phone sex quite a bit, but I have to be in the right mood. It’s tricky to find the right match to maximize the experience. Like strip clubs, phone sex is a fun treat that I indulge in occasionally.

10) I have masturbated in port-a-potties, an M1A1 battle tank, and in peep show booths.

11) My (now) wife and I had sex for the first time on our third date. Doesn’t everyone?

12) I enjoy getting fucked in the ass with a dildo, butt-plug or fingers. It’s not an everyday activity.

13) Receiving oral sex is one of my favorite things in the world. Lucky for me, my wife enjoys, and is quite good at, giving.

14) My wife and I did have sex in an airport motel room the night of our wedding. Half-drunk as we were, it was great.

15) We were monogamous for the first six years of our relationship, but became polyamorous about a year ago.

16) I tend to define sex to include oral / genital play; it’s an arbitrary definition.

17) I’ve had group sex one time. It was with my wife, her boyfriend (at his birthday party) and two other women that he introduced us to. It was an amazing experience that I hope to repeat. The group of us should have talked about things more in advance, such as STD risks and whatnot, but I have no significant regrets.

18) I sometimes fantasize about playing directly with another man sexually. I’m especially interested in sucking cock. I’m not really interested in making out with another man, and I can’t see myself "dating" one. I comfortably identify as "straight."

19) I’ve come to really enjoy giving spankings, floggings and paddlings.

20) Sometimes, I like to be spanked myself. I like sharp, stingy ones more than deep thuddy ones; I think that’s because I’m a fairly skinny fella.

21) I have a girlfriend who I regularly have sex with in addition to my wife. I typically get laid 3 or 4 times per week.

22) I still enjoy masturbating by myself, but I don’t have time or energy to do it often. I’m lucky to do it once per week.

23) I don’t understand how guys can have sex more than once per day for many days at a time. My cock gets sore from the friction around the second time.

24) I’d like to play with a dominatrix; while I don’t want to be humiliated, I think I would enjoy being told what to do.

25) I really like to watch. I like to watch my partner and me in a mirror when I’m having sex, I like watching strippers, when I was in college, I used to peek out my bedroom window and watch folks in the apartments a block away.
1. At 30 years old I am technically still a virgin. This comes from a combination of being raised in a religious family, being extremely picky about guys, and living for a long time as an asexual.

2. I first discovered orgasm in third grade while riding a bouncing pony on the playground. I often continued to use this toy to have very happy private moments.

3. I also found that rubbing against something could bring about what I called the "pee feeling" (before I knew the term orgasm). I often masturbated this way as a child.

4. My first love gave me my first orgasm with another person. We were making out in bed and he was rubbing my lower stomach (no where near my genitals). I tried very hard to hold still and hide my pleasure when he made me climax.

5. Later in our relationship he talked me into letting him masturbate me. I had my first orgasm that he knew about on a pile of dirty clothes on his bedroom floor. We often mutually masturbated and he loved watching me "go crazy."

6. We would also often take off our pants and he would rub me with his penis through our underwear. I knew little about sex at this young age and once worried I somehow got pregnant from this activity.

7. I cannot imagine having sex with someone I am not in love with. I could never have sex with a stranger and will probably never have a one night stand.

8. I would, however, love to masturbate with a stranger in a semi-public place.

9. I do enjoy having cybersex and have been told I am very good at talking dirty and getting people off during the act.

10. I fantasize often about being held down or tied up and moaning while I am pumped very hard.

11. I enjoy masturbating and do it almost daily.

12. I love listening to the sound of people orgasming, and especially like timing my own climax to match theirs.

13. I would like to try having a sexual experience with a lesbian or bisexual woman, but am only interested in a relationship with a man.

14. I get turned on very easily and get very, very wet.

15. I think I am very good at orgasming and can come very quickly in a variety of ways.

16. When I am alone I love to moan and scream when I orgasm.

17. My first love also gave me my first experience with oral sex. He said he wanted to try "kissing me down there" and proceded to lick and suck until I orgasmed.

18. Another favorite sexual experience with my first was involved him setting me on the edge of the bed and he sat on the floor while giving me oral sex.

