Saturday, April 23, 2011

1. I’m a 35 year old heterosexual woman, but in the past year have realized – or finally admitted, maybe – that I’m bi-curious.

2. I love looking at breasts, but I don’t know if it’s a sexual attraction or purely aesthetic most of the time. Sometimes, they’re just beautiful, but then there are others that I really want to touch and lick.

3. I’ve been married for 5 years. My husband and I have not had sex in 2 years, for many reasons. I’m partly resentful that I’m young and healthy yet that part of my life is apparently over. I’m also partly thankful that it’s one less thing on my to-do list. It’s kind of a relief. It was never the best part of my day or anything.

4. I really love being dominated. Shoved against a wall, bitten, hair pulled, finger-tip bruises on my hips and thighs. But I haven’t been with a guy who was willing to do that since high school, before I really even knew what I liked.

5. I love anal sex, though I’ve only done it a few times. Done right though, it can be amazing. The first time I got so wet it literally dripped and ran down my thighs. But if it’s not right – impatient, too fast, without lube – it can be a terrible experience.

6. I’d never cheat on my husband, but I go to bi chat rooms and flirt and talk about sex and sometimes watch someone on cam – usually a guy, because there aren’t that many women in those places. I don’t have a cam, and I don’t masturbate while watching, but sometimes I do later. Our marriage is complicated and rocky and I don’t know if I feel bad about getting off thinking of a guy I played with earlier or not.

7. This is very different from masturbating thinking of a celebrity. I have no concerns about that. Thinking of someone from my past though does give me pause. I wonder how my husband would feel if he knew. But then I catch him cybering with someone he’s told he’s single, and I don’t care so much anymore what he’d think.

8. I think guys in makeup are the sexiest thing in the world. Eyeliner, nail polish, lipstick. Not “regular” lipstick colors, but black or blue or purple. I love the idea of being naked while a guy dressed in rock star leather kisses my body, smearing lipstick all over my skin.

9. I like lesbian porn, if it’s realistic and not the kind that’s designed for straight guys. I also like m/m porn and slash fic.

10. It absolutely infuriates me when I say that I’m bi-curious, and people assume that it means I want to have a threesome with a guy and a girl – that the “bi” has to be done all at once, and that it has to involve a man at the same time as a woman. I want to do a girl. It has nothing to do with a man at all. It’s not about threesomes, and it’s not about my husband, and it has nothing to do with him.

11. I’ve only had 3 partners, all men. A few more cyber partners, also all men. I’ve talked about sex with girls, but never done anything about it.

12. Vibes are fun sometimes, but I like my fingers better usually. I don’t like large dildos very often; they just don’t do much for me most of the time. But once in a while, I like the feeling of almost-too-much.

13. I really love kissing. And I really miss it. A quick peck on the lips when my husband leaves for work isn’t what I need. It kind of makes me sad to think about that.

14. I have always had body issues. My husband has made that so much worse with drunken cruel comments and blaming me for his issues and rejecting me in favor of alcohol. I know it’s not about me, and that no one could compete with alcohol and win with him, but it hurt a lot and I’ve never gotten over some of the things he doesn’t remember saying. Even if we weren’t together I don’t know if I could actually have sex with someone because I can’t bear the idea of being looked at. And I hate myself for that, when logically I know I should be upset with him, not me.

15. One time, when we were dating, I took nude pics for him, artfully posed, and thought they looked pretty sexy. He just scoffed at them and made me feel horrible. It made me so angry, because he ASKED for them, and I pushed past my insecurity and did it, for him. I didn’t speak to him for months because I was so hurt. I didn’t know if he meant it or was just being a dick. So I sent them to a couple of male friends and they both made me feel so much better about myself, and one of them got seriously angry at him for not appreciating me. The other one just told me in explicit detail what he wanted to do to me.

16. The “detail” guy actually ended up making me feel really, really good. We traded lots of pics after that and got off together a few times. One of the very rare times that someone really cared about making me feel good and being sure I was enjoying it. One of the hottest things I’ve ever experienced was him telling me about getting himself off looking at my pics and his cum streaking across them on his screen.

17. I was a good girl in high school and college. I worked and studied all the time, didn’t date. Partly because I was so busy, and also so shy and insecure, but mostly because no one asked. I don’t know if it was because I made myself unapproachable, or if it was just that no one wanted me. But now I wish it had been different. I wish I had sowed my oats back then.

