Monday, January 16, 2012

1) I’m a 23-year-old girl, and I’ve had my boyfriend for 3 years now. He’s 8 years older than I am. It’s not the age difference that turns me on, just the fact that boys tend not to turn into men until about 25-30. My boyfriend is my youngest. My oldest was 22 years older than me. I met him when I was 18 and I don’t recommend it at all!

2) In the first sex dream I remember having, I was a guy, and I was fucking a seemingly endless number of girls in a row. That’s pretty odd to me, because I’m very heterosexual and have never been turned on by a woman awake or in a dream since.

3) I’ve never watched porn. It’s fake and unnatural to me, but I don’t condemn others who like it. In a perfect world, I would make it impossible for people (mainly boys) to watch it before they’ve had sex themselves. I think it sets horrible demands on boys and girls to perform/look a certain way/like specific things.

4) For a while I read sex novels. They can be slightly better than porn, but usually they are as unrealistic because the men who write them delude themselves into thinking that they can write from a woman’s perspective. They can’t.

5) I had my first orgasm at the age of 18. I never really tried before that, due to low self-esteem and depression.

6) I lost my virginity at the age of 19, which was about 4 years too late for me. I had really low self-esteem and didn’t think that anybody would want me. I still had the urge to have sex just as any other teen, resulting in weird thoughts about going out at night and being raped “on purpose” just to get it over with.

7) I had my period when I lost my virginity. That, and the fact that the guy wasn’t very well endowed, made me wonder for weeks if it really counted as losing my virginity.

8) I had my first kiss about 2 minutes after I lost my virginity. It was as bad as the sex before it.

9) I’ve only had 4 sexual partners. Too few.

10) I’ve faked orgasms on more than one occasion. I stared doing it because I was insecure about the fact that I can’t come with a guy. The problem is that once you start doing it with somebody, you can’t stop.

11) I’ve had an orgasm in my sleep on two occasions. As a woman, you don’t have the telltale physical sign of it on the sheets, but I was still dead certain! I was sad that I missed it and “only” got to experience the wonderful after-orgasm-calm that follows.

12) I regret not having sex with some hunky 19-year old sex machine before I met my boyfriend, just because I want to know what it’s like.

13) The easiest way for me to get off is with a shower head. It’s not very practical, though…

14) I think I come about as often as any other 23-year old. I just do it in “chunks” for practical reasons. I’ll masturbate once or twice a month and come 5-15 times/”session” instead of coming once a day or every other day. Sadly, I'm not particularly horny when I do it, I do it mainly because it makes me calm/at peace. If I wanted to, I could think about door mats/RV’s/spoons during the masturbation without any effect on the outcome.

15) Sex and my orgasms are totally separate things to me. I’ve never reached orgasm except when masturbating by myself, and it has never been a problem for me. However, my partner's orgasm with or without penetration is extremely important to me. There is nothing sexier than to see/hear/taste/feel him coming right in front of me! I’ve never understood why my own excitement is so dependent on my partner's, I can only say that the thought of being “used”/”exploited” is very arousing.

16) I could easily have sex several times a day. Unfortunately, my boyfriend doesn’t feel the same. This has resulted in me catching myself fantasizing about him with all the people I imagine he has had sex with before he met me. I’m a bit ashamed about it, but what could be hotter than my gorgeous boyfriend when he was young and horny and wanted to have sex as often as I do now?

17) My boyfriend is the best kisser I’ve had. He’s also the best sex I’ve ever had.

18) The best sex is when I get thrown onto the bed without a word, taken hard from behind - without any foreplay – until I scream out loud, he comes, and then we lay sweaty in each other’s arms, falling asleep.

19) I don’t mind being pulled by the hair or grabbed hard by my hips, but I don’t like to be spanked. Unfortunately, my boyfriend likes to spank. So he gets to, because it turns him on, which in the end turns me on. Very anti-feministic...

20) I shave my pubes. All of them. Not because I like to, but because my boyfriend likes it. I hate it – it inches like crazy after just a couple of hours. On the plus side: the oral sex is sooo much better without the hair!

21) I hate the thought of being on top, because I get very insecure about how my body looks from his point of view, and so I have never learned how to ride a man. After 4 very sexually active years, I feel ashamed that I’ve never mastered this basic position, just because of my own insecurity. I’m a bit surprised that my steady relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years hasn’t cured my stage fright.

22) I’ve never understood why one should use sex toys. Perhaps as a last resort when extremely horny, you have nobody to sleep with and furthermore have a paralyzed hand. There’s nothing sexy about a sex toy! The one dildo I owned (got it from my first partner) I threw out long ago.

23) I don’t get girl sex. Oral sex does not count as either homo or hetero sex according to me, neither does masturbation. And if you want to have long, cylinder formed objects thrust into you in a repetitive movement, whether they are driven by blood or electricity, you like dick. You might not be able to fall in love/have a relationship with a guy, but you are turned on by men. Scissoring I can accept as a purely lesbian thing... but is that all? Do they do anything else? And yes, I am a bit ashamed by the fact that I‘m not more enlightened.

24) I’ve never cheated, but I have been the other woman once. Never again, I say! Not because I think I did something morally wrong, but because people who cheat on people are horrible people and are not good to hang with.

25) I don’t like to have sex in cars. I’ve had way too much of it – and I have a scar on the skin at the center of my spine to prove it. One of the many drawbacks of having sex with somebody who doesn’t want to get caught having sex with you.