19. With previous boyfriends I have never been interested in giving oral sex and have never given it until the guy orgasms. However now that I am older I often crave doing it and hope to do it on the next guy I date.

20. I often enjoy sex play with a special hairbrush that i reserve for myself. The ridges on the handle feel so good.

21. I can orgasm in a variety of ways, using my clitoris, G-spot, penetration or a combination.

22. I love having my nipples sucked, especially while my clitoris is being rubbed.

23. I would love to have a guy fuck me while another guy is kissing me or sucking my nipples.

24. My favorite position to masturbate in is laying face down. I always use my middle finger to rub myself.

25. When I have a really good orgasm, my ears feel numb and my eyes water.
1. The first time I ever made out with a girl was during a drunk night in college. She was in all honesty the "ugly one" in her little clique. We were playing pictionary and she leaned over and bit my thigh. We ended up making out in the bathroom, then proceeded to my room. While telling me that she wouldn't fuck me, she ended up naked on top of my fully clothed self while I fingered her. We were subsequently interrupted before things could progress further by my stoned roommate back from a Grateful Dead concert.

2. The second girl I ever made out with was on the night before my college graduation. She had already dated my roommate and one other friend, and eventually had mercy on me. We didn't fuck, but made out deep into the night to the tune of James Brown's "CD of JB, Vol. 1" on repeat. She was petite and chunky and had the most beautiful large, heavy breasts.

3. The girl from #2 and I had one more experience, when she came to visit me that summer. We were hanging out, and out of the blue she disappeared from the room and returned in a green nightie and white thigh-highs. I went down between her luscious thighs and ate her out for what seemed like forever (my first time...). Her head was hanging over the edge of the bed, and after she could take no more, I helped her sit up and jokingly asked "Where have you been?" "In heaven," she responded, "with all the other girls getting their pussy eaten." We subsequently tried to fuck, but I was so nervous and aroused that I ended up never even penetrating her and came while pumping against her pubic hair. I was ashamed and embarrassed, but she was sweet about it. From this experience came my fetish for both eating pussy and thigh highs.

4. I have a fetish for hosiery. When I was just learning the joys of masturbation, I used to steal my mother's hose and use them to masturbate. I have also tried on my wife's hose (not in her presence) and was incredibly turned on and pleasured myself in front of the mirror while wearing them. I have no desire to cross-dress, but the texture of the hosiery quakes me.

5. While I was separated from my wife last year, I had a fling with a girl that I met on the internet. On the second time we ever hung out, we were watching a horror movie at my house and, out of the blue, she leaned over and nibbled my ear. We started kissing and she ended up straddling my lap topless. I nibbled and sucked her breasts for hours while she writhed against me. She eventually lay down on the couch, where I continued attending to her breasts and lips while also tentatively caressing her crotch outside of her pants. I eventually sought out her clit through the fabric and made her come HARD. She had THE most beautiful breasts I have ever seen in person. They were much more lovely and luscious than my wife's.

6. A week or so later (the time frame escapes me), my fling and I consummated our fling at her house (after much email, chat, and telephone flirting). I ate her out extensively after which she gasped "I want you inside me NOW". I was so dead-set on the pussy eating, that I had to get her to masturbate a bit so I could get hard enough to fuck her. Although the foreplay was incredibly hot, the actual sex was underwhelming, as her vocalizing and sex talk was kind of ludicrous and honestly almost made me laugh during the act. She told me I was the best she had ever had.

7. The night before I broke it off with my fling, I had one-way webcam sex with her. We were chatting, and I started touching myself. At first, she could only watch my face, and she got turned on watching my expressions. I eventually focussed the camera on my cock as I masturbated, while she pleasured herself invisibly to me on the other end. She goaded me on by telling me how she wanted to suck my balls and how she wanted me doggy style. I still wonder if she saved the feed and still watches it.

8. The first time I ever went out with my first serious girlfriend (hereafter known as the ex), we had to drive around for hours past her "curfew" because she had let her best friend borrow her car and we couldn't find her. While we were parked in a parking lot, she sucked my cock to orgasm, and I later fingered her to multiple orgasms as we drove around.