18. I love talking with my friends about sex, about what we like and don’t like, about our experiences and fantasies. A few weeks ago a male friend asked me if what he was telling me was inappropriate or TMI, since I’m married. I don’t see how a conversation between friends ABOUT sex has anything to do with either friend’s relationship status. Girls talk about it all the time; I don’t think friends of opposite genders should have any qualms about it either.

19. I like the idea of having sex with a woman who knows what she’s doing. I have a friend I might even feel comfortable with and she’s expressed a desire to “corrupt” me. I would love to have her undress me and hold me down and go down on me.

20. I’ve always loved vampires but just recently figured out that I have a serious biting kink. It’s not some hokey Twilight fantasy; it’s way deeper than that. I love being bit, and reading erotica with lots of biting. I’d love someone to mark me that way.

21. I’ve tried writing slash, but I’m no good at it. Not creative enough, or something. I’m never going to write that amazing porn without plot that sends readers running to their bunks. Angst, I can write. They say write what you know, so maybe that applies here. I’ve had way more angst than passion and that kind of pisses me off a little.

22. Phone sex does nothing for me. Makes me feel shy and awkward and stupid. I don’t know if I’m just bad at it, or the guy I tried it with was bad at it, or both. I love the idea of it though.

23. I cried earlier today, reading fanfic, of all things. It was this beautiful, sexy scene where it was just so evident that the couple was not only having amazing sex but that it was a product of how much they loved each other. It hurt because I don’t, and have never, had that. Pretty good sex but not with someone who loved me, or boring sex with someone who said he loved me, or no sex with someone who is supposed to love me but I don’t think he really does. Which is not to say he doesn’t want to or doesn’t believe that he does. He loves me as much as he is able, in the way he is able, which is not really enough.

24. I’m a closet romantic. I’m logical and level-headed and don’t need whimsy or romance or spontaneity, but part of me longs for those things. They don’t have to be grand gestures, even little ones would mean everything to me. I want kisses in the rain and groping in a movie theater and rough intense sex with someone who can’t wait to touch me. I will never have these things. Part of me thinks I deserve them, but most of me thinks, no, I really don’t.

25. I come fairly easily, sometimes multiples, when I masturbate, yet I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve come during sex with another person. Either I’m too withdrawn and insecure to say what I want, or he won’t give it to me. It’s not like I’m asking for anything freaky, just “lower” or “slow down a little, please.” It’s not a lot to ask. I don’t want most things to be about me. But this, I would like sometimes, to be about me. I think that would be awesome.

Friday, April 22, 2011

1. I’m a 22 year old girl who really likes sex. Gender doesn’t make a difference.

2. I cannot see myself in a relationship with the same person for the rest of my life, if that meant I could never sleep with anyone else. I am a very sexual person, and love ‘trying out’ different people. They’re fascinating, and it would be a shame not to experience them.

3. I love having my ass licked, but can only get into anal sex if I’m really, really horny. Even then, it’s only okay.

4. Being dominated is a huge turn-on for me. Choke me, pull my hair, spank me, call me a whore. I fucking love it.

5. I've slept with 6 people. I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for the past 3 years. I’ve had serious temptations, but am proud to say I’ve kept my hands to myself.

6. I’m completely sexually attracted to one of my bosses, and often fantasize about being locked in together, after hours.

7. I love sex, love fantasizing about sex, love writing and reading erotica. I can daydream for hours about a former boyfriend and the way he kissed my inner thigh before going down on me, or about the way my first lover trapped me against the wall the moment I walked in the door, tore my skirt off and ate me out for what seemed like hours.

8. My boyfriend turns me on. But I don’t get excited at the prospect of having sex with him. Go figure that one out.

9. I have large breasts, a small waist, and curvy hips. I really love my body and the things it can do!

10. Although my boyfriend and I have masturbated in front of each other before, I don’t want him knowing when I do it. I wait until he’s busy with work or out of the house. I’m not sure why.

11. I’m a huge tease. I like to build people up to a point where they can’t stand it and they HAVE to have me.

12. My first girl crush was in my junior year of high school. She was a good friend, gorgeous, and I always got slightly nervous when we hung out. I would have DIED if she would have let me kiss her. She never did.

13. I love watching men get themselves off. Seeing their hands slowly stroke their cock, building up a rhythm faster and faster until they cum all over themselves is such a huge turn on. Bonus points if they touch their hair or neck while doing so.

14. I like having bruises, bite mark, or scratches on me. It’s like a secret that makes me feel sexier, more confident, and completely in control.

15. I need my partner to make noise when I’m doing things to them. A moan when I bite their ear, an intake of breath when I take them in my mouth, SOMETHING. Let me know that you’re enjoying yourself.

16. I don’t like the way my boyfriend gives oral sex. It’s too clit central, and I like a little variety. Work the whole area, you know?

17. I love when I’m dripping wet and I just feel so open and ready, really sexual and powerful.

18. I wish I had a higher sex drive.

19. I am completely terrified of getting pregnant. I do NOT see myself as a mother, and the thought of something growing inside me creeps me out.

20. I’d really like to have a one night stand with an older man.

21. Having said that, I’d really like to seduce a younger girl.

22. I have always wanted to make out with a random girl, then take her home and fuck her like crazy. The thought of making a girl moan and cry out in pleasure is the subject of many fantasies.

23. When I was in middle school, I used to go on Yahoo chat rooms and have cyber sex after school.

24. I have never had an orgasm during sex. I would really like to.

25. I get really claustrophobic when I’m the "little spoon." I can’t stand it.

Thursday, April 21, 2011

1. I am a 19-year-old female who has been wanting to do this list for quite a while.

2. I've wanted to do this because I find it quite hard to talk to anyone at the moment about sex, even though lately it's become more of a big deal to me.

3. Unfortunately I'm a virgin, but I hate it and don't want to be for much longer. It seems that when people find out they either stop talking about sex or keep asking if I understand what they're talking about. I don't know why they think it means I don't know anything.

4. Admittedly that is better than the last people who I told, who just gave me a disgusted look and turned away. It made me feel like crap.

5. It's weird how much my views on sex have changed. Three years ago I was lecturing my friends about how they should wait for the right person. I like the idea of waiting, but now I just feel like I'm missing out.

6. I do have a very healthy interest in guys, but I cannot talk to them. At all. Apparently that's what five years at an all-girls school will do to someone.

7. I do like to wear low-cut tops as I feel that my breasts are my only good feature. I spent years being raised by my dad who found nothing wrong with pointing out how fat I am and despite people telling me otherwise, I will always believe it. I suppose I use my breasts to take the attention away from any other "wobbly bits."

8. As a result of 3, 6 and 7, I have never even been kissed by anyone, let alone touched. This depresses me more than I let people know.

9. I have only held one boy's hand in my entire life and that was a gay mate of mine as a joke.

10. The first time I ever heard about sex was when I was ten and a friend gave me a very detailed description about what her pets had got up to the night before.

11. My mum has been one of the best people to talk about sex with (as apposed to my dad who still thinks I don't know anything). This has probably shaped me quite well as I know that I'll always have someone to talk to, but also as she wasn't uptight about it as other people's parents were, I know the truth; that having sex is going to most likely be a lot of fun and nothing to be ashamed of.

12. Even though I have never been touched, it doesn't stop me from doing it myself. I started around two years ago, but would only ever do it in the bathroom as it was the only room with a lock and I was scared of someone walking in on me.

13. I now masturbate in my room (much more comfortable). I have to do so at least every other night, if I go for any longer without doing it I get easily agitated.

14. It took me well over a year before I could make myself orgasm. The times before that were pleasurable but also frustrating as hell.

15. Even though I can now orgasm and can make myself come 4-6 times a night (I don't know if this is good going or not) I'm still not sure I'm doing it right. Everyone I've talked to says it feels like an explosion and while that's kind of true for me, it still feels over-exaggerated. I guess that's just because I'm always aware that I'm doing it to myself and that I haven't got anyone to do it for me. I feel really alone.

16. I find it really weird that when I do talk to friends about sex, the only one I can have a serious conversation with is also a virgin but the two who aren't get all giggly or don't really want to talk about it. I feels like it should be the other way around.

17. I'm pretty much open to anything, well except all those leather things and stuff like whips, just a bit too kinky for me. My friends have already decided against things like anal and even blow jobs. I think that you should at least try it before you make any decisions. I'm even open to threesomes, and that includes two guys or a guy and a girl. I'm still unsure about all-girl.

18. Despite what I said in 17, I've never really considered myself anything other than straight, though I can appreciate when a girl is naturally beautiful. I think it's because I've never really thought about it and, again, my dad is very homophobic, so I'd know he'd disown me. Though lately I seem to be getting increasingly curious.