9. The first time I ever saw the ex's breasts, I was disappointed. She was a big girl, which usually means big boobs, but hers were uneven and kind of small and weird looking.

10. I lost my virginity with the ex on the floor in the storeroom of the store where I worked when I was 26. Neither of us had any privacy at home, and, as she was a big girl, we didn't have room in my car to fuck. It was too quick and brought no pleasure to either of us.

11. The best sex I ever had with her was at her grandparents house. While they were in the next room watching TV, she straddled me across the arms of an armchair (she was wearing a flowing "hippy" dress) and fucked me silently. We later went to her bedroom and she rode me for five hours. She came so damn many times; I came once at the end. The bed was drenched in sweat when we were done. I had to sneak out the next morning before her grandparents awoke.

12. When the ex and I were living together, we bought a double-headed strap-on dildo so she could fuck me in the ass and fuck herself as well. Even though sex with her wasn't consistently satisfying (as it is with my wife now), we were a lot more adventurous.

13. Not long before we broke up, I dry-fucked the ex in the ass without her permission while we were in bed. She didn't really resist, but she didn't consent or enjoy it, and told me never to do it again afterward.

14. The girl that I had the biggest crush on in high school never, ever entered my sexual fantasies. She was too ideal, in my mind, and although she was absolutely gorgeous, I don't recall ever thinking about any sex acts with her.

15. I have a streak in me that likes to masturbate in public. I have masturbated in a car driving on the interstate, at a local park while alone, and lying on the deck at night outside of a garage apartment I shared with my ex.

16. I once worked with a girl that turned me on so much that I would occasionally masturbate in the bathroom during break time.

17. Athough my wife and I rarely get to have sex anymore, due to her health issues, she absolutely satisfies and turns me on. Even though we both have a very adventurous streak, straight-forward missionary, doggy, and oral sex with her is sumptuous and is by far the norm for us.

18. I always want my partner to achieve orgasm first. There have been many times that I made my lover come repeatedly, then stopped without gaining any physical pleasure for myself.

19. Even though she had gained a lot of weight over the past couple of years and is a brash and coarse woman, I am still very attracted to my sister-in-law, and have fantasized about a threesome with her and my wife.

20. My wife and I attended a party at the home of a married couple that we were friends with. Until the party, we didn't know they were swingers (at least, I didn't). We lingered and lingered and eventually were the only couple left there with them. My wife and the swinger wife went in the bathroom and popped some pills (don't remember what). The husband was so drunk that he was babbling. The idea was proposed that we "swing" with them. I felt so intimidated and was so averse to the idea of sharing my wife (even though I was incredibly turned on by the swinger wife) that I refused. Years later, after separations and some extramarital flings on both sides during the separation time, I wish we'd fucked them.

21. I once fingered my ex to orgasm standing in front of the stage at a concert at a small club. The song was a transcendent love song that we loved to fuck to. I was standing behind her, and I slid my hand down the front of her jeans and tweaked her clit until she shuddered and sagged back against me. The singer saw us doing it, smiled and nodded at us. When the song was over, he reached out and touched our heads and said "Thank you for your enthusiasm." We later fucked surreptitiously in the back seat of my friend's car during the long drive home.

22. I like it when my wife gnaws on me. Not just bites, but GNAWS. Nothing makes me hornier. She has bruised me to the point that blood leeched through the skin, and I fucking love it.

23. I once had a dream that I was showering with a very effeminate gay man that shopped where I worked. We sucked each other off in the dream. I have never before or after had such a dream, that I recall, and I do not find myself attracted to men in the least.

24. My ex and I once skinny-dipped in broad daylight in the above-ground pool at her grandparents' house. She showed me how she masturbated with the stream from the water intake, and I ate her out at poolside. Her grandfather even came out of the house to check on us while we were fucking in the water, but because of the height of the pool and the fence around it, he couldn't see us.

25. My wife likes to be spanked, strangled and restrained when we fuck. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable to do any of these, but it also turns me on immensely. Go figure.