19. I have watched quite a bit of porn as I thought it would help to get me off, though with some you really can't get past the bad acting. I love it when I'm watching amateur porn as it's more real and the sounds of the couple screaming make me seriously wet.

20. I spend a lot of my time on literotica as this never fails to get me off. As much as I do like a nice sex story, my favourites are the non-consent/reluctance stories. I'm quite worried about what this possibly says about me but I love it when the girl is forcibly taken and when there's a lot of dirty talk. Just to be clear, though, I only like the ones where she was already thinking about it or ends up loving it. I do not like rape stories, they do nothing for me.

21. My sex fantasies at the moment are to be tied to the bed and to use food. I know they're not particularly adventurous, but I am still inexperienced. I like the thought of being tied up, because I am quite shy and wouldn't really know what to do, the guy would have to do all the work and I'd just love to lick melted chocolate of off a guy's chest or have them lick it off my chest and stomach. I wouldn't use whipped cream, though; seems too clich├ęd.

22. The only two people I have ever told any of this to are guys I talk to over the internet. One I had been talking to for ages and felt comfortable talking about it with him. I have no idea why I told the other one.

23. I have a huge crush on the first guy in 22, and it was only after our first discussion about sex that I had my first orgasm, as I was thinking about everything he had told me about himself and what he likes. I'm getting annoyed, though, lately, as he doesn't seem to want to talk any more, and keeps asking to meet up then backs out. I know that after everything we've said, if we met, I would probably either jump him or let him have his way if he did so to me. The second guy from 22 I like but am not really attracted to, which is a shame as he is not shy about what he wants to do with me.

24. I seem to always be thinking about sex and lately get wet really quickly. I really need to get a boyfriend soon as I need someone to deal with how horny I can get and because I'm getting tired of my own fingers and don't really want to get a vibrator in case it gets found. I don't know how I'd be in a relationship, though, as if I get over my shyness, I will probably be wanting sex all the time. Though I think I can find a guy who will be OK with that.

25. I often joke that, even though I am trying to wait for the right guy, when they come along I probably won't be able to walk for weeks and that if I don't find someone and this 2012 nonsense turns out to be true, I'm either going to grab the first person I find or be on the first guy from 2's3 doorstep. If neither of those plans work, the second guy said, if it is true, that he'd gladly sort me out.

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

1. My first sexual experiences were with my girlfriend in high school (junior year). She remarked “you’re not staying gay long” after fingering me.

2. At that point I was convinced I was gay because of my feelings for my best friend.

3. My second meaningful sexual experience was in my first semester of university when I was the drunkest I’ve ever been. It was my first kiss with a boy, he refused to sleep with me and I only found out later it was because he came as soon as I touched him.

4. He later became my boyfriend and we dated through freshman and sophomore year. I lost my virginity to him soon after we started dating because I felt it was tedious to have.

5. We were extremely sexual and had excellent sexual chemistry.

6. Before we started dating I fooled around with many different guys. (Difficult to find queers at my particular university.) Just petting and jacking off.

7. I’ve only dated two guys, the first I mentioned and my current boyfriend. Those are also the only people I’ve fucked.

8. Only three guys have gotten me to orgasm. The two boyfriends and a male friend of mine who I fooled around with before I started dating my first boyfriend. He got me off by only playing with my breasts. Best feeling ever.

9. I started masturbating at a very young age. Accidentally. Whenever I came close I would stop because it felt like I needed to pee.

10. My current boyfriend was a virgin. I liked that because it made me feel things were fair.

11. I felt really guilty about sex with my first boyfriend. It was awesome but I'd always feel guilty afterwards. I don't feel guilty any more. I'm ashamed sometimes, but never guilty.

12. Something that always gets me off are fantasies about older men in power. I like that dynamic of an innocent girl being taken advantage of.

13. Other things that get me off include being tied up, spanked and "golden showers." There are more but I'm scared to admit to them.

14. I wanted to be a boy when I was going through puberty. I would use masking tape and tape down my breasts. I also shaved my head.

15. I only started liking my breasts after I had them pierced; I was 16 and a little troublemaker.

16. When I was dating my girlfriend we got in trouble for our relationship and making out in inappropriate areas. This was compounded by the fact that we attended an all-girl Catholic school.

17. I love my current boyfriend more than I loved my other partners but there's less passion with him. I feel it's because he's more emotionally similar to me. He wasn't like my other relationships where they loved me more than I could ever imagine. I feel the relationship I have now is more grounded in reality.

18. I still am attracted to girls. It's not something I will grow out off.

19. My current boyfriend also has less of a sex drive than I do (in my opinion). I enjoy sex daily. This sometimes causes problems between us.

20. I look at porn a lot, mostly the erotica/artsy stuff. I don’t masturbate to them, I just like the beauty in the images. Especially if they’re girls being tied up.

21. I have never and would never cheat on someone. I wouldn't be able to stand myself if I did.

22. There are only a very few times where I feel confident enough to fully enjoy sex, usually when I'm very drunk. The rest of the time I'm constantly thinking of how I look, smell and sound. It's incredibly annoying, but I can't get past it.

23. One thing that would improve my sexual life is to improve my self-confidence. Unfortunately I grew up a fat, unattractive girl, and although I’ve shed the weight and the awkwardness, I never outgrew the self-loathing.

24. I want to try anal but I can’t get over it being dirty. Plus my bf isn’t pushing for it at all. He’s lame like that.

25. I sometimes wish I could treat sex in a more disposable way. I’d like to fuck a bunch of people just to see how it is, but emotionally I couldn’t handle it.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

1. I am a 25-year-old trans guy and I identify as queer, in terms of sexuality, gender, and politics. I've been on testosterone for almost a year. I am attracted to people of all different genders.

2. I've had sex with fifteen people. Nine of them were also on the ftm/transmasculine spectrum. I can't remember all the people I've kissed, but I've tried to make a list and gotten to about 60. I've had relationships with five people.

3. I "lost my virginity" when I was 17, but I was doing things when I was 16 that I would now consider sex. I lost my "queer virginity" when I was 20, while my roommates watched Hedwig and the Angry Inch in the next room.

4. I consider myself a switch, but I love bottoming. I like being bossed around, spanked, tied up, and slapped in the face.

5. I figured how to get myself off (though I'm not sure I realized what that was) when I was about 12. Since being on T, I jerk off now more than ever. I've always loved vibrators, but just hands are great too. I got my first vibrator when I was 15, as a Christmas present from the first girl I really had feelings for (she was straight, and a good friend).

6. Some of my favorite places I've had sex are on a banquet table in front of a mirror, between two trees at a public pond, and on a rooftop in New York City.

7. I have had orgasms that felt like spiritual experiences.

8. Consent is super important to me, and there's nothing hotter than an enthusiastic yes.

9. Part of that is because I'm a survivor - I had a boyfriend who raped me when I was 17, and I also had some kind of sexual abuse go on in my childhood, although it frustrates me that I have no clear memories of it.

10. Safer sex is also important to me. Unless I'm with a long-term partner and we've made that decision, I pretty much don't have sex unless latex is involved. The first time a (same-sex) partner asked me if we could use gloves, they were embarrassed but I felt really safe and valued. Being safe in a physical way makes me feel safer in an emotional way with someone.

11. I love fucking people with a strap-on cock. It feels like an extension of my body. I like getting blow jobs on it, too. But the part I like best is that I can take it off.

12. One of the most intimate things I've done with someone was fist them.

13. I'm polyamorous, and still figuring out what that means for me, but I know that monogamy doesn't feel natural or right for me. I like being able to let different connections with different people form, and being open to whatever might come along. I love the feeling of having sex with someone new for the first time, and want to experience that as much as possible. I'm both a slut and a feminist. But I also don't think I could be in more than one "serious" relationship at once.

14. I've never shaved all of my pubic hair, or been with someone who was completely shaved/waxed. I like hair on my partners - pubes, leg hair, armpit hair, and I think stomach hair is really cute (yes, on women too!).

15. Armpits are a turn-on for me - both touching others' and having mine touched - as long as they aren't smelly.

16. I've had a couple of experience with group sex, and I'd like to have more. I had a really fun threesome with my girlfriend at the time and a mutual friend on my birthday once. I've also been to a play party and would love to go to another one.

17. Being on T has caused several changes to my sexuality. I'm horny much more often, and I'm much more visual in what turns me on (more porn plz). I had to re-learn how to come, but it's so much easier now. And I love that my junk has grown.

18. I think sex work is fascinating and I've always wanted to do porn. Specifically queer feminist porn and/or BDSM porn.

19. I love asses. But I've only had a little bit of experience with anal play, and I wasn't hugely into it.

20. My first sexual experience (besides playing doctor as a young kid, which I did with both boys and girls) was with a good female friend. We got drunk (another first) during the day and made out heavily in my parents' basement. I was 14, she was 15.

21. I actually hate drunk sex - partly because drunk people can't give informed consent, and partly because it's just sloppy and hard to get off. I have had some good sex (with consent negotiated beforehand) while stoned, but I hardly ever smoke weed anymore.

22. I'm also not into penetration - although I enjoyed it for years. It's kind of all wrapped up in gender triggers, sexual violence triggers, and the fact that it just doesn't feel good.

23. As a young kid, I thought that sex was when a man peed into a woman's vagina.

24. I haven't been with a cisgender guy since I was 18, and I'm really curious about it. I think sucking cock could be fun.

25. I think the spectrum of human sexuality is endlessly fascinating. I hope I never run out of things to discover about my own sexuality. I dream of being a sex educator someday.

Monday, April 18, 2011

1. I am a 24 year old semi-straight girl who has been really sexually open since I’ve been active.

2. I have been with 12 boys and 1 girl, with only one boy being a single-night hook-up – the rest have at least been built up over anywhere from a few weeks to years.

3. I lost my virginity with my first boyfriend at the age of 20. We were best friends for years, and then one day he told me he loved me. I always had a little crush on him, and was so surprised about his admission that I just kissed him on the spot. We dated for 8 months, and I ended things based on the fact I didn’t think we had any sexual chemistry. Looking back, this is interesting, since he was my first sexual partner. How’d I even know that our connection wasn’t strong enough without anything to compare it to?

4. My second partner was also my first love. He is so beautiful and strange, and although we are almost exact opposites, we fell in love quickly. Our sexual connection built into something massive I think is extremely rare. He taught me so much and gave me so much pleasure I can never tell him how much I appreciate it. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world that I grew up sexually with him. I was spoiled for years, and now I have extremely high expectations of an ideal sex life. Almost every time we had sex, we’d be blown away afterward about what we’d experienced. This has only happened to me a handful of times with all my other partners.

5. #4, whom we can call Sir W, had the most beautiful and perfect cock I’ve encountered yet. It was just a little bit too big, which made it perfect. When I think about it now, I still get shivers.

6. Sir W and I have been together and apart for 4 years now, dating others in between when we aren’t living in the same town/city. We have such strong sexual chemistry that I can’t even live in the same place without fucking him. Due to educational and life situations, we’ve been apart (often different countries) for the past two years. When we are both in our hometown, we get together, regardless of our situations in our current cities. Since I know now we aren’t meant to be together as partners, I try and make sure we don’t live too close to each other. Too dangerous.

7. I traveled overseas for two years, and have only just returned to my home country 4 months ago. I went through a period of meeting boys traveling and sticking with them for a few weeks, traveling together and building an intense, mostly sexual connection with each of them. I’d be excited, and then realize they weren’t for me, and I’d just bail. Strangely enough, they were usually really, really sad, and tried to chase me down, though I never did return to any of them. I have had partners from Canada, Australia, New Zealand, the UK, Ireland, and Germany.

8. I think I am average physically, but I’m very open and fun, and like to talk about everything; sex is one of my favorite topics. I think this is why guys (and one beautiful girl) fall for me fairly quickly.

9. My encounter with the same sex happened not long ago. I’ve known for a while I am not ‘straight’ per se; more open to whomever I may meet. I met a very intriguing girl who has only been with girls. Our first time together was epic; she used a strap-on. It was an intense, wonderful situation – and I am so glad I’ve met her. We still hook up now and then, and she taught me I can be attracted to a wide range of people.

10. I think Katherine Moennig, or Shane from The L Word, is the hottest person on the planet. I love super skinny, slightly androgynous females. So hot. My only female partner had shades of Shane in her; maybe that’s why I was so attracted to her at first.

11. I’ve learned my sex drive is much higher than average. Sir W and I would think nothing of having sex 5-6 times a day while we were on holiday and just living the good life – during normal life with school, work, etc, it would usually be twice, morning and evening. This was almost every day we could for 2 years... we never slowed down.

12. With my other partners, I am usually up for more sex than they are. I have even walked away from people due to their sex drive being ‘too’ low, even when I truly enjoy their company. This happened mostly when I was traveling, where quick, intense relationships with strangers was commonplace, and meeting a new travel-mate was easy.

13. I love rough, slightly painful sex. I think this stems back to Sir W and I, as we bit and scratched and spanked and held a lot. I always have to ask other boys to fuck me harder, and they are surprised at what I can handle. My current partner doesn’t like to be bitten, and I find myself holding back or biting my own arm in the heat of a good fuck.

14. My current partner, D, is 15 years older than me, but smoking hot. He is way more vanilla than I am, but he has had some crazy sexual experiences with multiple partners in the past. It makes me hot to hear about them, and I imagine fucking another boy in front of him, or another girl. We’ve only been dating for a short time, but I’m pretty into him.

15. I can squirt…a lot. Sir W and I made it a mission to ‘teach’ me to ejaculate, and one day, I soaked his bed. We were super surprised and both ecstatic. I’ve learned to control my stomach muscles, and now I can basically squirt on demand. I find it changes my orgasms, so I’m glad I can control it most of the time. It makes orgasms have a greater lead-up, but the climax less intense.

16. The hottest thing I have seen lately is Sir W get off for me on web-cam. It drives me absolutely insane, and he loves doing it for me. I don’t really think of it as cheating on my current partner, but I certainly don’t tell him either. I wonder if I’m addicted to Sir W in some sexual way... I just love his cock so much, and his body, and his sexual style...

17. As D is so much older than I am, our relationship isn’t just based on sex. It is based on caring for each other, getting to know each other, and just feeling good around each other. This is a first for me. Usually, relationships for me were 70-80% sexual, whether I knew it or not. This is nice and fucking scary at the same time. I keep thinking about the power he has to hurt me, since I’m beginning to really care about him. This negative thinking goes completely against my usual sunny disposition, so I’m really unsure about why I’m so sure pain is going to follow what for now is really, really nice. He is so cute and always does the most thoughtful things for me... I know he genuinely wants me to be happy.

18. D and I have sex sometimes and neither of us come. This is interesting to me – Sex is still great even though we don’t orgasm every time. It takes him longer to recover than it did my partners of the same age, but I don’t mind because he's usually focused on me during this ‘recovery’ period. Our sex life is getting better every time we try. This is super cool as it is building as our relationship builds... it's more of an emotional connection than purely physical. I think I’m beginning to see the difference between fucking and ‘making love’...

19. I have had sex on a variety of drugs. Most recently, I had sex while on MDMA. It was so insane I can hardly think about it, even now. During the act, all I could think about was this is why humans are alive... to feel this good. Afterwards, I was convinced our sex was so amazing we changed the entire world for the better.

20. I have had anal sex multiple times with one partner who had a smallish penis. I didn’t hate it, but I didn’t love it. I like ass play a lot more – small butt plugs or fingers. It changes my orgasm, and I just like to have my anus touched, especially while someone goes down on me. I dated my ‘anal partner’ while living in a campground abroad in a tropical climate. We used to fuck in a van with all the windows open because it was so hot. The whole campground would have heard us all the time--especially in the mornings.

21. I love sex in uncommon places. I once had sex on an overnight train in Vietnam. The beds were super skinny, lining the walls of the train cars. I climbed into Sir W’s bed, and we had the hottest, quietest sex while we could hear everyone around us coughing, shuffling, and breathing. Only a curtain separated us from the other passengers. I still wonder if anyone caught on.

22. For the longest time, I wanted to study Human Sexuality. What is possibly more interesting? I read a lot of research, and may end up in the field, though right now I am pursuing something else. I want to know more about the blurry lines between straight and gay. I think Kinsey was on to something with his scale.

23. If I am going to masturbate, I typically read literotica. I love, love, love group sex stories. I like amateur porn, but I find reading and imagining gets me off way faster and gives me a better overall experience.

24. I get super wet, super fast. It’s just how I am, so when new partners are so surprised and excited, I forget other girls probably aren’t like that. I almost never use lube – there is no need. Even from just going down on someone I can get wet enough to fuck right away. A backrub, a kiss on the back of my neck – even little things make me wet so easily. I am so grateful for this!

25. I love this website and thank the people who make it happen. After all, sexuality is a massive part of each of our lives, and making you feel ‘okay’ with your own version is a beautiful thing. Thank you for your efforts and keep up the fantastic work.